Do the Emotional Depths of Water Signs Bother Us? (Page 2)

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We were long distance in the beginning not by choice. But now we're like about 65 miles away from one another and either of us could take public transportation to get to the middle spot to meet. It isn't bad. I wouldn't have agreed to it if this wasn't the setup. In the beginning when we were many states away he would say he'd fly to me immediately if I'd let him but I told him to have patience. Now we're in the same time zone and there is a comfort knowing he's just a few hours away by train.

Late last night was really rough...I think a lot of women are afraid that when their men go radio silent on them that it means they are no longer interested in them. So at times when this happens to me I start to feel so empty like I almost hit rock bottom. But I am not a girl who needs validation from her man. It's just that...some nights..I can't be as strong as I would like. I think I am conditioned to get this way. The highs and lows are consistent. I suspect when the new moon comes out in about a week he'd be in a much better mood and all would be right again in my world.

I've read many place and have been warned not to let a Cancer's mood dictate mine or get swept up in his. I think somewhere along the way I got pinched by him and got caught up in the tides with him.

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Posted by May31Baby
Aww 😢 im sorry to hear that. I hope it wasnt anything i said 😢 omg im just gonna be quiet from now on. I shouldnt cast doubt on others
Situations. I apologize 😢

I wish you the best either way it goes. We are brash sometimes, its just our personalities. If you dont have thick skin, we can be mean. I catch myself being a asshole sometimes haha but most people i know are used to me by now. Good luck man



Lol, you're good May31Baby. None of this is your fault. If I told you every time I turn my car on I smell smoke and you say that when that happen to you, it was because your alternator was on fire. How is if your fault if my car catches on fire because of my alternator?
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@JennGem

Here are our birth charts:

Hers: ————? Mine:
Sun- Gemini — Pisces
Moon- Cancer — Gemini
Mercury- Gemini — Pisces
Venus- Taurus — Aries
Mars-Taurus — Taurus
Jupiter- Leo. — Capricorn
Saturn- Virgo. — Gemini
Uranus- Scorpio. — Libra
Neptune- Sagittarius. — Sagittarius
Pluto- Libra
Lilith- Leo
Asc node- Virgo

Ascend- Gemini
II- Cancer
III- Leo
IV- Leo
V- Libra
VI- Scorpio
VII- Sagittarius
VIII- Capricorn
IX- Aquarius
Mid H- Aquarius
XI- Aries
XII- Taurus
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Posted by geminibunny

Late last night was really rough...I think a lot of women are afraid that when their men go radio silent on them that it means they are no longer interested in them. So at times when this happens to me I start to feel so empty like I almost hit rock bottom. But I am not a girl who needs validation from her man. It's just that...some nights..I can't be as strong as I would like. I think I am conditioned to get this way. The highs and lows are consistent. I suspect when the new moon comes out in about a week he'd be in a much better mood and all would be right again in my world.

I've read many place and have been warned not to let a Cancer's mood dictate mine or get swept up in his. I think somewhere along the way I got pinched by him and got caught up in the tides with him.



It's funny. After reading your posts and seeing and feeling how much love you have for your Cancer, I thought about doing what your Cancer is doing to you to see if my Gem would respond the same way as you. But then, I realize it's so hard for me to be that selfish or manipulative to the woman I love. I see the pain he is causing you but you accept it willingly and I'm not saying you shouldn't, it's just that this "way" of thinking has always boggled my mind. To some women, this is considered a strong man for doing things like this.

The only way I could ignore my Gems texts or calls is if she has deeply hurt me and I can't take the pain anymore and so I retreat. Lol, I try not to anxiously reply back to her texts and to stall a while before I reply back but its so so hard. I love her. So I always answer her calls with no delay and promptly reply back to her text messages. Only time I don't is if I am truly busy, not pretending to be. I don't like playing these silly mind games and trying to manipulate her even though some women just love this type of cat and mouse game of love. To me I feel as if my Gem is taking advantage of my love for her and that is what is pushing me away from her.

I have warned her about going M.I.A. for 2-3 days with no text or phone call. There is no excuse for that in my book. That is blatant disrespect. How do you claim to love and care about someone and you go days without any communication? Who does that?
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I don't think he's doing it on purpose. it is kinda like he is so used to doing this that he isn't even aware of how to fix or change it. When his moods take him over he just does it. But every time he does come back he would apologize profusely for hurting me. I've turned into a minor nag because of this. I hate being a nag. I'd rather just accept if this is his learned behavior. He has no malicious intent behind it and I don't think he is doing it to manipulate me into being more loving or chase after him. He gets plenty of attention as is. So pulling back after getting more attention doesn't make any sense to me. So this is really bizarre behavior. Usually when men do this they would probably completely withdraw and do the fade out then disappear. So every time he's done it so far, I thought I'd be getting the ax sooner or later but he always comes back and things get better and better and then again pull back. It's like he's on clockwork. I have to look at the moon phase calendar to track his moods. He always comes back on the day of the new moon every month. It's uncanny how that happens. I don't even think he is aware of it and I have't made it known that I noticed.

I've even accused him of having other girls on the side why else would he need to do this. But he's shown me that I'm the only one and that he pulls away from his own issues with a lack of confidence. He probably thinks that he's explained himself enough times to me that I wouldn't be bothered any more when he does this but yea, it still bothers me a little. I thought about it the other day and I guess I'd rather be with someone I like a lot part time than be with someone I like a little full time. If we were to live together, I don't know how that would work out or how he would disappear on me. Might just give me the silent treatment then, who knows. This might be the epitome of Passive-Aggressive behavior for all I know. If it is that, then it's mommy issues and is just resurfacing now for this lucky girl. Hah.
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Posted by geminibunny
@3dimes

I don't think he's doing it on purpose. it is kinda like he is so used to doing this that he isn't even awa??_??_??_e of how to fix or change it. When his moods take him over he just does it. But every time he does come back he would apologize profusely for hurting me. I've turned into a minor nag because of this. I hate being a nag. I'd rather just accept if this is his learned behavior. He has no malicious intent behind it and I don't think he is doing it to manipulate me into being more loving or chase after him. He gets plenty of attention as is. So pulling back after getting more attention doesn't make any sense to me. So this is really bizarre behavior. Usually when men do this they would probably completely withdraw and do the fade out then disappear. So every time he's done it so far, I thought I'd be getting the ax sooner or later but he always comes back and things get better and better and then again pull back. It's like he's on clockwork. I have to look at the moon phase calendar to track his moods. He always comes back on the day of the new moon every month. It's uncanny how that happens. I don't even think he is aware of it and I have't made it known that I noticed.

I've even accused him of having other girls on the side why else would he need to do this. But he's shown me that I'm the only one and that he pulls away from his own issues with a lack of confidence. He probably thinks that he's explained himself enough times to me that I wouldn't be bothered any more when he does this but yea, it still bothers me a little. I thought about it the other day and I guess I'd rather be with someone I like a lot part time than be with someone I like a little full time. If we were to live together, I don't know how that would work out or how he would disappear on me. Might just give me the silent treatment then, who knows. This might be the epitome of Passive-Aggressive behavior for all I know. If it is that, then it's mommy issues and is just resurfacing now for this lucky girl. Hah.



Ok I think you're correct in your assessment of his behavior and as long as you can handle his mood swings without growing to resent him later on, things should hopefully work out for you two. I sure hope so.
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If I wasn't a Gemini and being so detached as I am to anything, anyone, any situation, I wouldn't be able to handle this. I don't think a lot of girls can handle this behavior. They'd feel less good about themselves and feel more tarnished. When I start getting that way I have to remind myself that nope, that has nothing to do with my self worth. I would not let that get to me. I would not let anyone's ill behavior determine my own value. Now that's a confidence that few possess. This is all very subtle when it occurs. If I had too much confidence I wouldn't take it at all. It is easier to let someone like this go than to actually take the time out to care and get to the bottom of the situation. I'd like to believe that this has made me a much stronger person as a result.
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I could see how another air sign would feel that this is like adopting a big baby and has to care for and nurture it. At times it sure feels like I'm sitting on an egg and incubating it and hopefully it'll hatch soon. Ooh I can't wait for the fun when it does hatch so I can play with it. I do get excited knowing he'll be back soon. Even though it sucks when he's ignoring me, it sure is fun when he is back. I am so busy anyway I don't need a babysitter when he needs his space. If space is what he needs and wants I can do all the space in the world. On to my next hobby.