Does this sound like a Gemini woman trait/behavior

I have been dating my current g/f for 6 months now. This is not my first experience with a Gemini woman. (I'm a Sag) I was married for 8 yrs (not to a Gem), and for the past few years I have dated but have not lasted more than a few months with anyone. No breakups have been ugly/angry. Astrology is new to me. This lady has some typical Gem traits, but she has been more grounded/mature/family-minded than my previous Gemini girlfriends. We instantly hit it off and spent a lot of time together...until recently.

The past few weeks shes been very busy and unable to see me. I gave her some space, as she does have a lot going on. (single mom, working, going to night class) After three weeks of it, though, I confronted her and said at this point it was obvious she was choosing to avoid seeing me. Normally, I'd assume a woman had just lost interest and this was her way of leading into a breakup. But, she'd told me before that she doesn't do that and will just break it off as soon as she sees it isn't working. And, she was still texting and calling me everyday this whole time. When I told her I needed to know what was up, she admitted that she had intentionally kept me out of sight. Something to the effect that if she wasn't seeing me in person that it allowed her to distance herself emotionally from me. Apparently she felt convicted that she hadn't been doing as much for her daughter as she thought she should be. She has dated, but hasn't felt as serious with someone for about 5 years now as she has with me, until we hit the "dead period" at least. I care deeply for her, so I gave her some space if she was dealing with stuff. I'm fairly patient and easy going, but I told her its time to decide what she wants and communicate with me, as I'm not holding the still-pause button on the relationship any longer.

Is it typical of Gemini women to hit a point in a relationship where they get scared and back away? I didn't ask that directly, but its almost like shes on the edge of going somewher emotionally she hasn't been for a very long time and is balking. If not for some of the things she said, I'd normally just assume she had lost interest. She's 30. Is this common for Gems or is she just ready to move on?

"Is it typical of Gemini women to hit a point in a relationship where they get scared and back away? I didn't ask that directly, but its almost like shes on the edge of going somewher emotionally she hasn't been for a very long time and is balking. If not for some of the things she said, I'd normally just assume she had lost interest. She's 30. Is this common for Gems or is she just ready to move on?"


Yes. My god, yes. Emotions hit me like a brick wall that I don't see coming. I find it fascinating, then consuming/distracting...it can throw my equilibrium off. If she is serious about you, she will find her balance, with you, and the rest of her life . . . for this, give her time & some space to re-evaluate really everything. It sounds like she's prioritizing & coming to terms with emotions that have become near foreign to her (it's always different, but you know what i mean 🙂 ). We have to be sure when we commit to something. Be there for her when she needs you & make the most out of your time together. 🙂

Thanks for the feedback. I don't mind so much giving her that time now, but I'm hoping if she decides to settle into a more serious long term relationship w/ me that she doesn't get emotionally flighty once committed.

My advice would be similar to what the other posters have said, but I'd say you need to become more random. I'm guessing that as of now you probably promptly return calls and texts. Sometimes I see that as being too available and thus not needing as much of my attention. In other words, when my guy becomes harder to track down, harder to see, harder to connect with..... well, here comes the full blown obsession.

If I were you I'd try to space out how quickly you reply. One day I'd send her roses and then the next don't return her call for 24 hours. I know this sounds like game play, and IT IS. However, I dig it. When a guy is too available it is a major turn off for me. The games don't have to last forever, but they do need to reappear when I start to pull my disappearing act. The guy who can realize this and instantly slip into this (instead of bitching about game playing) always wins my heart for as long as he wants it. In the end.... I dig a challenge, but then again I also have an Aries moon. 😉

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My advice would be similar to what the other posters have said, but I'd say you need to become more random. I'm guessing that as of now you probably promptly return calls and texts. Sometimes I see that as being too available and thus not needing as much of my attention. In other words, when my guy becomes harder to track down, harder to see, harder to connect with..... well, here comes the full blown obsession.

If I were you I'd try to space out how quickly you reply. One day I'd send her roses and then the next don't return her call for 24 hours. I know this sounds like game play, and IT IS. However, I dig it. When a guy is too available it is a major turn off for me. The games don't have to last forever, but they do need to reappear when I start to pull my disappearing act. The guy who can realize this and instantly slip into this (instead of bitching about game playing) always wins my heart for as long as he wants it. In the end.... I dig a challenge, but then again I also have an Aries moon. 😉

Great advice for those pursuing a Gemini, this makes a ton of sense......which mean this is gonna be one long ass chase.

Sending some love to ya Wineaux!!

I just read all of the advice and shit, I guess I'm not your typical Gemini. I'm more of the earthy kind and in touch with my emotions. I worked through a lot to get comfortable with where I'm at. I don't necessarily like game playing. The 'chase' can be fun but only for so long (not long). Right now, I'm looking for honest substance. I'm over disappearing acts - on both ends.