Sooo question..

I have a Gem male friend(his moon is in Leo)and he has tons of Leo and Gemini in his chart. I am an Aries sun and Scorpio moon with good bits of Gemini and Pisces in my chart.

We have been friends for around years and probably about a year in i told him how much i liked him, his mind, our conversations etc. He basically in a nutshell said that he doesn't want to ruin our friendship. Whenever relationships come up he always mentions how friendship should be the basis of them. We have this thing when we are out together we always look at couples and pick apart what stage their relationships are in. It's hilarious!

We talk about most things with ease and laugh alot! Both are health conscious but LOVE to eat so most of our outings revolve around lunch or dinner. Or me may go and uptown, walk around go have a drink or whatever. We've never been intimate nor kissed. Just hugs.

It drives me CRAZY! Even though i know what he said when i brought up my feelings in the beginning it is maddening and confusing. I still absolutely adore him and it sometimes takes everything once of restraint i can muster up to keep from pouncing on him. We've been out together somewhere everyday for the last 3 weeks and geez its really getting to me. We didn't talk much today because we got in late last night and needed to just have a break i guess. But we just checked in on each other for 10 mins and he asked about what we would be eating for dinner tomorrow and if i would grab him some honey from the grocery store. I am so confused! Please help me sort this out..am i being tested? Am i really in the friend zone? Am i misreading something or over reaching? I think about this man all the time and am so happy when we are in each others company.

That would be 9 years we've been friends.

What are your placements?

@MoonButter I have Aries sun, Scorpio moon, and mercury, venus, jupiter in Pisces and Pisces rising. Mars and saturn both in Gemini.

@nanobyte — sorry for your confusion lol. The honey bit was me just saying that.. i guess what i was thinking is that most gems i know don't really seem to make plans so to speak but rather live in the moment and go where the wind blows. Anyhow i totally see where you are coming from in your assessment and somehow i feel like what you say is true. I guess it's all of my pisces placements and scorp moon. Perhaps even my aries sun because i guess i do think of him as the one who got away lol. It's weird though because i do see him flirting we me at times..BUTTT i guess all gems flirt? Like if we are out somewhere sometimes he will play with my hands or he will start twirling my hair while I'm driving or something. The other night i was driving and was caught off guard when he started lightly running his finger up and down the side of my neck. I didn't say anything. So idk..but you are probably right.

Posted by SkorpionMoon
@MoonButter I have Aries sun, Scorpio moon, and mercury, venus, jupiter in Pisces and Pisces rising. Mars and saturn both in Gemini.

Ahh ok this explains the Gem attraction 😉 find one with water Moon and Venus if you can 🙂

Yes a water moon and venus makes perfect sense!

Posted by SkorpionMoon
That would be 9 years we've been friends.

LOL. That would make for a veeeeery long test!

Unless you are still in school....surely one or both of you must have been in a relationship during the past 9 years?

Posted by SkorpionMoon
Yes a water moon and venus makes perfect sense!

I'm dating a Gem like that and it's the perfect combo of air and sensitivity ?

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Yes a water moon and venus makes perfect sense!

I'm dating a Gem like that and it's the perfect combo of air and sensitivity ?

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@moonbutter, I'm so happy things are going so well. 🙂

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Yes a water moon and venus makes perfect sense!

I'm dating a Gem like that and it's the perfect combo of air and sensitivity ?

@moonbutter, I'm so happy things are going so well. 🙂

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Thank you WateryGem ? I see him as a blessing in my life every day.

@Blue_Froggie I don't know his exact birth time..i just sent him a message so I'll post it when i find out?

We have 2 fights in these 9 years and they were both very volatile! The first one revolved around me being upset about him not returning phone calls lol. I told him how it was so disrespectful not to atleast call me back even if he was busy or just didn't want to talk and that he could say that and it would be fine. And it really would have..i can respect honesty above most things. But if i am calling to check on you and you don't answer nor call back that leaves alot of room for assumptions..did i do something wrong, is he laying dead in the bathtub..you know? Lol! He blew up about it, i guess like i was nagging him and then we were okay and since then he always answers or calls me back and i learned to just not worry..let him go one about his day.

The second time was involving our friend..(i met them both at a restaurant i was married and in college) We would all 3 hang out some time and i would chat with our friend sometime and we would sometimes tell me things our Gem friend would say about me..how pretty i was, i was so intelligent, brilliant, a good heart etc. He said he talked about me alot and so on. Well when Gem found out that our friend was telling me this stuff he got so mad and told me i should stop talking to our friend..i asked why are you jealous or something? I told him don't be..all of this COULD be yours but you're holding us back etc (in a joking way). And for some reason that set him off again! He told me you can't rush things, he likes to take his time and if he is going to be with anyone they have to best friends first. Then he didn't talk to me for about 4 months. At one point i sent him a thinking of u card, a hand written note apologzing for putting him on the spot and how much i valued him. And a basket off snickers (he loves them) About a week later he started emailing me lol saying we were still cool and he wanted to see me again but it was gonna take time.

Sorry i got so long winded..lol

@Undine

When we met i was in college. There is a local restaurant that would go to and eat dinner or have coffee while i studied. He was sitting at the booth behind me (our backs were to each other) with his friend. I could hear their conversation and it was interesting so i chimed in and that was it! I was also in a very very unhappy unfulfilling marriage at the time.

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@Blue_Froggie I don't know his exact birth time..i just sent him a message so I'll post it when i find out?

We have 2 fights in these 9 years and they were both very volatile! The first one revolved around me being upset about him not returning phone calls lol. I told him how it was so disrespectful not to atleast call me back even if he was busy or just didn't want to talk and that he could say that and it would be fine. And it really would have..i can respect honesty above most things. But if i am calling to check on you and you don't answer nor call back that leaves alot of room for assumptions..did i do something wrong, is he laying dead in the bathtub..you know? Lol! He blew up about it, i guess like i was nagging him and then we were okay and since then he always answers or calls me back and i learned to just not worry..let him go one about his day.

The second time was involving our friend..(i met them both at a restaurant i was married and in college) We would all 3 hang out some time and i would chat with our friend sometime and we would sometimes tell me things our Gem friend would say about me..how pretty i was, i was so intelligent, brilliant, a good heart etc. He said he talked about me alot and so on. Well when Gem found out that our friend was telling me this stuff he got so mad and told me i should stop talking to our friend..i asked why are you jealous or something? I told him don't be..all of this COULD be yours but you're holding us back etc (in a joking way). And for some reason that set him off again! He told me you can't rush things, he likes to take his time and if he is going to be with anyone they have to best friends first. Then he didn't talk to me for about 4 months. At one point i sent him a thinking of u card, a hand written note apologzing for putting him on the spot and how much i valued him. And a basket off snickers (he loves them) About a week later he started emailing me lol saying we were still cool and he wanted to see me again but it was gonna take time.

Sorry i got so long winded..lol

Hmm do you think your Gem friend was mad about the other friend telling u those things because you were married?

@moonbutter

I suppose that could be why. I also got the sense that he did not want we anywhere near our friend unless he was there. The friend would call me at all times of the night and ask me to meet him out for dinner and stuff but i would never go. Gem told him to stop calling me and that i would never go anywhere with him unless he was there.

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@moonbutter

I suppose that could be why. I also got the sense that he did not want we anywhere near our friend unless he was there. The friend would call me at all times of the night and ask me to meet him out for dinner and stuff but i would never go. Gem told him to stop calling me and that i would never go anywhere with him unless he was there.

Wow he sends very similar to my Gem friend

@blue_froggie

It's been almost 6 years

@Blue_Froggie that fight was about 4 years ago.

I dated a couple guys but ugh..they were so boring and i think he may have gone out with someone..not sure how serious it got. But he did tell me she crazy..like not in a good way.

@Blue_Froggie He hasn't responded yet.. Last night we wen for late night eats at a 24 hr diner. He said he'd be doing lawn stuff today so im sure he's busy. I'm posting a synastry chart link below though..his Asc is probably off though since idk his time, he really doesn't strike me as Virgo anything (both of my parents are Virgo).

astro-charts.com/chart/synastry/7ec58b805

Posted by SkorpionMoon
@Blue_Froggie He hasn't responded yet.. Last night we wen for late night eats at a 24 hr diner. He said he'd be doing lawn stuff today so im sure he's busy. I'm posting a synastry chart link below though..his Asc is probably off though since idk his time, he really doesn't strike me as Virgo anything (both of my parents are Virgo).

astro-charts.com/chart/synastry/7ec58b805

Ya know... for years I thought I was in love with my guy friend and he secretly wanted to be with me but it never came together for some reason... and now I know why...

@Moonbutter..why? Oh do explain?

Posted by SkorpionMoon
@Moonbutter..why? Oh do explain?

Well I looked up soul mates, Karma parts and so forth it was suggested we were in each other lives on a karmic path of relationships. Basically to help the other out when it came to relationships but not to be together. Once I read that it clicked for me and those feelings went away and I only see him as a friend now. In fact, he prepared me for the Gem with Cancer Venus in with now ?

Aries are warriors so rejection is seen as defeat. Aries is not going to accept defeat! In addition the Gemini man will absolutely bedazzle, intrigue, and drive you crazy-in-love! I get it! ☺☺

I have Venus in Libra and although you sound like a nut case to normal people, I get it. For a year, I was infatuated with a Gemini who just wanted sex and nothing more. Your Gemini wants a friendship and nothing more.

Right now you don't have the mental capacity to handle reality. Reality - he is not sexually attracted to you, he doesn't want a romantic relationship and in 9 years that hasn't changed, and it never will. So I will encourage you to keep up the delusion. I have a lot of compassion for you, and he is being cruel by gliding your neck.

So go back into fantasy and stay there until you're mentally stable enough to see what is so apparent to the rest of us. ☺?☺

@Shrewdsharp..do you mean Venus in Pisces? That is my placement..not that it changes the gist of what you are saying.

I feel like i finally emotionally dealt with it over the last couple days during the full moon(i have scorpio moon placement). I figured it out while he and I were having dinner. I excused myself from the table after something..idk..something just clicked in my mind and i realized that no matter how much i want us to be more than what we were it will never be..i told him i had to go, hugged him goodbye and left the restaurant and just haven't looked back.

If it can't be what i want it to i just can't be aeound him..it's too painful and I'm not gonna keep hurting myself.

Thank you for your frankness?

@Wolfinramsclothing..yes this Gem talked A BUNCH about himself..of course he does have Venus and his moon in Leo lol!

@Wolfinramsclothing , love your profile pic btw?

Posted by SkorpionMoon
@Shrewdsharp..do you mean Venus in Pisces? That is my placement..not that it changes the gist of what you are saying.

I feel like i finally emotionally dealt with it over the last couple days during the full moon(i have scorpio moon placement). I figured it out while he and I were having dinner. I excused myself from the table after something..idk..something just clicked in my mind and i realized that no matter how much i want us to be more than what we were it will never be..i told him i had to go, hugged him goodbye and left the restaurant and just haven't looked back.

If it can't be what i want it to i just can't be aeound him..it's too painful and I'm not gonna keep hurting myself.

Thank you for your frankness?

Yes, it's just not meant to be.

Girl, Aries to Aries, let me tell you something....this is very platonic, and a very straightforward amazing friendship. You have to allow yourself to ignore the feelings and maybe move on to someone else emotionally or focus on yourself emotionally. I've had this, and in the end allowing us to have such an amazing friendship was the best thing we could have done. If it ends up more than that, so will it be, but it won't be by confusing yourself and letting your inner fire burn you from the inside out, put that steam elsewhere. Let it out other ways. This isn't to say one day it won't develop into more, it just may so, but for now this is where it's at, don't kill your mind over it.