@Sparky83
9 Years
why is my gemini man loving and attentive one day and the next day very distant
Ooh long distance... that's rough. Maybe just alter your expectations since you don't have a traditionally average marriage. You can't expect to have the same relationship as those that live together daily. He is part of a whole other world that you are not and that may be where the disconnect comes from.
My ex husband of 13 years was a Gemini and I am a Scorpio.
I found that Gemini men aren't all that big on constant communication if it gets "boring", which can cause conflicts. The way information and communication is expressed can be so conflicting. It's hard to sometimes understand one another. It takes A LOT of understanding. I suggest writing a letter to indicate what your insecurities are, so that it is better expressed.
Posted by nikkistar
My ex husband of 13 years was a Gemini and I am a Scorpio.I found that Gemini men aren't all that big on constant communication if it gets "boring", which can cause conflicts. The way information and communication is expressed can be so conflicting. It's hard to sometimes understand one another. It takes A LOT of understanding. I suggest writing a letter to indicate what your insecurities are, so that it is better expressed.
True! I don't either... I like joke, funny Gifs, gossip, news, interesting facts and then that leads to banter, more communication and bonding ?
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I've been married to my Gemini man for 3 years and him being a Gemini has been the biggest challenge... not because I'm a Scorpio, jealous, outspoken and very emotionally mature but because his mood changes so often and it's hard to not let it affect you when all you want is to enjoy your time with that person and be loving and they'd rather isolate themselves and be quiet. I've stayed in it this long because it's actually pushed me to grow and work on my own issues and there has been progress but we had To go thru hell and back to get there.
My biggest problem is feeling secure in the relationship. We are long distance as well because he's in the military so it's hard to trust and communicating is difficult, he will one day text or call me and be very attentive,enjoyable and express himself then the next day I can see he's online talking to friends and family but hasn't intitiated conversation with me that day so I end of initiating convo after I've waited the whole day but he doesn't seem as eager to talk. It makes it so difficult to feel confident in my marriage when my emotions are being pulled up and down so often. I consider myself a very strong and confident Scorpio who has tamed her tongue and just wanting to give love but being with a Gemini man makes loving so much work.
Just want advice from anyone married or has been in a long term relationship with a Gemini man. Maybe you have some advice of how to deal with that or how to keep his attention. All I know how to do is show him love and be supportive but maybe that is boring. I just don't want to play games when I'm married.