ugh! how much longer to wait for him to return?!

I know, its my gemini impatience. Let me make this clear: although I've been so impatient I've NEVER contacted him, talked to him orr showed him I miss him or wanna talk. I only express this to u aquas! Also, he has me on many messenger services n keeps changoing his display pictures.. Which is new behavior- its like he's tryna gt me attention for me to msg him. But I won't! Its been a week of no contact! How much longer

You know what boils an Aqua...Indifference! Apathy! We hate it, also if an Aqua has the opportunity to see you on display having a great fun good ol' time without him then he's more apt to stop the bullshit and contact you but he has to feel you are not in the least interested in reconnecting with him and that you are having really great fun life without him, he'll let his guards down once he kicks himself for being such an aloof douche(I can't speak for all Aqua's of course). An immature Aqua is hell, absolute hell to deal with

whatever you do don't reach out to him, let him feel the consequences of not having you in his life, he'll get nostalgic about you anywhere between 4 to 8 weeks and he'll breakdown all on his own and that's exactly what you want.

Posted by tiki33
whatever you do don't reach out to him, let him feel the consequences of not having you in his life, he'll get nostalgic about you anywhere between 4 to 8 weeks and he'll breakdown all on his own and that's exactly what you want.

Hehehe I love the sound of that!!!! I am def goiing to go out and have fun on my own and stuff and show him in having a blast without him. But summers almost over and I've only seen him twice! And then I start schoool. This sucks!! Now we wasted a whole suMmer this is justtt nuts. 😢 but I will hold my ground! And I will not contact him n let him crawl to me

He's nuts to let a fun Gem girl out of his sights and if I were you I'd let him squirm lol, if you share a social network together don't chase him but every few days throw up a picture were you are looking absolutely fabulous and having some good clean fun. Whatever you do don't be obvious! If he sense you are doing it for him he'll shove his feet into the ground and stall.

Yes, probably at the 6 week mark...

No because everyone that uses social networks load pictures of themselves, some do it daily, some do it never, some do it weekly, everyone that uses social networks use the photo app at some point.

Posted by tiki33
You know what boils an Aqua...Indifference! Apathy! We hate it, also if an Aqua has the opportunity to see you on display having a great fun good ol' time without him then he's more apt to stop the bullshit and contact you but he has to feel you are not in the least interested in reconnecting with him and that you are having really great fun life without him, he'll let his guards down once he kicks himself for being such an aloof douche(I can't speak for all Aqua's of course). An immature Aqua is hell, absolute hell to deal with

So at what point do you stop being "indifferent"? When he breaks down and contacts you? Obviously there will come a point where he thinks you've moved on or don't care and he will give up.

oh please get rid of that fearful attitude about him being gone for good *yeah right* and matter of fact that's exactly what you should be doing, moving on. Why would you want and wait for a man that isn't wanting and waiting for you? Imagine that you wasted your whole summer pining over a guy that was most likely have a great time without you, you can't get your time back that you waste sitting around pining for an unavailable guy, you're only in your twenties once and creating great memories is so important.

i love tiki. she reminds me of my mum's approach to dating 😄

just...slightly more militant 😉 lol

Posted by tiki33
oh please get rid of that fearful attitude about him being gone for good *yeah right* and matter of fact that's exactly what you should be doing, moving on. Why would you want and wait for a man that isn't wanting and waiting for you? Imagine that you wasted your whole summer pining over a guy that was most likely have a great time without you, you can't get your time back that you waste sitting around pining for an unavailable guy, you're only in your twenties once and creating great memories is so important.

^^^this in particular. it's good advice, but romantics don't hear it

Posted by nimbue
i love tiki. she reminds me of my mum's approach to dating 😄

just...slightly more militant 😉 lol

LOL

Posted by tiki33
No because everyone that uses social networks load pictures of themselves, some do it daily, some do it never, some do it weekly, everyone that uses social networks use the photo app at some point.

Tiki, girl........you have motivated me!!! Me and him are friends on facebook. I def will use that! Gonna take some pictures of me out having fun, looking CUTE and casual 😉.. I know him, hes gonna be having 100 questions in his head. i also asked him two weeks ago to go to a concert with me next saturday, he said he wasnt that UP for it. SHOULD I GO?? with my friends?? - i know that ought to kill him..LOL. i love the guy but seriousley i cant stay at home and waste my summer waiting for the dude.. i know hes gonna come back, so i should have fun whilst waiting!!!!!!!! but damn these aquas really take their sweet honey time. Tiki, whats your sign??

yes, go to the concert with your friends

Yes go to the concert, go have fun!! Summer is almost over and it doesn't make sense not to use every bit of what's left of your summer.

I'm an Aquarius and young Aqua's not all of course but many of us can be really aloof and selfish with themselves when he or she isn't ready for love, maybe he was more interested in a summer fling but it's clear by his lack of communication he didn't want anything heavy. Once he see you moving on he'll most likely stop feeling his freedom is being threatened and communicate with you.

Posted by tiki33
oh please get rid of that fearful attitude about him being gone for good *yeah right* and matter of fact that's exactly what you should be doing, moving on. Why would you want and wait for a man that isn't wanting and waiting for you? Imagine that you wasted your whole summer pining over a guy that was most likely have a great time without you, you can't get your time back that you waste sitting around pining for an unavailable guy, you're only in your twenties once and creating great memories is so important.

Of course always be moving on. I'm just saying when/if he comes back and contacts you you have to at some point show interest if you are willing to give it another try(and of course keep dating others at the same time), otherwise you will never know what would happen! I just don't see the point in playing games of you still like him. Obviously, if you are done, then never respodn again. But if not, then you need to reply at some point or else nothing will ever happen!

Lord! Okay there is 2 Gem's on this thread LOL! I thought I was talking to the original poster Gem1689 all this time but I see there is Gem1984 smh

Of course she should respond to him if he come back around, that's what Gem1689 wants, she wants her Aqua to reappear back into her life but whilst she's waiting for that to happen we are encouraging her to go have some summer fun and not waste a lot of time mulling over his absence.

Lol its def not a summer fling. We've been together for 4.5 years. Its just that we got into an argument and now he wants his space, which I totally understand. I am going to go out and have fun. Why should I be the first to initiate conversation anyway?? When I tried, he ignored me. Now the ball is in his court.. And then eventually back in mine. I'm not innto playing games, but hey! If he wants to play games.. Shouldve been smarter than to pick a gem to play games with. Muahaha

Also, he is very over protective over me. He seems to think every guy wants me.. I always sense hidden jealousy with him. he's kinda insecure but seriousley.. He's ltin me be free in the summer. He will freakk when he knows I'm gone to the concert.