Life is Sad

Hi! Saggies,

I am a Sag rising and lately things seem so sad! As much as I try to make things right in this life it is never gonna be enough. I am stuck in a rut! I can get out of. I want to move forward but no one will let me? I feel so obligated. Has anyone been here where I am at? I want to live my life and enjoy it but I feel responsible for everyone else's life! They don't seem to care about my happiness though. I was told to get out of this situation I am in,l ,but I feel so guilty and I don't know why?

Just keep smiling and doing what you think is right! Life is good and you will be alright!

I've been where you're at many times in my life, everything seems boring and not worth doing, and people just aren't as interesting anymore. I too feel responsible for other people's bad days sometimes, it just means you care for people and you have a big heart. All you have to do is just tell yourself "if it's it not good, it might get better, if it's not good, it might just sever." No matter how bad things will get, just know that happiness and laughter will be there soon enough, do whatever makes you feel better, for instance, when I'm down, I listen to a lot of 311 and Sublime, 311 especially, uplifting lyrics are always a plus for a bad day. Depression and/or sadness is all in your mind, just make an real effort to be happy and sooner or later your mind will stop getting in the way of true happiness. I've had a lot of times where I didn't feel good,and it sucks for me to hear someone else is going through something similar as me. You sound like a great person so cheer up, stay positive and love your life.

-Some Guy

68.99,

Thanks! It is much more serious then people being boring. I am boring too sometimes. Nobody can be on all the time. What I was talking about was a life/death situation that I am living in. It's not good for me but I can't seem to get out of it! It is whether to make a friend take responsibility for his own life for a change. But this person I believe can't. Am I the reason they are unable to or won't— I want everyone to win and nobody to lose. I am afraid if I turn my back they may not make it.

Hi,
I can't beleive it, I thought I was the only person felling this way.Over the past 4-5 years Ive tried my best to get out of this rut and sometimes I seem so close.But just when I thought I was finally gunna get out,something happens and it all falls through.

So just to let you know that there are others felling the same way.

Aus Guy

Hello 🙂

Just a quick reply to say that I have a good sag ( guy ) friend and he seems to have his overly share of problems also....and I try to cheer him up by being supportive with continuous loving friendship. He is so optimistic though--like sags are usually...and I admire him for that. I read online in a sag. astro report that this yr. ( starting now ) until 2003 --is due to be a much better time for the sags...so, who knows?....perhaps things can start to look up for all of you, as well as my friend.... !!

Take care.....and wish you all happiness 🙂

An aries friend

68.99 ~ Seems we all have or will be in your shoes at one time or another in our lives. As I am a Saggie w/Taurus rising & my moon in Aquarius ~ I am an enabler. LOL...I have been enabling ppl since the day I was born 😉 As with so many of the ppl that replied to your post, "bean there, done that ~ sometimes still doing it", but I'm learning (as we all continue to do on our paths) that we cannot and should not take responsibility for the problems of others on ourselves. We can worry about them and try to help to a point, but until they want to change or are willing to listen there is really nothing you can do but be there for them when they need you. And then sometimes you just have to let them "go" and make those decisions that they think they know best about. I have a friend of 20 odd yrs that is very co-dependant, she always wanted to tell the "horrors" of her life, wanted someone there to tell her how beautiful she was and what a good job she was doing all the time. I did, even though I wanted to tell her eventually that she needed to let go of certain issues and move on. I didn't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel any worse than she "perceived" that she felt. When I decided to move to another state, she totally fell apart. Got mad at me and told me I "couldn't" leave, that she "needed" me. I found out that we were so "bound" to each other (me enabling her & her sucking the lifeforce out of me) that it was literally tearing her apart. I finally realized that what I had done all along had not been good for her or me. The whole time I had been "helping" her, she had turned to prescription drugs & alcohol. It was a sad, sad situation, but I was leaving and there was really nothing I could do for her anymore, except hope & pray that she would be ok & call to let her know I loved her & still thought about her. I love her dearly & when I go home to visit she still cries and tells me that I need to come home to "her". LOL....She will make it, she was just never very sure of herself & needed constant attention to validate herself. So I know about the "life & death" situation you are talking about. Too many times have I been in that place & let someone take me where they had no right to take me. My ex threatened to kill himself if I left ~ that broke me in half 😢 and I stayed longer than I should have to try and help him and all we were doing was making it worse. I finally left & moved on with my life and surprise! he didn't kill himself ~ he remarried!! in less than 6months! (this after 24yrs of marriage & vows of "I'll never find anyone to be with me again") So darlin' ~ life does go on for these people in our lives. I too love ppl w/all my heart and want to help them in any way I can, but there comes a time that you have to stop and let them help themselves. It's the best thing you can do for them. You can still be there for them, just don't let them drag you down into their mires & depression with them. The day that this dawned on me, I never felt more free! It didn't harden me in any way, it just showed me that I have and will do the best I can for ppl and still feel good about myself when & if I have to walk away from a "situation" that is not good for my mental, emotional & physical health. So hang in there and if your friend is threatening suicide or some other form of self abuse to her/himself, then get them to get help from a professional and move on with your life, knowing you did what you could & that if they need you later, you will be there, but a stronger person who knows when enough is enough and with the ability to say this without thinking you are hurting their feelings. Don't get me wrong, I still get twinges of guilt and remorse that I can't be "there" for ppl in my life, but like I said "I'm learning" that you can still be a friend and help someone and not have the life sucked out of you by them. Much luck to you with your dilemna~

~MP & BB~
saggirl57

Ello, ello, ello,

I am back and my dad has me feeling british and I am in a bloody good f***ing mood!

I got the house spotless and when the house is tidy then I am almost orgasmic! I through everybody out of the house and got it in tip top shape!!! Now I am ready to put my groove on!

I am not going to worry about tommorrow; I am here for today and let tommorrow worry about itself! As my pops says--"what will be will be." And his mother told him the same thing!

There is too much to this story to get into; so with that said, I will not mention it further. There are alot of things that I must learn from this friendship, and I am going through it as best I can! I am Sag rising, so nothing is going to get me down for long. The love here is alturistic, and that is all I can say! I will be ok!!! Why do I always forget that—
BG

Sorry that should be (threw) not (through), a very big DUH-HUH!!!

Thanks for everyones concern and good advice, as usual!

Love,
BG

It's really funny that as I read everyone's caption I feel like I can really relate, lately I have been feeling the same way , it's like it's a deppression that makes you feel helpless and I can't seem to figure out where I wanna be or what I want to do. I feel like I don't even want to get out of bed or even go to work.I have always been the type of person that helps people more than I help myself and now it has gotten to be a routine thing , it's like subconsciencously done. Peolple tell me not to worry myself with things beyond my control but I really can't help it, I feel like the man above puts me into people's lives that need to look at life in my perspective for better understanding, i usually analyze everything, but lately I feel like I can not get ahead and all I do is work work work, and like the previous notation stated people even start to get boring , there seems to be no challenge in conversation or even in going out. I just had to comment on the way I was feeling and I feel kinda good that I am not alone and hope that this rut passes.

You sound like a WONDERFUL DREAM! You are doing acts of kindness and they will be repaid!!! Please, don't get down! I know people get to be boring and routine and aggravatting, but what would life be without you in the mix— You are the rare gem that pans from the rest!!!! Please, take sometime off from it all, and if you feel like coming back then do so. If you just can't stand it any longer, than you must move on and do what is right for YOU! I wish for you all the happiness you deserve!!! And thanks for sharing!
Love,
someone who understands!

Saggigirl57,

I think you are right! But my friend is over 50, his father just passed from cirrhosis, and his younger brother died 2 years ago from alcohol poisioning. He died in a restaurant. He has a 33 year old daughter and three grandchildren, but she is a b**** and doesn't even care about him. He has a mother in Vegas and she has never given a s*** about him. She lived with us for ahwile when she needed a place to live, and all she did was bad mouth him and I threw her out! He is fuc**ed up emotionally and was a alcoholic since 14 and a heroin addict for 25 years. He has gotten clean from drugs but won't stop drinking and smoking. I have takin him to rehab after rehab and nothing seems to work. He is ill and I asked him "do you want some help ?" and he said no! So, I respect his wishes although it hurts me and is hard to live with. I don't know what I can do. I cannot just leave him; he has NO WHERE TO GO!!! Geez, I have never felt so trapped before! I have never delt with this kind of problem! I can get out of my own messes, but this one is very hard. I don't know what to do!!! That is the story, and I guess these are my cards, so I have to play them!
tHANKS
gb

I must admit though, when I watch him enjoying a meal or when I cover him up when he falls a sleep it does gives me a Good feeling!!!!!

gb ~ I am sorry about what you have been going through ~ life can be very hard like that ~ my father died when I was 6 and left my mother w/4 small children to raise by herself. Her family tried to take us away from her, the dr's put her on drugs to "ease" her nerves and then she started drinking heavily to get over the loss of the love of her life. So for 30 something years I have dealt w/an drug enduced alcoholic myself ~ and I never left her side, unlike my sisters who ran the min they were old enough to go out into the world & totally forgot about her. A brother a year younger than me that she thought the sun rose and set on and who also treated her like shi*. Through all of this, I was there for her ~ even in my teen years when she would come home in the early morning hours and yank me out of bed & accuse me of all kinds of things that in her drunken & sodded mind she perceived I was doing ~ through all of this I stayed by her side, loved her & never once walked out on her. It was only 10yrs ago that she finally was able to get out from under the bottle and really see what life had to offer her and again I was still there and we had a wondeful long talk about everything we had been through ~ and she looked at me and said "I'll never be able to understand why you stayed by my side after all I have done to you". I told her it's because I love you & I forgive you for all that you've done to me and yourself. I understood, even at a very early age ~ that life had not dealt her an easy hand & I was going to be there for her, because deep in my heart I knew that she loved me & she deserved my love & respect. To this day my sisters apparently still have not forgiven her for some of the stuff she did & my brother remains a "spoiled" little brat. I have moved to another state to start a new life, but my mother is now strong enough to handle that & our love has done nothing but grow in leaps and bounds.

So I am one who understands the phrase "dysfunctional family" 😉 I was in one before the word ever became popular or politically correct. You sound a lot like me ~ a caring, loving & forgiving person. Those are rare traits in any human being these days. By all means, stick by him & take care of him as best you can ~ I do believe that one day (if the liq. doesn't kill him & it didn't my mom and she drank heavily for almost 25yrs!) he will wake up one day & see the beautiful star and light that's been there for him all this time & he will tell you.

So hand in there sweetheart & remember "Live in this day, Make your future & Learn from the past"

~Merry Part & Blessed Be~

saggirl57

24.120 ~ I understand that feeling as well. I just ventured out in the last 2yrs on my own after being in a marriage of 24yrs, changed careers drastically (librarian to massage therapist) and right after I graduated from massage school ~ things seemed to hit an all time low. Almost like out of left field ~ no drive, no stamina, no enthusiasim(sic?), but apparently we saggies have been under a horrendous dose of planets in the last couple of years and it's starting to turn better for us......like they say "it's always darkest before the dawn". I know this is a phase in my life and much as I abhor it, bec. it's not my nature to remain stagnant for this long, I know it's happening for a reason & I will get through it and move on to brigher and better things. As will you & all those suffering under these planets at this time.

Hang in there!!!

~MP & BB~
saggirl57

" By all means, stick by him & take care of him as best you can ~ I do believe that one day (if the liq. doesn't kill him & it didn't my mom and she drank heavily for almost 25yrs!) he will wake up one day & see the beautiful star and light that's been there for him all this time & he will tell you."

Even if I don't want to?

Hey all you Saggies....LIFE IS WONDERFUL! Make IT what you WANT IT TO BE!? I surprised that "some" of you Sag's that posted are down?

I've had really bad "down times" myself but I've always pulled myself up by my boot straps and have gotten on with life and it's looking great these days! I'm DOING WHATEVER I FEEL LIKE IT NOW & I can't even begin to tell you all how that feels! I've placed my life in the Universe's hands - where it belongs BTW! Cuz the Universe will ALWAYS take care of us if we have faith in it..and I do! I suggest all of you Saggies do the same! It's a great feeling!

Don't let Pluto get the best of you! Pluto is in our sign until 2008 (if I'm not mistaken?) only represents transformation (death and rebirth?) so come on let it be re-birth for youz for a NEW LIFE!

I don't want to come on as the epitome of "happy" but just have faith in yourself and know that the Universe will take care of you what ever it is that you want to do or whatever direction life take you. JUST HAVE FAITH!!! We are after all....SAGGIES!!!!

"I've had really bad "down times" myself but I've always pulled myself up by my boot straps and have gotten on with life and it's looking great these days!"

That's right. Clean up your mess and then maybe you can get somewhere!

Actually he is nuts but can be fun to have around! He gives me 'news flashes'(bad news) by the hour. Usually they are wrong(the flashes) and about three or four days old, but hey! what the heck! What a mess!@

152.163 ~ If you don't want to, then don't. It's all up to you, it's your life & how you handle it and the people in it is yours and yours alone. I was only giving my opinion & advice. As always when someone gives advice ~ you either take it or you don't, that's always been the choice.

Have a bright and beautiful day 🙂
saggirl57

Well, I was thinking of taking him down to the fish pond, at dusk, while he is tanked, and letting him get bit by one of those West Nile Mysquitos, but that would just give him something else to whine about; or wait, I could take him hiking on steep mountain on a windy day!!! Wouldn't take much to blow him off. But, with his luck there would be a cell phone someone dropped at the bottom of the mountain with a fresh battery and he would find it!!!

By the way I am only joking!!! I need a nap!

A nap!! YOUR alter ego is shining out! I will whiplash you with some macaroni! YIKES GEESH!

I am a SAGI woman. N its nice to know that I am not the only one who is down n sad. I am not happy about things happening in my life for last 4-5 yrs. And as u all know, we SAGIS cant stay gloomy for a long period of time. Cause if we stay that way, it robs away our purpose of being here in this world. So even though, I have been down. In all these past years, I have been trying to jump frm one thing to another to make me feel good and upbeat. But guess, I am not happy frm within. And lately since last 2 months, I have been thinkin of taking a real drastic step to change my life (hopefully for good). But I guess we love taking risks and are too adventurous. The path I am planning to take is a real tough path and I am not sure how I will fare in this battle of life. But dont know why my optimism for finding TRUE HAPPINESS doesnt die even though I have been hurt so many times. I stay down and then bounce back again with FULL HOPE that life going to be better soon. I wish that we all SAGIS get our TRUE HAPPINESS.

Love to all SAGIS
Niki

Niki ~ You sound like me lol ~ I too will usually take the harder path, the less walked one ~ As usual we saggies are known for jumping off first and then going "oh wow is this where I landed?"...LOL....but hey it's in our nature to do that...sometimes we just have to tone it down a bit....my toning down time has come...LOL...it won't last long and then I'll be up and "running" again as usual....you are right, things will get better, they usually do....and like you....i have been hurt as well & then it's on to the next bright and wonderful horizon!! I love being a SAG!!! hehe....even with all it's up and downs and inbetweens!!!!


~MP & BB~
saggirl57

152.163 ~ I see you have a wicked sense of humor as well LOL......most ppl don't understand that side of us saggies.....yes we can be a little sarcastic & harsh, but that's how we deal with our crazy, insane lives!!

~MP & BB~
saggirl57

Yes, I was told by my psychotherapist that I had "unappropriate humor."
It runs in the my family, we are all like that!

152.163 ~ No I would not call it an "inappropriate" sense of humor ~ we all deal with issues in our lives in various ways ~ We Saggies tend to "joke" a lot about the very serious aspects of our lives and in doing so come to terms with what is happening to us and others ~ It is how we vent and still keep our optimistic view of life and living. It's kinda like the "sh*t or get off the pot" saying ~ When we've had enough of someone dishing out "whine & misery" song and dance, we tend to go into sarcastic joke mode, so as to get them to lighten up or help us get rid of the negative energy that these ppl put on us on a daily basis. When I was much younger, I was all hearts & flowers, lol, wanting everyone to be as happy & optimistic as me. I now understand that that will not happen if that person so chooses not to be that way. I know that in my heart I tried my best to help & now it's up to them to get themselves off of the "misery train" and back into the real living world. Not to say I'm not there for them, I still am ~ I just don't immerse myself totally and completely in their miasmic whirlwinds of emotion that they seem to enjoy living in. Yes, Saggies can be rather blunt, sarcastic & to the point sometimes, even when some people think they shouldn't. It's who we are, it's how we deal with life ~ We have our own "whirling cauldrons of emotion" that we deal with on a daily basis, we just choose most of the time not to drag others down with us while we deal with it. I have had most ppl I've listened to and given advice to come back and tell me "yes, you were right & thanks for being so honest with me". Not always those words, but in a round about way, because most ppl don't want to admit they were wrong about something. I just smile and say "life's lessons learned are hard sometimes, but then we are all here to learn from each other".......

You just keep on being you darlin'....everyone and everything is here for a reason....eventually we all find out what that is in the long run....


~MP & BB~
saggirl57 😉

For ~MP & BB~ saggirl57 😉

Not sure if it's because I TOO am a Saggi Sun, Taurus Rising, Moon in Aqua but I just love reading your responses! They would be my responses as well only you save me from having to do so. Pretty funny IMO! Must be our combo of planet placements? We ACTUALLY do think alike and look at life the same way!?

Saggi 57,

I am thinking that you are so right! I am not a mean person or a violent person and I do care alot about people this is just the way I deal with my life. Even when things are the total shits, I find away to make a joke out of it!!! I love life and I find laughter to be the most healing@ I know that everything will work out for the best and I am usually not one to whine for long. I might be down but I always come back up! Thanks and you are a very good person. What you did for your mom was wonderful!!! I loved your posts.

I hope life gives you back all the happiness you deserve and then some more!!!!

Take care,
OP

To Saggrl57, MP & BP, OP and all other responses

I really agree with all of you. You all are so true that we all cant stay in the down phase of life for long.. And we jump back to our upbeat self even though internally we may not be a little happy.. i dont know about others. But guess staying upbeat really helps me forget the things I am unhappy about. When I was younger, I used to hate what life was offering me even though I went frm one heartbreak to another. But now today when I look back, I feel that in all those experiences; deep inside I always was an optimist. Today like you sagi57, i too am taking the harder way of life. I have been protected all my life in concerns of finances..Its like Rachael in FRIENDS who never had done a thing without her parents help.. In my case, 1st it was parents n then it was my hubby.. Today at age 29 I am thinkin of starting afresh .. getting out of my marriage and going out in the world and becoming financially independent. I know for rest of u it may not be a big deal, but for me who has never been exposed to the world for 29 years, its a big decision. But I dont know why inspite of all the hardships, I may face.. I am too optmisitic about my future.. Even though I havent been able to get even a simple job till now (have no clue why??), but still I am very happy today about the decision for my life I have taken. The only thing I pray to GOD today is that Help me make the CORRECT DECISIONS & Help me keep my FOCUS of life. Why I ask for FOCUS is cause in my past, I always lost focus on my career life due to the man in my life and cause of my emotions.

Hey you know what... I feel that what I am today is only cause of my ability to be able to JOKE about my miseries and JUMP BACK to my UPBEAT self.. I guess thats what keeps all of us SAGIS going on in life and making our life a movie full of adventures, risks, happiness, sorrow, grief and most of all FUN. I love being a SAGI.. And I am happy that I was born a SAGI.. I wish all of you whoever experiencing that SAD n DOWN phase in their lives all the HAPPINESS and strength to JUMP back to our NORMAL UPBEAT self soon..

Take Care all of you
Niki

12.94.167.176 ~ Now that is wild LOL~ But they do say that everyone out there has a twin ~ I've seen mine once, when I was 15 in a Playboy issue ~ LMAO ~ To say the least I was freaked! 😉 But yes, we saggies do tend to think alike, a lot more than most signs....

OP ~ You are a sweetheart and thanks for the compliment, what I did for my Mom was out of honest love & care for her ~ as my Mom & and as a human being. When I love ~ I love forever ~ which sometimes is not a good thing, when it is not reciprocated, but hey that's life & I will try hard to never forget the wonderful experiences life has been so kind to bestow upon me. Right now I am drifting in my own little world and eventually I will find the shore to which I am meant to ease my soul upon ~ until then, I will do the best I can for myself and those that need me.

Niki ~ Thank you as well and know that you too will find what it is that is out there for you ~ keep that beautiful attitude & you will find what you are looking for ~ For I, like you and all other saggies in this time,we are all experiencing emotional ups & downs, we do "bounce" back with an amazing agility & passion for life that we always carry with us ~ regardless of how others may perceive us in those "down" times. We are harbringers of optimism ~ we just have our "bad" days too ~ LOL ~ when we do, our family and friends just can't seem to understand why we aren't our "normal" happy, go-lucky selves 😉 We are, we just need some time to ourselves every once in a while and it's hard for them to understand that.


To all of you ~ I am so glad to have found some "new" friends in my life ~ this message board is a wonderful gateway into a world of knowledge that is only shared when like & unlike minds come together to share their experiences and wisdom. Thank you all for your kind comments & keep on being the wonderful Saggies that you are ~ Gaia needs us to put a little childishness & love back into her hurting and tarnished "soul". I for one will always be there for her & her inhabitants 🙂

Merry Part, Blessed Be & May the Goddess love shine down on you & yours!!

saggirl57

I DO AGREE WITH U.HOWEVER U SHOULD KNOW THAT LIFE IS WHAT U MAKE OUT OF IT. IM A SAG WOMAN AND I TEND TO BE TOO GIVING AND NICE TO PEOPLE, THATS WHY I FEEL LIKE EVERYONE IS TAKING ADVANTAGE OF MY GOODNESS, I KNOW HOW IT FEELS, SOMETIMES I WISH I WASNT SO NICE, MAYBE IF I WAS RUDE AND friendY PEOPLE WOULD STAY AWAY FROM ME MORE, BUT I JUST CANT BE MEAN, IT ISNT IN MY NATURE, THAT IS WHY IT CAN BE SO HARD FOR ME TO ACCEPT BETRAYAL.

You'll learn! Don't ever apologize for being a good person. You just keep on being the nice person you are and everything will come your way someday! Wish there were more like you.
But do be careful!!!

Enjoy life and everything thing about it! It can be a challenge but that is what is so great! We get to grow and learn. Like little newborn foals. Once we find our legs we gooooooo! Go and roam and be free and happy and love every minute of life!!!! You are the sign of half horse half human after all! Dig it!

136.186 ~ OP(152) is right ~ You just keep being the sweet, kind and giving person you are ~ If others can't or won't see what you are all about ~ well that's their loss. Just knowing that you know you that kind of person is what counts! Giving of love, light and laughter without conditions is very Karmic ~ what you put out into this world, will come back to you so large! You may not realize it now, but it will! Enjoy your life sweetheart, those that want to abuse their power over others will get their just "desserts".....In casting good "stones" upon the pond waters ~ the ripples affect the whole not just the few 🙂 Someone's day is always brightened by just seeing you in the street ~ smiling and enjoying yourself ~ you touch a heart, soul & mind everyday you put yourself out there ~ We know where you are ~ All Saggies at one time or another have felt abused & used because of their kind natures & sympathetic hearts ~ Hang in there sweetheart!!

MP & BB
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saggirl57 🙂

"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." ~ Alan W. Watts ~

Hi there!

I am a Sag woman also and would like to add by saying that I agree with all of you. I can bear anything but what I really hate is when someone is down and sad and depressed for apparently no reason at all and can't be drawn out of that!!! I believe I will never learn to deal with such kind of behavior from others. Keep up the good discussion,

Ciao