Here goes my story: I am currently a 27 year old single mother of three. Ever since my marriage disaster I have not been able to date anyone on any level without pushing them away. Currently I have a male friend (age 21). The status of our relationship is "FWB" (friends with benefits). We have been friends since January and we fell out in February because he was somewhat mean and nonchalant. I guess I was too clingy and looking for a relationship (which he didn't want). I pretty much moved on but always thought about him a great deal. In September I was surprised to see him. We hugged and exchanged numbers.I waited a week before calling him given the nature of the reason we fell out last time. We would text each other back and forth nothing too special just on a friend level. I think I made a very big mistake in suggesting that me and him be FWB. Well we live and learn. Anyway, I'm confused because we have great chemistry we have the best sex and we haven't been using condoms anymore which in fact I may be pregnant in my tubes but that's a whole other issue. Basically, every rule there is to FWB we've broken and then some. He keeps saying he don't want a relationship with me but he does all these other contradicting actions like saying he wants to move in with me, he is over my house every night but we don't have sex every night sometimes we talk and watch movies. I know that what I am feeling can't just be in my head. when he's around me he always wants to play all these love songs and stuff. It's pretty confusing!!! I tried to stop talking to him and after four days we we're back talking but he contacted me first. (I think he missed me) There has to be a reason why he wants to spend all of his time with me, give me the most intimate hugs, the most passionate kisses and so on and so on. I would feel a lot better if it was just strictly about sex but it's not. Last night he said he only has sex with me "Just cuz" and he then proceeded to ask me why I have sex with him and I couldn't even answer him right because I wasn't expecting him to want to know why I do. He said "You don't love me or nothing..." But never asked "do I?" why would he even care if he didn't care. Some say I'm going to be very hurt in the end others say he is trying everything in his power not to fall in love with me but it won't work. He even admitted to being mean to me on purpose so neither on of us will catch feelings. Which is dumb to me but whatever.
