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ARE GEMINI—S JEALOUS WHEN THEY LIKE YOU?
Yes I'm jealous. Really jealous... I can be possessive and controlling also. That social media shit drives me fucking nuts too. Me and my dude just got into it over that. So yea, that's how I get when I'm really into someone. Honestly, if it was the beginning I wouldn't really trip. But if it's official, then yea.
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The only thing you could see was my waist line. He got mad and said I was showing off my butt in the video.
The first time he said it I blew it off, like he was joking, but then he brought it up again the next day.
I'm honestly shocked by his behavior because other Gemini??s I??ve known are more carefree and silly. He seems dead serious when it comes to me, my clothes, and where I'm at. If I try to explain he??ll throw me off by saying —I'm just playing?? and he??ll laugh, but then he??ll bring it up again later which will make me think he was never playing to begin with. I'm getting confused.
Now that I think about it, other Gems I kicked it with showed signs of jealousy but they were so silly it was hard to tell when they were joking or serious. He's a little more out with his jealousy streak though. I don't really know how to handle it. I'm a sociable Leeb woman, I??d never jeopardize something special for a casual flirt but I can't stop the compliments or change my face to be ugly. Oh, and we are not officially together yet. We've liked one another since middle school. He's always let it be known he??d like a chance and now I'm giving him one. We've been dating for about a month. What do yall think?
The only thing you could see was my waist line. He got mad and said I was showing off my butt in the video.
The first time he said it I blew it off, like he was joking, but then he brought it up again the next day.
I'm honestly shocked by his behavior because other Gemini??s I??ve known are more carefree and silly. He seems dead serious when it comes to me, my clothes, and where I'm at. If I try to explain he??ll throw me off by saying —I'm just playing?? and he??ll laugh, but then he??ll bring it up again later which will make me think he was never playing to begin with. I'm getting confused.
Now that I think about it, other Gems I kicked it with showed signs of jealousy but they were so silly it was hard to tell when they were joking or serious. He's a little more out with his jealousy streak though. I don't really know how to handle it. I'm a sociable Leeb woman, I??d never jeopardize something special for a casual flirt but I can't stop the compliments or change my face to be ugly. Oh, and we are not officially together yet. We've liked one another since middle school. He's always let it be known he??d like a chance and now I'm giving him one. We've been dating for about a month. What do yall think?
Posted by pinklibra
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The only thing you could see was my waist line. He got mad and said I was showing off my butt in the video.
The first time he said it I blew it off, like he was joking, but then he brought it up again the next day.
I'm honestly shocked by his behavior because other Gemini??s I??ve known are more carefree and silly. He seems dead serious when it comes to me, my clothes, and where I'm at. If I try to explain he??ll throw me off by saying —I'm just playing?? and he??ll laugh, but then he??ll bring it up again later which will make me think he was never playing to begin with. I'm getting confused.
Now that I think about it, other Gems I kicked it with showed signs of jealousy but they were so silly it was hard to tell when they were joking or serious. He's a little more out with his jealousy streak though. I don't really know how to handle it. I'm a sociable Leeb woman, I??d never jeopardize something special for a casual flirt but I can't stop the compliments or change my face to be ugly. Oh, and we are not officially together yet. We've liked one another since middle school. He's always let it be known he??d like a chance and now I'm giving him one. We've been dating for about a month. What do yall think?
Maybe he has aries placements?..
We Gemini's can be jealous, but its only because we love really hard, and our love be real for that person that special to us and close to our hearts. We don't like to be clingy with our loved ones but we do love their attention.
Tell him to stop making fake accounts and l
Secretly liking you're friends pictures behind you're back.
Sincerely yours
Negative nancy .. Lol
Secretly liking you're friends pictures behind you're back.
Sincerely yours
Negative nancy .. Lol
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The only thing you could see was my waist line. He got mad and said I was showing off my butt in the video.
The first time he said it I blew it off, like he was joking, but then he brought it up again the next day.
I'm honestly shocked by his behavior because other Gemini??s I??ve known are more carefree and silly. He seems dead serious when it comes to me, my clothes, and where I'm at. If I try to explain he??ll throw me off by saying —I'm just playing?? and he??ll laugh, but then he??ll bring it up again later which will make me think he was never playing to begin with. I'm getting confused.
Now that I think about it, other Gems I kicked it with showed signs of jealousy but they were so silly it was hard to tell when they were joking or serious. He's a little more out with his jealousy streak though. I don't really know how to handle it. I'm a sociable Leeb woman, I??d never jeopardize something special for a casual flirt but I can't stop the compliments or change my face to be ugly. Oh, and we are not officially together yet. We've liked one another since middle school. He's always let it be known he??d like a chance and now I'm giving him one. We've been dating for about a month. What do yall think?
Sounds to me like he is insecure with you and isn't sure he is deserving of you. He sounds like he is in conflict with what he says to you as well, hence. why he sounds like he is joking then sounds serious. He doesn't want to come off the way he is but he feels something that is bothering him. I would try to talk to him about the insecurity and let him know there isn't anyone else and that he needs to cool his jets with that bs.
Too me it's all about communication.. Get that man communicating truly what is triggering him to react that way and you can shut it down.
What? I don't get the fake accounts remark, but okay.
And Tiz I do think he likes me and he has for a while. However now that I'm giving him a chance we are learning one another on a different level. I guess a better question would??ve been do Gem??s get jealous period not just when they like you. I just wanted to know if it's normal for this sign to be jealous and how I should handle it.
Honestly didn't know Air signs can get jealous because they come off so nonchalant all the time. Guess I should??ve considered myself. When I like someone I get a little jealous too but I don't like to show it. The only time I??ll show it is if we are talking heavy and working on building a relationship. With him I'm not sure we are supposed to be dating just each other or if we are free to date others while we get to know one another. I know that some people like it to be one on one, but then I'm like how does that work when the two people are single? They might as well just be together, right?
Again I haven't had this conversation with him yet. He's supposed to be coming over today because I told him we need to have a face to face chat. I want to lay out some things and let him know how I'm feeling and I want him to have the chance to do the same thing. I don't want to have the conversation over the phone or via text because things can get misconstrued or taken the wrong way or out of context. This may help us both decide on whether we even want to continue this further, or just go back to being cool. What do you think?
And Tiz I do think he likes me and he has for a while. However now that I'm giving him a chance we are learning one another on a different level. I guess a better question would??ve been do Gem??s get jealous period not just when they like you. I just wanted to know if it's normal for this sign to be jealous and how I should handle it.
Honestly didn't know Air signs can get jealous because they come off so nonchalant all the time. Guess I should??ve considered myself. When I like someone I get a little jealous too but I don't like to show it. The only time I??ll show it is if we are talking heavy and working on building a relationship. With him I'm not sure we are supposed to be dating just each other or if we are free to date others while we get to know one another. I know that some people like it to be one on one, but then I'm like how does that work when the two people are single? They might as well just be together, right?
Again I haven't had this conversation with him yet. He's supposed to be coming over today because I told him we need to have a face to face chat. I want to lay out some things and let him know how I'm feeling and I want him to have the chance to do the same thing. I don't want to have the conversation over the phone or via text because things can get misconstrued or taken the wrong way or out of context. This may help us both decide on whether we even want to continue this further, or just go back to being cool. What do you think?
Posted by WateryGemPosted by pinklibra
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The only thing you could see was my waist line. He got mad and said I was showing off my butt in the video.
The first time he said it I blew it off, like he was joking, but then he brought it up again the next day.
I'm honestly shocked by his behavior because other Gemini??s I??ve known are more carefree and silly. He seems dead serious when it comes to me, my clothes, and where I'm at. If I try to explain he??ll throw me off by saying —I'm just playing?? and he??ll laugh, but then he??ll bring it up again later which will make me think he was never playing to begin with. I'm getting confused.
Now that I think about it, other Gems I kicked it with showed signs of jealousy but they were so silly it was hard to tell when they were joking or serious. He's a little more out with his jealousy streak though. I don't really know how to handle it. I'm a sociable Leeb woman, I??d never jeopardize something special for a casual flirt but I can't stop the compliments or change my face to be ugly. Oh, and we are not officially together yet. We've liked one another since middle school. He's always let it be known he??d like a chance and now I'm giving him one. We've been dating for about a month. What do yall think?
Sounds to me like he is insecure with you and isn't sure he is deserving of you. He sounds like he is in conflict with what he says to you as well, hence. why he sounds like he is joking then sounds serious. He doesn't want to come off the way he is but he feels something that is bothering him. I would try to talk to him about the insecurity and let him know there isn't anyone else and that he needs to cool his jets with that bs.
Too me it's all about communication.. Get that man communicating truly what is triggering him to react that way and you can shut it down.click to expand
Okay, I like this. Then it my idea is correct, we need to sit down and let it all out. Lol.
Posted by tiziani
Ah ok, so you've both known each other for a while before you started changing gear and dating? Fair play.
Yes I think talking it through in person is always the best option, but I agree with Watery Gem, you're not responsible for his bs. If you accept it now it's only going to get even more painful later on.
Yes I agree, and that's what scares me. I know i'm a friendly person, If someone calls me cute, I'm gonna smile and say thank you. It doesn't mean I want them or like them ,it just means I appreciate the compliment. I like to dress cute, I don't want to have to worry about every time I wear something if he's going to flip out because he's not with me and he's worried other guys will try to talk to me, at some point he's going to have to trust me. AND THEN, all the more we need to have this talk because I need to know where his head is at so I can determine if he even has the right to trip at all.lol
Posted by tiziani
p.s. I don't think that means he likes you. It definitely points to the fact he's attracted to you on some level. But those are two completely different things. For two people to actually like each other there needs to be some element of friendship/support involved.
+1
Is this the 12 year old emotionally unadjusted tard we talked about?
Really? Sounds like he's just being more of an immature troll than before. I'm sure your ego just loves it, but you need to keep an eye out. This controlling shit isn't a good sign and you know it.
Really? Sounds like he's just being more of an immature troll than before. I'm sure your ego just loves it, but you need to keep an eye out. This controlling shit isn't a good sign and you know it.
@GEMICAN THANK YOU.
I will try. He's been acting very dry ever since I made this one post on my page. It basically said that I always found it funny when people say couples take social media too serious, I said in my post well maybe the cheating community should stop getting caught via social media. He took it personal because about 3 weeks prior when he and I first start talking he told me that he is single because he can find a woman that doesn't revolve her relationship around social media and what the internet thinks. Says he doesn't like when girls are constantly posting picture of her man and everything they do together because it starts drama. He said each girl he dated in the past was very open on social media with their relationship and it ended in shambles. This is another reason I want to have a talk to address this social media thing because for someone that doesn't want the relationship revolving around social media he sure does bring it up and react to it a lot. I get that he's had issues with it in his past, but it makes me wonder if he got caught cheating on social media or something because I'm a firm believer that not every moment of your relationship should be shared with the media, but it's a problem for me if a week in the guy is already warning me that if I post pics or something then there might be drama. I have a problem because I should be able to post what I want. Am I wrong? I don't know I hate to say it but his behavior is not only alarming me, it's make me think he's hiding something. I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt before I throw in the towel.
I will try. He's been acting very dry ever since I made this one post on my page. It basically said that I always found it funny when people say couples take social media too serious, I said in my post well maybe the cheating community should stop getting caught via social media. He took it personal because about 3 weeks prior when he and I first start talking he told me that he is single because he can find a woman that doesn't revolve her relationship around social media and what the internet thinks. Says he doesn't like when girls are constantly posting picture of her man and everything they do together because it starts drama. He said each girl he dated in the past was very open on social media with their relationship and it ended in shambles. This is another reason I want to have a talk to address this social media thing because for someone that doesn't want the relationship revolving around social media he sure does bring it up and react to it a lot. I get that he's had issues with it in his past, but it makes me wonder if he got caught cheating on social media or something because I'm a firm believer that not every moment of your relationship should be shared with the media, but it's a problem for me if a week in the guy is already warning me that if I post pics or something then there might be drama. I have a problem because I should be able to post what I want. Am I wrong? I don't know I hate to say it but his behavior is not only alarming me, it's make me think he's hiding something. I'm trying to give the benefit of the doubt before I throw in the towel.
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Is this the 12 year old emotionally unadjusted tard we talked about?
Really? Sounds like he's just being more of an immature troll than before. I'm sure your ego just loves it, but you need to keep an eye out. This controlling shit isn't a good sign and you know it.
No ma??am.lol. But I was waiting on you.
And yes you are right, it's not sitting right with me, but rather than disappearing like I normally would I'm working on talking about things and giving the other person a chance to get it in check. However I wont lie I'm becoming lazy with the situation and it's only been a month. I'm ready to run.
Posted by pinklibraPosted by rockyroadicecream
Is this the 12 year old emotionally unadjusted tard we talked about?
Really? Sounds like he's just being more of an immature troll than before. I'm sure your ego just loves it, but you need to keep an eye out. This controlling shit isn't a good sign and you know it.
No ma??am.lol. But I was waiting on you.
And yes you are right, it's not sitting right with me, but rather than disappearing like I normally would I'm working on talking about things and giving the other person a chance to get it in check. However I wont lie I'm becoming lazy with the situation and it's only been a month. I'm ready to run.click to expand
Aand this came up as I was writing the other, so I just hid it since you addressed everything that I'd written.
I don't blame you. It's good that you want to try to talk about it instead of the infamous Libra disappearing act. Gold star for trying.
I have a feeling he's going to feed you a line of bs and continue with his behavior. Guys who do this shit just have problems, tbh. Relationships aren't for controlling and trying to change someone to your preferences. When they start telling you how you should dress, how you should style your hair, what makeup to wear, they don't want a relationship - they just want to get off on controlling you. They have some serious issues that should be addressed before dating.
This guy's behavior though, from what you've stated, would make any sane woman run. You're not even in a committed relationship and he's doing this? RUUUN. Haha.
(btw this is what I reference anytime I say "run" or "run away." Haha)
@rocky lmbo!!!!
I agree. I dont want a controller. I'm still gonna try to talk to him, but like i said i'm getting lazy about it. And it's starting to turn me off.
I agree. I dont want a controller. I'm still gonna try to talk to him, but like i said i'm getting lazy about it. And it's starting to turn me off.
Posted by Gemican01
Hmmm that is a bit off, you shouldn't have to hide anything but it's kind of sounding like he's got something to hide. I mean it's one thing for girls to post drama about every time theirs a problem in the relationship and another thing to post cute couple pictures and such. One is extra negative/annoying and the other is positive/sweet. But who knows maybe he's just a very private person and that's something you have to decide if you like or not.
Girl as much as i would love to think that last part is the case,It's less likely to be the case. Most times men that are —that?? secretive have something to hide, or they don't want certain people to know they are involved. It's normally almost 95% of the time a red flag. I hate to make him pay for my ex, and that's not what I'm trying to do but I'm not trying to be na??ve like I was in my past either. My ex was able to convince me he was just very private, and all I did was post one pic of us on Christmas. He flipped his top and I found out a year later it was because he was living a double life with another woman the whole time. Smh. Just trying to go on my instincts here without jumping the gun, feel me?
Posted by pinklibra
I'm dating a Gemini and he seems like he might be the jealous or even a bit controlling type, but I cant tell if he's serious or joking.
He's made remarks like he doesn't go on my IG Page (social media) because he knows he will get mad if he see's guys trying to talk to me, even if I don't engage them. He says if I say —thank you?? with a smiley face, he will be thinking, what am I smiling for?
Then he's also made comments about my clothes. One time we were face timing and he asked who was at my house, I told him my sister and her boyfriend. That's when he started hooting about my top being cut too low and that my breasts were hanging out. I'm like —No they aren't?? of course he went back and forth, but he's tone would go from joking tone, to dead serious, to back to joking. I'm like huh?
He also came at me out of the blue telling me to stop liking all of his friend pictures on IG. Now the guy he is referring to, I was friends with him on IG loooong before the Gem and I even started kicking it. I didn't even know they were cool until he told me to stop liking his pictures. I told him okay well you have to stop liking my friend pictures. That's when he accused me of liking the guy. I told him I had never even met the guy and wouldn't know him if I saw him in public. That's when he starts saying he's just playing. I didn't find anything funny though. I felt he was being petty. But I kept quiet. Sure enough he brought it up again the next morning, and he was not laughing.
Then it seems as though he doesn't like that I go out. I will admit I go out often in the past couple of months because before him I had been single for 4 years after my ex. I haven't had a solid relationship ever since. I wasn't really going out like that for about 2 years because I just felt I had out grown the club scene. So just recently I reconnected with childhood friend, and she and I go out and hang a lot since she had just come out of a 4yr relationship herself. Neither one of us have kids. Anyway, nonetheless I would gladly prefer staying in with him if I knew he wanted to ahead of time. He seems to catch attitudes when I'm going out. It's like he expects me to be glued to the couch and wait for his call.
Then he got mad because I made a post on my page, it was a video of me showing off my outfit for the night. I had on high
Sounds like my ex gem. He was jealous and controlling. The jealousy was mostly in the first few years of our marriage. After he learned to trust me, that subsided for the most part. The controlling factor, did not, though. He thought what he said went, no ifs, ands, or buts.
Posted by pinklibra
@rocky lmbo!!!!
I agree. I dont want a controller. I'm still gonna try to talk to him, but like i said i'm getting lazy about it. And it's starting to turn me off.
I learned to pick my battles. But, as years went on resentment starting building and the more and more I balked or stood up to him, the more and more fights we had.
Posted by TokerX
Gem can be jealous, especially if you're giving someone else more attention them him. He wants to be the center of your attention. 😉 But he's way more protective than jealous.
Yes, I did see that protective factor. I always did feel safe with him.
Posted by tiziani
Ah ok, so you've both known each other for a while before you started changing gear and dating? Fair play.
Yes I think talking it through in person is always the best option, but I agree with Watery Gem, you're not responsible for his bs. If you accept it now it's only going to get even more painful later on.
I can attest to that.
Posted by TokerXPosted by Gemican01
Go with your gut feeling hon, if something doesn't feel right it probably isn't.
But if something doesn't feel right, but is right, it's probably a Gemini...click to expand
Or you're delusional. Gut trumps all, sorry.
LOl. I talked with him last night about everything, and it seems you all are right in some aspects. He and I discovered we have different views on the whole social media thing, and it may be a wedge between us. He seems to want to cross that bridge when we come to it since we are not official yet, but I'm already ready to stick him in the friend zone because I can see ahead of time it's going to be issue for me to not be able to post a picture if I feel like it. It would be different if I didn't have a page at all or if I didn't like social media but I do. Does my life revolve around it? NO. But when I'm bored I entertain it. I don't think it's fair that I can post pics of friends, and family but I cant post the one person that matters to me most if it got that far, my husband or boyfriend. Sounds like total bs.
Then he said well if you wanted to post pictures of us right now you could because I'm not your man and your not my gf yet. So if someone were to come up to me and say something I could say your not my gf. I told him that's stupid and doesn't make sense. I can post him while were not in a relationship but I cannot if we are. I told him that sounds retarded because the same backlash he would get if we were official would be the same he's going to get while we are just dating. The only difference is he thinks he??ll be able to defuse it by saying —she's not my gf yet.?? To me people wont care if it's official yet or not, if they feel like hating then they are going to hate in the dating phase even harder so the couple will never end up official.
He started going on and on about how his last relationships failed over social media because the girl posted pictures of her and him and people started talking and hating and that there are people out there that genuinely don't want to see him happy. So I'm like so what? You gonna hide your relationship from others your whole life? He's like no if they happen to see us out or something then that's different. I'm like whatever because he even stated he doesn't like going to local places to eat or watch movies because he doesn't want everybody to see who he's with. He said he hates when girls choose certain places because she know everyone will be there and she wants to go there so everyone can see who she's with.
Bottom line yall, this negro is too damn secretive about his relationship for my liking. If I want to put it on a billboard that I'm happy with
Then he said well if you wanted to post pictures of us right now you could because I'm not your man and your not my gf yet. So if someone were to come up to me and say something I could say your not my gf. I told him that's stupid and doesn't make sense. I can post him while were not in a relationship but I cannot if we are. I told him that sounds retarded because the same backlash he would get if we were official would be the same he's going to get while we are just dating. The only difference is he thinks he??ll be able to defuse it by saying —she's not my gf yet.?? To me people wont care if it's official yet or not, if they feel like hating then they are going to hate in the dating phase even harder so the couple will never end up official.
He started going on and on about how his last relationships failed over social media because the girl posted pictures of her and him and people started talking and hating and that there are people out there that genuinely don't want to see him happy. So I'm like so what? You gonna hide your relationship from others your whole life? He's like no if they happen to see us out or something then that's different. I'm like whatever because he even stated he doesn't like going to local places to eat or watch movies because he doesn't want everybody to see who he's with. He said he hates when girls choose certain places because she know everyone will be there and she wants to go there so everyone can see who she's with.
Bottom line yall, this negro is too damn secretive about his relationship for my liking. If I want to put it on a billboard that I'm happy with
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If I want to put it on a billboard that I'm happy with who I'm with I feel I should be able to do it. I even shared with him I don't think it's fair for him to put stipulations on me based off of his past experiences because I could very easily do the same with him. I told him my ex claimed he wasn't into social media either and didn't want pictures of us up, and a year later I found out he had another woman the whole time. I call myself respecting his wishes and he was playing me. I told him I could be like —I'm posting every second of every minute because last time I didn't I got played.?? And that wouldn't be fair would it? Still he's like well maybe you??ll come around. I told him I wont because I??ll never be cool with the fact that he wants to hide us basically. He insist he's not trying to hide us but I don't believe him. We ended the convo on a good note, but honestly I was just being nice. Truth is now that I know how he truly feels about everything I don't want to kick it with him on that level. I sense that we wont make it.
If I want to put it on a billboard that I'm happy with who I'm with I feel I should be able to do it. I even shared with him I don't think it's fair for him to put stipulations on me based off of his past experiences because I could very easily do the same with him. I told him my ex claimed he wasn't into social media either and didn't want pictures of us up, and a year later I found out he had another woman the whole time. I call myself respecting his wishes and he was playing me. I told him I could be like —I'm posting every second of every minute because last time I didn't I got played.?? And that wouldn't be fair would it? Still he's like well maybe you??ll come around. I told him I wont because I??ll never be cool with the fact that he wants to hide us basically. He insist he's not trying to hide us but I don't believe him. We ended the convo on a good note, but honestly I was just being nice. Truth is now that I know how he truly feels about everything I don't want to kick it with him on that level. I sense that we wont make it.
Posted by pinklibra
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If I want to put it on a billboard that I'm happy with who I'm with I feel I should be able to do it. I even shared with him I don't think it's fair for him to put stipulations on me based off of his past experiences because I could very easily do the same with him. I told him my ex claimed he wasn't into social media either and didn't want pictures of us up, and a year later I found out he had another woman the whole time. I call myself respecting his wishes and he was playing me. I told him I could be like —I'm posting every second of every minute because last time I didn't I got played.?? And that wouldn't be fair would it? Still he's like well maybe you??ll come around. I told him I wont because I??ll never be cool with the fact that he wants to hide us basically. He insist he's not trying to hide us but I don't believe him. We ended the convo on a good note, but honestly I was just being nice. Truth is now that I know how he truly feels about everything I don't want to kick it with him on that level. I sense that we wont make it.
He could be half telling the truth and is really private like myself and my best friend. I wouldn't even consider bringing a guy around my friends or family until I am very secure about the relationship and it not failing in a couple of months. I wouldn't want that public. Or the other side is he isn't wanting to show he is in a relationship b/c he is a player and doesn't want his game messed up.
Yep, very private. Need to have that security that it's just me and him. Don't want to deal with....so what happened to so and so when it doesn't work out......NO. We are friends until we have something established, an understanding. Not ashamed of the other person, just being cautious.
Uh, you all are you missing the part about it being a bit ass backwards? If he was so private, he wouldn't want pictures posted at ANY time. But he only cares if they're posted if they're together. Since they're not together, he doesn't mind, but if they do get together, it suddenly matters if their pics are posted everywhere. Seems ridiculous and like he has something to hide. If he was iffy about it in both circumstances, I'd agree with the privacy issue. But that's not the case.
Sounds absolutely player-rific to me, tbh. If you're really into someone, you don't hide your relationship or are not afraid for it to be known it exists. Period.
This bullshit he's spewed is beyond privacy issues really.
PL- The behavior before was stupid enough, but if you want to run, nobody would blame you, haha. This guy sounds like a piece of work. So many stupid, ridiculous issues already and you're not even together at this point. Hell, just reading your post about it made my brain want to melt.
Sounds absolutely player-rific to me, tbh. If you're really into someone, you don't hide your relationship or are not afraid for it to be known it exists. Period.
This bullshit he's spewed is beyond privacy issues really.
PL- The behavior before was stupid enough, but if you want to run, nobody would blame you, haha. This guy sounds like a piece of work. So many stupid, ridiculous issues already and you're not even together at this point. Hell, just reading your post about it made my brain want to melt.
Ok, I can say if he doesn't like the way you dress...and you know it's not over the top or too promiscuous looking...then tell him to chill this is the way you looked when he met you right? —? He is trying to make you look more conservative probably.
But see, with the pics on IG. FB. Whatever, that may contribute to him not liking your wardrobe..he may want a cool down chick. We gems. Definitely become home bodies in our thirties fourties ya know ..dude Idk just throwin that out there
But see, with the pics on IG. FB. Whatever, that may contribute to him not liking your wardrobe..he may want a cool down chick. We gems. Definitely become home bodies in our thirties fourties ya know ..dude Idk just throwin that out there
Sometimes even our twenties unless we get divorced and are unhappily single for a while
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Uh, you all are you missing the part about it being a bit ass backwards? If he was so private, he wouldn't want pictures posted at ANY time. But he only cares if they're posted if they're together. Since they're not together, he doesn't mind, but if they do get together, it suddenly matters if their pics are posted everywhere. Seems ridiculous and like he has something to hide. If he was iffy about it in both circumstances, I'd agree with the privacy issue. But that's not the case.
Sounds absolutely player-rific to me, tbh. If you're really into someone, you don't hide your relationship or are not afraid for it to be known it exists. Period.
This bullshit he's spewed is beyond privacy issues really.
PL- The behavior before was stupid enough, but if you want to run, nobody would blame you, haha. This guy sounds like a piece of work. So many stupid, ridiculous issues already and you're not even together at this point. Hell, just reading your post about it made my brain want to melt.
I agree with most of this post! ^ However, I wouldn't mind a pic of a guy and I posted if we were friends. I wouldn't want someone just putting my business out there, though. I am very private with my personal life. I post stuff with my kids but not romantic relationships.
I always laugh at the people that jump into commitments only 2wks later that relationship fell apart. I mean, I don't need people in my business asking questions. Unless, I am very serious with a person they aren't going to be posting stuff about us. Plus, they say it's better to keep your romantic relationship private, not a secret but private.
Every relationship typically has stages they go through. I mean, getting to know each other, then meeting the friends, then the family and so on. If I am talking to someone it's between that person and I. If they invite me out with their friends I will go if I feel comfortable to socialize with them. I go slow in relationships. I can't speak for this man, I do not know him. I am just giving my perspective, just as you have.
She will know soon enough if it's right or not.
I love all the different views 🙂 lol
But agree with Rocky, I'm sorry the whole —you can post while you??re not my girl but when you become my girl the pics have to stop?? crap is ridiculous. I'm actually over it. I still like him as a person but my thoughts of us in a romantic relationship have gone down a lot because I can't see myself wanting to be with someone that is —that?? private. My sister is like that, she doesn't even really like people to pose for pictures in her house. She doesn't like her stuff in the background, I be like dude who the hell knows it's your house if I don't tag you or say I'm at my sister house -__-.
I don't know, I mean like I said I don't want all my private stuff out there either, and right now I talk to other people too and don't know where he and I will end up so he doesn't have to worry about me being eager to post about him anytime soon. I too laugh at people that get into a relationship two weeks in and then they are posting picture after picture, then a month later the pictures stop and they are single. That's why I said I'm not saying I??ll post two weeks in or even a month in, I just want to have the option of if I feel like posting me and my man I can. And if he has issues with that now, then I feel that's an argument waiting to happen. And if you know Libra??s you know if we can avoid and argument or confrontation we will at all costs. And I'm just saying even though we've agreed that we don't agree, I feel in the long run this problem will show it self again.
But agree with Rocky, I'm sorry the whole —you can post while you??re not my girl but when you become my girl the pics have to stop?? crap is ridiculous. I'm actually over it. I still like him as a person but my thoughts of us in a romantic relationship have gone down a lot because I can't see myself wanting to be with someone that is —that?? private. My sister is like that, she doesn't even really like people to pose for pictures in her house. She doesn't like her stuff in the background, I be like dude who the hell knows it's your house if I don't tag you or say I'm at my sister house -__-.
I don't know, I mean like I said I don't want all my private stuff out there either, and right now I talk to other people too and don't know where he and I will end up so he doesn't have to worry about me being eager to post about him anytime soon. I too laugh at people that get into a relationship two weeks in and then they are posting picture after picture, then a month later the pictures stop and they are single. That's why I said I'm not saying I??ll post two weeks in or even a month in, I just want to have the option of if I feel like posting me and my man I can. And if he has issues with that now, then I feel that's an argument waiting to happen. And if you know Libra??s you know if we can avoid and argument or confrontation we will at all costs. And I'm just saying even though we've agreed that we don't agree, I feel in the long run this problem will show it self again.
From my experience, I don't think their jealousy has anything to do with how much they like you. I think it's more of a territorial/ego trip.
I do but mainly because I spend so much time trying to figure out if they are right for me. When that decision comes and I make the choice to be with them I get very upset. Why? Because I spent so much time thinking, weighing my options on that person.
Posted by saggyrl
From my experience, I don't think their jealousy has anything to do with how much they like you. I think it's more of a territorial/ego trip.
EW. I hope thats no the case. Egotistical men have no chance with me. We either shine
together or not all homie.
Thats why i believe i dont get along with Leo men too well, that damn ego gets in the
way and with my Venus is Leo and that fire in my chart, yeaaa it doesn't mix.lol.
I don't think they're egotistical. I've been involved with two gems...and they were both cool guys. One was simply FWB and the other I dated briefly (he was a playboy). Sometimes the thought of another guy would make them a little jealous, but not because they had strong feelings for me, because they were territorial. Sometimes people confuse the two.
Posted by TokerXPosted by pinklibraPosted by saggyrl
From my experience, I don't think their jealousy has anything to do with how much they like you. I think it's more of a territorial/ego trip.
EW. I hope thats no the case. Egotistical men have no chance with me. We either shine
together or not all homie.
Thats why i believe i dont get along with Leo men too well, that damn ego gets in the
way and with my Venus is Leo and that fire in my chart, yeaaa it doesn't mix.lol.
I think I love you 😉click to expand
I think i luv you back. lmbo
@tokerx and @saggyrl: I understand both viewpoints. The other two gems I recently dated didn't come off mean or territorial they just came off a little jealous and protective. The way they did it though was so cute I couldn't even get mad. Their little faces were pouty and I loved it. However the only issue that was similar to the current one is that I couldn't tell when they were joking or serious or sometimes they came off as a little of both.
This one takes it to a whole other level though. His controlling streak is something that wont go well. As I stated before I have a lot of fire in my chart, and by being a Libra I have the tendency to rebel. You tell me to go left, I??ll go right until you say it nicer and say please behind it. I wont be bossed about. Plus I'm an air sign just like him, we fly away when we feel pressured.
Plus like I said, his attitude about the internet??_yeah not feeling it. I??ll never understand why he cares so much what other women think if he's serious about me, or when he gets serious about me. It's a red flag very early in the game in my opinion.
This one takes it to a whole other level though. His controlling streak is something that wont go well. As I stated before I have a lot of fire in my chart, and by being a Libra I have the tendency to rebel. You tell me to go left, I??ll go right until you say it nicer and say please behind it. I wont be bossed about. Plus I'm an air sign just like him, we fly away when we feel pressured.
Plus like I said, his attitude about the internet??_yeah not feeling it. I??ll never understand why he cares so much what other women think if he's serious about me, or when he gets serious about me. It's a red flag very early in the game in my opinion.
Hmmmm...where is his moon?
I dont know his chart. His birthday June 15th.
and thats just what i thought TokerX
and thats just what i thought TokerX
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Ha.. We were just discussing Gems with Venus in Gemini as the guys or girls to stay away. No offense my friends but I haven't seen this combo as the most loyal.
I would love to know this mans Moon sign as well.
I would love to know this mans Moon sign as well.
gems are typically a pain in the ass when they like you...or a pain in the ass in general.
Posted by TokerX
Lol, Venus in Gemini.
Not sure how this would really affect him, but it doesn't sound that great. 😄
This. Ill admit is a terrible Venus placement. Yes Im Gemini but hell no I wouldn't date anyone with air placements in Venus (well maybe Libra). Mostly because they are so nonchalant about love and I don't like that approach at all.
"If a man??s Venus is in Gemini, intelligence or liveliness are often more important than drop-dead good looks. An athletic or tomboyish look, sometimes on the slim side, is often preferred.
Gemini is the sign of sparrows and butterflies, and Venus in Gemini will often sample many flowers before settling down. You??re a free spirit and wonderful conversationalist. Venus in Gemini has earned a reputation as the incorrigible flirt. Whether or not that is true of you, you value your freedom and would wither without it. It's important that your partner understands this about you. Gemini rules the hands— yours are expressive, and you love to have them massaged and held.
The Gemini Male is an introverted extravert. Charisma, humor, and intellect may be the image he projects, but no matter how close you get — you can never be quite certain what is on his mind. He wants a partner who shows just enough emotion to validate that he is awesome, but not too much emotion that it will become complicated. He is seriously committed to remaining uncommitted, unless he stumbles across a super-achiever who can keep up with the conversation, reach their own goals without his assistance, and be packed and ready to go on an adventure at the drop of a dime. That, in his mind, is an amore worth considering."
Gemini is the sign of sparrows and butterflies, and Venus in Gemini will often sample many flowers before settling down. You??re a free spirit and wonderful conversationalist. Venus in Gemini has earned a reputation as the incorrigible flirt. Whether or not that is true of you, you value your freedom and would wither without it. It's important that your partner understands this about you. Gemini rules the hands— yours are expressive, and you love to have them massaged and held.
The Gemini Male is an introverted extravert. Charisma, humor, and intellect may be the image he projects, but no matter how close you get — you can never be quite certain what is on his mind. He wants a partner who shows just enough emotion to validate that he is awesome, but not too much emotion that it will become complicated. He is seriously committed to remaining uncommitted, unless he stumbles across a super-achiever who can keep up with the conversation, reach their own goals without his assistance, and be packed and ready to go on an adventure at the drop of a dime. That, in his mind, is an amore worth considering."
His mars is in Pisces as well...
Mars in PISCES acts??_
* secretly??_may secretly want you; or seduce in a secret affair
* sweet and demure??_seems sensitive and vulnerable, or coy, or shy
* soulful??_seeks to share deep feelings, and to touch your soul
* self-sacrificing??_serves your needs first; loses self-identity
* surreal??_lives in another world; seeks to escape from reality
* spiritual??_may see you as a spiritual guide; or act as yours.
With Mars in Pisces your energy for compassion and sacrifice could lead you to be quite a tender lover. It can also work against you if you allow your fear or guilt of your normal, healthy sex drive to get the best of you. You may have a difficult time with Mars in Pisces when it comes to actively pursuing that which you desire. In fact, you might dream of your desires rather than go after them. Sexual fantasies are strong with Mars in Pisces and the ideal lover is a dream that you somehow always search for, yet never seem able to grasp. Still, your creative energy is your strength and you will be quite imaginative in sex or in any other creative direction for your assertive powers.
Pisces is the spiritual Mars sign. What turns you on is being —one?? with your partner. You need to create a soul-to-soul connection. You??re attracted to sensitive, artistic people who have a compassionate nature. Pisces rules fantasy, so you can excel at keeping your partner mesmerized by imaginative costumes and role-playing. When angry, Pisces also excels at denial, so you may deny (or not even realize) you??re angry until your partner clobbers you over the head with evidence to the contrary.
Mars in Pisces is romantic, though their needs are more emotional than physical. They are very idealistic about love. Sex is more like a fantasy. Their sensitivity helps them be very responsive to their partner. They need a lot of affection. Without it, they feel sex is cold and emotionless. They need an emotional connection to their partner to be fulfilled. Even better, they are ecstatic when they also have a spiritual connection with their partner
Mars in PISCES acts??_
* secretly??_may secretly want you; or seduce in a secret affair
* sweet and demure??_seems sensitive and vulnerable, or coy, or shy
* soulful??_seeks to share deep feelings, and to touch your soul
* self-sacrificing??_serves your needs first; loses self-identity
* surreal??_lives in another world; seeks to escape from reality
* spiritual??_may see you as a spiritual guide; or act as yours.
With Mars in Pisces your energy for compassion and sacrifice could lead you to be quite a tender lover. It can also work against you if you allow your fear or guilt of your normal, healthy sex drive to get the best of you. You may have a difficult time with Mars in Pisces when it comes to actively pursuing that which you desire. In fact, you might dream of your desires rather than go after them. Sexual fantasies are strong with Mars in Pisces and the ideal lover is a dream that you somehow always search for, yet never seem able to grasp. Still, your creative energy is your strength and you will be quite imaginative in sex or in any other creative direction for your assertive powers.
Pisces is the spiritual Mars sign. What turns you on is being —one?? with your partner. You need to create a soul-to-soul connection. You??re attracted to sensitive, artistic people who have a compassionate nature. Pisces rules fantasy, so you can excel at keeping your partner mesmerized by imaginative costumes and role-playing. When angry, Pisces also excels at denial, so you may deny (or not even realize) you??re angry until your partner clobbers you over the head with evidence to the contrary.
Mars in Pisces is romantic, though their needs are more emotional than physical. They are very idealistic about love. Sex is more like a fantasy. Their sensitivity helps them be very responsive to their partner. They need a lot of affection. Without it, they feel sex is cold and emotionless. They need an emotional connection to their partner to be fulfilled. Even better, they are ecstatic when they also have a spiritual connection with their partner
If you have Mars in Pisces with Venus in Gemini
you are . . .
The Artful Love Addict
You are a sweetly duplicitous Mars in Pisces Lover who uses a charming smile and a rational explanation to conceal seething emotions and desperate sexual needs. The person you??re trying to fool with these little lies is too often yourself. You try to ignore the irrational, compulsive and emotionally vulnerable side of your sexual nature and pretend that your cleverness and your knack for flirtatious repartee is the sum total of your erotic world. Then another wave of sexual madness hits you and there you are, trying to explain away your obsessions and acting as if no one got hurt.
Commitment does not come easily for you. You are quite capable of using your keen sensitivity and cleverness to dance around the issue of love forever. And yet, your sexuality is so full of emotional needs and vulnerablity that, after awhile, a stable, long-term relationship can seem less like a prison and more like a refuge. Once you to stop playing games and find a serious relationship you will quickly find that being hopelessly addicted to love is really not so bad.
you are . . .
The Artful Love Addict
You are a sweetly duplicitous Mars in Pisces Lover who uses a charming smile and a rational explanation to conceal seething emotions and desperate sexual needs. The person you??re trying to fool with these little lies is too often yourself. You try to ignore the irrational, compulsive and emotionally vulnerable side of your sexual nature and pretend that your cleverness and your knack for flirtatious repartee is the sum total of your erotic world. Then another wave of sexual madness hits you and there you are, trying to explain away your obsessions and acting as if no one got hurt.
Commitment does not come easily for you. You are quite capable of using your keen sensitivity and cleverness to dance around the issue of love forever. And yet, your sexuality is so full of emotional needs and vulnerablity that, after awhile, a stable, long-term relationship can seem less like a prison and more like a refuge. Once you to stop playing games and find a serious relationship you will quickly find that being hopelessly addicted to love is really not so bad.
Everything you all described about his chart is true. It's almost like he wants his partner to be committed while he continues to have the option to decide. Then once he finally makes a decision then he will commit to her. I don't like the vibe I??ve been getting lately over all. I'm still trying to give him the benefit of the doubt like I always do when I meet a guy I like, but just when I think he may not be all that bad, he does something that makes me question if I??d like to deal with him on a regular basis.
He recently called himself going off on me about going out a lot. However when I reminded him that he goes out too, and I don't harp on him about it, he insisted that he doesn't go out as often as me.
Like I stated in a previous post, I'm in my twenties, I have no kids, I work full time and during the week when I'm not at work im at church. So yes, on the weekends I enjoy drinks and time out with my friends.
I'm not a homebody, I'm just not. I like to go out and have fun. If I had a —consistent?? man in my life, I??d have no problem staying in with him sometimes; in fact I??d prefer it. But you can't just pop up at 10pm and expect me to be waiting by the phone hoping to spend time with you. This past weekend we were supposed to see one another Friday, we made that decision on Thursday. Friday came, I asked if he was still coming he said —I'm trying to see.?? He never texted back and never called back to let me know he wasn't coming. I made my irritation known via text, he never acknowledged them but he stayed on IG posting pictures. So I said forget it. Then Saturday he decides he wants to have a movie night at 10pm (hadn't called or texted all day long, even after standing me up), I already had plans and instead of him trying to fit into MY schedule since HE screwed up the day before, he expected me to blow off my plans to be with him. Then he never apologized for never showing up, he tried to say he thought we were spending time Saturday not Friday, which is a total lie because I called him Friday and tried to confirm, that's when he said he was still trying to see. So now you lying instead of owning up to when your wrong?
He recently called himself going off on me about going out a lot. However when I reminded him that he goes out too, and I don't harp on him about it, he insisted that he doesn't go out as often as me.
Like I stated in a previous post, I'm in my twenties, I have no kids, I work full time and during the week when I'm not at work im at church. So yes, on the weekends I enjoy drinks and time out with my friends.
I'm not a homebody, I'm just not. I like to go out and have fun. If I had a —consistent?? man in my life, I??d have no problem staying in with him sometimes; in fact I??d prefer it. But you can't just pop up at 10pm and expect me to be waiting by the phone hoping to spend time with you. This past weekend we were supposed to see one another Friday, we made that decision on Thursday. Friday came, I asked if he was still coming he said —I'm trying to see.?? He never texted back and never called back to let me know he wasn't coming. I made my irritation known via text, he never acknowledged them but he stayed on IG posting pictures. So I said forget it. Then Saturday he decides he wants to have a movie night at 10pm (hadn't called or texted all day long, even after standing me up), I already had plans and instead of him trying to fit into MY schedule since HE screwed up the day before, he expected me to blow off my plans to be with him. Then he never apologized for never showing up, he tried to say he thought we were spending time Saturday not Friday, which is a total lie because I called him Friday and tried to confirm, that's when he said he was still trying to see. So now you lying instead of owning up to when your wrong?
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