I have no idea what you are talking about x

How do I interpret this text from my Gem boyfriend? We are having a rough patch at the moment, after he tried to reschedule our latest date and then blamed my "unavailability" for failing to do so.

Is it his way of saying: "Stop texting me, I can't be bothered to type an answer to your nonsense". Or "What are you talking about? Explain it, please."

What is your feeling about it? His Mercury is in Cancer, mine's in Aqua.

I'm disappointed of him and my first reaction would be to stop communicating and wait see what his next move would be.

Thanks, Feby. My gut instinct is telling me the same.

typical miscommunication between air (mind) and water (heart) feelings.. logical vs emotional.

Its easy to assume he's in the same feeling position as you are right now...you assume the worse that he's expressing feelings with comments like that.. but that's probably not the case... he's approaching communication literally and logically and not based on feelings. for the sake of letting you know what's on his mind..i think thats the best way to approach it..

Honey, we are both Rationals. He's ENTJ (aka the Evil Landlord). I'm INTP (aka the Mad Scientist) 🙂.

Now my Sag rising wants to debate if the same person could be considered mad and rational ... Perhaps "mad" as original and quirky, not insane.

Damn...no peace of mind today....

Posted by Undine
How do I interpret this text from my Gem boyfriend? We are having a rough patch at the moment, after he tried to reschedule our latest date and then blamed my "unavailability" for failing to do so.

Is it his way of saying: "Stop texting me, I can't be bothered to type an answer to your nonsense". Or "What are you talking about? Explain it, please."

What is your feeling about it? His Mercury is in Cancer, mine's in Aqua.

I'm disappointed of him and my first reaction would be to stop communicating and wait see what his next move would be.

A Gemini can very easily feel blown off or ignored, If he he has tried to make several arrangements with you and you keep failing him, he will do this out of hurt and it is an indirect way of him hinting to get your shit together. My mercury is also in Cancer and so yes, you better believe that's a part of it. I don't recommend ceasing the communication. That will just make it worse. What is his moon and venus?

Yes, it is the first time he acted like that.

@ gemguy.

If he is sulking, what can I do? His moon is at on the Pisces/ Aries cusp, Aries side. Sometimes I think it's Pisces, because he is surprisingly sensitive. But Gemini are sensitive as well. Venus in Gemini.

Posted by feby
I love the Gemini spirit. I really do. I have always just had a really hard time giving that space you need when you need it. I want to get it done and get it done now! Let's fix this and move on.

I'm also a "let's fix it now" person. That is why this situation is bothering me so much. I'm not saying I'm the best fixer. Sometimes I make things worse, putting foot into mouth, in a Sag-like manner. My intention is to joke a bit to ease the tension, but sometimes it touches a sensitive spot and backfires.

We do not live together. I wonder if he is able to detach and concentrate on his daily life, cause I find it difficult at the moment.

It's funny how we rarely fight. We have yet to shout at each other (and I've shouted quite often in previous relationships). Interestingly, he said that he had a temper too.... fighting with his Aqua ex on a weekly basis, only to stop when she stormed out of the house, wooing never to return.......but she always did, till he pulled the plug. They were attending a Spanish course at that time...and he even pulled out of it, to avoid seeing her, even if he was really keen to learn Spanish....

I wonder if he misses the drama....We disagree sometimes, but it does not irritate me at all. He is very bright, fair and right about many things, and I admire this about him.

We are both Aries Mars....

My Mars conjucts his Moon...the only interaction between our personal planets, unfortunately.

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Posted by feby
I love the Gemini spirit. I really do. I have always just had a really hard time giving that space you need when you need it. I want to get it done and get it done now! Let's fix this and move on.

I'm also a "let's fix it now" person. That is why this situation is bothering me so much. I'm not saying I'm the best fixer. Sometimes I make things worse, putting foot into mouth, in a Sag-like manner. My intention is to joke a bit to ease the tension, but sometimes it touches a sensitive spot and backfires.

We do not live together. I wonder if he is able to detach and concentrate on his daily life, cause I find it difficult at the moment.

My gem was able to detach and concentrate on his own life stuff. I remember being so surprised that he slept through the night after a huge fight. Meanwhile I'm up, crying and feeling very upset and insecure.

Ironically and perhaps even karmically, I had a relationship with a man after the Gemini. His sun was in aries as well as his merc, venus and rising. His moon in scorpio. I found myself on the other side of the fence and got a little taste of what it feels like to be pushed to talk and resolve. I will admit that I liked the side I experienced as of late much better. I also like to be in control though.

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The most recent ex of "my" Gem is also Aqua...and I became quite fascinated by her and their previous relationship, trying to understand how come that ours appears to be so different.... He said she was extremely intense, controlling, possessive, and irrationally jealous of his Leo-ex wife.

Sometimes I look at her FB, to see how she is doing. I found out she was dating a Scorpio...their quirky romance and funny antics were all over her FB. He appeared to be intense, possessive, jealous and very clingy as well, so I thought she finally found the man she was looking for.

She dumped him, unfortunately!

I like the Aqua! I asked Gem...if she was so abusive of you...how come that your relationship lasted almost two years...? He admitted, well, there were some very good times too! LOL!

Posted by LittleStar
Personally, I wouldn't say anything until he comes to you. He will say what he needs to say when he is ready. But not giving him space will make him clam up more.

Most of the time I am unable to be at peace, but I like to think about things before I say them.

If you need to.. Just let him know that you want to work things out and you cherish the relationship and will give him time to think things over.


I have changed. My Pisces and I get over things quickly and talk things out and resolve them. I don't think we've ever had a fight that lasted longer than a day.

Thank you, LittleStar, I feel such a comfort when you talk about your relationship!

I try to leave him alone for now, hoping that there is not something else, much deeper and darker, lurking beyond the surface of our seemingly good relationship.

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Posted by Undine
I like the Aqua! I asked Gem...if she was so abusive of you...how come that your relationship lasted almost two years...? He admitted, well, there were some very good times too! LOL!

Lol!! Try 15 years ... A lot of amazing times and always a lot of laughs and inside jokes. A true connection on a soul level. I was the moon to his Pluto. Also laced with a lot of drama, fights that became physical 😢 and many Mel Gibson voicemails LOL.

I don't mention him as much as I think about that situation but your post inspired me to speak up. I know that my inability to understand his quiet time when he was hurt or needed to process was a huge nail in the coffin. To me it seemed like sulking.

Anyway now he is with a Gemini woman and I like her a lot!

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Lol, I wouldn't have thought this about you! Those Aqua...so much fiery passion, and so little recognition for it!

Posted by Undine
Yes, it is the first time he acted like that.

@ gemguy.

If he is sulking, what can I do? His moon is at on the Pisces/ Aries cusp, Aries side. Sometimes I think it's Pisces, because he is surprisingly sensitive. But Gemini are sensitive as well. Venus in Gemini.

Ok so it would seem he is going to be aloof anyway.

Posted by LittleStar
Geminis are basically teenagers that feel things but have no emotional intelligence. •

Maybe that's how you are.

Posted by feby
Chances are, he knows what's going on but doesn't want to talk about it right now.

He knows what is going on?
WHAT is going on? Is there anything going on?

And I don't know who needs this kind of a boyfriend.
I think Gem men are the worse. My experience.

Sorry for what is happening.

It means if you are going to date a Gemini you have to get a life instead of worrying about every little text, dotted I or crossed t.

Posted by Undine
How do I interpret this text from my Gem boyfriend? We are having a rough patch at the moment, after he tried to reschedule our latest date and then blamed my "unavailability" for failing to do so.

Is it his way of saying: "Stop texting me, I can't be bothered to type an answer to your nonsense". Or "What are you talking about? Explain it, please."

What is your feeling about it? His Mercury is in Cancer, mine's in Aqua.

I'm disappointed of him and my first reaction would be to stop communicating and wait see what his next move would be.

Honey you have too much free time on your hands.. LOL, I was married to a Gemini for a decade and the more engaged you are in your own life, the happier you two will be in the long run. Geminis require a lot of patience and they say and do a lot of things that you are just going to have to blow off.

But.... If you have the time ...to post a thread ...to gain insight on what he meant when he said " I don't know what you are talking about?" Girl...... you need a life! The fuller your life the less you will trip off things he says and does. And the more space, freedom and room you give a Gemini the more they will love, adore and want to be around you.

LOL, leave that man alone and go clean your house, call your momma go play with the dog. Call a cousin and go catch a movie, take a class like his ex girlfriend. Go and hang out with your friends, live your life and you two will catch up another day. What's the big deal? If you go to the fare, and hang out and have some fun in a couple of hours when he calls you will be in a good space, that puts him in a good space, and you two are laughing and having a good time. Something the Gemini man must have or else he looks elsewhere for it. You know what I mean? LMAO Grl, for real tho.

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Posted by Undine
How do I interpret this text from my Gem boyfriend? We are having a rough patch at the moment, after he tried to reschedule our latest date and then blamed my "unavailability" for failing to do so.

Is it his way of saying: "Stop texting me, I can't be bothered to type an answer to your nonsense". Or "What are you talking about? Explain it, please."

What is your feeling about it? His Mercury is in Cancer, mine's in Aqua.

I'm disappointed of him and my first reaction would be to stop communicating and wait see what his next move would be.

Honey you have too much free time on your hands.. LOL, I was married to a Gemini for a decade and the more engaged you are in your own life, the happier you two will be in the long run. Geminis require a lot of patience and they say and do a lot of things that you are just going to have to blow off.

But.... If you have the time ...to post a thread ...to gain insight on what he meant when he said " I don't know what you are talking about?" Girl...... you need a life! The fuller your life the less you will trip off things he says and does. And the more space, freedom and room you give a Gemini the more they will love, adore and want to be around you.

LOL, leave that man alone and go clean your house, call your momma go play with the dog. Call a cousin and go catch a movie, take a class like his ex girlfriend. Go and hang out with your friends, live your life and you two will catch up another day. What's the big deal? If you go to the fare, and hang out and have some fun in a couple of hours when he calls you will be in a good space, that puts him in a good space, and you two are laughing and having a good time. Something the Gemini man must have or else he looks elsewhere for it. You know what I mean? LMAO Grl, for real tho.

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Awww...thanks for writing. I couldn't do any of the things you recommended, because I was at work when he texted me, unable to concentrate and fuming from both ears. Once at home, I was perfectly fine and still am. This describes perfectly an Aries Mars reaction.

Posted by Dyxpnetuser424
It means if you are going to date a Gemini you have to get a life instead of worrying about every little text, dotted I or crossed t.

Thanks, I do have a wonderful life. I can't choose what crosses me and what doesn't, though.

"And the more space, freedom and room you give a Gemini the more they will love, adore and want to be around you. "

Err...NOT.

Didn't I mention in the first paragraph that the reason we argued was my "unavailability"? My Gems likes company.

Has he made a verbal commitment to the relationship? Not that a Gemini man won't cheat if he has made a commitment, but I am curious.

Posted by Librawoman77
Has he made a verbal commitment to the relationship? Not that a Gemini man won't cheat if he has made a commitment, but I am curious.

Yes, he made several verbal commitments. Some as early as 6 months of dating. That we are exclusive, boyfriend and girlfriend, and that we have a future together. That we are each others last ever romantic interest.

It doesn't mean that he can't change his mind if things get tough. I know he can change, since I'm mutable as well. Triple mutable 😉.