utterly perplexed needing male capricorn advice

Well he works extreme amounts of hours and I'm pretty understanding to it and I knew that going in...and he did apologize, but I was kinda mocking him in fun about how he is always tired and he hung up on me lol I didn't realize capricorns don't like stuff like that soooooo I think I'm partly to blame...only I still have not heard from him...smh this is nuts

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...Tarot?? REALLY?

*facepalm*

Here's your ADVICE!!!

Don't bother with people who stand you up like he did. Duh.

Well the tarot was really dead on with my business and other personal areas in my life...lol I don't know...I really don't think it was intentional for him to stand me up he had been working from 2:30 am to 10:30 pm all week and sunday was his only day off not making excuses for him he's a freaking workaholic and this the first time it's ever happened and he did make it a point to call me as well I'm trying to look at from both sides I'm not a selfish person besides I would rather him get rest the only thing I wanted him to do was at least apologize and he did

Yea he did..smh and I knew it as well...but he's not the type of person to miss engagements either so he had to be exhausted...like I stated before he did apologize and being that we talked at 3 in the morning before he was exhausted then he actually fell asleep and made it a point to call me...

Posted by rockyroadicecream
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...Tarot?? REALLY?

*facepalm*

Here's your ADVICE!!!

Don't bother with people who stand you up like he did. Duh.

+1

The reader just picked up on it and said what she did to make you happy. The connection is the cap/taurus connection and I am wondering if that's all there is to it.

And who is to say she's right? Who says it's this cap man? There might be another cap man around the corner that will actually be good for you that she's getting a read on.

I don't believe in these people. 99% of the time, they're a scam.

Posted by Taurus1981
Well he works extreme amounts of hours and I'm pretty understanding to it and I knew that going in...and he did apologize, but I was kinda mocking him in fun about how he is always tired and he hung up on me lol I didn't realize capricorns don't like stuff like that soooooo I think I'm partly to blame...only I still have not heard from him...smh this is nuts

Don't make excuses for him.

Posted by Taurus1981
Well the tarot was really dead on with my business and other personal areas in my life...lol I don't know...I really don't think it was intentional for him to stand me up he had been working from 2:30 am to 10:30 pm all week and sunday was his only day off not making excuses for him he's a freaking workaholic and this the first time it's ever happened and he did make it a point to call me as well I'm trying to look at from both sides I'm not a selfish person besides I would rather him get rest the only thing I wanted him to do was at least apologize and he did

You are excusing his behavior just because a tarot reader told you there was a connection.

If he were too tired, he would have told you and canceled. If he did it unintentionally, then as soon as he realized it, he would explained instead of making you wonder and reach out to him. Maybe I misunderstand, but I thought he left you hanging until you asked for an apology.

He's hung up on you.
He's stood you up.
He said he didn't want a relationship with you.
^^ there is the truth of his actions.

Ok ok ok lol u guys have a valid point...maybe I'm having a moment of weakness or something...I'm not gonna reach out I'll wait if he does then fine if not then ok lol

I would probably say fuck it lol honestly

Nothing is wrong with having feelings. Dont try to turn them off just because people are telling you to feel a certain way. If you still like him that is fine, but I personally think that if you do talk to him again you should be honest and tell him in a mature way how he made you feel. Maybe he'll decide to step up, maybe not, but atleast get it off your chest because it really wasnt cool, and you could know how to proceed from there.

You have no closure as it is right now, so I understand how you feel especially after someone came on so strong. I cant stand Cap men btw *sigh*...now, that that is out, just do what you feel with no shame.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
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...Tarot?? REALLY?

*facepalm*

Here's your ADVICE!!!

Don't bother with people who stand you up like he did. Duh.

+1

The reader just picked up on it and said what she did to make you happy. The connection is the cap/taurus connection and I am wondering if that's all there is to it.

And who is to say she's right? Who says it's this cap man? There might be another cap man around the corner that will actually be good for you that she's getting a read on.

I don't believe in these people. 99% of the time, they're a scam.

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I don't know which is sadder- the fact that it's tarot and she's fully believing the reader in making this decision, or the fact that she's using this as an excuse to keep herself in a situation that's not all that good for her.

Justifying going back based off of tarot?

Wtf is wrong with women here? :/

Posted by Taurus1981
Ok ok ok lol u guys have a valid point...maybe I'm having a moment of weakness or something...I'm not gonna reach out I'll wait if he does then fine if not then ok lol

What I want to know is why you think you need to keep this guy around.

Go ahead, list the reasons.

Aye watch those lips...nothing is wrong with me I'm not the type to dog anyone out either...I'm not na I've either I view all sides but I'm not about to jump on a bandwagon cuz ya'll said so imma weigh my options...if u don't like it u don't have to comment and carry ya ass on somewhere

He's not a bad guy, anytime I neeeew something which is not often but he was there I had a rocky relationship I was getting out of he help with and gave advice, he's never made me feel uncomfortable he always made sure I made it safe to my car called to make sure I made it home safe...hell allowed to come up to his job to give me money...anytime I was at his place I had my own personal things that I liked kept in his room we talked damn everyday...oh and when I stayed over night he allowed me to have a key so I wouldn't have to get up earlier than normal the way he kissed, starred, even touched me was more intimate than normal...I literally have nothing bad to say about him until what over this past weekend...and still to some degree I will take responsibility for anything I may have said if I caused him to hang up cuz I do have a smart ass mouth or can come off dominant at times

Lol triplecap

Do not ever mock a Cap! If they did something wrong you should call them out like a stern father or mother, in private. You can tell him how it made you feel, and chances are if he cares about you, he won't do it again.

Caps are very hardworking and it's not uncommon for work to interfere with having fun.

Posted by Taurus1981
He's not a bad guy, anytime I neeeew something which is not often but he was there I had a rocky relationship I was getting out of he help with and gave advice, he's never made me feel uncomfortable he always made sure I made it safe to my car called to make sure I made it home safe...hell allowed to come up to his job to give me money...anytime I was at his place I had my own personal things that I liked kept in his room we talked damn everyday...oh and when I stayed over night he allowed me to have a key so I wouldn't have to get up earlier than normal the way he kissed, starred, even touched me was more intimate than normal...I literally have nothing bad to say about him until what over this past weekend...and still to some degree I will take responsibility for anything I may have said if I caused him to hang up cuz I do have a smart ass mouth or can come off dominant at times

Uh uh. No. Do not take responsibility for HIS bad behavior. Be careful here. When a cap has bad behavior and they get called out on it, the first method of defense is to turn it around and place blame on the other person. Such as "if you didn't _______, I wouldn't have ________" or "you did this so I did that, it's your fault I did that". You'd be surprised how often that works.

Cap being called out.

Deny, deny, deny.

Then,

Turn it around to them.

See, it takes the focus off of what you've done and places it back to the other person. Then, they start doubting themselves and voila! You're no longer addressing what you did.

Works like a charm. 😉




*Apologizes to caps for letting our secret out of the bag.*

Well, isn't that happening here? lol!

No, we normally wouldn't admit it. That's why I apologized to the caps. lol!!!

But start watching. Isn't your boss a cappy? I bet he does this, too. It's subtle, you'll have to pay attention.

Posted by truecap
Cap being called out.

Deny, deny, deny.

Then,

Turn it around to them.

See, it takes the focus off of what you've done and places it back to the other person. Then, they start doubting themselves and voila! You're no longer addressing what you did.

Works like a charm. 😉




*Apologizes to caps for letting our secret out of the bag.*

Wahaha...I knew it!! My Cap does this all the time so now I call him out, and stay silent until he addresses it. As a blunt Saggy I will also say, don't change the subject, or stay on point. Thankfully, my Libra placements keep it balanced! 🙂

My Saggy BFF says that to me! lol! I can't pull the wool over her eyes. 🙂

An my Saggy mom! She ALWAYS knew when I was turning it around to get out of trouble.

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Posted by Taurus1981
He's not a bad guy, anytime I neeeew something which is not often but he was there I had a rocky relationship I was getting out of he help with and gave advice, he's never made me feel uncomfortable he always made sure I made it safe to my car called to make sure I made it home safe...hell allowed to come up to his job to give me money...anytime I was at his place I had my own personal things that I liked kept in his room we talked damn everyday...oh and when I stayed over night he allowed me to have a key so I wouldn't have to get up earlier than normal the way he kissed, starred, even touched me was more intimate than normal...I literally have nothing bad to say about him until what over this past weekend...and still to some degree I will take responsibility for anything I may have said if I caused him to hang up cuz I do have a smart ass mouth or can come off dominant at times

Uh uh. No. Do not take responsibility for HIS bad behavior. Be careful here. When a cap has bad behavior and they get called out on it, the first method of defense is to turn it around and place blame on the other person. Such as "if you didn't _______, I wouldn't have ________" or "you did this so I did that, it's your fault I did that". You'd be surprised how often that works.

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Pfft, this is an immature guy preserving his ego thing, here. My brother does this all the time and he's a Sag.

"OMG HOW DARE YOU CALL ME OUT. THIS IS YOUR FAULT I ACTED LIKE AN ASS!!"

Oh okay. Well you can just go fuck yourself. Jebus. The fact that this chick is so insanely gullible and desperate enough to keep this guy around despite bad behavior says a lot.

"Well, I am partly to blame." No. No you are not. How someone acts in situations speaks volumes about their character. The fact that you're willing to shrug all this off because of your desperate need to have a penis to hold at night is sad. Get a grip, girl. You can find someone better. Cap guys like this are NOT ones to keep around. You gotta kick them to the curb. Been there, done that. It's absolutely freeing to rid yourself of someone like this.

^^ Exactly.

I didn't tell u everything u don't know the whole situation...I'm not naive at all matter u can kiss my ass really...I done with blog it just seems like to me ya'll bash when someone and ya'll want everyone to be on board...this is a joke I cant take half of ya'll serious lol aye I'm off this thang it been real but not really

I hate this damn text on this blog I can't say what I really wanna say but ya'll catch my drift

What absolutely hysterical is that ya'll base a person and how they solely off their sign and not the person themselves...I'm sure ya'll can be some real jack asses I'm sure a lot could same the same about half of u on her but carry on with ya nonsense