Gemini's - Do you have issues with stalkers?

Ok I thought I would post something about this because it seems to be an issue of mine since high school. I always have stalkers. I am also the one who usually breaks up with the other person. I've probably been dumped maybe twice in my life. And you know that Gemini's flit amongst the flowers and we have many suitors. But lately, even over the internet I get creepy stalkers! People getting mad at me for not adding them to my chat applications and sending me hate mail, guys posing to be models (yes totally busted by moi), and just general shenanigans.

So far here is the countdown list:

Virgo - Busted him posing as a model. Destroyed our friendship, yet he stays around like my mind will change.

Leo - Another busted posing as a model (sends hate mail)

Pisces - Who is all over me but has a girlfriend. Begging me to be with him but can't figure out what the heck he wants.
Finally came out and laid it all out on the table and told me he wants me more than life itself. I continue to dodge him.

Leo - Really messed up royally meeting for the first time since then he is stalking me and is begging me to give him a chance. Wakes me up on Sunday to boss me around.

Scorpio - Mister vanish comes back into my life after pretending to be Houdini and professes his love for me. Serious love too. Marriage and kids talk.

Any other female/male Gemini's have issues with stalkers? I can't be the only one.

Im staring to think its our carefree nature and how fun and bubbly we can be that really sucks people in. Im trying to figure out what it is! Maybe it's because we don't really care, we aren't clingy? Maybe that's what drives the guys crazy? Since we don't act (well at least I don't probably due to my placements) like typical females do?

Posted by Xin
Im staring to think its our carefree nature and how fun and bubbly we can be that really sucks people in. Im trying to figure out what it is! Maybe it's because we don't really care, we aren't clingy? Maybe that's what drives the guys crazy? Since we don't act (well at least I don't probably due to my placements) like typical females do?

I think as gems, we often "suck" people in or "draw" them to us because of our outgoing personality and openess. most people don't like being around others who are withdrawn or sulking. I work with someone like that and she is a real drag. when we could be having fun and enjoying our work together, she has to put off this "air" of superiority and attitude. personally, I have just found that ignoring her is the best option.

Maybe that's what you should do regarding some of these people you mention who you feel are "staulking" you. Sounds as if you're into all the social networking stuff. I'm not and never will be. There is too much info that can be accessed and as you have pointed out, you're freaked out by some of the contacts you've made.

There will always be people whom forwhatever reason will be obsessed with something or someone. The only way you can control your safety and peace of mind is not give them access to your personal life on a computer monitor.

Posted by gemini64

Posted by Xin
Im staring to think its our carefree nature and how fun and bubbly we can be that really sucks people in. Im trying to figure out what it is! Maybe it's because we don't really care, we aren't clingy? Maybe that's what drives the guys crazy? Since we don't act (well at least I don't probably due to my placements) like typical females do?

I think as gems, we often "suck" people in or "draw" them to us because of our outgoing personality and openess. most people don't like being around others who are withdrawn or sulking. I work with someone like that and she is a real drag. when we could be having fun and enjoying our work together, she has to put off this "air" of superiority and attitude. personally, I have just found that ignoring her is the best option.

Maybe that's what you should do regarding some of these people you mention who you feel are "staulking" you. Sounds as if you're into all the social networking stuff. I'm not and never will be. There is too much info that can be accessed and as you have pointed out, you're freaked out by some of the contacts you've made.

There will always be people whom forwhatever reason will be obsessed with something or someone. The only way you can control your safety and peace of mind is not give them access to your personal life on a computer monitor.

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Yeah I totally understand what you are saying. Oh its not that I give out all my information over the internet. I was bringing up that it's spread to that now. Real life and even over the internet. This is mainly emails. Not where I'm giving them way too much personal info 🙂

you sound like you really dont give a shit about mens feelings...😄 which further confirms my theory that gemini woman are heartless!

no, but really, i wouldn't say i've had people to the point of stalking, but i notice that people can THINK they want what they see, and since that said person is so hard to get, it only adds gasoline to their tank. and ad that to the falling of someone quickly, you get some pretty strange actions from people. perhaps this correlates to your situation?

Posted by westside
you sound like you really dont give a shit about mens feelings...😄 which further confirms my theory that gemini woman are heartless!

no, but really, i wouldn't say i've had people to the point of stalking, but i notice that people can THINK they want what they see, and since that said person is so hard to get, it only adds gasoline to their tank. and ad that to the falling of someone quickly, you get some pretty strange actions from people. perhaps this correlates to your situation?

Hey! I resent that! But it did make me laugh. Well honestly I do give a butter about men's feelings but its SELECT men that I give a butter about. Otherwise you are more than correct.
I think it's the whole cat and mouse thing. Guys I guess like the chase and I for one already know too well what happens when you catch us. It's like oh not so interested anymore. Yeah that would be a no on my part. If anything a guy has to earn his catch. But most of the time to put it plainly I'm not interested. Then they start doing the hilarious guy antics. Not calling, not sending me emails, etc. To try to get me to chase them. PFFT. Once they realize I'm off doing something else....BAM....Stalker mode.

Gemini's - Do you have issues with stalkers?



Given that Gemini's are attention whores - it's highly unlikely that they'd take issue with being stalked.

Posted by P-Angel
Gemini's - Do you have issues with stalkers?



Given that Gemini's are attention whores - it's highly unlikely that they'd take issue with being stalked.

LOL this is amazing

Posted by P-Angel
Gemini's - Do you have issues with stalkers?



Given that Gemini's are attention whores - it's highly unlikely that they'd take issue with being stalked.

the ONLY attention W*H*O*R*E* I see on this board is named P-Angel. I've never seen one poster who is so obsessed with spewing her POV on everyone else's astrological sign forum.

BTW, you're a Fish, not a Gemini. So don't go telling me that as a Gemini, I wouldn't take issue with being stalked. I have had those type of looks from men who give me the creeps while waiting for my husband to pull the car up at a restaurant so I can get in and leave. That alone made me feel uncomfortable. I've never had someone stalk me to my knowledge, however, I've had someone who I knew was very attracted/possible obsessed/maybe even in love with me, and it made me feel very uneasy when in his presence as I did not share those feelings about him.

I'm 47, have two awesome boys (age 10), and have been married for 13 wonderful years. Any woman on this board who posts that she would not take issue with being stalked is either dishonest or in complete denial. Women are already subjugated enough in society. The last thing we need or desire is to have someone with mental/emotional instability after us.
This is one of those areas where men simply don't feel the innate fear that women do RE: stalking/potential assault.

Wow gems are soo full of themselves! Here's my gemi story for ya. Talked to this chick for like a week... First Convo we ever had on the phone pasted for 6 hours. We then hangout the next day and she took me to this party where nobody was drinking and there was a parent upstairs threatening to kick us out the whole time... Despite the horrible date I thought we had got along great, but then she started acting all wierd at the end and told me on the phone afterwards that she thought I was rude and that "I didn't touch her" enough....... So I worked my libra charm and we reconciled and talked for like 5 hours that night. Chemistry right!! Ive never talked to somebody like this so I was pumped. Couple nights later she texts me "I wanna smoke" and I said... And I regret this, and know that we had already talked about sex alot and she basically told me all of her turn ons including a line about how she liked being on top the most and that she was "a freak" and said "I bet your a freak" (which I am :p). But anyway I said "I wanna fucc u"... I was drunk and I apologized after. Check this out. She makes plans with me the next day, cancels them within an hour of them about to happen and says "I've tried to get over what u said but I can't. It was nice meeting you". So I apologize again, apologize the next day, and then tell her the day after that that she's being dumb by letting that comment ruin a friendship. The b**ch tells everyone at her work that I'm now stalking her and I start getting threatened by her co-workers. Yup done wit gems after that

Keep in mind I sent her 3 texts. That's about 15 words total.... Clearly I'm an out of control stalking wierdo and she's my entire life. God get over yourselves ppl arent stalking u they just wanna know why ur so inconsistent and cold hearted

She sounds really young and immature. Don't let her put you off all Geminis. But how did you find out she told her co-workers that?

I don't have any stalkers, and I make a distinction between someone liking me and trying to win me over (even if it's a fail) and a genuine stalker. I find if you are clear and concise then the majority of people you want to leave you alone, will. Also I go no contact quickly. But a true stalker, well you can't fix creepers so best to get police involvement for them.

People posting fake pictures of themselves to me is akin to a con in my opinion and usually done by people with low self esteem.

My friend works with her and heard her say that I wouldn't leave her alone and that I was basically stalking her now. She also told her mother who called into work and asked my old boss for all of my information. Then I got a text from one of her co-workers saying they were getting the police involved if it continued. Her mom called in days after I had stopped talkin to her completely. Which means she was still talkin about me even after I had forgotten the whole thing. She prolly just wanted the attention and clearly has self worth issues... She's 21... It's a shame though.. I really liked talkin to her

Posted by SrgntLeebz
Keep in mind I sent her 3 texts. That's about 15 words total.... Clearly I'm an out of control stalking wierdo and she's my entire life. God get over yourselves ppl arent stalking u they just wanna know why ur so inconsistent and cold hearted

Ok it's NOT that im full of myself. This is ACTUALLY an issue for me. I have creepers constantly. Yes I make it known that I don't like them, but guys in general (not all guys) don't understand the word "No". They think oh that means maybe. And continue to buzz around like I am going to change my mind. And on top of that I am 32. This girl you were talking to is 21. Major difference. She's immature. I would NEVER go off on a tangent like that. Oh look at me poor baby, hes stalking me. No ill tell you to your face. Plus do you even know her placements?

All I know is that she's gemini. I dunno the rest of it all. She didn't even tell me no either. Even after the whole "nice to meet u" thing she was laughing and commenting while I was apologizing and tellin her that I wasn't just trying to get laid. I said "well I'll always be here if u ever need help with anything" and she said "thank u"... I should have just left it at that cause the next day is when I apologized again... I defiantly came off needy at that point, but I had never had a convos like that with anyone. But for her to tell everyone i used to work with that I was stalking her... That's messed up. I hope blowing things way outta proportion is just her thing and not a gemini trait. I get along with u gems... I don't wanna have to start ignorin u guys

Ugh. I think you might like her more than you let on.
Gemini females we are VERY charming. Obviously it got to you.

Oh well. I'll live. Lol at least till next year

SrgntLeebz- i read your first couple posts and thought that that bitch was crazy, and immature as fuck. but then the more and more i read, i realized that you have very deep feelings for this lady....even IF you only sent 3 txts, i can sense that stalker in you. which means she can too.

p.s. i facebooked her. nothin special bro

p.s.s. you really shouldnt post peoples names like that...

OH SNAP! LOL!!!!!

Westside!!!

I was going to say that same thing. Being a little bit of a creeper Leebz which just justifies my post. About people stalking Gemini's.

Posted by westside
p.s. i facebooked her. nothin special bro

So you went through all the girls? I mean how did you even know which one LOL!

Did someone say "creeper"?

Lol don't worry I got it under control. The army should straighten muh creeper ass out

Lol don't worry I got it under control. The army should straighten muh creeper ass out

Posted by westside
SrgntLeebz- i read your first couple posts and thought that that bitch was crazy, and immature as fuck. but then the more and more i read, i realized that you have very deep feelings for this lady....even IF you only sent 3 txts, i can sense that stalker in you. which means she can too.

This! I'm sorry I even doubted my Gemini sistahs logic!

Guess I was just charmed. I would never like go find her or try and contact her. And Its not stalking if your not doin anything to the person. As long as I don't affect her life in any way Its not a problem right? Forums are for venting I thought. It's nice to hear what people have to say though. The criticism makes me stronger and helps me pull outa this. I can't say any of this shit to my friends they'd think I was pussy.

If this is innapropriate tell me and I'll delete these posts. I'm new to forums and I've never been good at fallowing rules 😛

Posted by SrgntLeebz
Guess I was just charmed. I would never like go find her or try and contact her. And Its not stalking if your not doin anything to the person. As long as I don't affect her life in any way Its not a problem right? Forums are for venting I thought. It's nice to hear what people have to say though. The criticism makes me stronger and helps me pull outa this. I can't say any of this shit to my friends they'd think I was pussy.

I do understand the difference between stalking someone and just wishing and hoping they would be in a relationship with you. But I really do think she picked up on this intensity you feel for her and it worried her. Even if she was really into you, something has scared her now and you are right in not contacting her again. You're going to have to just let it go and move on like you planned.

Look, whether any one admits it or not, most of us have liked someone who didn't return those feelings or didn't feel them as strong as we did. It is a part of life. I myself have been scared off by a specific Libra's intensity and this was someone I loved!

Lol ya libras are known for rushing it. I def have alota matureing to do. I'd never contact her though... What's wierd is I went out with a Capricorn for 4 years and didn't think about that her nearly as much as this gemi

Don't mean to be a cocky prick but I'm actually pretty damn good looking. Never had a girl drop me like this b4

My Capriorn was super clingy. That's why the relationship lasted so long. Didn't have the heart to leave her. She's now married with a kid and living with her parents... Married her rebound off our relationship

My Leo's ex is a Cappy and yeah she stalked both of us. Literally followed me to the grocery store when I was pregnant. She then went and tried to get the pharmacist to confirm whether or not I was pregnant! Poor pharmacist called me freaking out. And she used to send the Leo print outs of the online snooping she did when googling his name. She was also a control freak and couldn't handle being ignored. More to it of course but she's been handled in court. I'm not willing to say all of this is a Cappy trait at all but this gal was/is a super freak! I adore his child with her but I sure will be glad when he turns 18 and the Leo won't ever have to deal with her again.

To the young men out there...watch who you procreate with because if she has issues to begin with they will only get worse once she has a child. Hell, after knowing her, if I was a guy, I'd get a damn vasectomy!

Here's my chart DR, mostly air I think...


Sun Gemini 28.11. Ascendent Leo 16.30
Moon Aquarius 9.26 II Virgo 10.11
Mercury Cancer 23.01 III Libra 8.22
Venus Cancer 16.54 IV Scorpio 10.49
Mars Pisces 29.11 V Sagittarius 14.48
Jupiter Aquarias 11.31R VI Capricorn 17.04
Saturn Gemini 24.40 VII Aquarias 16.30
Uranus Libra 18.57R VIII Pieces 10.11
Neptune Sagittarius 5.28R IX Aries 8.22
Pluto Libra 1.42 Midheaven Taurus 10.49
Lilith Sagittarius 23.39 XI Gemini 14.48
Asc node Capricorn 7.43 XII Cancer 17.04

Posted by GeminiDahl
My Leo's ex is a Cappy and yeah she stalked both of us. Literally followed me to the grocery store when I was pregnant. She then went and tried to get the pharmacist to confirm whether or not I was pregnant! Poor pharmacist called me freaking out. And she used to send the Leo print outs of the online snooping she did when googling his name. She was also a control freak and couldn't handle being ignored. More to it of course but she's been handled in court. I'm not willing to say all of this is a Cappy trait at all but this gal was/is a super freak! I adore his child with her but I sure will be glad when he turns 18 and the Leo won't ever have to deal with her again.

To the young men out there...watch who you procreate with because if she has issues to begin with they will only get worse once she has a child. Hell, after knowing her, if I was a guy, I'd get a damn vasectomy!

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Wow Capricorns? I find that really strange. They seem so...so...Boring. I dated one and he bored the living crap out of me. I dumped him cause he was being controlled by his live in ex girlfriend. Yeah don't ask. We were on a date and he had to go because she got mad about the rabbit cages not being cleaned. I was like youre joking right? Left our actual DATE. I dumped him an hour later.

Ya caps gotta learn priorities.. my ex once chose packing her suit case first over banging me. Ya... She had come all the way down to my school to visit and it was her last day there, I come into the room after a shower and drop the towel and give her the look. She f**king keeps on packing! Lol i wanted to slap her face with it.... I think it was her way of saying 'look how sad I am that I have to leave booohoo'. She took self pity over pleasure

Posted by DeadRingerr
OH...no eart at all alot of water and air....Mercury in Cancer and Venus, I have Cancer in Venus to. You must attract alot of Scorpio's.

I've always felt mostly airy. I've been on a few dates with a Scorpio but we didn't click well, but he was a doctor and too stuffy for me. But the Libra I dated has a Scorpio moon and truthfully he acts more like the "typical" scorpio but with the Libra charm. Quite the combo...never knew if he was going to run my bath water and give me a back rub or just submerge me under the water until I beg for air and submit. Know what I mean? And of course me being the Gemini, I was very aware when his scorpio moon overrode him. Really amazing sex though ; ) This was the guy who reconnected with me after 22 years....my first love.

Xin, my Leo said his ex Cappy was boring as hell. Very dull. But she was still controlling and stalkerish when they divorced. She has some mental things going on like BPD and OCD. Honestly I think any Gemini would get bored quickly with a Cappy. Hell, we get bored easily any way.