Happy Birthday him or not?

Well...it’s a first year of me questioning if I should send Happy Birthday to a Scorpio after a whole decade of doing so in past...

I sent him honest and unkind departure letter last year and I haven’t looked back until beginning of November when I started having dreams about him. Subconsciously of course. Never bothersome. Just quiet and meaningless but dreams nevertheless...

I do feel bad now for that letter I sent. I couldn’t even post it here due to being kind of conflicting with myself for doing so...

However I AM grateful to him for being the reason my life had changed for better and I want to burry the hatchet and apologize by telling him I hope he is doing well and wishing him winning the war agains his demons...

I can’t stop thinking about it. I don’t want to stir the shit though and make him think I am crawling back. Because I am not. I am pretty sure at this point that even if he replied I wouldn’t even blink.

Just wondering if he would be happy, mad,sad or wish I hadn’t done it. 🤷‍♀️

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

Posted by Erin

I think you should leave it because the possible upside of leaving it is better than the possible downside of not leaving it.

The upside of doing it isn't worth the possible downside and downside of not doing is is very minimal.

You right.

I don’t want to be friends. I just being mean but at that moment he deserved it and now when I am not mad or sad anymore I was toying with an idea to just ‘acknowledge’ his positive impact on my life and giving him some ego boost.

He was very hurt and lost before I spoke last time ever and I know he is always asking about me from people we both knew and even when he was dissapearing on me he always inquired about my well-being...and one year his family just ‘forgot’ his bday and he said I was the only one who remembered and he was happy as a clam that I haven’t forgotten...

But I hear you. Bad idea. Still itching to say ‘thanks’ and that’s it. Bad idea. 🤦‍♀️🤔

Posted by saggurl88

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

Yeah. It’s like I wanted to make sure if he responds I would be oblivious. But I can’t say I would 100% .

So it’s NO! Thanks ❤️

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Posted by saggurl88

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

_@Gemitati I agree here. Reaching out to Scorpio can cause him stalking you. I don't think you want it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Yes yes yes! I know right?

I am just thinking sometimes IF ever we bumped into each other I don’t want it to be awkward.

I wish we could just be like ‘Hey! Nice to see you. What’s up?’ and chat and be cool...

I wish weren’t as cruel in my last letter and that’s what bothering me NOW but what’s done is done.

Thanks❤️

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Posted by Gemitati

You right.

I don’t want to be friends. I just being mean but at that moment he deserved it and now when I am not mad or sad anymore I was toying with an idea to just ‘acknowledge’ his positive impact on my life and giving him some ego boost.

He was very hurt and lost before I spoke last time ever and I know he is always asking about me from people we both knew and even when he was dissapearing on me he always inquired about my well-being...and one year his family just ‘forgot’ his bday and he said I was the only one who remembered and he was happy as a clam that I haven’t forgotten...

But I hear you. Bad idea. Still itching to say ‘thanks’ and that’s it. Bad idea. 🤦‍♀️🤔

I agree.

He might smile. Orrrr he might:

-Be nasty

-Read too much into it

-Try to mess things up with you and your Aries

-Cling (don't you already have a Capricorn for that?)

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Exactly!

One thing I know for sure he wouldn’t be nasty and he wouldn’t mess me up unless I will ask for it.

And yes! I have an ex for ‘clingy’...🤦‍♀️😂😂😂

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Posted by saggurl88

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

_@Gemitati I agree here. Reaching out to Scorpio can cause him stalking you. I don't think you want it 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I don’t want it though deep inside I want it! Lmao

I would want it just to grow my head bigger but it might blow up in my face! Lol

I guess I just wanted to let it out here so I wouldn’t act as an idiot.

If i just knew he would smile and said simple thanks...but how many chances? Hmmm

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Posted by saggurl88

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

_@Gemitati I agree here. Reaching out to Scorpio can cause him stalking you. I don't think you want it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes yes yes! I know right?

I am just thinking sometimes IF ever we bumped into each other I don’t want it to be awkward.

I wish we could just be like ‘Hey! Nice to see you. What’s up?’ and chat and be cool...

I wish weren’t as cruel in my last letter and that’s what bothering me NOW but what’s done is done.

Thanks❤️

I see it's tough decision. Whatever you decide, do what gives you comfort 🙂 I mean, I think if he would feel hurt I think he would reach out to discuss that with you.

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That’s what not need to happen but it might...NO! Thanks❤️

Posted by Erin

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Posted by saggurl88

Depends on if you care about his feelings being hurt if you don’t send it.

And if you’re gonna be able to ignore the other texts if he starts trying to contact you again because of it.

_@Gemitati I agree here. Reaching out to Scorpio can cause him stalking you. I don't think you want it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don’t want it though deep inside I want it! Lmao

I would want it just to grow my head bigger but it might blow up in my face! Lol

I guess I just wanted to let it out here so I wouldn’t act as an idiot.

If i just knew he would smile and said simple thanks...but how many chances? Hmmm

I think this is the silly shit you should only pull if you are single and there are no stakes lol.

I stopped sending special occasion texts once I read that men see it as you sitting there waiting for any excuse to talk to him, but you already said you knew it would be an ego boost for him.

Maybe ask the Aries what he thinks? If he gives his blessing maybe it will make it feel less naughty and lose the appeal, or maybe you will feel more comfortable making the choice in general.

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100% ! No. No asking no Aries nothing...😂

You right. Fuck his ego. I’ll try to keep out! Urghh

Big no

Keep the ties cut...

Posted by HearttofTopazz

Lawdz.... Might as well go ahead and wish him a Merry Xmas while you’re at it 🤣

.....and invite him for Christmas dinner?

😀🎄🎅🏻🌝

🎶 Deck the halls with boughs of holly

Fa la la la la, la la la la 🎶

A big bad idea. That is equal to opening a door whether you mean to or not.

If you want this part of your life to be in the past you need to leave it. I understand exactly how you feel and why you want to send that but it's truly not closure. He knows you're a good person, he knows you were mad and hurt and said things you probably didn't mean.

I tried this several times with people and the only thing I got was an open door that I had intended on keeping shut. Send the positive vibes, prayers words out loud into the world for him to receive.

I have so many things I wish I could say to certain people but I've learned they are in the past. I do not owe them anything else in this life. Closure is within you and no one else.

Posted by HearttofTopazz

Lawdz.... Might as well go ahead and wish him a Merry Xmas while you’re at it 🤣

You didn’t think I didn’t think about it did you?

😂😂😂😂

Posted by WateryGem

If you want this part of your life to be in the past you need to leave it. I understand exactly how you feel and why you want to send that but it's truly not closure. He knows you're a good person, he knows you were mad and hurt and said things you probably didn't mean.

I tried this several times with people and the only thing I got was an open door that I had intended on keeping shut. Send the positive vibes, prayers words out loud into the world for him to receive.

I have so many things I wish I could say to certain people but I've learned they are in the past. I do not owe them anything else in this life. Closure is within you and no one else.

Spot on! 👍

Posted by emeraldgem

Don't do it. Now is the time to break the chain. My ex-Scorp called and wished me a happy birthday and I'm not doing it back. Those days are over - he's moved on, I've moved on. This is what I do for a friend or family. He is neither. You'll feel guilty for a moment and then you won't.

I am not making up story...I AM wondering what if however I am growing farther and farther apart from him and maybe part of me is not sure yet so...that worm is acting up and wiggling up my ass saying do it...

Curiosity is a powerful shit! Lol

It would be considered retrograde happy birthday

🤔🤔

Posted by HearttofTopazz

Lawdz.... Might as well go ahead and wish him a Merry Xmas while you’re at it 🤣

Word.

Happy New Years

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Anniversary

Happy 4th of July

Happy Kwanzaa

Why dont you and the Aries get together and do a video wishing your ex a happy birthday.

Matching outfits a must.

Posted by emeraldgem

The DXP bitches have spoken @Gemitati - DON'T FK'IN DO IT!!!

Ok bitches!!! Wait until the 18th! 😂

So far I need to find best recipe for Mozarella Carozza...👩‍🍳

Posted by DMV

Why dont you and the Aries get together and do a video wishing your ex a happy birthday.

Matching outfits a must.

I am sorry if you think it was funny. It irked me as...stupid. Sorry again

Posted by TheRabbit

She's totally going to send him a Happy Birthday text with a video of her penetrating herself with a 2 liter bottle.

You have to STOP thinking that ladies have huge vaginas just because you have baby dick!

Just admit it and here is an info for you.

Upside if a lil zik is that you won’t ever wish you were young again. It would be the same when you are 85 as it was at 30! Isn’t it wonderful? 👍

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Posted by HearttofTopazz

Lawdz.... Might as well go ahead and wish him a Merry Xmas while you’re at it 🤣

Word.

Happy New Years

Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Anniversary

Happy 4th of July

Happy Kwanzaa

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Yes

Yes

Yes

Yes

No! I don’t fuck out of race.

Posted by MothToFlame

No. This chapter of your life is closed. Enjoy your Aries and let it be.

I AM! Why do you think I am searching for Mozzarela Carroza recipe? Man is pushing it really...😂😂😂

It’s bacala!

Posted by Black-Mamba

i don't like the idea of chapters closing when you spent so much time and emotion on another

i don't like the idea of completely discarding a person's mark on your life

its just dumb that people can't stay civil and friendly towards one another and still be able to move on

I am very conflicted about it.

See...my ex can sleep next to me and I wouldn’t give a fuck so we can be friends.

When people still are sexually attracted to each other it’s different story. They can’t stay friends.

When people haven’t seen each other and not sure if they still have those feelings it’s another issue...

It could be completely gone. Or not. I don’t want to find out...

Posted by Sailor_Mars

Even though you say a lot of shit I like you. Don't do that Gem. You moved on.

If that’s not love - what IS? 🥂