@TW
3 Years
I think you left it for too long to ask her for a second date. You should have asked her during the first one, and also found out which days she was available. If she is on a dating site, you've got serious competition.
Text her again with a better offer, that doesn't contain the word "grab".
I learned this in therapy:
When someone isn’t instantly responding or responding in a way you think they should, it has very little to do with your interaction. People get busy, overwhelmed, fatigued with their daily life and responding to someone new or even someone they know well isn’t a top priority at all times.
People feel and obtain daily validation from many aspects of their lives that fill their days…like having children, a spouse, active friends, busy families and work lives.
When you’re hanging on the feedback from others and waiting on their messages, you should take that as a moment to remind yourself…you don’t need their validation to keep living your happy life and then continue to tend to your own needs.
If that person decides they want to let you into their inner circle of people they emotionally connect with, they’ll let you know and you’ll feel it.
Yes your right. Prob over analysing, was curious as don't get ghosted like that much.
We actually spoke about the second date on the first, just didn't commit to a day. Agree that the dating site game can be brutal. Don't think anyone escapes that.
*didn't say grab in the actual message haha. but thanks for the tip
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Yes your right. Prob over analysing, was curious as don't get ghosted like that much.We actually spoke about the second date on the first, just didn't commit to a day. Agree that the dating site game can be brutal. Don't think anyone escapes that.
*didn't say grab in the actual message haha. but thanks for the tip
Don’t worry about the grab thing. Let’s grab coffee, lunch or dinner is an acceptable phrase. It’s not the same as “I’m going to grab you”
Lol
Maybe something's up ... or got stuck with life responsibilities... I'd say give it some time before checking on her
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Hi All,
Quick opinion question -
So went on a date the other week, with a great Virgo. I was under the impression that the date went great, been on a lot of dates recently and this one felt really good. We chatted none stop all evenings, laughed a lot, had a lot of things in common, held hands for a little while, and had a small kiss at the end of the night. All green flags and positive signs smile
I then texted her the next day simply saying I had a great evening, she replied that she did too. The next day i texted her back asking how her weekend was and she replied briefly but normally.
Anyway i left it for a day or so, and then messaged her asking if she wanted to grab some dinner later in the week.....no reply 4 days later :/
Tbh will prob just leave it, as we are adults and if she's not texting back then its obviously for a reason and doubt its a game. Maybe she was Busy, had other dating options which where better — who knows
Curious to get any feedback from Virgos or women in general? as the date seamed to go nearly perfectly, from my perspective anyway
The only thing i can think of is before asking her out again i accidentily like a picture of hers on instagram randomly as i was looking at her profile...haha very embarssing, but could maybe come across a bit too much or creepy. IDK
I do know she was engaged and in 12 year relationship till 18 months ago and is now dating again. Maybe I came on too strong, as can happen when you like someone, maybe just over analysing ....—
Im a Taurus man , she's a Virgo