RachelTaurean
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Who exactly do Capricorn men ignore
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i've dated a couple caps recently. i've found there is an art to getting a cap to respond.
your best tactic is to send them over something that they can respond to quickly, and that they are interested in responding to. maybe that you need advice or help with something. i've had the best results with keeping interaction focused on something - not just chit-chat. so ask for a specific response & see if you get it...
your best tactic is to send them over something that they can respond to quickly, and that they are interested in responding to. maybe that you need advice or help with something. i've had the best results with keeping interaction focused on something - not just chit-chat. so ask for a specific response & see if you get it...
Hey, Skertzo, thanks for the advice! I'll keep that in mind for the next time I e-mail him but honestly, I don't know when that'll be. I'm still trying to figure out why he didn't respond to me and, as a stubborn Taurus, I'm not really considering e-mailing him until he e-mails me. I'm just not interested in being further ignored.
RachelTaurean in the beginning my cappy was the same way..When we were friends,,he was talkative..laughd and joked all the time..but when we started a relationship,,be became very shy. I noticed even now with other female friends he has so much personality..but with me he's very shy and yes I catch him staring at me to..he likes to tex a lot..but I catch him of guard some times and call and he is lost for words or stumble or mumble his words.it does get better..he opens up on occasion. He is talkative when I ask about his job, fav tv show etc.. when I don't talk relationship issues he is very open.. He really response when I ask him to tell me a joke..he loves that. And he never opens his emails.lol Hoped that helped.
Thanks for your responses! That's interesting, rchllmr, that your cap is only shy and quiet around you, someone with whom he's romantically involved. That's kind of what I'm trying to figure out about my cap - does his ignoring me (plus all the other stuff I mentioned) mean he's romantically interested or that he's just not that interested in keeping in touch. It's two completely different extremes and I can't figure out which one it is. Until I do, I'm just not that sure I want to contact him again cause if he didnt' respond before because he doesn't want to keep in touch then e-mailing him again will just be me being a nuisance who keeps bothering him. Plus, I don't have his phone number so e-mail is my only option...which stinks if they never check their e-mail.lol Though, I do believe he checks his.
I'll keeep it in mind though to ask him a specific question if I e-mail him again, I'm just not sure I'm going to. If he doesn't want to keep in touch I need to just accept that, right? It just doesn't make sense to me, we got along so well. 😢
I'll keeep it in mind though to ask him a specific question if I e-mail him again, I'm just not sure I'm going to. If he doesn't want to keep in touch I need to just accept that, right? It just doesn't make sense to me, we got along so well. 😢
Yeah, the distance is an issue for me too but again, that would be only if there was a romantic relationship involved. Would he really not talk to me if he considered us just friends?
The chemistry was awesome!lol
The chemistry was awesome!lol
yes, it's true...we talk to everyone but you. you make us come in contact with those, wait, what do you call them? oh right, emotions! out of all the challenges we go through and put ourselves through, we can confront all of them but that one. that queasiness isn't a job or a problem to fix, it's a feeling. i hope that you get to hang out again.
i will say that there might be a lot of mindfulness involved, as aforementioned, chit-chat isn't really our bag, unless of course you're talking about specific issues or making jokes or work (of course).
i will say that there might be a lot of mindfulness involved, as aforementioned, chit-chat isn't really our bag, unless of course you're talking about specific issues or making jokes or work (of course).
oh, spontaneity freaks us out sometimes too. best to have a plan.
RachelTaurean Warholian is right on with her advice...I said that he was that way in the beginning..he does tex me now everyday single day. . when we call each other, we have normal conversation,,but in the beginning he was really shy..He still is shy on some issues.. but Ive learned his ways a lot. We still have things to work on. but he is really a nice guy..he's very forgiving and fair. Cheap he's not..lol..just telling you it's a good thing that's he's shy for right now..shows he likes you..What I had to learn? just go with the flow.🙂
Thanks for all the replies, especially warholian, you really answered my question. It just didn't make sense to me that he'd ignore me if he saw me as just a friend cause that would be plain rude and he doesn't seem like a rude guy. Like, I can't imagine him ignoring anyone else from the group. But, if he's a typical Capricorn and really does have romantic feelings for me then, okay, the ignoring bit starts to make sense. Though I don't totally get why you wouldn't want to talk to somebody you're attracted to. Seriously, why are caps so afraid of their emotions?! If you like someone, wouldn't you WANT to talk to them as much as possible? I can understand being afraid of falling in love but still.
I really like this guy but there are all kinds of obstacles we'd have to face if we were in a relationship, distance being just one of them. But of course I don't want to waste this amazing chemistry so I was trying to keep in touch with him at least as friends cause I'd like to keep him in my life in some capacity. But then, he didn't respond. 😢 Not sure what to do at this point but wait. It's nice to know, though, that he may not be ignoring me cause he doesn't want to keep in touch but because he's really interested and just nervous. It's nice to think he may contact me sometime in the future and that it's not totally over. I'd like to think he's thinking about me as much as I'm thinking about him.
I really like this guy but there are all kinds of obstacles we'd have to face if we were in a relationship, distance being just one of them. But of course I don't want to waste this amazing chemistry so I was trying to keep in touch with him at least as friends cause I'd like to keep him in my life in some capacity. But then, he didn't respond. 😢 Not sure what to do at this point but wait. It's nice to know, though, that he may not be ignoring me cause he doesn't want to keep in touch but because he's really interested and just nervous. It's nice to think he may contact me sometime in the future and that it's not totally over. I'd like to think he's thinking about me as much as I'm thinking about him.
**what do you call them? oh right, emotions! out of all the challenges we go through and put ourselves through, we can confront all of them but that one**
Caps seem to have an incredible ability to compartmentalize their emotions. It's like life throws so many obstacles in their path and yet they are not allowed to give up, crumble and lie down in a fetal position. So they learn to put aside their emotions in order to get the job done. And they very often have to do this because they know that on their shoulders lies the responsibilities for many others.
I often liken them to the seemingly umemotional samurais; no emotions but full of honor and dedication. A curious thing about these Caps is that they also behave like ninjas; they do things in the darkness and then quietly disappear into the shadows...in sharp contrast to the forthright samurais. I liken this trait to the Cap's dual nature (Earth + Water --- half-goat/half-fish)
This could be one of the reasons why Caps always seem to be so busy. They're always doing something behind the scenes.
I think poor Caps learn early in childhood NOT to show any emotions because it gets in the way of survival. Almost every Cap I know (especially the men) have had some sort of childhood trauma abyss that they had to climb, claw and wrestle their way out of.
You may have also noticed that in times of emergencies, everyone else will be running about like headless chickens but the Caps will calmly get out the hose and put out the fire. Can't do that when you are emotional.
As another poster mentioned, if we are into you, they are not likely to be able to stop messaging you. the toughest part is to get them to give a shit. or at least it is for me. out of sight out of mind. so my suggestion is remember that.
BeoWulf: get out of my head!
"Caps seem to have an incredible ability to compartmentalize their emotions. It's like life throws so many obstacles in their path and yet they are not allowed to give up, crumble and lie down in a fetal position. So they learn to put aside their emotions in order to get the job done. And they very often have to do this because they know that on their shoulders lies the responsibilities for many others."
have you thought about success? we WORRY a lot about everything, by not in an emotional way (that comes later when we're way too hard on ourselves). i know we fear failure more than anything, what if we say something stupid to mess it up?
"A curious thing about these Caps is that they also behave like ninjas; they do things in the darkness and then quietly disappear into the shadows...in sharp contrast to the forthright samurais."
at one of my old jobs they used to call me a ninja because i would get things done all the time without anyone ever even noticing...i kind of approach everything in this way, always busy, always something going on...thinking...
"I think poor Caps learn early in childhood NOT to show any emotions because it gets in the way of survival."
like i said, i get younger with age.
"You may have also noticed that in times of emergencies, everyone else will be running about like headless chickens but the Caps will calmly get out the hose and put out the fire."
just last week i had to "put out a fire" and it was a big one. i felt like a sheep herder, and was the only one with any self control. i do hope you get to spend more time together, we're really up for anything if you can pin us down for a few hours.
"Caps seem to have an incredible ability to compartmentalize their emotions. It's like life throws so many obstacles in their path and yet they are not allowed to give up, crumble and lie down in a fetal position. So they learn to put aside their emotions in order to get the job done. And they very often have to do this because they know that on their shoulders lies the responsibilities for many others."
have you thought about success? we WORRY a lot about everything, by not in an emotional way (that comes later when we're way too hard on ourselves). i know we fear failure more than anything, what if we say something stupid to mess it up?
"A curious thing about these Caps is that they also behave like ninjas; they do things in the darkness and then quietly disappear into the shadows...in sharp contrast to the forthright samurais."
at one of my old jobs they used to call me a ninja because i would get things done all the time without anyone ever even noticing...i kind of approach everything in this way, always busy, always something going on...thinking...
"I think poor Caps learn early in childhood NOT to show any emotions because it gets in the way of survival."
like i said, i get younger with age.
"You may have also noticed that in times of emergencies, everyone else will be running about like headless chickens but the Caps will calmly get out the hose and put out the fire."
just last week i had to "put out a fire" and it was a big one. i felt like a sheep herder, and was the only one with any self control. i do hope you get to spend more time together, we're really up for anything if you can pin us down for a few hours.
"I think poor Caps learn early in childhood NOT to show any emotions because it gets in the way of survival."
because telling people how i really feel givs them too much information. especially with enemies. cruelest thing a person can do to an enemy is make that enemy love them.
seriously, i'd say, if you ever see a capricorn get emotional, gtfo of there, because apparently they lost control. but that's not universal.
because telling people how i really feel givs them too much information. especially with enemies. cruelest thing a person can do to an enemy is make that enemy love them.
seriously, i'd say, if you ever see a capricorn get emotional, gtfo of there, because apparently they lost control. but that's not universal.
my point exactly.
"Do they ever ignore people they consider to be just their friends?"
Depends, once the "i'll never fuck/love you" flag has been raised, i cut off any ideas of being with them.
like some awkward crap i had to go through with a "friend" of mine. for years she says im like a brother, then suddenly says she has a crush on me. its like, ummm didn't we already write this off as not going to happen? and gets shocked that i dont quickly bound to her because she's hot.
be sure you arent coming off creepy, or just say fuck it and find someone who responds.
"WHO exactly do Capricorn men tend to ignore?"
not sure about the others, but for me, the list is:
Anyone who annoys me;
Anyone i find creepy; //see annoy, and yes, some women do come off as creepy.
anyone who bores me;
anyone that isn't useful to me;
basically being completely unconcerned to everyone until someone actually stands out to me, or absolutely demands my attention (which is a bad thing).
maybe he just doens't think it can work, or isn't worth the effort. byt gl waiting for a definite answer. speaking our true thoughts doesnt seem to be common, unless we're pissed off.
"Do they ever ignore people they consider to be just their friends?"
Depends, once the "i'll never fuck/love you" flag has been raised, i cut off any ideas of being with them.
like some awkward crap i had to go through with a "friend" of mine. for years she says im like a brother, then suddenly says she has a crush on me. its like, ummm didn't we already write this off as not going to happen? and gets shocked that i dont quickly bound to her because she's hot.
be sure you arent coming off creepy, or just say fuck it and find someone who responds.
"WHO exactly do Capricorn men tend to ignore?"
not sure about the others, but for me, the list is:
Anyone who annoys me;
Anyone i find creepy; //see annoy, and yes, some women do come off as creepy.
anyone who bores me;
anyone that isn't useful to me;
basically being completely unconcerned to everyone until someone actually stands out to me, or absolutely demands my attention (which is a bad thing).
maybe he just doens't think it can work, or isn't worth the effort. byt gl waiting for a definite answer. speaking our true thoughts doesnt seem to be common, unless we're pissed off.
Yes but the point you are making only applies after careful thought and consideration. Cap's can be contradictory in nature and here is a scenario: If you approach these seemingly cool and calm creatures when they least expect it, they are more likely to puke out an answer thats not true since they hate to be blind-sided and need time to think things over. And then if they feel the first answer was not the "true" answer, thats when the depression kicks in, or worse-you all try to put up this front which borders on bitterness.
"Cap's can be contradictory in nature and here is a scenario: If you approach these seemingly cool and calm creatures when they least expect it, they are more likely to puke out an answer thats not true since they hate to be blind-sided and need time to think things over."
Depends on situation. I find convincing the person that they received an answer better than actually giving one. if you mean relationships, that's when i just avoid it.
"And then if they feel the first answer was not the "true" answer, thats when the depression kicks in, or worse-you all try to put up this front which borders on bitterness."
eh, i guess some of us do contemplate whether or not the answer was the proper one to give, and if we missed true happiness. but out right isn't exactly how i work. i test it, see if there is a chance for success before going in there.
depression comes from the thought that whatever it is we encountered, and will encounter, will likely be a waste of time, or mishandled. what we want, and what is practical don't always mix.
and doesn't necessarily border on bitterness, it can be. especially if we try/want to be legit, but see that we can't be.
after meeting a number of people who will pretend to like a person just to get an ego boost, or a rush, i've learned not to be so quick to throw my dreams to the public, and to keep dreams in perspective with reality. that way when i wake up i'm not in shock. but yes, miscalculations can cause trouble.
Stilgar: Sometimes it's better to miss an opportunity than to invite disaster.
Depends on situation. I find convincing the person that they received an answer better than actually giving one. if you mean relationships, that's when i just avoid it.
"And then if they feel the first answer was not the "true" answer, thats when the depression kicks in, or worse-you all try to put up this front which borders on bitterness."
eh, i guess some of us do contemplate whether or not the answer was the proper one to give, and if we missed true happiness. but out right isn't exactly how i work. i test it, see if there is a chance for success before going in there.
depression comes from the thought that whatever it is we encountered, and will encounter, will likely be a waste of time, or mishandled. what we want, and what is practical don't always mix.
and doesn't necessarily border on bitterness, it can be. especially if we try/want to be legit, but see that we can't be.
after meeting a number of people who will pretend to like a person just to get an ego boost, or a rush, i've learned not to be so quick to throw my dreams to the public, and to keep dreams in perspective with reality. that way when i wake up i'm not in shock. but yes, miscalculations can cause trouble.
Stilgar: Sometimes it's better to miss an opportunity than to invite disaster.
But can you find true happiness with logic or is it just the comfort of making a safe choice . Would you really choose your mind over your heart-in all matters, not just relationships.
depends on the definition of happy.
heart/emotions are good for one thing, altering the feeling of a given subject. the subject still is in itself the same thing, but the emotional attachment makes it worse, or better (to cope with that is).
Its more like a drug. Used properly it can enhance an already good/mediocre situation, but usually its something to be exploited and is highly addictive.
emotion is what keeps people waiting for phone calls, in bad relationships, mourning over them and helps the person ignore legitimate reasons of why not to get into one.
sadly w/o the emotion, no purpose in life would exist. as all needs basically trickle to a want.
so the concept is, enjoy life high, or sober. thats where the battle of what is "happy" will probably start.
heart/emotions are good for one thing, altering the feeling of a given subject. the subject still is in itself the same thing, but the emotional attachment makes it worse, or better (to cope with that is).
Its more like a drug. Used properly it can enhance an already good/mediocre situation, but usually its something to be exploited and is highly addictive.
emotion is what keeps people waiting for phone calls, in bad relationships, mourning over them and helps the person ignore legitimate reasons of why not to get into one.
sadly w/o the emotion, no purpose in life would exist. as all needs basically trickle to a want.
so the concept is, enjoy life high, or sober. thats where the battle of what is "happy" will probably start.
so the concept is, enjoy life high, or sober
Thats a really good point. Its logical and it makes sense.
Thats a really good point. Its logical and it makes sense.
Ms.Pisces ~ "GENOME! You're back!"
apparently you are too. welcome back pisces woman .
energy ~ "heart is not and has never been in a position to make any decision... mind on the other hand is and will always be."
Hmm, i think you give the mind too much credit. thinking with the mind is actually trying to piece together things that make sense. though people often fail at that.
still the mind has a better chance of functioning properly alone than trying to think through something that feels like a swollen gland/organ. i.e. love/sex. something that feels more like an addiction demanding attention than a reasonable need. but then again define reasonable.
suffer indignity to another for that emotional fix, or suffer indignity for money to buy stuff that causes our little neural pathways to tingle. just pick a rush and enjoy i guess, as no matter what, life will have suffering and tingly bits.
apparently you are too. welcome back pisces woman .
energy ~ "heart is not and has never been in a position to make any decision... mind on the other hand is and will always be."
Hmm, i think you give the mind too much credit. thinking with the mind is actually trying to piece together things that make sense. though people often fail at that.
still the mind has a better chance of functioning properly alone than trying to think through something that feels like a swollen gland/organ. i.e. love/sex. something that feels more like an addiction demanding attention than a reasonable need. but then again define reasonable.
suffer indignity to another for that emotional fix, or suffer indignity for money to buy stuff that causes our little neural pathways to tingle. just pick a rush and enjoy i guess, as no matter what, life will have suffering and tingly bits.
Wagnerdr15,
You wrote a whole book to say what? What happened at the airport? I assume you met him by the way you ended your book?
You wrote a whole book to say what? What happened at the airport? I assume you met him by the way you ended your book?
wagnerdr15 honestly it seems he was trying to get to your friend through you and your sort of blowing it out of proportion by wanting more when its clear he doesn't, he hugged you to make your friend jealous, doesn't seem he's that interested in you but stranger things have happened in these sort of situations, your already attached and he's done NOTHING to win your affection and time and with a cap man this is the main way to know if he's interested, he will take some sort of initiative to be with you, ask for more time with you, he won't want to let you out of his site when he's with you, just like he did with your girlfriend that wanted nothing to do with him, look at it closely, he searched her out, he opened his heart to her by confessing his feelings and he took her out on a date knowing that he may get shot down and yet he still put himself out there, he's done NONE of this for you which means he's not that interested beyond friendship...tread carefully...there are many women heartbroken over Cap men because they want him so bad that they can't see the forest from the tree's, your like for him will not make him become enamored with you, it has to be his idea or its a no go.
she didn't come here asking about her relationship with her husband.
I don't think we should get into her issues with hubby, its her business, she's a grown woman and she's the only one that can lie in her bed and clean up her own spilled milk.
My first question is does anyone know what he means by ?yes and No? to if he is disappointed.
I'm no expert but I think he would have just left it at "yes" if he were truly disappointed. I would just ask him.
Also, how do I know if he would consider me for just a -U KNOW WHAT-or if he thinks I have girlfriend potential—?
You determine this based on what you're willing to settle for.
Finally, Do cappy men have patience and are they willing to go out continue to have fun but wait for someone they consider a good catch?
Yes they're patient and the ones I've known make good friends to the opposite sex. The one I was involved with also hung out and had fun with my friends but never showed any romantic interest in them. I agree with Tiki33's perspective on this whole situation. Good luck to you.
I'm no expert but I think he would have just left it at "yes" if he were truly disappointed. I would just ask him.
Also, how do I know if he would consider me for just a -U KNOW WHAT-or if he thinks I have girlfriend potential—?
You determine this based on what you're willing to settle for.
Finally, Do cappy men have patience and are they willing to go out continue to have fun but wait for someone they consider a good catch?
Yes they're patient and the ones I've known make good friends to the opposite sex. The one I was involved with also hung out and had fun with my friends but never showed any romantic interest in them. I agree with Tiki33's perspective on this whole situation. Good luck to you.
True, everyone's entitled to their own opinion and freedom of speech. If I were her I wouldn't have even have mentioned the hubby because she doesn't need advice on that situation, she wants advice about astrology. Some people are actually here to be helpful, they've helped me.
Again, it's a public forum and people are free to give their opinions but I was just pointing out that the relationship she asked about is with a man who is a capricorn and not her hubby. Again, I do realize that people are free to say what they wish.
Thanks someonespecial for your answer. I was just direct and asked him---his exact text was "U were right, but fun to be wrong" i take that as him meaning "I was rite in saying that until we are both divorced we'll just have to keep it pretend,but its also fun to be naughty by throwing the proposition out there" I don't know--I hate ambiguity...is this what you get outta that— Should I just be direct and say no more "steaminess" I just want to be friends. I am a Taurus and if its one thing I am its REALISTIC! I guess if he thinks enough of me to be my friend he'll stick around.
Energy-- I am sorry I should have made that clear we are both separated and I do not live with my spouse. But, my spouse and I have not started the divorce process either-- and he still has a long wait until his divorce is finalized. But, I want a relationship with this guy not just a romp in the bed. Whether that relationship is just a friendship or more I don't really care. Ok, I just sent him a text was direct and got an answer. Just texted him again and now now answer--this is what I mean---from what I have been reading that's a total Capricorn thing to do.
What I meant to say was now NO answer.
hmmm its hard to shift a man out of the friends only mindset so I wouldn't push the whole friendship thing or you will never get out of that box, be honest about your intentions, if you want to be more than friends but would like things to simmer until the divorce is final then say that and he will respect that, if you play that I just wanna be friends for now card knowing that at some point you want more then you may never get out of that category so be honest about it, you can cool things down by not being so available when he's getting into the physical aspect via text etc, just be aware that once your seen as a friend you will more than likely not be able to shift into a relationship because he's not going to see you as relationship material especially if your not challenging him in some way and giving him text sex etc, if you want to be friends then stop all the sex talk, many women play the friends only game to try and ease into a more solid relationship and get highly disappointed when the man can't seem to shift her out of the buddy/friends category because its sort of like back peddling so for now just go with it and please don't analyze everything he says to you, YOU WILL NEVER KNOW what he's truly thinking unless he tells you.
also it seems your chasing him by initiating all the contact, if you really want a relationship, your going to have to ease up on this guy, he's just getting his feet wet with the single life and you initiating is going to make him ignore you because your shifting into his space and thats a bit intrusive and aggressive. If he wants more he will come to you..period, there is seriously NOTHING you can say or do to make him want you more, not even through sex, if he's not showing much interest then you might want to evaluate if he's worth the trouble, I would suggest you focus on something else and let him come to you, thats the only way you will truly know if he wants more.
"My first question is does anyone know what he means by ?yes and No? to if he is disappointed. Also, how do I know if he would consider me for just a -U KNOW WHAT-or if he thinks I have girlfriend potential—? Finally, Do cappy men have patience and are they willing to go out continue to have fun but wait for someone they consider a good catch? P.S.-FYI- I am 36 and my girlfriend who he originally crushed on is 24 and married with absolutely no interest in him. He is 42 with 3 children and what finally made him leave his marriage is that his wives cheated on him with a work colleage?don't know if he ever had extra marital relationships never asked him."
yes: it sucks that we can bang each others brains out
no: this is good that we have this great build up, the fantasy is hot, and no messy marriage to stress us out or to cause mistakes
the buns and the job are surefire girlfriend material...especially the job part.
they are willing to wait, but there's only so much fantasy one can take. the bubble will pop at some point, one way or the other.
capricorns are earth signs too. we are realist and traditional, so the situation is kind of a bummer, but a sweet twist of fate. that pretty girl is old news, she was probably superficial exterior, or at least, eye fodder who was too pretty and too intimidating (no offense to your friend). i didn't think for one moment that he wasn't playing the field and maybe he had you in mind the whole time. seems like there's a lot more going on between you two, especially with the relationships you're slowly letting dissolve. it is a very hard process for caps, admitting failure, especially in a relationship, so no matter what, he will tread lightly in getting into another. the sex thing is an ultimate, care-free distraction. no muss, no fuss.
yes: it sucks that we can bang each others brains out
no: this is good that we have this great build up, the fantasy is hot, and no messy marriage to stress us out or to cause mistakes
the buns and the job are surefire girlfriend material...especially the job part.
they are willing to wait, but there's only so much fantasy one can take. the bubble will pop at some point, one way or the other.
capricorns are earth signs too. we are realist and traditional, so the situation is kind of a bummer, but a sweet twist of fate. that pretty girl is old news, she was probably superficial exterior, or at least, eye fodder who was too pretty and too intimidating (no offense to your friend). i didn't think for one moment that he wasn't playing the field and maybe he had you in mind the whole time. seems like there's a lot more going on between you two, especially with the relationships you're slowly letting dissolve. it is a very hard process for caps, admitting failure, especially in a relationship, so no matter what, he will tread lightly in getting into another. the sex thing is an ultimate, care-free distraction. no muss, no fuss.
*yes: it sucks that we can bang each others brains out*
yes: it sucks that we CAN'T bang each others brains out
Sorry! 😉
yes: it sucks that we CAN'T bang each others brains out
Sorry! 😉
Thanks so much Warholian and Tiki33 for spending the time to send me a response.
I really appreciated it. I totally get it. Your advice is thoughtful and meaningful.
I'm backin off! Like the saying goes the only way you know is?. if you let your grasp go and they come back to you. RIGHT! And by the way... no way am I going to play the friendship thing up...that's all I need is to complicate matters more! Cappies may think its hard to be in their shoes--but try being a Taurus--we're so damn romantic, loyal, and possessive---all we really yearn for (demand-yes, I know we can be bossy) in a relationship is the same to be reciprocated--problem is when we really think we find it we want to possess it immediately and many times end up scaring the guy off. In the past I have rarely chased a guy...because I hate the uncertainty and the challenge it brings with it...but as someone said before its the show of interest at first and then that going missing period that makes one want to chase--I think its truly intriguing.
I really appreciated it. I totally get it. Your advice is thoughtful and meaningful.
I'm backin off! Like the saying goes the only way you know is?. if you let your grasp go and they come back to you. RIGHT! And by the way... no way am I going to play the friendship thing up...that's all I need is to complicate matters more! Cappies may think its hard to be in their shoes--but try being a Taurus--we're so damn romantic, loyal, and possessive---all we really yearn for (demand-yes, I know we can be bossy) in a relationship is the same to be reciprocated--problem is when we really think we find it we want to possess it immediately and many times end up scaring the guy off. In the past I have rarely chased a guy...because I hate the uncertainty and the challenge it brings with it...but as someone said before its the show of interest at first and then that going missing period that makes one want to chase--I think its truly intriguing.
Boy Tiki33!-I was reading your description of Taurus men on the Taurus message board--Did you ever Nail it right on the head!! You description was completely acurate! We are not chasers (Both Taurus men & women)--we like to sit back and wait for our potential luvs to chase us--that way there is not risk involved---and it helps us trust--you are right--it is EXTEAMLY hard for us to trust people (i think because many times we are blinded by our senses and get walked all over or get taken advantage of before we even realize it, or because we don't want to hear what people want to think about us or what we do--we just expect them to love us (or put up with us)just as we are or leave us alone--but when we do finally trust someone---we compelely gush!
Hey Warhalian and Tiki33 (and anyone else--not trying to exclude anyone!)
-Another quick question...What makes a Capricorn (male or female) respect a person or should I say how do I earn their respect? I only have two Capricorn girlfriends--and she has been a very good friend of mine for 10+ years. Both are extreamly loyal and one in particular (who is a bit older than me) is extreamly protective of me. I know they both respect a person who works hard for what they want in life--but what else? What qualities do they look for in a friend? And what does it take for them to trust enough to open up to a person (about personal matters that is). It took me years of friendship with my one cappy girlfriend to break through the ice, and lots of mutual support and advicce for her to trust me--Even though we have very different veiws on many things--we have mutual respect for each other and I know we'll be friends for life!
-Another quick question...What makes a Capricorn (male or female) respect a person or should I say how do I earn their respect? I only have two Capricorn girlfriends--and she has been a very good friend of mine for 10+ years. Both are extreamly loyal and one in particular (who is a bit older than me) is extreamly protective of me. I know they both respect a person who works hard for what they want in life--but what else? What qualities do they look for in a friend? And what does it take for them to trust enough to open up to a person (about personal matters that is). It took me years of friendship with my one cappy girlfriend to break through the ice, and lots of mutual support and advicce for her to trust me--Even though we have very different veiws on many things--we have mutual respect for each other and I know we'll be friends for life!
"Hey Warhalian and Tiki33 (and anyone else--not trying to exclude anyone!)
-Another quick question...What makes a Capricorn (male or female) respect a person or should I say how do I earn their respect? I only have two Capricorn girlfriends--and she has been a very good friend of mine for 10+ years. Both are extreamly loyal and one in particular (who is a bit older than me) is extreamly protective of me. I know they both respect a person who works hard for what they want in life--but what else? What qualities do they look for in a friend? And what does it take for them to trust enough to open up to a person (about personal matters that is). It took me years of friendship with my one cappy girlfriend to break through the ice, and lots of mutual support and advicce for her to trust me--Even though we have very different veiws on many things--we have mutual respect for each other and I know we'll be friends for life!"
your questions are anything but quick...it's just a vibe. if you form any kind of relationship, all you really have to do is be there. i have to reveal another "secret"...we are pretty intolerant. especially when it comes to manners or behavior we find otherwise inappropriate. that goes for small talk too. i do like chat, but it has to mean something. i'm not acting high and might...i have gotten into trouble with friends because there have been times that i have asked friends over to help me work on projects and they think i'm using them as a free resource which is not the case. because we are so homey and always busy, it's kind of nice to mix work and play because it comes so natural to us. yeah, i'd love to discuss what's going on with you and your no-good boyfriend, but could you pass me the screw driver, and don't spill my drink that's sitting next to you.
daily, i find myself retreating from getting close to people and i'm finding i'm getting more and more selective in who i am close with and who i share stuff with (no one alive knows everything). i find it soooo awesome and nice when someone invites me to go out just for a quick thing, like lunch dates are my favorite! it's so quick and easy, and it really says "let's catch up, i miss you." dinners and clubs can be sketchy because we tend to worry about the terms of the situation...are we going out just for the hell of it or do you want to hang out with ME?
there's nothing you can knowingly do to earn our respect at least not that i can think of. just be ambitious. and stay
-Another quick question...What makes a Capricorn (male or female) respect a person or should I say how do I earn their respect? I only have two Capricorn girlfriends--and she has been a very good friend of mine for 10+ years. Both are extreamly loyal and one in particular (who is a bit older than me) is extreamly protective of me. I know they both respect a person who works hard for what they want in life--but what else? What qualities do they look for in a friend? And what does it take for them to trust enough to open up to a person (about personal matters that is). It took me years of friendship with my one cappy girlfriend to break through the ice, and lots of mutual support and advicce for her to trust me--Even though we have very different veiws on many things--we have mutual respect for each other and I know we'll be friends for life!"
your questions are anything but quick...it's just a vibe. if you form any kind of relationship, all you really have to do is be there. i have to reveal another "secret"...we are pretty intolerant. especially when it comes to manners or behavior we find otherwise inappropriate. that goes for small talk too. i do like chat, but it has to mean something. i'm not acting high and might...i have gotten into trouble with friends because there have been times that i have asked friends over to help me work on projects and they think i'm using them as a free resource which is not the case. because we are so homey and always busy, it's kind of nice to mix work and play because it comes so natural to us. yeah, i'd love to discuss what's going on with you and your no-good boyfriend, but could you pass me the screw driver, and don't spill my drink that's sitting next to you.
daily, i find myself retreating from getting close to people and i'm finding i'm getting more and more selective in who i am close with and who i share stuff with (no one alive knows everything). i find it soooo awesome and nice when someone invites me to go out just for a quick thing, like lunch dates are my favorite! it's so quick and easy, and it really says "let's catch up, i miss you." dinners and clubs can be sketchy because we tend to worry about the terms of the situation...are we going out just for the hell of it or do you want to hang out with ME?
there's nothing you can knowingly do to earn our respect at least not that i can think of. just be ambitious. and stay
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Warholian--- "have to reveal another "secret"...we are pretty intolerant. especially when it comes to manners or behavior we find otherwise inappropriate."
I have gotta laugh at that one....Okay, both my grandma a Dec. Cappy and my older Cappy girlfriend are the epitomy of class, never swear in public, and have all the grace and manners. But, my other cappy girlfriend swears like a truck driver in public! SBut,she does seem to notice when someone is not following proper etiquette other than herself (I think this is absolutely hillarious--and never ceases to crack me up!) Anyway, I being the typical Taurus that I am--am a totally optimist, like to insert some sort of silliness or slapstick humor into every occasion, and will even sometimes (not in public--but in a private setting with my cap friends--do something slightly inappropriate without a second thought--if I know it will give way to some laughter.) All my cappy friends seem to think that its hilarious that I can make a complete fool, laugh at myself, and they can even laugh with me and I love it rather than taking anything personally.
Are cappy's just apalled by inappropriate manners or bad behavior when they are encountered with it in a public setting?
I have gotta laugh at that one....Okay, both my grandma a Dec. Cappy and my older Cappy girlfriend are the epitomy of class, never swear in public, and have all the grace and manners. But, my other cappy girlfriend swears like a truck driver in public! SBut,she does seem to notice when someone is not following proper etiquette other than herself (I think this is absolutely hillarious--and never ceases to crack me up!) Anyway, I being the typical Taurus that I am--am a totally optimist, like to insert some sort of silliness or slapstick humor into every occasion, and will even sometimes (not in public--but in a private setting with my cap friends--do something slightly inappropriate without a second thought--if I know it will give way to some laughter.) All my cappy friends seem to think that its hilarious that I can make a complete fool, laugh at myself, and they can even laugh with me and I love it rather than taking anything personally.
Are cappy's just apalled by inappropriate manners or bad behavior when they are encountered with it in a public setting?
Depends on what we find bad. I don't mind cursing most of the time, and do so myself, but i find things like slurping, farting, and other bodily things jarring. I also don't mind some teasing, long as it isn't personal.
I guess we can be like anyone else, we like some stuff, not others, and prefer not to be around the things we dont.
I guess we can be like anyone else, we like some stuff, not others, and prefer not to be around the things we dont.
What you may misunderstand is that we (probably like others) go by our own rules. I don't give a damn about what has been established if i dont like it. i guess capricorns can be some of the most rebellious of all. probably because some of us dont give a fuck. don't forget andy kaufman, david bowie, elvis, and howard stern are capricorns. and those are some of the strangest people in entertainment.
but of course, when business is being handled, we may curve our ways to the one we're dealing with to get what we want. have to kiss a little ass to get ass. or something lame like that. again, nothing that most others dont do.
i guess what seperates capricorns the most from everyone else is that most of us were conceived in the months of march/april, maybe a little sooner depending on how eager the little one is to leave.
basically, i say, don't care if they ignore you. if they ignore you, move on. be whoever the hell you are, and let them decide if they want in or not. no sense of trying to pretend for decades and becoming disgruntled because you always have to pretend.
if they are interested and ready, they'll be on you.
but of course, when business is being handled, we may curve our ways to the one we're dealing with to get what we want. have to kiss a little ass to get ass. or something lame like that. again, nothing that most others dont do.
i guess what seperates capricorns the most from everyone else is that most of us were conceived in the months of march/april, maybe a little sooner depending on how eager the little one is to leave.
basically, i say, don't care if they ignore you. if they ignore you, move on. be whoever the hell you are, and let them decide if they want in or not. no sense of trying to pretend for decades and becoming disgruntled because you always have to pretend.
if they are interested and ready, they'll be on you.
I have been seeing a Capricorn man for little over a year. I recantly told him that I needed a relationship from him or we are going to have to stop seeing each other. We have been back and forth on this subject threw out the year. I've told that I was in luv with him, he stopped seeing me for a while ( a week) then he came right back. I'm a Leo women and I've been working on my patience but it's hard. That and that's what he keeps telling me and I need to control everything. I see how he could get that but it's not everything. To me if u like a person u show it u act like it. So it's been 3 weeks ( the longest we haven't talked) and he still hasn't called texted or come by. He's good for just popping up, I texted him yesterday just to say I miss him and my postion on a relationship hasn't changed but I wanted him to know how I was feeling, I'm not good at pretending I had to be honest. Sometimes I can see he cares but now he might be done. How do u walk away from someone u had in your life for over a year all because I want to be in a relationship. I'm not going to text for a while to give him space and maybe I'll let go ( fingers crossed) but someone can HELP!!!!!
I understand that they all pretty much act the same. But I was married to a Scorpio for 13 years and with a Pisces for 8 before that, I just feel like if u like or have feelings for someone u show it. Do slow and steady win the race I guess but how long do u wait before u realize 2-3 years have passed and u are in the same spot u was in when y'all first started. Growth and evolution is apart of life. For them to be so goal focus then why they don't put that much effort into there relationship before all they will have is money and success but your alone. I'm a Leo I enjoy all those things but I feel like u can have it all not one with out the other. I luv his work ethic, working hard and having money for the things u want and to have money saved. But when I have someone special in my life I put in that much effort into that as well because it matters to me. I've given him things and to see his face is priceless, not sure it's because no one ever has or because he's shy. He don't talk about his past relationships and that's fine mines is a open book but only when he ask. I know if he ever said I luv u ill know its only because he only say what he means but again the whole hard to get I'm over. It's crunch time we are either going to be in a relationship or we are done. I've given all I can give!!
Thats a long time Renaldo4. I hate to say it, but I think you should move on. I doubt a magic switch will click on and he suddenly realize what he wants from you overnight. If he has not changed, he may never change, and he'll make it "appear" every which way most likely only because he's gotten comfortable.
Y'all are right! I'm going to leave him alone. It's sad only because I really liked him but I'm not going to keep wasting my time on a person who don't appreciate me.
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