I am a total prude

So, I don't ever sleep with a guy when I first meet him and it's generally not difficult cause for a long time I lived a pretty mellow, quiet life. I am a gem for my rising/sun/mercury and then I have some earth and water in other positions. Virgo moon, venus cancer, pisces mars.

Lately, though I have been going out a lot, as in getting hammered and having a great time like 3-4 times a week. I've been meeting soo many people and I am very flirtatious. I love the attention, but I have no desire to actually sleep with any of these people unless I knew them better. But I love cuddling, so sometimes there will be guys that I've chatted with a few times and on this occasion they are treating me special. I am pretty certain they think I am going to sleep with them but instead I'll just cuddle with them all night, kisses, but nothing below the belt. Yea, I am a tease.

Anyway, just wondering if anyone else does this. Am I a rude person.. giving people blue balls everywhere? A lot of these guys aren't as friendly after and so I'm usually glad that I didn't do anything with them (what if I did do more and they acted this way) but I also wonder if they are acting that way specifically because I didn't sleep with them. I am 24, am I at an age where it's rude to lead a guy to bed and not sleep with him? Is it ok to stop being friends with a girl cause she won't do nasty things with you? I am wondering if maybe it will be more beneficial to just let loose and sleep with everyone! haha I do enjoy it, I just don't liek the idea of sleeping with multiple people at a time, or being ditched by a guy after, since most of these guys know a lot of people I know.

Nope. This is exactly how we are. We flirt love to do that but it doesn't mean we are going home with anyone. If they don't like it they can piss off. It's not rude, it's just our Gem style . And yes absolutely they aren't as friendly after because they all think they are going to get something with little to no work. They weren't into you anyways if they act that way.

haha damn. I understand it's always a possibility that people could just be wanting something easy, but do you think that putting a damper the 'adventure of the night,' could reflect on me not being a fun person? Maybe they were looking for something more, but they don't wanna deal with a buzzkill.

i like prudes. hello prude!

i have cancer venus and pisces mars too and i'm all for cuddling. i enjoy it very much. but i have to say i find it strange you're taking these guys to bed at all. by all means don't have sex if you don't want to, but if you go to bed with a guy you've been out with, sex is pretty much implied. this isn't dawson's creek, you know!

do that sort of thing too often, you'll get a reputation and pretty soon no one will even want to go to bed with you. why are you taking them to bed? can't you just cuddle in the chair and then say goodnight?

Haha Dawson's Creek. Yea, I am acting like a teenager pretty much. Too bad the guys aren't in as innocent a mindset as me. My friend who is 28 has been telling me for a while now, that at some point I am not gunna care and am just gunna sleep with guys and understand how fun it is. And not think about like 'oh what if he doesn't call me?'

Posted by Xin
Nope. This is exactly how we are. We flirt love to do that but it doesn't mean we are going home with anyone. If they don't like it they can piss off. It's not rude, it's just our Gem style .

+++1 I keep saying this ^^^ about us Gems, and sadly, many will mistake flirting all the time, with anyone to mean we are a bunch of people who just sleep around for the heck of it, with more than one person, at any given time.

Some will never understand that in our own way, we really are very selective, to the point of being prudish, if thats what some prefer to call us, or a tease, if others prefer to call us.

Good post Xin

"I am 24, am I at an age where it's rude to lead a guy to bed and not sleep with him?"

Sleeping around probably isn't a matter of age, it's a matter of mindset and morals. You can be 50 and still do the same. I'm 21 and male, and I wouldn't consider sleeping around especially with a girl I just met. Call me old school/close minded but I think it's plain stupid that people would go around because it's "fun", kind of like the people that go partying all night because "YOLO". There's a lot of other fun things to do in life other than having sex and partying. To me sex is something special that should only be shared with someone you love. Otherwise, sex itself is purely a mechanical motion. I think nothing says self-respect more than a girl that says no and won't let her be the "easy one". Probably says a lot about the guys that get pissy when they don't get any. Excuse my language but "only b*tches pick up the crumbs" haha.

Domz - I laughed so hard at your "Eh, I'm one of those guys that would wait 3+ months until they get with my wiener." Ugh that was so funny to me! Best humor ever! Gem's! We rock!

Be you and don't worry about what anyone else thinks about you NOT sleeping around. I am almost 40 years old and I've slept with 3 men, 2 of those men I was married to. The third was an old love interest from 20+ years ago who I had reconnected with. Geminis get a bad rap for supposedly being easy but I suspect it's more often people misunderstanding our friendliness or flirty ways.

I guess some gems get to know people in different ways. I just wanna know about you. Why? When? What? Where? Why do you wear your shirt tucked into your Levis from 1990 without a belt? Wanting know about someone doesn't mean you are interested sexually!

But do you ask questions to the one your interested in??

Posted by harry99
Gemini, Scorpio, Aries, Leo or Libra. I think Aquaria, Virgin, & Capi are too emotionless & Sagg is too flighty. I hear marriages between Taurus & Gemini last though 😄

YES !!! WOOHOO !!! You want to sleep over tonight —

And to YOU prudegirl...

Back in the day... I went home with many a gemini in just the way that you described. Didn't bother me at all... and the next weekend I would do it again. It is a good way to find out who the people are that really like you for you, versus the people that just want something from you. Don't worry about it too much... just be you !
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Prude girl, I've done the exact same thing ( and so has every other gemini here, apparently, lol!). When I was single I would go out, bring happy fluffy bunny Gemini out to put people at ease (and let their guard down). I'd socialize with everyone, was perhaps overly friendly, sometimes touchy feely or even sitting on a couple of laps briefly 🙂 It's one of our ways of getting to know someone.
Nobody gets the cookies right away, though in retrospect that's probably the impression we give. As Gucci said, we're actually quite selective with who we choose.
The reputation stems from the trail of blue balls in our wake...and don't be surprised if some of your disappointed beaus create conquest stories to assuage their egos.

Cuddling with a bunch of randoms is dangerous. In fact, it sounds like a good way to get raped or make people hate you.

It's fine to have cuddle parties with guys you actually know, who are your friends, but I'm not sure that cuddling with random guys is a good plan.

I am not sure about just sleeping with everyone, either.

I wouldn't be bringing a bunch of strange men home when you're hammered, period. I mean no judgment on you doing it in the past, but this isn't really a safe way to proceed.

Have you considered getting involved in something like music festivals or group meditation so you can have these emotional experiences without sex in groups of people without it being so dangerous?

To me it sounds like you just want validation of attention from multiple people. Consider becoming a forum celebrity or a topless dancer instead; at least then you probably won't get raped.