Gemini Man Courting Aquarius Woman...

Hello! I've been a lurker for quite some time now and would like to receive some insight about a friendship that has shown potential to bud into a relationship.

I'm an aqua woman that has been casually dating a gemini male for the past 3 months.

It started with us going out for dinner/drinks maybe once a week (2x's at the most because we live an hr away from each other)and while out on these dates our chemistry was undeniable to not only us but to everyone in the room. From day one it seemed like we met in another life, we communicate the same,pretty much have similair interests, and we VIBE 🙂

He is a gift giver just to make me smile. He asks me tons of questions about us moving in together, possibly putting me on his celluar plan, and would I want to fall in love with him. Things were going pretty smoothly until a few weeks ago when I didnt hear from him for 3 weeks straight.

Up unitl 3 wks ago WE initiated communication. I initiated communication the other day when I felt that 3 wks had been long enough and it was time to find out what was going on with this man.

At that time we had light convo for the first few minutes then the conversation turned to his absence. He says that he's been trying to figure things out. I told him I understood and that he should take his time and I would talk to him later -- mind you, there was not a shred of neediness nor confrontation in this conversation. He said he didnt want to date me, he wants to marry me...

Before I hung up he said "Dont just hang up". Then we planned to meet up that night. We went out to eat and he caressed my leg, arm and face the entire time. He acts like a puppy when in my presence..and I appreciate his affections and def welcome them!

Afterwards, we spent our first night together. No sex, just pure intimacy. Mind you, we have NOT had sex yet. Just kissing and caressing.

He asked me if: I wanted to be with him, If I thought I could fall in love with him, and If I WANTED to fall in love with him. My response was yes,then I asked him is that what he wants? His response was YES.

Now, I feel as though I have done my part. I decided that I will allow him to figure things out in his head then come to me...Am I wrong?

i don't think that you are wrong. but i have to make note that it's normally the other way around between aquas and gems.... with that said, i have been noticing that it seems like the gem population has been exibiting more distance of others as of late. not sure why.... and it's making me very curious....

@Missila - I too think I made the right decision. He stated that he had a divorce a few years back and was attached to his ex-wifes daughter emotionally. I believe this is partly true, but I also believe that he never intended to meet and possibly fall for someone.

This situation happens alot with me... I meet a guy, I play *cool* my cards right, and BAM! they're in love with the thought of being in love with ME. Miss drama free, self-sufficient, sexy, and mysterious 🙂They usually leave around the 2-3 month period and they usually come back within a few weeks to a few months. Typically I have already moved on and no longer want to entertain the thought of a realtionship with the person.

The more I thnk about the situation, the more I loose interest in him. His actions are starting to seem very cowardly to me. Hey, if you already had a 'situation' be upfront in the beginning and allow me to decide whether or not I want to sit and be idle..
A part of me also feels as though he is very insecure within himself. Why you ask? Because I sometime complain about the unwanted attention I recieve from people everyday, all day. He stated that I was very beautiful and will more than likely have this problem for life. I dated a few other guys who told me in a round-a-bout way that they didnt thnk they could sustain a relationship with me given I was approached by soo many on a daily basis.

Guess it takes a true alpha male to feel confident that another man cant waltz right up and take their 'prize'...


Ugh, the source of my frustration!

Also, I've dated a few gems prior to this and they pretend to have it all together emotionally but I can 'see thru' them and I usually sense a fear of rejection. But this is the case with most men I meet. Is there a such thing as being too independent and being too in control? I sometimes love being the one in control of my emotions (i'm probably a typical aqua female--independent and sort of aloof)but now it's getting to the point that I'm tired of being loved from a distance...I no longer want to find out YEARS later that the object of my affection/attraction was also in love with me but never was able to muster the courage to say anything to me about it :/

i understand and, well, maybe that means you have to start taking the risks, instead of waiting on them...? you will never know what GOOD can come out of a risk, unless you risk it. i know that sounds a bit cleche, but it's advice i have received and seems to work. if i hadn't have risked sending a simple msg, i wouldn't be with the aqua i'm with... that was over a year and a half ago! :}

I also understand about being a 'risk taker' but what I DONT like are timid men. You have to be assertive and confident for me to even respect you. I cant have a desire for a weak minded man.

I'm honestly starting to believe that he may have just been a player that saw a pretty face and a sexy body and decided to try his luck. Only thing is I get to know men and feel them out before we have a roll in the hay. Anyways...thanks for your input 🙂

Update to this story:

We continued to date throughout the holiday season and we started becoming more distant around Valentines day. I did probe or question the distance I just let it be.

I texted him around May/June saying you have a bday coming up dont you old man and his response was yes and I'd like to invite you to my bday celebration at xyz and my entire family will be there, I'd like you to meet them.

I attend the event and we had a blast!

Or so I thought.

He said that one of his female co-workers commented on my 'clinginess', yet it was really he that felt I was being clingy.

When I finally inquired about that comment (2 weeks later) he said that at that time he felt as though my presence made him obligated to 'act' a certain way. As if he did not feel comfortable being himself with me there.

After he also confided in me that he does NOT want anymore children. I have none and he has one. I want one so it only makes sense for us to be logical about this situation and move on...

I can honestly say that I miss the fun dates and great gifts but I'm happy we were able to move on without too much bad blood involved.

Ooops...

I meant to say that I DID NOT probe or question the distance.

I hope there will be happy ending for this story lady. Trust me its very easy to convince him if you want kid, remember Gemini is a mutable sign. Atleast you need to let him know that you want one not more. He'll keep that in his mind, measure you and a kid from you and the fun involved in it and later he eventually change his mind for you. Could you tell me the date u born and his plz.

Excuses....he can't deal with the emotional stuff and he's had the experience of things not working out with the ex. It seems like he likes you cause he invited you to his party but is unsure of his ability to make the relationship work.