What's The Longest You've Gone Without Talking

to your SO—? Or that a cap has gone without talking to you. My bf cap has done the lovely disappearing act on me, in which I'm leaving him alone and giving him his space. But we are on day 5 now, so I'm getting slightly annoyed lol. Not even my bff guy caps go this long without checking in with me to make sure I'm alive. We chatted on the phone Monday for a bit everything seemed fine, then poof! lol. Sent him hello text yesterday to no response.... So guess I'll wait a bit longer and see.

oh boy.. not sure how I'd respond to that

Posted by ItsSupes2

On day 47 go psycho (via text) and scream his name from your window 3x.

He will come home

hahahah this made me legitimately laugh out loud.

Umm vocal communication? Like 5 days maybe

Texting...maybe 12hours.

He was leaving for a wedding on wednesday from Canada to the USA, we've bother traveled before and kept in contact when we could. Plus at least made sure we made it safe to where we were going. But ya ... serious silence going on with him... which is not him at all really. He's ALWAYS even at least texting me once a day to see how I'm doing and vice versa. If I text him he replies pretty quickly.

I know he's alive as he looked at my snapchat pictures.... so there's that to. Maybe I'm going to scorpio and getting suspicious hahah

Posted by scorpio1108

He was leaving for a wedding on wednesday from Canada to the USA, we've bother traveled before and kept in contact when we could. Plus at least made sure we made it safe to where we were going. But ya ... serious silence going on with him... which is not him at all really. He's ALWAYS even at least texting me once a day to see how I'm doing and vice versa. If I text him he replies pretty quickly.

I know he's alive as he looked at my snapchat pictures.... so there's that to. Maybe I'm going to scorpio and getting suspicious hahah

are you worried or doubtful?

Are you in a committed relationship? How long?

Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

Posted by scorpio1108

to your SO—? Or that a cap has gone without talking to you. My bf cap has done the lovely disappearing act on me, in which I'm leaving him alone and giving him his space. But we are on day 5 now, so I'm getting slightly annoyed lol. Not even my bff guy caps go this long without checking in with me to make sure I'm alive. We chatted on the phone Monday for a bit everything seemed fine, then poof! lol. Sent him hello text yesterday to no response.... So guess I'll wait a bit longer and see.

If it were reversed and you didn’t contact or respond to someone why would that be?

Posted by scorpio1108

Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

so 4 months being committed you should be able to call him on his BS. I can deal with no contact in teh dating phase or getting to know each other phase (although red flags) but when committed and they're pulling that shit...that's a no-go.

If I was in your position, I'd call him and voice my concerns that in a committed relationship you can't just disappear.

I've never gone more than 2 days without being in contact with the person i'm in a relationship with.

Posted by stillstillwater

Posted by scorpio1108

Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

so 4 months being committed you should be able to call him on his BS. I can deal with no contact in teh dating phase or getting to know each other phase (although red flags) but when committed and they're pulling that shit...that's a no-go.

If I was in your position, I'd call him and voice my concerns that in a committed relationship you can't just disappear.

I've never gone more than 2 days without being in contact with the person i'm in a relationship with.

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Yeah that's kinda what I was thinking, definitely isn't his normal Modus Operandi for sure. The wedding is tomorrow so I'm not gonna bother calling now. I don't need to ruin the day as he's part of the wedding party. I'll wait till he gets home Sunday night or Monday and have a conversation then... Cause I wouldn't do that to him, and I deserve that same respect 🤷‍♀️

Posted by DeadInside

2 month but i was mad

If it’s been 2 months since we last talked, you are not my SO...you are somebody I used to know







(I miss the old deadinside tbh)

Posted by truecap

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to your SO—? Or that a cap has gone without talking to you. My bf cap has done the lovely disappearing act on me, in which I'm leaving him alone and giving him his space. But we are on day 5 now, so I'm getting slightly annoyed lol. Not even my bff guy caps go this long without checking in with me to make sure I'm alive. We chatted on the phone Monday for a bit everything seemed fine, then poof! lol. Sent him hello text yesterday to no response.... So guess I'll wait a bit longer and see.

If it were reversed and you didn’t contact or respond to someone why would that be?

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Very very far and few between does that happen, especially if I'm in a relationship with them

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to your SO—? Or that a cap has gone without talking to you. My bf cap has done the lovely disappearing act on me, in which I'm leaving him alone and giving him his space. But we are on day 5 now, so I'm getting slightly annoyed lol. Not even my bff guy caps go this long without checking in with me to make sure I'm alive. We chatted on the phone Monday for a bit everything seemed fine, then poof! lol. Sent him hello text yesterday to no response.... So guess I'll wait a bit longer and see.

If it were reversed and you didn’t contact or respond to someone why would that be?

Very very far and few between does that happen, especially if I'm in a relationship with them

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It was a rhetorical question intended to help you answer your own question.

When my ex-husband and I were dating(early 20s in age), I went 4 days without speaking to him. He was devastated...and for me, it felt like 15 minutes had gone by.

When we're in our heads or we're stressed out, you cannot judge us harshly with our perception of time.

But as we get older, and less self-centered, we have to realize others have feelings and we need to be more considerate of said feelings.

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Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

so 4 months being committed you should be able to call him on his BS. I can deal with no contact in teh dating phase or getting to know each other phase (although red flags) but when committed and they're pulling that shit...that's a no-go.

If I was in your position, I'd call him and voice my concerns that in a committed relationship you can't just disappear.

I've never gone more than 2 days without being in contact with the person i'm in a relationship with.

Yeah that's kinda what I was thinking, definitely isn't his normal Modus Operandi for sure. The wedding is tomorrow so I'm not gonna bother calling now. I don't need to ruin the day as he's part of the wedding party. I'll wait till he gets home Sunday night or Monday and have a conversation then... Cause I wouldn't do that to him, and I deserve that same respect 🤷‍♀️

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Right. Ps Caps like being called out. Just be to the point and logical w it.

Did something happen before he left like an argument or disagreement?

Do you think there’s another girl he’s focusing on there?

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Posted by scorpio1108

Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

so 4 months being committed you should be able to call him on his BS. I can deal with no contact in teh dating phase or getting to know each other phase (although red flags) but when committed and they're pulling that shit...that's a no-go.

If I was in your position, I'd call him and voice my concerns that in a committed relationship you can't just disappear.

I've never gone more than 2 days without being in contact with the person i'm in a relationship with.

Yeah that's kinda what I was thinking, definitely isn't his normal Modus Operandi for sure. The wedding is tomorrow so I'm not gonna bother calling now. I don't need to ruin the day as he's part of the wedding party. I'll wait till he gets home Sunday night or Monday and have a conversation then... Cause I wouldn't do that to him, and I deserve that same respect 🤷‍♀️

Right. Ps Caps like being called out. Just be to the point and logical w it.

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By called out i meant they like being held responsible. (Not bitched at). Hope you know the difference.

Posted by pinkbird03

Did something happen before he left like an argument or disagreement?

Do you think there’s another girl he’s focusing on there?

No nothing at all, we had a good chat over the phone Monday night cause we both had busy weekends. I would sincerely hope not, but I don't know.

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Worried and doubtful maybe both, it's not his normal behavior at all.

Yes we are committed, on his persistence lol he didn't want to share me with anyone. It's only been 4 months of dating.

so 4 months being committed you should be able to call him on his BS. I can deal with no contact in teh dating phase or getting to know each other phase (although red flags) but when committed and they're pulling that shit...that's a no-go.

If I was in your position, I'd call him and voice my concerns that in a committed relationship you can't just disappear.

I've never gone more than 2 days without being in contact with the person i'm in a relationship with.

Yeah that's kinda what I was thinking, definitely isn't his normal Modus Operandi for sure. The wedding is tomorrow so I'm not gonna bother calling now. I don't need to ruin the day as he's part of the wedding party. I'll wait till he gets home Sunday night or Monday and have a conversation then... Cause I wouldn't do that to him, and I deserve that same respect 🤷‍♀️

Right. Ps Caps like being called out. Just be to the point and logical w it.

By called out i meant they like being held responsible. (Not bitched at). Hope you know the difference.

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Hahaha absolutely. I don't lose my mind... I talk or walk away.

Posted by elllle

I'm going to go against the grain a bit...

Caps compartmentalize. He could simply be caught up in the experience. There doesn't need to be some nefarious reasoning behind it.

Hasn't that ever happened to you?

There is no need to shame him for having a good time for the sake of your ego.

I travel a lot. My Cap does the same with his kids because they are in multiple sports travelling teams. There are days...sometimes a whole week.... we don't communicate because we get caught up in what we are doing.

An occasional text saying..."Hey you" is all we do to let the other know we thought of each other and to make sure we are safe.....and when we come back together we are eager to share our experiences.

Start a ritual like that. Something simple. No pressure. Your lives are not fused together. Dont allow anyone to control your emotions like that. You should always be living your best life....your partner is just a bonus.

We live in different cities, it's not easy with our schedules to meet up and see each other. I know we both have our own lives and we're both really respectful of that. But he also knows that I worry when travelling and like to know they made it safe to whereever they are going. I don't need or expect a constant stream of communication... But it would be nice to at least have something instead of complete silence for a week.

Agree with elle... a quick “you still kickin?” will go a long way.

That said, to avoid a problem in future, you should calmly explain to him your needs. Face to face, if possible. No drama queen stuff, just open communication. This obviously bothered you or you wouldn’t have posted. He should know that.

Personally, even when busy, I try to keep the lines open. If I go quiet on my SO, it’s cause my Scorp moon’s kicking in and I need to right the ship. Every couple needs a tune up on occasion. Maybe this is yours.

Well still nothing from him and he was supposed to get back yesterday. I'll give him until this evening after we're both done work and give him a shout... see what he says.. or if he even answers lol.

Posted by scorpio1108

Well still nothing from him and he was supposed to get back yesterday. I'll give him until this evening after we're both done work and give him a shout... see what he says.. or if he even answers lol.

hmm .. yes it is starting to get strange.. any updates?

Well finally got a hold of him, I guess he had crap service and a bit of a medical issue... which included getting bit by a spider and it causing adverse effects. I kindly asked if he was now spiderman, I found it funny, he did not.

I did bring it up to him that I was worried about him and would have preferred hearing from him. I was straight up with a few things to which he humbly agreed and said I was absolutely right... which I was not expecting at all, normally he likes to be "right", total boy ego thing I think.

So ya, guess we'll see how it goes from here lol.

Posted by bae

mercury retro is coming... the caps are gonna be feeling it.

why's that?