Capricorn man feeling apathy?

Hello everyone,

I've been on four dates with capricorn man (Venus in aquarius, mars in Taurus). I am taurus with Venus and Mars in cancer, and we are both ascendant capricorn.

He has very similar placements to my best friend so I can understand him. We have so much fun and communication is really easy, we talk on the phone until 5 am sometimes as well and our dates last for hours just talking. He has said a couple of things that are a bit of a red flag.

He keeps going on about being liberal and open with sex, even though he wanted a long term commitment with his ex . He also asked me what my intentions were and I said I want to go with the flow, get to know him as friendship is very important to me, and take it from there. He said he was badly hurt by his ex, they broke up in November, so feels apathy.

He said he wanted to be open and honest with me, that that's how he feels right now, just quite numb, but that he feels chemistry with me and wants to find out more about me. I said that if he's clear that he feels apathy and he doesn't see this going anywhere then perhaps we should stop seeing each other. He then said I was putting limitations on this (not sure why).

We are both away on holiday now, and he suggested we not speak but instead think about what we want, and then meet next week and talk about it. But he's been texting me a few times on his holiday with photos and other comments to our previous conversations.

Is this a red flag? Is he afraid? Any insights appreciated, thank you

Appreciate his honesty. Just don’t get your hopes up. Doesn’t appear he’s ready for a relationship. He could have been feeling you out to see if you were up for no strings casual sex.

Of course he whines „don‘t put limitations on me“ yada yada because you my dear put your damn foot down like a grown ass woman refusing to get played! That‘s why you told him that you guys should part ways if he doesn‘t see this going anywhere serious.

If women did this a lot more then we‘d have less „confused“ women running after guys.

Stick to your boundaries and if he truly is interested he‘ll bend over backwards no matter how „hurt“ he still is. Men are instantly ready when the right one stands in front of them.

Thank you everyone for your comments.

He's been initiating texts w me everyday, sending photos of his trip and calling me his cute cat. I don't know what to do, I'm not expecting to see him after our next meetup

We are meeting next week to talk about what we want. I'm going to say I want a relationship with the right man, obviously don't want to jump in one with someone I barely know, but I'm happy getting to know him and see where it goes. I don't want casual. I'm not sure what he will say, he did say when he met his ex he wasn't looking for a relationship and wanted casual but fell for her.

Posted by DeadInside

i wish i was a baby boomer

why?

Posted by Impulsv

Posted by Estelita91

We are meeting next week to talk about what we want. I'm going to say I want a relationship with the right man, obviously don't want to jump in one with someone I barely know, but I'm happy getting to know him and see where it goes. I don't want casual. I'm not sure what he will say, he did say when he met his ex he wasn't looking for a relationship and wanted casual but fell for her.

Plantingseeds to accept casual with hopes he will fall like with with ex

Smooth

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You're right... I'm going to tell him what I am looking for. I just want it to be natural, I don't feel good right now

Don’t be the side chick.

Posted by Skeleton

What's your and his moon sign?

Mine is aries, His is virgo. How come ?

Me:

Sun taurus

Moon Aries

Mercury aries

Mars cancer

Venus cancer

Mars Cancer

Jupiter Leo

Saturn Aquarius

Uranus Capricorn R

Neptune Capricorn R

Pluto Scorpio R

Lilith Capricorn

Asc node Capricorn

His:

Sun Capricorn

Moon Virgo

Mercury Sagittarius

Venus Aquarius

Mars Taurus

Jupiter Leo' R

Saturn Capricorn

Uranus Capricorn

Neptune Capricorn

Pluto Scorpio

Lilith Sagittarius

Asc node Capricorn

Us together:

me on the left, he's on the right

Sun Opposition Pluto

Moon trine sun

ASC node trine moon

Moon Trine Mercury

Mercury Trine Mercury

Mercury Square Saturn

Mars Trine Pluto

Uranus Conjunction Sun

Uranus Trine Moon

Uranus Conjunction Uranus

Uranus Conjunction Neptune

Neptune Conjunction Sun

Neptune Trine Moon

Neptune Conjunction Neptune

Neptune Sextile I ASC

Pluto Conjunction Pluto

Pluto Conjunction I ASC

Asc node Sextile Pluto

I ASC Conjunction Saturn