Gemini man + Aqua woman ?

Hi, new here but need advice. I am an Aquarius woman who met this Gemini man online a few months back. One of my best friends is a Gemini, and we click like nothing else, so I thought this man would be a good match for me. At least his profile and my profile were compatible on every account. We emailed for a while, but never met as we live in different countries. He stopped mailing a few weeks back, I send a casual note the other day to see how he was doing and got no reply so with that, this man is history for me now. But I really want to understand how you Gemini men work in case I find myself another one. You still feel right to me, I love the independence and the wit.

So here are my questions: I got the feeling that he tested me on quite a few occasions, although he was very subtle about it. I am pretty straightforward and I think I naturally act in a way that made me pass most of his tests. When he stopped mailing me, could that have been a test too? I read in some other treads that that might be the case. As an independent aqua, I naturally don't pursue someone who is not showing interest. But is that what Gemini men need? I always thought you needed independence as much as I do, but if you need a bit of encouragement I have no problem providing it.

In his profile and during our first emails he seemed to have the exact same humor as I do (dry, witty, friendly). But as we wrote some more, I seemed to be doing more of the fun remarks. He even stated in several emails that he hoped his email didn't bore me. How am I to interpret this? That he was loosing interest already then and didn't bother to make an effort? Or that he was getting interested and lost his humor.. as in trying not to say the wrong things?

well, since the gem men are scarce, i'll give it a shot... i am a gem woman with an aqua man. a test? possibly. we test, just like aquas just in a different way. boring emails? he feels he's boring you. he feels he's a boring kinda guy. it was his way of getting, either confirmation of his feeling OR for you to correct and give a compliment for an ego boost. showing interest? doesn't everyone want to know that their s/o is interested to some degree...? so, yes. that has nothing to do with independence, imo. anyone can be independent and still wonder if someone is interested, due to: not shown or not shown how they like it shown... *shrugs* also, seeing you two are in different countries... he might be a practical kinda guy and realize that long-distant relationships are just not realistic unless one is willing to relocate. hope that helps... :]

Thank you! Funny how it can be so difficult to show other people you are properly interested when you get all involved yourself.. Of course you are right, everyone needs to feel that their s/o is interested whether or not you want your independence. So a mental note for me to work on that : )

A follow up question: How do you Gemini like interest to be shown to you? Judging from my Gemini friend, I think you like an ego boost just like everybody else, but I get the feeling it is just for fun, not something you would necessarily fall for?

for me... it's all in the lil things. just letting someone know you're thinking of them at random times. doing like everyday things to make life alil easier. since you are not in the same country as he is... maybe a note of appreciation. or be a great listener when problems arise. have long convos about things he likes. like a topic you are also interested in and be really curious to learn about it. those are just a few. but, i have to be honest, if neither one of you are planning on a move into thet others city... all of that won't matter. and yes, you're right, depending on the gem. for some it can be for fun, but for others it can be just an ego boost. :]

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This particular guy is gone, sadly. But based on your description, I think maybe I did have the hang of it while it lasted.. Great info, I will try to remember it next time I come across a great Gemini.
Neither of us were attached to the place we lived and we both talked about the possibility of moving, so I don't think relocation would have been too big of a problem. Trying to date someone who is not currently living in the same city is a bit of a bummer though.. : )
Keep up the good work!

aww, thanks, Aqualight! i'm just glad i could help. :]