They do come back (in their own way)

This is a tale of love and hope.

I wanted to write this because I have read nothing but how Capricorns don't come back, don't apologize and it was so so discouraging during my time of 'woe'.
So yes, Capricorns do come back, but in there own way. I'm hoping this will help someone and shed some light on a desperate situation. Also remember, a lot of the people writing about it on DXP have the bad outcome. The people with the good outcome usually don't visit to write about it...

Long story short, my now again bf and I had a very deep 5 month relationship. Things moved quickly but it was very much on a soul level. We took a trip out of town and had a series of unfortunate events which led me to be crass/critical with him. To which he responded by the ultimate shutdown. And he never officially broke up with me, but left without saying goodbye when I dropped him off and I got the message loud and clear. I was in SHOCK. I was heartbroken. I was afraid. I was rejected. I was confused.

I decided to take this time to face my ultimate fear: abandonment, and strengthen myself. I didn't speak a peep to him. I didn't delete him online. I didn't respond to his posts that were meant to be little jabs at me. I said nothing. He said nothing, directly...but I watched his posts and could see he wasn't in a kind place. I leaned on my friends, forced myself to go out, cried a bunch, thought a lot, and released my album as planned. I played my release show (which made me miss him more). All the while I just missed and loved him. Because I loved him, I gave him space, which I have never done before. I'm a LEO - we run IN. Also, I gave myself space out of love because I needed to calm down.

A week and a half passed, and I decided I loved him and if there was hope, I wanted to work it out. I thought about it, and realized if he were to come my way, it would be in 'his own way' not direct like I would do. Then I started thinking about his character and how we met. Subtle hints, showing up where I might be. Gauging me. This was more his style. I got together some pictures of special moments together and wrote little inside jokes on them, and I went to this event- I would have gone to anyways. Not sure if he would be there or not, but hoping. I showed up and 'felt' he wasn't there. Then I just lost myself in the music. About an hour later I look up and he's placed himself in front of me. I grabbed his hand, he turned and smiled, we hugged and danced for the next hour. Then he handed me a handmade book: Limericks for Liza (I had made him a Haiku book- Haiku4u previously). And I handed him the pictures. You see, we had both shown up there looking for one another.

After the show we talked. I saw that he had worked through his error and apologized for bailing. I apologized for losing sight and not being accepting of him. Then he let me ask questions. I got some insight into the Capricorn mind....He told me he 'just shut down' and 'was done'.

Nothing but apathy for four days. He just slept and didn't want to go anywhere. Then he got all sorts of practical advice from his friends on why he was right etc, but it just didn't sit right with him. (I went through something similar with friends). Then he began to miss me. He admitted he was ashamed of his actions, and didn't want me to reject him, but still had hope. We agreed that we both have to do better. And then he told me he loved me, to which I replied I know. And he said, I knew you knew haha. And now we are taking it a step at a time. But I'm so glad I gave him that space, and listened to my gut. (: And he is soft soft soft inside, but admits, very out of touch with his emotions. He told me it took him four days to figure out he was 'mad' at me. Because he's not used to feeling that. I'm very impressed with his ability to challenge his own ego and work through things, and then make a brave move. I'm also proud of us for staying in tune. I don't know what the future holds, but I know this is a good start. Never let go of hope. It was a long shot for me, but it worked out.

I would say these things need to be on point for them to come around:
*love
*space
*you must have pure love for them
*be calm
*some emotional maturity (he is 34 but has very limited relationship experience)

(I reposted this and still with the *their typo -_- )

We are both learning and I appreciate that. I'm helping him get in touch with his emotions/express them, he's helping me learn patience and acceptance.

I've come a long way Tiz. I'm sure you remember the previous sagas. (: I didn't want to do it like I'd always done with him.

Thank you 🙂
And you're welcome.


I think it's very important to note, to my experience, all earth signs, esp Caps pick up on vibes. He said he reacted to my vibe more than my words. They are very vibe sensitive. He also watched me for about 30 minutes before he approached me. Gauging me no doubt. But I was in a happy peaceful place when he walked up.

Also Capria,
We each have individual lessons. I actually needed to hold back and give him space too. But I knew when I had reached the threshold for that and I needed to move us forward as well. It's important to think of both your needs and your partner. I thought, however long I needed to process, he probably needs 3xs that. I was right. Had I made a move a week before, he would not have made the changes within himself, nor would I have, and it would not have gone well. I think we built trust with this, because he showed me he is capable of apologizing and being vulnerable with me, and I showed him I am NOT clingy and capable of giving him space/forgiving/loving.

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I've come a long way Tiz. I'm sure you remember the previous sagas. (: I didn't want to do it like I'd always done with him.

Change is tough 😛

As long as two people did it in their own way, it's all good. I could only accept all my relationships ending knowing that I left it all on the table.

Fortunately, every once in a while, you strike up a relationship with someone where you both find you always somehow have more to give. Which is crazy. It's not for civilians lol

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LOL so true

I hope this pictures posts. The sneaky photographer snagged a picture of this special moment 🙂 There were at first no words, just hugs.

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I hope this pictures posts. The sneaky photographer snagged a picture of this special moment 🙂 There were at first no words, just hugs.

Is that you two?... aww. He missed you. Taking you in.

This is so sweet! It almost makes me have hope for my assclown ex...why do I love her so treetrunking much?

That's great underwaterthing 🙂

Yes, that is us Love him so much!



LOL Chelsea, don't go to her with that vibe - she will feel it! (I won't lie, I was pissed for a few days myself- hence all the space)

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Thank you 🙂
And you're welcome.


I think it's very important to note, to my experience, all earth signs, esp Caps pick up on vibes. He said he reacted to my vibe more than my words. They are very vibe sensitive. He also watched me for about 30 minutes before he approached me. Gauging me no doubt. But I was in a happy peaceful place when he walked up.

I base my reactions on vibes as well. It can be problematic at times because I expect my friends & loved ones to sense my feelings & emotions without my having to express them.

Your boyfriend seems like a really sensitive guy.

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He is indeed, but you'd almost never guess it at first glance. He is similar, but you guys gotta learn to say some stuff 🙂 Caps need someone who can pick up on subtleties too. Which I can, but even I cannot pick up everything! Which he is learning we must meet halfway, even if it's only to confirm what i was already thinking. When I was watching his posts online everyone around me was saying 'don't read too much into it' when it turns out what I was reading/feeling was exactly spot on. A dear friend who gave me the best advice when talking about his relationship was, "They don't understand us. They don't know how we love." My friends helped me so much and gave me the strength to hold back, but when it came down to it I had to listen to my gut and heart. If I hadn't and had listened to everyone around me, we wouldn't be together. It's like we never left, but it is stronger than ever.

"I would walk across broken glass to get back to you. You're worth it." -his words today. But I'd do the same.. in fact I did.

Trying my best.

Lovely story...you should have left your original post up for ref for others though. Cappys are intense

Did I take the original post down? I think it's still around? I honestly can't remember. I'd like to reference myself....

He is very difficult. NOTHING is perfect. This just simply highlights their thought process. One part of it. etc. Patience is key, but I don't know if anyone is worth this much patience. It's up to an individual to be very strong in knowing what they want and taking care of themselves.

I try REALLY hard to be mad at him sometimes, (cause he's frustrating), and then people upload pictures like this of us and it just melts my heart into a big soppy puddle of love. We are always finding ourselves in the most ridiculous unplanned magical moments, and although he is anything but a safe bet, I have to see this and it's just so undeniable. We went with some friends to a waterfall, there just happened to be someone suspending aerial silks, I just happen to do aerial, he just happens to walk up to kiss me, and someone just happens to take a picture. This picture has been shared online at least 10 times since then. And this was even a tense day for us, but you can just see all the love and creativity funneling. ....SIGH. I'm in way over my head huh

Such a lovely story.â¤