@mimiitsshortfornoemi
13 Years
Friend into Lover
I don't date people who aren't my friends first. It's always worth pursuing. I've never been worried about that conundrum. No relationship is guaranteed to last. If I was gonna lose someone from my life, it doesn't matter whether we were platonic friends or more. All it means is that they weren't right for me. Now, with that being said, my track record shows that I do not typically stay friends with my lovers afterward. I would if the circumstances were right but they haven't been that way yet.
Posted by TV
anyone I've ever been romantic with has started as such.I've never had a "friend" turn into something "more". Its tough for me to get my mind used to the change once I file someone under a certain category.
that's just me though.
man thing or gemini thing?
Posted by ninjamu
I don't date people who aren't my friends first. It's always worth pursuing. I've never been worried about that conundrum. No relationship is guaranteed to last. If I was gonna lose someone from my life, it doesn't matter whether we were platonic friends or more. All it means is that they weren't right for me. Now, with that being said, my track record shows that I do not typically stay friends with my lovers afterward. I would if the circumstances were right but they haven't been that way yet.+1
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i agree with this, too. and, would like to add, i think being friends with you lover is most important in being able to maintain the relationship... after all, this is a foundation of a relationship after the "honeymoon" is over.
I have had only one lover who wasn't a friend first.
Posted by TV
anyone I've ever been romantic with has started as such.I've never had a "friend" turn into something "more". Its tough for me to get my mind used to the change once I file someone under a certain category.
that's just me though.
man thing or gemini thing?
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I think that it is a man thing. I have observed that men tend to put women into a category right away. For example, they meet a woman when she's drunk at a party and they will categorize her as a "party girl". They meet a woman at a church function and they categorize her as a "girl next door type"...etc.
Listen making the leap from friends to significant others is all about communication and observation. Not about sex. Keep your clothes on and don't try to play head games.
My Aqua and me started off as friends. No benefits just friends. He let me know that he was interested in dating me and we got to know one another...with our clothes on. Now, we are in a full blown relationship. Take a chance and be honest in your communication. Good luck and good vibes to you.
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how do you know that the feelings have changed and when you are ready to transcend from just friends into more than... is it worth the possible heart break? are you willing to lose that friendship? how many of you have head a successful friendship turned relationship ? and have any of you lost a friend a over this situation?