Dual person in me!!

Is it just me? When I am in a process of ending a relationship (not on my side but from the other) I would write mails to him like I really love you I need you and its true and I would do anything and the next minute I am searching for new guys like dating sites or telling friends to go ahead and introduce their male friends.
Even at the beginning of a relationship I would be like I am so interested in you blah blah blah but when not quite sure if he is I would be dating another guy.
I hate this liar part of me because it has made some men not trust me and a lot of guys or all guys? think that I am perfect for a love affair but never for that serious girlfriend. Well I have to admit, I kind of hesitate having a steady since I wont be able to see any other guy. But I want to become steady!
What is the good advice for ppl like me? My male gemini friends have open relationships and they have lovers and a wife at the same time. But for a woman its hard.

Umm... wow. Yeah, I really wish I could help you but I don't have any issue with being with one person, and being honest with them. Maybe there is some soul searching you need to do within you. Maybe there is a reason why you lie to people and can't be honest about your preferences. When I was a teenager, I was more of a "multiple dates" kind of girl, but all the guys knew I was talking to other men and I wasn't exclusive to any of them so no lies were told. I feel like you may have some inner issues that make it difficult for you to be honest with others, which could mean in some parts of your life you're not being honest with yourself. Are you searching for what you THINK you want, and not what you truly want? Do you WANT an open relationship? Or do you want to be loved exclusively and just can't find the person who's willing to be that exclusive partner for you?

When I had trouble finding a partner, I'd lie to myself and say that I preferred being single. While single is great, and has been for the past 3 years, I know that deep down I truly want to connect with someone on a much deeper level than casual conversation, a few dates, and a goodnight kiss. Be honest with yourself.

"I hate this liar part of me "

I'm with GemGal hun. You are so "gemini normal" its rediculous. This is how we are. We are FICKLE. and it's not that your lying. It's your feeling that for the moment and then you don't. Most of the time it's because you really liked someone, then they drop the ball with you. Most men don't know how to deal with us. We need our mind stimulated, and until you find someone that puts in the work to keep you focused you will be living this type of life. But, take it all as learning. Your figuring out the kind of man that works for you. Because for all these that don't, you're seeing the signs of what men do. and what you want. I would embrace it. I did. I would go in and out of relationships, my family calls me the Queen of Detachment. But i refused to settle. IF you aren't willing to invest the time in keeping me focused on you, then you are not worth everything i have to give. plain and simple.

after reading what Gemuine said i thought i'd add in, while i was searching i never lied either, the people i dated, i told up front. this is WHO I AM. It's hard to get me committed, i will give everything i have but when i see a flag, i'm gone so don't be suprised. Most men actually liked me being honest to that degree. It was an understanding, don't waste my time and i won't waste yours. but you get alot of players being up front and honest because that made me a huge challenge. BUt it brought out a realness in alot of men that was pretty cool, and they couldn't be mad at me, when they stopped getting phone calls...

Look, i would even tell them the things i don't like in my men, so they wouldn't do those things..lol they would do NEW crap... it was hard, cuz i didn't enjoy being alone for 5 years... i made some great male friends through all of it, and i wouldn't take it back cuz what i found... is so worth the 5 years of inner turmoil i had.

I just don't agree that Geminis are liars. You CHOOSE to lie. You can change your mind, yes... but when I know my mind is subject to change I WILL SAY THAT. "Are you feeling me?" Typical male question, I'll say, "Today I am." LOL. If I know that my feelings aren't changing, then I'll give something more concrete. When my feelings don't change for more than a year, then I start to consider some SERIOUS feelings. I ALWAYS analyze my feelings. I never just feel and go out on a whim, everything to me is something to be analyzed. If the feelings aren't there for a long time, I can't really be confident in telling a guy I love him. I've loved my Cap for 8 years, and he's just now finding out (or I'm just now verbalizing it). A Gem can be cautious if she wants. It just takes some other influences to get to that point. Indecisiveness is different from lying.

totally agree with GemGal ,

"superficial reasons, "prince charming" i remember a guy jelling at me ..saying i cannot think like that , that the person i end up should be my best friend , and not my biggest passion.. i kinda turned off..blabla..whatever, but i think i've grown..lol.. now i miss a friend cos of his personality ..and so much that.. if he comes back ..no way i'm gonna make stupid excuses...

so..i guess..it could be just a phase ?