She recently went quiet on me for a day and when we did speak she told me we were too toxic for each other, and that in time I will see what she sees and agree we shouldn’t be together. She told me she’s never been hurt like this and spent all night crying bc I was her first love. We still have each other on all social media and I told her I’d do whatever I needed to do to prove to her that I wanted to be with her and all she said was “okay”. She’s been using social media to take all this out on me I obviously know she’s hurt but now she is extremely angry and is posting about wanting a relationship. I don’t know what I should do to prove this to her? We had a great relationship and the “toxic” things that happened when we weren’t together but were still communicating. What would someone need to do to get you coming back around?
Update on crazy Gemini relationship
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@ACsquarepluto I was going to just try and let her cool off for a couple days and FaceTime her on her birthday but I do know Gemini’s move on fast and her friends have always encouraged her to leave me bc we are LD
@HoovesofTopaz she’s just been posting about not wanting to be stressed in a relationship and having someone come see her regularly which I cannot do
@redbull she is a destructive person who doesn’t know how to handle her emotions and has always pushed everyone she cares about away when she’s going through something and me coming clean to her about what happened in the past was just icing on the cake I guess
@Hoovesoftopaz I honestly don’t even know how the conversation came up but she kissed 3 other people and when I told her I someone tried to be with me sexually she lost it. I think it makes it worse bc she feels betrayed since it was a guy
@halalbae You’re right about the feelings part for sure. I feel like if she really wanted to move on she wouldn’t be talking to me still. I never understood why she wanted to be shown off and all of that bc it’s not important to me but I will definitely now do that and look crazy to do it lol

Where do I shop for boyfriend like you? I need someone who literally cares and tries their best
@pisceanloves I’m a girl too lol
@exsqueezme I know she cares about me and loves me and all of this is a front.
You said it's LD. State or country? Or what?
Posted by Gemi13
You said it's LD. State or country? Or what?
Far far states
Posted by exsqueezemePosted by Taurus99
@exsqueezme I know she cares about me and loves me and all of this is a front.
You left out the ‘e’ click to expandclick to expand
My bad
Posted by GemFallOut
Hi,
Gemi girl here.
Hmmm... this is difficult. I will start with the good news first. She's not moving on. The social media thing is something I've been known to do when I still have something to say towards something, but not to that one individual. Whatever, she's posting, pay attention, because that's what she's feeling. As well, if you two are talking, get her to take the Love Language test, as I'm thinking Quality Time may be one of her biggest ones. It doesn't matter if you are personally there for her, you need to make her feel like you are. Facetime is nice, but you need to think outside the box in regards to LD relationships. I've had three of these and my fourth was recently with a Scorpio. Send her flowers, play games with her, send her boxes of things she likes. Whatever you would do for her IRL, do long distance. It "closes" the gap.
Secondly.... I'm not sure the backstory of the conversation, but I can tell you that if you made her jealous and made her feel insecure and unstable of where she stands in your life, her mind is going off the walls and the first defense is to shut down and ice you out. I did it with my Scorpio. The hard part, you may not know what's really going on in her mind as she won't hand it directly to you.
I would give her some space. All of the above I mentioned in terms of how she is moving is simply from her mind racing. I didn't think my Scorpio was good for me either and it came from my mind racing.. However, when we spoke and when I saw him and he made me feel secure again, I realized those actions stopped. I was in my head and didn't know how to verbalize that without seemingly being weak... or vulnerable... which caused more tension in me as I didn't want him to see that and then leave me... I'm sure your Gemi feels the same.
Give her space and then pop back up. Don't worry about the romantic side of the relationship right now. She already thinks it's toxic. If she wants you, she will change her own mind. Focus on nothing but friendship with her. This will allow her to ease her own walls down without the pressure of seeming a certain way.
Her friends can't influence her more than you can right now. She's taking in everything people say but she's weighing them against what's being done probably. So if they say you aren't good, you show her you are. It's a game right now, but if your heart is sincere, this won't be a tough one for you to beat.
I have been working on something like that for her but I don’t know if I should send it now. She’s says she feels hollow, sick, furious and has a lot of animosity in her rn. I know she’s not gone yet and I’m trying not to contact her so much even though we did talk for just a couple hours I think I’ll stick to FaceTime and on her birthday go out of my way to show everyone how much I love her. And try to work at the “friends” thing but I don’t want her to lose interest
Posted by GemFallOutShe just FaceTimed me saying she didn’t mean to but called back bc it was rude when seemed intentional. Bc as soon as she saw me she smiled and caught herself. It was awkward but she told me she was going to the club so I said have fun and hung upPosted by Taurus99Posted by GemFallOutI have been working on something like that for her but I don’t know if I should send it now. She’s says she feels hollow, sick, furious and has a lot of animosity in her rn. I know she’s not gone yet and I’m trying not to contact her so much even though we did talk for just a couple hours I think I’ll stick to FaceTime and on her birthday go out of my way to show everyone how much I love her. And try to work at the “friends” thing but I don’t want her to lose interest click to expand
Hi,
Gemi girl here.
Hmmm... this is difficult. I will start with the good news first. She's not moving on. The social media thing is something I've been known to do when I still have something to say towards something, but not to that one individual. Whatever, she's posting, pay attention, because that's what she's feeling. As well, if you two are talking, get her to take the Love Language test, as I'm thinking Quality Time may be one of her biggest ones. It doesn't matter if you are personally there for her, you need to make her feel like you are. Facetime is nice, but you need to think outside the box in regards to LD relationships. I've had three of these and my fourth was recently with a Scorpio. Send her flowers, play games with her, send her boxes of things she likes. Whatever you would do for her IRL, do long distance. It "closes" the gap.
Secondly.... I'm not sure the backstory of the conversation, but I can tell you that if you made her jealous and made her feel insecure and unstable of where she stands in your life, her mind is going off the walls and the first defense is to shut down and ice you out. I did it with my Scorpio. The hard part, you may not know what's really going on in her mind as she won't hand it directly to you.
I would give her some space. All of the above I mentioned in terms of how she is moving is simply from her mind racing. I didn't think my Scorpio was good for me either and it came from my mind racing.. However, when we spoke and when I saw him and he made me feel secure again, I realized those actions stopped. I was in my head and didn't know how to verbalize that without seemingly being weak... or vulnerable... which caused more tension in me as I didn't want him to see that and then leave me... I'm sure your Gemi feels the same.
Give her space and then pop back up. Don't worry about the romantic side of the relationship right now. She already thinks it's toxic. If she wants you, she will change her own mind. Focus on nothing but friendship with her. This will allow her to ease her own walls down without the pressure of seeming a certain way.
Her friends can't influence her more than you can right now. She's taking in everything people say but she's weighing them against what's being done probably. So if they say you aren't good, you show her you are. It's a game right now, but if your heart is sincere, this won't be a tough one for you to beat.
I wouldnt send her anything right now honestly. She needs space and time. If you want to go all out on her birthday, do so, but don't expect anything from her. I know that's harsh to hear, but it's the truth. She will come around on her own timing and how she truly feels like it. Anything you do from this point on, do it because you care and love about her, and with no expectations on how things will go. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by Squishy_MarshmallowHow long does it take for you gems to stop being this way? What does the person have to do?
She likes you.
Posted by halalbaeMine in PiecesPosted by Taurus99
@halalbae You’re right about the feelings part for sure. I feel like if she really wanted to move on she wouldn’t be talking to me still. I never understood why she wanted to be shown off and all of that bc it’s not important to me but I will definitely now do that and look crazy to do it lol
A lukewarm partner makes us act out, but you should only change your approach if you feel comfortable doing it lol
What is both of your moon signs? click to expandclick to expand
Hers in Sag
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