I have a problem with saying no!

I always end up feeling taking advantage of. Especially from my parents. They manipulate me the most and I have the toughest time saying no because they are my parents and I have respect for them. Is this a Gemini thing or a sillykim123 thing??

Posted by sillykim123
I always end up feeling taking advantage of. Especially from my parents. They manipulate me the most and I have the toughest time saying no because they are my parents and I have respect for them. Is this a Gemini thing or a sillykim123 thing??

I find it easy, i dont do anything im not comfortable with 🙂

i used to have an issue with this, cuz i just wanted to be so. darned. helpful.! as i got older, i started seeing how i was being taken advantage of. especially by family! BUT, i also learned how to say "no!" as the years went by. sometimes, it doesn't take an actual "no". sometimes it takes a simple "i don't know", "i don't know what to tell you", or even an "i'm sorry, but i'm busy", etc.

Posted by misslissa
i used to have an issue with this, cuz i just wanted to be so. darned. helpful.! as i got older, i started seeing how i was being taken advantage of. especially by family! BUT, i also learned how to say "no!" as the years went by. sometimes, it doesn't take an actual "no". sometimes it takes a simple "i don't know", "i don't know what to tell you", or even an "i'm sorry, but i'm busy", etc.

yep.. 🙂

Posted by misslissa

sometimes, it doesn't take an actual "no". sometimes it takes a simple "i don't know", "i don't know what to tell you", or even an "i'm sorry, but i'm busy", etc.

+1

i can be assertive -> aggressive online, but in person FORGET IT. i am a straight up people pleaser that can mirror and be whatever that person needs me to be. doesn't help to define a true identity, does it?

however, add some (i.e. a lot of) alcohol in the mix and I'm downright venomous. well, at least that's what i hear 😛

No comes too easy when it's a decided no. Now deciding....