Problem with a Gemini girl

Hi! I am new here. Nice to meet you all. I need an advice on a Gemini girl I met on an app. The story goes as following.

I met a Gemini girl on an app and we had great conversations at the start. She was flirting with me and told me that she was fond of talking with me and would love to talk to me everyday. She would try to find time to always video chat me and calls me her bff, love and bae sometimes. We chat during her work time with her telling me that she rather chat with me than work. I went to meet with this girl once in her home country and we had a great time having dinner and dessert before we parted. She was still clingy after that. Whenever she had problems she would come to me. She was talking about another friend she met on this app talking about sexual stuff and asked if it was ok. Since her culture was different and thought that the western mind set was this open, so she thought it was ok. I told her it wasn't ok and it was best to cut ties with him. However, I did give her a choice to do what she wanted (she listened to me). But I don't know since when her messages has declined and her messages would become short like "Lol, that's nice! Gtg ttul". I really dislike this because she doesn't tell me anything like where she is going or when she will return. It maybe because she isn't use to the western culture or whatever but it kind of makes me go insane. Then her messages would take a day for her to read and reply. I questioned our friendship (a no-no as I read on this board) because I just don't feel like she was treating me like a bff anymore. Then everything would go down hill from there. I apologized to her three time. The most recent time it took her 3 days to read and reply me with a simple "don't worry about it", "we are still friends" and a smiley face emoji. I spoke with my ex who is an expert in psychology and relationships and she told me to let her be because I have clearly been friend-zoned. I kind of listened to her until yesterday. I sent the Gemini girl a message asking how she was and a simple reply of fine was her answer. I asked her if she has gotten used to her new job already and her reply was it's alright. Then I tried another approach today talking about psychological disorder. I asked if she thought that we all have psychological disorder. She left 2 short messages. The first one was "it could be" and the second one was "depends on the person." I said "oh, I see. Interesting thought. Depends on what?" She answered with 2 short messages again. The first was "...." and the second one was "on that person." Then I send her two more messages which said "Cool. Do you think you, yourself have any psychological disorders? Do you think I have?" I knew I said something wrong so I immediately traced back and said "Sorry if it is too personal. Just wanted to know if other people can see other's psychological disorders and detect their own (not saying that you have them). Do you think I have one?" She answered "Why don't you go to see a psychiatrist? Because I am not one of them. I'm sorry." Since her last message I haven't texted her back. I just want to get to know the situation and is there anyway I can save this friendship?

Thanks melancholia for the reply. Although your reply is very in the face and straight-forward, I really appreciate it. Thanks a lot. Actually, she was the one who thought it was weird and asked me for advice. I didn't not make her do it. I just told her what I thought and she could choose what she believed in. In fact, we were still really good after that. She did say something about me always questioning her though, which I don't really get. I never really questioned her. We mostly talked about random stuff and every now and then she would rant about her job and stuff. And I know it was wrong of me to say that about her having psychological disorder. I didn't mean what I said, I just wanted to get her opinion somehow on the topic since she seemed interested the last time I said I worry too much and have anxiety.

Posted by leo_boy123
Thanks melancholia for the reply. Although your reply is very in the face and straight-forward, I really appreciate it. Thanks a lot. Actually, she was the one who thought it was weird and asked me for advice. I didn't not make her do it. I just told her what I thought and she could choose what she believed in. In fact, we were still really good after that. She did say something about me always questioning her though, which I don't really get. I never really questioned her. We mostly talked about random stuff and every now and then she would rant about her job and stuff. And I know it was wrong of me to say that about her having psychological disorder. I didn't mean what I said, I just wanted to get her opinion somehow on the topic since she seemed interested the last time I said I worry too much and have anxiety.

maybe to you u didnt say sth to offend her but since she say u question her,u have to think hard about what u said for her to think that,believe me when i say as geminis we notice everything and if u say or behave in a way that annoys us,everything goes downhill from there

and if she asked your opinion its because she trusted you,but even with her lack of interest there is still hope since she replys still,but you have to come up with a good come back,because at this point if u cut contact she ll forget all about you,

You say you don't want to lose her friendship. But your making demands of her like a boyfriend and that's driving her away.

Calling someone crazy because you don't agree with their life style is a dick move. FYI

Well, that sucks things started off so well and ended up the way they are. I think she distanced herself when you tried to take it to that next level and say you weren’t ok with her talking to anyone else.

Which is ok, honesty is always good. But she wasn’t on the same page as you. Move on because it’s pretty clear she did.

And next time, don’t imply someone you’re interested in has a psychological disorder to “start a conversation” since they’re talking to you less. Seriously.

That can’t ever end well. I mean think about it. “Ohhh maybe your right. I really care about you but I think I have psychological issues, I’m sorry”. That reply will never happen.

I wouldn’t want to talk to anyone if they said that to me. I’d either be really pissed and give you an earful (if I cared about you), or i’d be completely indifferent if I didn’t care at all.

She seems to be indifferent so it’s best to just move on.