The unattainable

Has anyone here ever fallen for someone that you know you shouldn't have but it was just inevitable? The attraction was almost instantaneous and no matter how much you tried, you just couldn't avoid it? Anyone know why that happens?

Yes .. because your head will always be stronger and wiser than your heart.


Your heart is really pretty pathetic in these times ... and it doesnt' care about being hurt until after the fact, then it cries like a baby and say it was someone elses fault.

Yes, so true. Why, why, why? This is the first time this has happened to me. Usually I'm very good about choosing who I like. This time everything just hit me and I feel like I have absolutely no control. Like I can't stop it no matter how hard I try. It almost isn't fair. I never let my heart control my emotions. This time it just took over.

It's a thought.

The book I'm currently reading is about two ascended masters talking about life .. what it is, the meaning of it, why we are here, what we should do, etc.


Anyway, these two say that energy doesn't exist as we have lead ourselves to believe. That there is no good/bad energies in people.


There is only thought .. if you think you're good, you are .. there is no good energy hanging over your head, you don't create any kind of "feelings" that hang around you, there is no projecting ...


.. there is thought.


If you think you cannot help yourself, then you cannot.
If you think your heart is going to do side flips, then it will.


This happens to you because this is what you tell yourself .. I read it with my own eyes, you said it was inevitable.

Tell yourself to turn away, and you will.

P-Angel -- just curious. What did these ascended masters say about collective consciousness? Wouldn't that be energy as well? I agree with the no good and bad energy. It's just a force that must be directed and since people have free will, they are free to direct it to whatever cause they want. It's people that make value judgments on whether it's good or bad.

For me, thought IS energy or at least a manifestation of it. It does exist. Well, you did say "it doesn't exist *as we have lead ourselves to believe* so maybe I'm on the same thinking track here.'

Danigurl13 -- yes, I've been there. Had a married men phase and, of course, that's a no, no. The thing is, at the time, I wanted it because I didn't want to be committed and they were the kind that couldn't ask that of me. When they did, I left them and told them to go back to their wives. BUT, even the forces of attraction were working in our favor, the point is that at the end of the day, we have free will and we choose where to go from there.

Oh I know. I agree. I haven't acted upon any of my feelings, because I tell myself not to. But it's just the thoughts that I can't get out of my mind. I really do try but I find at times, they just consume me. That's the part I hate. Because it's one thing to not take action on something, but it's another not to think about it. Anyone get what I mean?

Yessssss... and I know it's easier to preach than to do but when that happens DISTRACTION is the key. But even with my Gem short attention span, it's a case of wanting what to think about. I try to do other stuff to distract me but the obsessive thought is still there.

Have you ever heard of "what you resist, persists"? Sometimes what I do is I overindulge in the thought until I'm sick of it. I push myself to that threshhold of saturation until it gets to a point of making me annoyed with the same ol, same ol.

Sometimes it works, LOL. There are some things/people though that because my attachment/involvement is so strong that it takes a looong time to reach that saturation level. But really, I have no doubt that it will get there and the feeling of waking up one day and realizing you're DONE is totally great.

Oh wow, that's interesting. I think I might try that. It's not that the person I've fallen for is bad or married or even with anyone, it's just someone I know my family wouldn't accept. I know his feelings for me are mutual which is what makes it even harder. But I just feel if we ever did act upon anything, all we would face is negative criticism and it would eventually tear us apart so I feel like, why even start it? Ya know. I'm gonna try what u said Joanie but honestly, If it happens to work for me, I'm sure it's going to take a long time! Ugh.

Posted by Danigurl13
Has anyone here ever fallen for someone that you know you shouldn't have but it was just inevitable? The attraction was almost instantaneous and no matter how much you tried, you just couldn't avoid it? Anyone know why that happens?

Yes. i think it's polarity; the instant magnetism you sense from that person. It's an energy that you can't touch, but you experience it. It skips your brain and goes directly to your heart.
Oxytocin is released, and your hooked......

Women are very weak. They don't have much self-control. Just go with the flow!

Thanks Mr. Crabby

I love good old fashioned honesty 😉

California girls 😄

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Posted by Danigurl13
Has anyone here ever fallen for someone that you know you shouldn't have but it was just inevitable? The attraction was almost instantaneous and no matter how much you tried, you just couldn't avoid it? Anyone know why that happens?

Yes. i think it's polarity; the instant magnetism you sense from that person. It's an energy that you can't touch, but you experience it. It skips your brain and goes directly to your heart.
Oxytocin is released, and your hooked......

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Yes, I think that's exactly what it is. It feel good and bad at the same time

@sdgaf

Can you elaborate on that. I think I know what you mean, but I'm not sure.

I know exactly what you mean about being concerned withnmy family's opinion, but my parents are very old fashioned. For them, age is a big concern. For me, it's not. I really don't care. But it's just that. He's not a weirdo or anything like you mentioned. It's just the age gap.

My sister was practically disowned after dating an older guy. I fear the same thing would happen to me. The thing that keeps going through my mind is, would it be worth it to go through all that with my family for this person? Because once you start something with someone, you're never a hundred percent sure it if'll work out in the end. In the past, I dated someone they didn't care for, and went through he'll for it. Got kicked out of my house and was the outcast of the family. That person and I were only together for 2 years and when it ended, I had this horrible fear of facing my family again because I knew I was gonna have to hear "I told you so" for the rest of my life. I guess i just don't wanna go through that again.

Oh I gotcha. Yes, that is very true. You are wise 😉. Now that I am aware of all this, I still am unsure of which direction to go in.

Posted by Danigurl13


... my parents are very old fashioned. For them, age is a big concern.

... My sister was practically disowned after dating an older guy. I fear the same thing would happen to me.

... In the past, I dated someone they didn't care for, and went through he'll for it. Got kicked out of my house and was the outcast of the family.

... I was gonna have to hear "I told you so" for the rest of my life.

Sounds like your parents are the ones in need of a swift kick in the ass.


One of my very good friends (Taurus) was having a serious issue with her youngest daughter dating a black boy in high school, then she broke up with him, only to grow up and still be attracted to black men ... my friend wanted to lose her mind over it, just like your parents.

It took me a very long time to convince her that she only pushes her daughter away ... she is now married to her man, and instead of having an estranged daughter, wouldn't it be nice to have a daughter, a son-in-law AND your grandchild?

Instead of your parents wanting you to be happy with your choices .. they would rather that you be unhappy with theirs.

What you should do is make them grow up by living your life and making them accept it .. if they can't accept it, then this doesn't mean you should stop living.

P-Angel,

Thank you. That was a good insight. It's true what you said. I wish they were more open minded. No matter who I consider to date, I always think twice because I know how they are and I don't wanna put the other person through any of that. I feel that no matter who I date, they will always put the person down for one reason or another. That's why I stopped telling them things years ago. Wish I could be more like my sister and just not care.

Posted by mr.crabby
Women are very weak. They don't have much self-control. Just go with the flow!

Women are weak—? yes, that's why we are the gender who carry a baby in our womb for 9 months and then through extreme pain to deliver that baby. we are the ones who often work outside the home and also do the majority of chores involved in raising our children. if it were up to men to do all of these, the population base would cease to exist.

so go ahead mr. crabby and please explain again how women are weak.....

now you want to talk about lack of self control? answer me this mr. crabby...what gender is prosecuted in an over whelming majority when it comes to sexual abuse cases, violent crime cases and arguably are more unfaithful in their marriages? if you answer any of these questions with women, then you are in complete denial.

Women and men both bring individual strengths and weaknesses to the table. To generalize that women are weak and lack control and completely fail to point out the obvious facts about some men is just ridiculous. Put down the rose colored glasses and get a dose of reality. I'm sure even a cancer can do that every now and then.

Posted by mr.crabby
Women are very weak. They don't have much self-control. Just go with the flow!

Women are weak—? yes, that's why we are the gender who carry a baby in our womb for 9 months and then through extreme pain to deliver that baby. we are the ones who often work outside the home and also do the majority of chores involved in raising our children. if it were up to men to do all of these, the population base would cease to exist.

so go ahead mr. crabby and please explain again how women are weak.....

now you want to talk about lack of self control? answer me this mr. crabby...what gender is prosecuted in an over whelming majority when it comes to sexual abuse cases, violent crime cases and arguably are more unfaithful in their marriages? if you answer any of these questions with women, then you are in complete denial.

Women and men both bring individual strengths and weaknesses to the table. To generalize that women are weak and lack control and completely fail to point out the obvious facts about some men is just ridiculous. Put down the rose colored glasses and get a dose of reality. I'm sure even a cancer can do that every now and then.

@pandorasbox

Yes, I do live with them. Finincially, it's best for me since I'm working my way through school. Otherwise, I would love to have my own place.

And no he's not past 50 lol. I'm 23 and he's 36