please tell me how to deal with this gemini

This topic was created in the Gemini forum by fallforyou23 on Monday, January 24, 2011 and has 9 replies.

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@fallforyou23
17 Years

He's been leaving me hanging in the the air for months with his hot and cold attitude.He asked if i feel anything for him but when i ask him back he just refused to give me an answer.He likes to say things like so what if he likes me? we can't promise each other anything or that what if i fail to tame him after we get into a relationship together.seriously these are craps isn't it?i told him to give me an answer as to whether or not he wants to give up on us.and he said he needs to think over it and i don't know if its going to pointless waiting for his reply. can anyone relate this to me? please—thanks a lot.

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@inluvgem
15 YearsGemini

Sounds like he might want to explore other options ( date others) and has maybe found something "new" and exciting and doesn't know if he wants to stick with the "old". He wants affirmation that you still want him, but he doesn't want to confirm his feelings. It just seems like he is seeing which way another situation goes before he decides what to do.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Yes, it is crap, just like you suspect .. what is also crap is that you are still there letting him hold you in the balance like his puppet at his beck and call.

What the hell are you doing allowing yourself to be toyed with like that .... get the fuck out this situation and go find a real man.

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@Kleo
16 YearsGemini

I wouldn't go as far as to say that inluvgem with those deets.

I'm going to have to agree with P-Angel here. Don't wait around for him & his indecisiveness (this is not a good sign). It's been months! Go do your own thing & thrive.

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@nats
16 Years500+ Posts

Posted by fallforyou23
He's been leaving me hanging in the the air for months with his hot and cold attitude.He asked if i feel anything for him but when i ask him back he just refused to give me an answer.He likes to say things like so what if he likes me? we can't promise each other anything or that what if i fail to tame him after we get into a relationship together.seriously these are craps isn't it?i told him to give me an answer as to whether or not he wants to give up on us.and he said he needs to think over it and i don't know if its going to pointless waiting for his reply. can anyone relate this to me? please—thanks a lot.

I dont mean to be rude but its been "a few months" that his left you hanging.. isnt that a most obvious sign to move on?. When a gemini wants someone or something, we dont stop until we get it (him/her) and we'll do everything possible to get that person or "thing". If he wanted you and to be with ONLY YOU he would have made that happen a long time ago, would have admitted his feelings (maybe not so directly) but said or made gestures to show how he was feeling.

It sounds like he is taking you for a ride (again I dont want to sound mean) and is just keeping you "there" for whenever he wants to come and go at his convenience. Your basically just his entertainment. Dont sit around waiting for him. Move on find other guys. If and when he decides to want you then believe me, he'll do everything possible to have you.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

RAther than telling you that there will be no relationship, he's trying to blow you off indirectly ... and you are missing the sign on the wall.

jump ship .. now

And don't ever let yourself take the position at a persons feet ever again. If the man cannot give you firm ground to build a relation with ... bounce, ASAP and never look back.

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@ReallyNiceAriesPerson
15 Years1,000+ Posts

Get out now. Get off the merry go round.
He will do this to you for years if you let him, purely for his own shits and giggles.

Television put it quite succinctly.....I won't put it in quotation marks as I can't remember the exact words, but basically if the guy is "into you" he will make it abundantly clear and you won't have to ask.

Find a MAN. Someone who has a pair.

**Now if only I was better at taking my own advice🙂

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@inluvgem
15 YearsGemini

@ Kleo, I agree I just stated my opinion in a different way. She does need to move on because I know when I do that to someone I am just leading them on a rope while I do my own thing. I've found someone more Interesting but I still want to know this other person is waiting, JUST in case things don't work out and I want to come back. I don't do that anymore of course! But yeah, he is just stringing you along