Problem (kinda..) with my Gemini mom.

Hello,
I'd like to understand something about my Gemini mother.
It's hurtful when she does it and I'm not sure how to interpret it. As she's never been the kind to explain
or say things.
Growing up with her, she's never been the hugging kind, or never the kind to say "I love you"
Even today. But I came to realize that to her, it's about showing, not saying.

Anyways, the past months my mother has been looking for a job. She spent a lot of time at home and called me everyday. Asked me to hang out and go out for coffees. It was fun. We spent a lot of time together.

Last monday she started a new job. And since working there, she started being distant. I told her to text me on her lunch break to tell me how her day is going, and she didn't text me.
When I talked to her that night, she said she was busy. (As someone who's been working in office jobs for years, a job similar to the one she got, I know that when it's lunch time, you're free to text. To me, it sounded like bull)
Today, she texted me but only for 3 minutes. Her lunch break is an hour long.

Normally, she text me when she gets home and we talk for a while. Tonight, she didn't text. So I texted her, asked her what's up, and she said he was home, and that she was eating dinner. When I ask her if she was eating out, she said no.
Again, she didn't text me when she got home.

I'm not the needy kind at all, but when people turn around and start being distant all of the sudden, I wonder what's going on. I'm ascendent Gemini, I get Geminis and I understand their need for space. I have it too, but I would never do what she did.

It's like she used me when she was alone, and now that she got a job, she don't need me as much to talk to her, so she does her own thing.

How can I tell her it's hurting me? That I'm not reaching out to enter her space, but because I care and want to know about her job, about the things she learned. That this whole her being distant thing is weird and doesn't sound like her.. Or the her I knew as of last week 😢

Thank you for your help and inputs..

Posted by AnnaPhototaker
Hello,
I'd like to understand something about my Gemini mother.
It's hurtful when she does it and I'm not sure how to interpret it. As she's never been the kind to explain
or say things.
Growing up with her, she's never been the hugging kind, or never the kind to say "I love you"
Even today. But I came to realize that to her, it's about showing, not saying.

Anyways, the past months my mother has been looking for a job. She spent a lot of time at home and called me everyday. Asked me to hang out and go out for coffees. It was fun. We spent a lot of time together.

Last monday she started a new job. And since working there, she started being distant. I told her to text me on her lunch break to tell me how her day is going, and she didn't text me.
When I talked to her that night, she said she was busy. (As someone who's been working in office jobs for years, a job similar to the one she got, I know that when it's lunch time, you're free to text. To me, it sounded like bull)
Today, she texted me but only for 3 minutes. Her lunch break is an hour long.

Normally, she text me when she gets home and we talk for a while. Tonight, she didn't text. So I texted her, asked her what's up, and she said he was home, and that she was eating dinner. When I ask her if she was eating out, she said no.
Again, she didn't text me when she got home.

I'm not the needy kind at all, but when people turn around and start being distant all of the sudden, I wonder what's going on. I'm ascendent Gemini, I get Geminis and I understand their need for space. I have it too, but I would never do what she did.

It's like she used me when she was alone, and now that she got a job, she don't need me as much to talk to her, so she does her own thing.

How can I tell her it's hurting me? That I'm not reaching out to enter her space, but because I care and want to know about her job, about the things she learned. That this whole her being distant thing is weird and doesn't sound like her.. Or the her I knew as of last week 😢

Thank you for your help and inputs..

just like that... :]

I will do things similar to those you're describing. Whether or not I choose to reach out to others on a given day depends entirely on what's going on with me internally. It's NOT personal. For instance, my mom has been trying to call me for the last week. I enjoy speaking with my mother, but just don't FEEL like it right now. If you asked me why, I would have no idea...none. I just am not into speaking with anyone right now. When I want to interact with the world, I want to...when I don't, I don't.

If I am made to understand that my behavior is hurtful to a loved one, then I will dutifully change my behavior to make her feel better, but I may be faking my interest in communicating at that particular time. Wouldnt you rather have her spirit be there, instead of just her body or her voice? Gemini moods are always in flux, and she'll be back around before you know it.

Does it help to know that our constantly shifting moods can also suck for US to deal with?

Also, the times when I'm working a lot are the times I'm the least communicative. When I'm tired, I feel like I have nothing to give. On top of that, when I get a new job, I drink lots of coffee to be on top of my game. This is terrible for my nervous system, and makes my moods and exhaustion even worse. I don't know if this applies to your mom or not.