A LEO mans behaviour

I'm getting to know a Leo guy. I've understood his likes and dislikes, his point of views etc.. We met up on a Friday 8th March for the first time and it was so much we were talking and i helped him shop for clothes. went for a meal, watched a movie and went for a drive. End of the day he found out his uncle passed away.

After that we haven't met up at all. He was busy with looking for a job and the funeral and supporting family. I gave him his space and understood that he needs to focus on that..

He told me that the funeral was on Fri 15th. and our messages were getting less and we used to message good morning and good night everyday..even that cut down.

He messages me saying he misses me and that we should link up..i said i can but after work on fri.. I thought that being the day of the funeral he may want to meet up after for support and talk. His reply to that was oh i can only meet up for a bit because im meeting up my friends going out. I thought that was odd and i was alil upset thinking i thought he missed me and wanted to see me, hes had a death in the family and he wants to go out drinking and clubbing with mates. I just said fine have fun.

After that weekend went i didn't message much thinking he may want space and he's busy. we had a conversation on Monday and within those messages he said
'Not in a bad way i just want Tuesday to blow over n then i can get on with my life properly, im gna get some sleep, good night babe'

I didn't understand the Tuesday part but just thought its prob a family thing..

Yesterday evening I get a long message from him >>>

LEO MAN: 'I feel very betrayed n not worthy of past couple days, I no I haven't messaged but that's cos I was busy however today was the funeral and u new that other people who I just chat generally with where more there f For me and comforting then u....n I actually like u which has not

Put me a position to think that u didn't care at all What we had was amazing ashame how it's going to b over

But I tho u might have put abit of a effort even asked how it went today n shit

Like today my mate she messaged me n spoke to me n I tho oh this girl don't care at all she knew it was today aswell'

That was his response to me.. After that i was saying sorry that I wasn't there i thought that you wanted space because u are with family etc.. plus i was extremely busy at work and was being watched by management here.

After no response i realised that he never told me about the funeral being on Tuesday. He told me it was on Fri which i thought was over..

now from all this situation, can you tell me if this was some way to get my attention? Are LEO men like this? What pissed me off was when he mentioned that i wasn't there for him, when i have been coz i was helping him look for jobs. And the other when he compared me to his other female friend.

Jynja,

sorry if I have. He lost his job and is looking for work. I've been helping him looking out for jobs and informing him about them.. giving him advice etc..

About his uncles funeral I meant about emotionally supporting. Stressful with family politics i guess. negativity within the home etc..

The way he responded I thought if I said that I didn't know it was Tuesday, i thought he'd flip or something. Or maybe i was in the wrong that he told me and i forgot. I didn't want to piss him off.. but after I realised he didn't even tell me. I just want to know why the major reaction to this.. he's been going out clubbing etc like nothings happened.. Because I come from an Indian background, we have be taught that if we do have a death in the family, any festive we don't celebrate. So for him to go out drinking with his mates, and then reacting for support from me is odd.

Posted by seraph
Reading that message from him made my eyes bleed.

But anyway, it looks like it's over before it even started. Something happened on that first date. Something that either really wasn't kosher with him and he's decided it isn't worth the argument, or he just wasn't into you (I know that sounds clich?d but it does happen) and doesn't have the heart (or the guts) to tell you because he doesn't want to deal with letting you down. Leo males will sometimes avoid these situations and simply move on, thinking you've got the message. The thought of big emotional displays can make their mane hurt. Obviously I'm not referring to the better Leo makes out there. But there ya have it.

Stop helping him look for jobs. With your values, you might think you're doing the right thing. What you're doing is generous, but at this point it isn't right because he doesn't merit it.

Yeh I think my eyes did the same when i read that lol.. Yeh it seems like that too for me..the excitement has kinda gone already.. I mean when i wanted to talk to him he was busy with his family and i thought, ok il back off and now he's saying he needed me and wanted to talk and its like huh?? Seems like how we deal with emotional situations are completely different. I am an emotional person but iv always kept that to myself. Do Leos get like that? is it some attempt to grab my attention or something? Yeh you are right there.. I always go out of my way to help out even when its not asked for. I've advised him.. he can deal. 🙂

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Posted by Angeleyes17
Jynja,

sorry if I have. He lost his job and is looking for work. I've been helping him looking out for jobs and informing him about them.. giving him advice etc..

About his uncles funeral I meant about emotionally supporting. Stressful with family politics i guess. negativity within the home etc..

The way he responded I thought if I said that I didn't know it was Tuesday, i thought he'd flip or something. Or maybe i was in the wrong that he told me and i forgot. I didn't want to piss him off.. but after I realised he didn't even tell me. I just want to know why the major reaction to this.. he's been going out clubbing etc like nothings happened.. Because I come from an Indian background, we have be taught that if we do have a death in the family, any festive we don't celebrate. So for him to go out drinking with his mates, and then reacting for support from me is odd.

I'm not sure, is he Indian too?

I think he goes out drinking because he's getting support from his friends. Who knows, when they are drinking, they might be talking to him about how it will be alright and stuff.

His reaction might surprise you, but I see a man who is falling fast and so has expectations that he thought you'd fill but was very disappointed. I don't think you're wrong for forgetting or not being there... but his reaction screams that he might have been getting very emotionally involved and expecting that to be enough for you to come running to him when he's in a crises.

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Yes he's Indian too.. maybe guys do that.. go out drinking clubbing to release stress.. i don't know.. See that's the thing, yesterday he made me feel like such a horrible person for not being there for him. Coz he's coming across aggressive and showing anger at me.

I thought reading these threads I would learn more about Leo's, but can only come to the conclusion they are complicated beasts. In other threads I read they are not selfish, what a load of crap when all their energy is focused on them, and then you if there is any left. Hoping someone can clear this up but I'm beginning to think Leo men are either tunnel vision or narrow minded and can only think within a box, lucky I think beyond that.

I only get to see my Leo man mostly on weekends and this last week he went to friends Friday 9am to work on a truck. I had to work in the afternoon, so I sent him a txt how things are going I get a txt back, I got stuff to do, it's crazy here and I'm staying overnight. That's all good with me as I was getting home about 2am. Then Saturday I txt him about 11am how's he doing, I get a txt back I got stuff to do, it's crazy here. (full of information, not)

My son arrives at 10am and we take the boat out, then work rang to work extra shift Sunday, said yes as Leo man is unreceptive, however he does ring 2pm says he is at my house asking where am I. Did anyone read I knew he was coming over at that time, No, so I said I'm out boating. Leo man interrogated me with questions like, Can your car tow your boat?, No, So what towed your boat?, I said a car, he says what car?, what person?, who you with? etc. The questions finally stopped when I said my son's car towed my boat.

We had an argument at 3am of unsaid words, I got up and slept in lounge room. My alarm sounded and went to make up with my man before I went to work, but he was on fire and was ready to end us there and now, because he thought I was playing games about the boat incident. I said he should have brought it up yesterday when I got home and I acknowledged I did it deliberately because I felt he left me out with what he was doing and I did not interrogate him.

I said I only agreed to work Sunday because he couldn't give me 3mins of phone talk over Friday nor Saturday, nor the time of day to plan for Sunday, so I thought if I was going to spend another day on my own, I might as well work.

I went off to work knowing we made up, however he still had a smoldering fuse blowing but managed to put all his energy into cleaning up the yard and fixing stuff. I was so super impressed with what he accomplished. Though I have doubting thoughts at times, but this guy does actually loves me.