I feel like...

Ive found something that excites me and scares me at the same time.. a gemini man. he freaks me out. When we go out its tooo much fun,cause we both dont care whats goin on around us. I got trashed drunk with him one night.. n of course my friend just alound him to help me throw up (so not sexy). so im thinking its a wrap..hes gonna think of me differently. Nope.. he asked me to come out with him the next night! I declined because i still needed to recover.lol. But i just wanted to know if this was common for gemini N gemini pairs... a quick attraction and feeling of wow.. i wanna play with them forever. like you found a new best friend to run around with you in the play ground of life? lol.. just want to hear your experiences....

my experience with a nother gemini wasn't so good as what you were talking about. Well as freinds, he is still one of my best friends but initmate, i couldn't do. We were so alike and one in the same that he was like a brother... yes the dreaded brother syndrome. It devestated him but i had to be honest with him. I'd never do him that way and lead him on. I felt bad. But if there's not attraction theres no attraction.

But you would think there would be great chemistry. But hopefully one of you ccan stay more focused... 2 wild child's running together.. leaves room for nothing to get accomplished.lol I know i looked for someone to ground me.

lol GemGal, i didn't like it at 26 either. Hell i didn't like the idea a couple years ago. But i have learned what it is i need. And the key word is need. i'm all over the place. My man grounds me enough to make me enjoy my life instead of constantly being all over the place wearing myself down. I found i needed an outside force, to make me sit my butt down somewhere for a minute and heal. you could have almost called me ADD. i had it bad. but i realized i needed that alone at home time. where i used to fight it. i accept it and actually enjoy it.

have you tried to not really care about flirting as long as they do not disrespect you and cross any lines. I'm a player.. or i should say recovered hahaha and all i have ever dated were players. i always needed someone on my level especially with mind games and so forth. But what happened was i realized that since i wans't insecure about me or my man, i didn't care if he flirted. i actually crack up and point out females to me who i thought were pretty or that were his taste. This opened up our communication and he trusts telling me more than any man has ever done. But i dont' worry about these women at all. I know they can't have my man. So it opened up a fun playful game for us. He knows the rules and knows the consequences if he breaks them. We have fun with it. Especially since a man is going to look. No matter what you say or do, they are going to look and they are going to flirt given the opportunity.
Not to mention - i equivilate men to like teenagers. when you tell them no they can't have something what does that usually make them want to do? they want it and sneak off and do it. lol so if we can look together and have fun with it, he's getting his fill and we move on. it works for us.

ya it doesn't go both ways here either. But that's ok cuz umm i'm so much about the mind and he knows what it takes to get me hooked and knows he doesn't have anything to worry about as long as he's doing right. lol You'll get over that fear of player vs player as you go further in the relationship. I was the same way with it. It's hard to 1. drop the player hat 2. to trust that the other player isn't going to play you. i went through like a frantic time where i was freaking out in my head about it. It took a few days for me to talk myself outta that one! lol
I have aTaurus so you know his ass is jealous. He looks cross-eyed if i get all giddy when i see LL Cool J on TV. LMAO i swear he's the only man i woud cheat on him with hahahahaha but like i said that doesn't bother me cuz i'm good. And i let him have his momentary fit. he doesn't say much at all but roll his eyes cuz he knows.. don't start no shit won't be no shit.

GemGal - definitely if your done, be done. I hear ya bout losing your identity, like i sadi before i did it once as well and NEVER again. So girlfriend, do what ya gotta do so it doesn't happen again.

When i'm in love i walk the straight an narrow too. Very rarely will i flirt cuz i know what it feels like. i try to do my best not to disrespect him. But i also know he is a flirt and i let him be. I chose to not be. I don't expect him to not be. Flirting is innocent, yeah it leads people on but i know where he is going and what he's doing. he just enjoys it and i'm ok with it.

You don't don't still fantasize? shit... i am way to sexual to not fantasize. i live and breath sexuality. and for the first time, i have someone strong enough to handle it. which is why i don't mind him flirting. he knows i'm sexual too so we enjoy our fantasies together.