are leo men emotionally fickle?

Hello all,

My leo man and I, have been together for 5 months long distance. In the first 2 months, he would initiate conversations, write me, call me. Then it slowed down more and more. I understand he is a very busy man, I have always remained patient, contacted him and patiently wait for his response. Every time we talk, he is so sweet and says such affectionate things. My notes to him are all affectionate and supportive, I often tells him he is the only man I want and he tells me he wants to share his life with me. Though his hot and cold behaviour makes me feel he doesn't like me very much. I ask him if he actually wants to be with me sometimes.. he said if he doesn't want to, he would tell me. It seems like it is always me, going out of my ways to contact him, to wait for him, making myself available to him.

He is suppose to visit me in July, we often talk about how excited we both are. However July is THIS SUNDAY! I have not heard a thing about his travel dates! The last time we spoke was on the 18th, sweet conversation, everything seem to be fine. I sent him an email requesting his travel dates on the 20th, he didn't respond. Another email on 22nd, asking if everything is alright with him and with us..., then another one on 23rd to tell him I am upset to learn my best friend is leaving potentially for good, then another one on 24th updating him on other aspect of my life and asked if everything is ok, if I have upset him in any way, and if I am still his girlfriend. I told him that I still consider myself to be because he hasn't said No. After all my notes, not one reply... its almost like he has disappeared off this planet.. I feel ignored and neglected. I can't understand why. Usually even if he doesn't write back, I still see him logging on and off of chat a few times a week, but last week, I didn't see him logged on at all! I begin to think maybe he has blocked me... I can't understand why he is ignoring me. It is breaking my heart... 😢

I know relationships can't be forced, people fall in and out of love for no reason all the time. I would understand if he decide not to be with me for whatever reason... but I need to know! I need him to tell me that... not ignored then disappear forever! I need some kinda closure! I don't know if I am still in a relationship or not.. I hate being in the grey area. I can't move on to date others without knowing if I am indeed single.

Maybe I am being a paranoid scorpio... maybe he is gone

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Thanks! 🙂

Don't put all bread in ONE basket......if U don't wanna starving to death when you lose the only one basket.
same as dating, especially...online dating, U should not date only one at a time...
Give yourself multiple choices...then there would be more probability for you to find the right one.
And there would be better results if no sex involved too early!
Good luck! 😄

I am a one man kinda girl. As long as he is on my mind, and i still feel i might be still his girlfriend, i cannot look for others.
I am not interested in others even if the opportunities come. In fact, i am not capable to. I am an attractive girl, i get hit on regularly.. But all i want is him, all i can thick about is him. 😢
I know i am silly to think or feel this way but i can't help it. This is torturing me!

He said he love me, want to share his life with me again just on the 18th!
Its sad to think it was all a lie and he didn't mean a word. I can't understand what is happening!

OK, just quit already. You've created a bad case of IYHS...In Your Head Syndrome. Breathe. First of all, quit calling and writing. This man hasn't had to work at anything with you...you've served it up on a silver platter and fed it to him. He's a Leo for pete's sake...they expect this sort of thing. It's all easy on the phone and text, but when it comes down to spending money, time and stepping up to the plate to execute, then it's a different story. The main thing here is that his actions are not matching his words. Key with men. Actions HAVE to match words.

Don't say another thing about anything. Don't call him, text, email...nothing. Let him make the next move and it will have to be signicant. Make sure his actions are backing up his words, and from what you tell here, they aren't. Leos expect the attention. Everyone gives them attention. Right now, you are like everyone else giving attention. Step back. Don't be so accessible to him. Don't ask questions. He may be busy, or going through a tough time...you don't know. And because all this is ld, you really don't know what's going on. Chill and go do something for yourself. Remember two things.....relationships are like a teeter totter...gotta have balance. And silence is the best communicator.

My Leo was very hot and heavy in the beginning, but we live about 30 minutes apart. I was guilty of being very accessible to him, returning his texts and phone calls immediately, and initiating some of the times we would spend together. I backed off almost 100% and he still calls and texts, but not as much. Thing is, he's got some major stuff on his plate and can't focus on me anyway. So what does backing off tell a guy, that you're not a nutcase and you can handle your emotions around him. Guys are FREAKING AFRAID of losing their freedom in a relationship. Don't ask where he's been, give him plenty of space to take care of his stuff. Right now, you've caged him in with all the attention, and now you're wanting to know when he's coming to see you. Don't do it. If you play your cards right, he will come back to you and be appreciative of the space you gave him. Key here is to continue to give him space. The more space you give, the more attention you will probably get from him. But you have to reverse the power. Right now, he has all the power and you have none. The person who appears to care the lease in a relationship has all the power.

And if you think for a minute that this is "playing games", it's not. This is the way men think and it's real. No game playing here.

Posted by callmegenesis
And if you think for a minute that this is "playing games", it's not. This is the way men think and it's real. No game playing here.

Sounds JUST like this Taurus Sun w/ Leo Moon I know. DAMN!

Genesis. Marry me?

And on another note.. I've found I think more like how people describe 'men to think like'.

@shortii

Leo Moon? Oh boy...

my daughter has aries sun/scorp asc/leo moon.........omg, i fear for my life on a daily basis, i have to keep her sweet or i suffer big time, lol.

huntress: i think like a bloke. men find it hard to understand. i've got four brothers and i was such a tomboy my dad said i was 'the son he never had' LMAO!!!

OP: if he fails to respond to one email or text, why send more—? keywords: elusive and exclusive. you're a scorp! be a bit more mysterious and try not to fall into the trap of 'bigging him up' in your head cos he's giving you the run around cos you'll develop an unrealistic view of him which will only hurt YOU. caution. stinger.

don't worry about what he may be thinking or feeling...that's for his head to deal with. you just have to turn down that scorp intensity a few thousand notches cos irrespective of sign, it can be too much for someone to digest lol.

Teheh, twas a tomboy too. Mom had to call poison control too many times after my exploring adventures.. admittedly, I never feared snakes. Actually I never cried over anything as a kid.. except when really stressed.

I can imagine it was an honor to teach his little girl how to kick ass.

My Leo wrote back tonight!!!
He apologise for being away, didn't get a chance to send me a note, tired, more busy as usual, receiving more training for his career. He also said he is thinking about me.

So..... Do I write back tonight—? Tomorrow— in 2 days?? More?? (I don't know what is the "correct" thing to do anymore!)

Posted by 321654
My Leo wrote back tonight!!!
He apologise for being away, didn't get a chance to send me a note, tired, more busy as usual, receiving more training for his career. He also said he is thinking about me.

So..... Do I write back tonight—? Tomorrow— in 2 days?? More?? (I don't know what is the "correct" thing to do anymore!)

the "correct" thing is to do what's right for you. personally, i would ignore him. men say allsorts to get themselves outta the shit.

....and don't get scared and think that if you ignore him, he won't bother trying again cos that's the point of ignoring him. you can only judge his actions or non-actions (made up word i think) and not anything he says. if he's bothered by your silence, let him show it and carry on ignoring him until he's made it very clear to you that he's 100% interested. if this is the last you hear from him, good riddance don't you think??

either way, it's time to seize back your power 😄

oh and finally, DO NOT EXPECT AN EXPLANATION OR APOLOGY. he's a man. they just don't do them....not if confronted with having to in any case. men have to set the landscape for that kind of thing when they're ready cos if they are really into you, they will explain anything they know they should. beer is usually involved lol.

I wrote back today anyway...
But i didn't use any sweet terms, say anything sweet, didn't say i miss him like i usually do, and didn't at all ask about his travel dates. i just wrote normally like how i would write to anybody, addressing his email breifly in 3 lines (i usually write lengthy emails).

I hope he would get the clue that i am upset... but who knows, maybe not... it might be days again until i hear from him next....

At times like this, i miss my loyal and predictable taurus ex... just too bad taurus is too stubborn for a scorpio.

This guy isn't as into you as he claims. I also wouldn't be surprised if he had a more convenient piece of ass on the side. He responded? Did he address any of the things that you asked about? Especially in regard to him visiting you next month? Actions don't match words, hence you should probably take all his talk with a grain of salt.

I think he's full of crap and stringing you along to stroke his ego. He wants a fix? He'll talk to you and get all the baby cooing about how you miss him. Don't be a doormat- He's taking advantage of that. I don't care how "busy" he is. If he really felt like he claims, he'd make the time to talk to you more than once or twice a week at this rate.

My brother is a busy guy with 40 hour work weeks, but he makes time to call his gf after work. Another guy friend of mine always called his gf right before he went to bed. It was his nightly routine. Point is that they will find the time, even if it's just to say hi real quick.

"Hur, I'm too busy!" is a cop out for not keeping in touch like they should. He's half assing it and you're letting him. I've heard this cop out from many confused females and usually the guy was just being a tool.

I sent him a rather "un-sweeten" short message this morning... and this afternoon, he sent me back a rather "un-sweeten" short message back...
It made me feel awkward... and sad... its like the kinda notes that acquittance write to each other to wish each other a good day... it doesn't feel like we are dating at all...

I didn't really know how to respond... 😢

OK, you're NOT dating...you're having a ld "relationship". You've got a dozen people telling you to step back, that this guy's actions are not matching his words, and you are still catering to his every need. Please stop. Don't call, write, email, text, send a carrier pigeon....nothing. If this guy wants to speak about anything significant, i.e., your relationship, then he will contact you. The most important thing here is to go about your own way....really take stock of WHY you are putting up with this crap from him. If he is not treating you with love, care and respect, then he doesn't deserve a place in your life. Keep your head held high and don't answer his every email and communication. You're better than that.

OK, you're NOT dating...you're having a ld "relationship". You've got a dozen people telling you to step back, that this guy's actions are not matching his words, and you are still catering to his every need. Please stop. Don't call, write, email, text, send a carrier pigeon....nothing. If this guy wants to speak about anything significant, i.e., your relationship, then he will contact you. The most important thing here is to go about your own way....really take stock of WHY you are putting up with this crap from him. If he is not treating you with love, care and respect, then he doesn't deserve a place in your life. Keep your head held high and don't answer his every email and communication. You're better than that.

Hey 321, do you like dating assholes?

She apparently does. I mean really, FIVE months total and all the initiation on his part stopped after 2? How much longer are you going to allow this to happen? You deserve better than that.

A guy's true self comes out after 2-3 months. You already hit that spot. He appears to be a self absorbed douchebag. Why would you want to be with THAT?

So I took you guys' advices of not contact him. Our communication have became once a week. While we had a great skype conversation 2 weeks back where he told me many sweet words of plans to marry me and start a family. After that, just a short note about once a week.

Tuesday night, he sent an email to say he misses me and hope to catch up tomorrow. On Wednesday night, I came on chat at about 11:30pm, and he was online (on g chat). I sent a few messages throughout 30mins, but no single reply. Then, I saw he went on skype. Didn't msg me.. so I logged off after 10 mins. I send him another message on g-chat saying "I sent you a few messages but you didn't reply, I don't know what you are up to, so good night". He responded right away "I on on skype hon, hold on I am talking to my brother." Something just doesn't feel right in my head. if he has been on skype for 10 mins, why didn't he reply in the 30 mins before? He changed his profile pic on skype from one top naked photo to another top naked photo. Doesn't seem like he was telling the truth.

I couldn't take it any more and confronted him.
Me: It might be crazy for me to ask but, are you seeing someone else?
Him: no, what do you think I am?
Me: I just do... maybe because I think you don't like me very much
Him: What did I ever say or do to make you feel that way?
Me: you didn't say anything, it is just a feeling that I have
Him: 😢 So you don't want to see each other? Want me to leave you alone?
Me: I want to be with you, just that I feel you don't feel the same
Him: I'm sorry you feel that way?
Me: I need to know if you still love me
Him: sorry, still do
Me: Really?
Him: yes
Me: I don't want to be led on, I don't want to waste anyone's time. I need to know so I can move on.
Me: Do you still think of me as your girlfriend?"
(40mins pause. He fell asleep then woke up)
Him: Yes, I do want you as my girlfriend. Sorry I fell asleep
Me: If you are up for a little while, do you want to skype for a bit?
Him: Its ok baby, I miss you too. (I don't know for sure what he meant yes or no, so I logged on to skype)
Waited for 10 mins, he didn't come on...
Me: I guess I miss-understood, i guess some other time.. good night
Logged off broken hearted.

At morning, he sent a note to say he is thinking of me, want me as his gf, sorry to keep falling asleep and missing me, it is just him being tired and not because he didn't want me. I wrote just "ok" but I still have a bad feeling.

Am I pa

Am I paranoid? Was it crazy to confront it? Should I believe him? Does he think I am a nagging bitter melon now?
How can I get him to give me more attention and show that he does care more?

321 You chose the wrong astrological sign for long distance, if you weren't a couple BEFORE the distance was put in between you then it most likely won't work out well for you. Leo males need physical contact, the other posters are not misleading you but you are not listening, find someone CLOSER to home, a lion will seek proximity even when there is a female hanging in the background hoping for reciprocation. Male Leo's aren't fickle, they just move on to new territory and hope you get the hint. If you are seeking specifically a long distance relationship then I have to wonder why you are being so unavailable, women who want love, want intimacy, want to feel her partner, be physical don't really seek out long distance relationships with a man because you can't really get needs met from a distant partner, maybe you should check in with yourself and put some distance between the both of you first so you can sort yourself out first before pursuing a relationship with a man.

Posted by tiki33
321 You chose the wrong astrological sign for long distance, if you weren't a couple BEFORE the distance was put in between you then it most likely won't work out well for you. Leo males need physical contact, the other posters are not misleading you but you are not listening, find someone CLOSER to home, a lion will seek proximity even when there is a female hanging in the background hoping for reciprocation. Male Leo's aren't fickle, they just move on to new territory and hope you get the hint. If you are seeking specifically a long distance relationship then I have to wonder why you are being so unavailable, women who want love, want intimacy, want to feel her partner, be physical don't really seek out long distance relationships with a man because you can't really get needs met from a distant partner, maybe you should check in with yourself and put some distance between the both of you first so you can sort yourself out first before pursuing a relationship with a man.

Thanks for your response tiki33. It was him who seeked me... I didn't purposely seek for a long distance relationship.
It was him that says the distance would only make the love stronger when we are together. He said love has no distance and no boundaries. He asked me many times if I am able to handle long distance relationship before we became a couple 😢

are leo men such cowards that they can't man up and tell his poor girl the truth?
are they so cruel that they rather have the girl hang high and dry with a broken heart... never knowing exactly what happened? no closure, no answers?

Men are HUNTERS, just because he's aggressively seeking you out doesn't mean SERIOUS, doesn't mean he's serious about you, I along with countless others have mistaken aggressive chasing from men as MEANINGFUL and yet it meant nothing so learn from this, the next guy who seeks you out well you don't have to take him seriously until it's SERIOUS, some times a woman can be too easy to get and the THRILL is gone just like that so take your time, don't relegate your mind over to one man until you know for sure it's real, this will prevent YOU from moving too fast and also will prevent heartbreak when the chasing is over and he's gone you won't have put so much of your energy in something that wasn't real from the start, when you invest mentally-emotionally too fast then you end up getting your feelings hurt when it's not necessary to be the one hurting most if not all of the time. Slow down even when he's pushing to move fast you go at your pace not his.

Unavailable men choose long distance relationships specifically because it's EASY, it's easy to drop out of a woman's life, it's easy to lead her on, it's easy to lie to her, it's easy to use her so don't believe everything a guy tells you, clearly he's being UNAVAILABLE towards you so remember this, remember that there are some men that SEEK OUT long distance relationships because they are unavailable in some way be it mentally/emotionally and/or physically or all of the above so if you truly want something real with another human being the odds of you getting what you want will INCREASE when you decide to date closer to home.

This man isn't able to handle a long distance relationship and that's clear through how he's behaving as in being unavailable towards you so take a step back, breathe, relax and OBSERVE how he's not able to handle being with you and then make an objective decision to either move on or put up with it.

I'm not sure how old you are but you definitely should consider brushing up on developing your dating skills and be more conscious of using your gut level intuition skills as well.

Posted by 321654
are leo men such cowards that they can't man up and tell his poor girl the truth?
are they so cruel that they rather have the girl hang high and dry with a broken heart... never knowing exactly what happened? no closure, no answers?

SYou've been dominated, your problem not his

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The one most important thing you're not expressing is CONFIDENCE, a Queen attitude, deserving of his love attitude and not having that can make a lion feel unsure/insecure about giving his energy to the relationship. You can't make him feel like he's more important than you and yet you have to find balance as to stroke him a little to create a stronger bond but the doormat behavior/communication will only create emotional/mental distance between the both of you.

We don't know if he's a hunter/Alpha that eats and keeps and protect his territory and everything in his territory or a lazy kitty that hunts sleeps and plays with his food....You may have a lazy kitty on your hands so you'll have to stop being so whiney/fragile/unsure and fragile and be a bit more secure and FIRM with your lion.

Posted by seraph
Of course we aren't fickle!

We're quite steady and constant, like the Northern Star, and our involvement runs very deep, so how can you even imply tha . . .

I'm not into this thread anymore, bye.

Lmfao I guess that was implying that you guys are fickle!?

Be careful and don't let yourself get scorched and needlessly scarred by an "unwitting" Leo brute who didn't even think "meh, now why would this hurt?" As soon as he said that if he didn't want to be with you he would let you know, that is a big warning bell. Leo guys are supposed to be straightforward and straight up all the time. If he's feeling cornered and/or turned off by too many questions and too much scrutiny, he will back off and you will be left in the cold void of the sudden absence of his warm affections and attentions. And it just may leave you craving more and wondering what you did wrong and how can you get him back? Leo men tend to be too dumb and proud to know when it's time to just admit that something isn't working out for them and it's time to move on. I know, I'v eheard it said that a good Leo man is worth the pain and heartache because when it's good, it's really good.