Breaking Up With A Leo

He's a Leo, I'm a Capricorn.

We have this long-distance relationship but we're on Skype almost all day. He's an insomniac and when I sleep he's at work so when he gets home and I wake up, we're in front of our laptops talking to each other.

The relationship was great and we feel so in sync with other. I tend to be needy and clingy and he likes that. I like putting him on a pedestal and he likes that too.

This is the second time we've broken up. The first time was because I admitted to lying to him about something that I did before we became a couple. He was really mad, really sad and I was distraught. Just a few days later he initiated contact and eventually we got back together but the relationship wasn't the same since.

Now we had a big fight that involved a lot of cussing and insults. It had something to do with his ex. I just can't compete with his past anymore and I know that he won't be able to fully commit to me until he's had some form of closure with his ex. The situation has made me feel like a back up plan, like an option just in case it doesn't work out with his ex or something.

It's been a week now and I haven't contacted him nor have I tried. But today he sent me a message saying that he knows we've reached the peak of our relationship and it's basically over and we've both given up but he can't get what we had off his mind.

So I'm really confused. I really love him and I been happy with him but his ex situation just makes me defensive and by reflex I try and protect myself from any future pain. It's just that he can't commit to me and I can't commit to him because of it so he feels like it's going nowhere which probably is.

Is it really never over for a Leo after they've broken up? I really don't like staying friends with my exes but it feels as though he needs me in his life still. So confused. Can someone explain to me how Leo males are when a relationship ends?

If we fall for someone and bond emotionally, we cannot end a relationship. The fact he contacted you means he is emotionally connected. You are 100% correct about exes. If he was in love with his ex, it will take him a long time to be strong enough to leave her in the past. I for one, will never have a woman as plan B. never in my life have I been emotionally and physically connected to two people. If his ex left him, he may still be going through that pain, so definitely keep your guard up. If your Leo is like me, he would not have sent you the most recent message if he wasn't connected emotionally with you. He is being passive aggressive and wants you to disagree with what he wrote. I can assure you if you respond with some type of agreement that it's over, he will panic. He may be wounded for a couple of days, but he will contact you again. Leo's cannot handle rejection from someone they emotionally connect with. If he disappears, than he was not emotionally connected and you did the right thing.

Posted by tropicalriot

It's been a week now and I haven't contacted him nor have I tried. But today he sent me a message saying that he knows we've reached the peak of our relationship and it's basically over and we've both given up but he can't get what we had off his mind.

So I'm really confused. I really love him and I been happy with him but his ex situation just makes me defensive and by reflex I try and protect myself from any future pain. It's just that he can't commit to me and I can't commit to him because of it so he feels like it's going nowhere which probably is.

Is it really never over for a Leo after they've broken up? I really don't like staying friends with my exes but it feels as though he needs me in his life still. So confused. Can someone explain to me how Leo males are when a relationship ends?

I'm a Leo *waves* and I have dated more than one Leo, in the past (not a good combination for me).

Your frustration and anger are legitimate.

I don't know that being wishy-washy is typical of a Leo for long; but if you continue with him while he is still on about his ex (which I see you are unwilling to do), it will continue-- because you're allowing it.

And-- she's probably stringing him along.

This: "he knows ... we've both given up but he can't get what we had off his mind. "

Sounds like he's looking for clarification-- just my opinion, of course.

So, clarify.

NO, you have not given up.

YES-- you would like to continue you the relationship; but you will not tolerate the presence of his ex.

Tell him to contact you when he has worked those issues out, and you'll be willing to talk *IF* you are still available.

Because you will NOT wait around.

Settling for someone who is still wallowing in the absence of an ex? Not attractive.

Self-respect, however-- Leos eat that sh*t up.

It's true. Run with it. 😉

My Leo ex did not know how to say goodbye, and we were long distance as well. He tried for 3 years after I said it was over, despite the fact I was dating others. Oi.

Thank you for the very helpful answers!

I don't think he has read what I have replied yet. Basically I just said that I don't know what to do and that even just seeing his photo is painful for me. I think I'll just try and explain to him the best I could that I really cannot commit fully to someone who still has his ex(es) in the picture. He complains sometimes that I'm cold and distant, he probably doesn't think I'm capable of it since I practically worship him and he knows that.

I do believe his ex is stringing him along. He told me before that she's an "all-or-nothing" type so I guess hence the fear of totally cutting her off from his life. It's so frustrating. But I miss our time "together" because we spend half the day laughing and the other half just talking. Sigh.

he sounds confused. nothing gives better clarity to confusion than being alone.....so i would leave him alone rather than let him drag you back into his confusion.