CALLING ALL LEOS ON DECK

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Hello my handsome leo men and beautiful leo women. I been reading up on this forum for months and now I find myself needing some guidance on my leo Here's the short and sweet facts to know: Leo man, Aug 8, 33 yrs old, no kids but want kids within 2 yrs. I am a true gemini, 29yrs old with children. We both work together at the same job but in next couple months that will change. So at first we were casual friends/coworkers. He was on a previous relationship with his so called first love for 4-5 years. Yeah it took it bad (ill come back to this in a sec).Before we has sex we flirted on FB a lot. From the beginning I knew he just wanted sex. We had sex twice, broke up for three weeks, and since then we go back/forth with breakups (BTW this is usually because of FB flirtation on both ends however, let him tell the story he flirts b/c he sees me flirting).Now we been FWB for over and four months. We talk about everything (goals, family,job issues, etc) we make each other laugh, we go on dates (movies/out to dinner), we are affectionate in public, we text daily, I spend the night when we hook up...which is any where from 2-5 times a week (varies), our sex is PHENOMENON! Our sexual attraction on BOTH ends is marvelous and off the charts...we give chemistry a new name called "SUPATASTIC", we both connect on a mental level to each other..I give him adoration and compliments all the time...we contact each other on holidays and we spent our first Valentines together and we hook up on each others birthday, he bought me a gift for Christmas ( A coach purse which I was surprise) and I bought him a diamond bracelet...Now the ugly: YES at first he has been straight forward and said "he's not ready, he wants to get things in order bc he last relationship shown him not to depend on a woman to make him happy" He has also stated that he wants a serious relationship just not now. Every time we argue when I caught up in my feelings he tells me the same as what I just stated as well as saying that he knows my value, that Im a great woman, that he has look at me as the "one", he has looked at how our lives can blend together...he has no kids and I have children so he explained to me that he's scared....scared of the kids possible not respecting him, etc...he also stated that he's not 100% on dating me excursively and not 100% "JUST" wanted to date (yeah he's one of those indecisive ones and not just w/relationships...(READ ON)
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***more reading *** Every time we argue??_.sometimes we smooth it over and every time is OK and back to schedule as normal??_and sometimes we don't and I tell him im going to leave??_he tells me he doesn't want me to leave but he understands my situation??_..which is I cant take the fact that he hasn't decided to take me serious and still wants to be single because —hes not ready—?_.when we??re together, its heaven on earth ??_we affectionate, he holds me at night, he gets jealous when he sees I flirt (I mean he gets mad, really mad til I smooth him over or he gets over it but never an argument more than 2days then we??re back without skipping a beat)??_it seems like we go thru our —commitment?? spells every 2-3 months but lately since we been spending more time we had arguments monthly??_.but again sometimes we smooth over and continue the process and those are the typical disagreements??_.HOWEVER, one time I did leave for one week??_.when I came back it was on his birthday and he was so happy to see me??_.every time I say —Im done?? of course he charms me (like come on lets hang, play pool, drinks, etc) and Im back and we start again til the next BIG one??_he's not the emotional type??_he says action speak louder than words to him??_he says I should know how he feels??_he says he wants me to open up to him and allow him to be there for me (which he said plenty of times —he's there any time I need him)??_he says no matter what he values and wants us to be friends regardless??_he says he's never had a female friendship before and even with his previous girlfriends, never had someone who he can connect physically and intellectually??_
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*** last reading *** He has stated to me recently that he thinks I should pursue him more??_.he said this because he's noticed that I contact him only when he contacts me (which is true but not intentional)??_He went out of town recently during the ALLSTAR weekend , came back and wanted to see me, said he misses me, had sex and days afterwards the LEO cold treatment??_.but snapped out that day??_then he went out of town again and text message every day and as soon as he came back he texted to see me??_I came into the house and he immediately hung me and first said he missed me??_He has those hot/cold leo treatments but still text me daily just moody??_I give him his space (2 dys max) and when he's ready he come back as normal??_.I met his friends and brother (like within 8 mos of relationship), he has met my brother, we go out to clubs together (the times I feel like it)??_he does say he cares about me and its more than just sex (bc hes older now)??_he gives me compliments all the time??_the today??s argument was FB of course which we have unfriended each other like a month ago because of the petty fights FB caused)??_he tells me hes NOT wanted to be —boxed in?? to a certain way and just wants to take it slow but {IF} he wanted to go out w/another woman he is, he told me that he wants us to continue doing what we do with this in mind, strengthen the friendship because we should have that no matter what, and that he still wants me there for me??_I told him without the sex and he gets mad when I try to take that away??_however he did admit that he's not sleeping w/any other woman??_..I can tell he's scared of rejection bc he's always wanted to make it seem like he broke things off with me when it seem inevitable ??_so with all this in mind, here's what I need Leos to guide me on. 1) if Im still around when he's ready then Im still in the running huh? 2) do you think he playing me? 3) will he ever commit? (which is had stated im everything he wants in a woman, hes just scared) 4) if this is true (being scared) what can I do or what do I need to do? 4) Im sure you guys will tell he to fallback some but not too far (bc what I understood especially the insecure/immature leo men- they don't know what they have til they don't have it anymore (he is very selfcentered))??_but how do I do this? What does that consist of? We??re basically BF/GF w/o the title??_his actions doesn't match his words UGH! What do I need to understand? I love th
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misskcfierce
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OK...ive read this but can u you answer this tho....then WHY does he have moments where he wants US then claims he doesnt? Or how bout ACTING like we're in relationship when supposedly Im not giving his the chase to this (me) prize?
Or hell, the fact that he has admitted strong feelings for me and just in between in his decision? A dead friend has a leo daughter and she advices me to fall back but not too far back...what the heck that mean and how do I do that? any advice is extremely helpful and thanks for responding
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misskcfierce
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Im sorry to be a B****, LOL but why do i feel as though Im doing the opposite of what he and I want. I know I had a lot of typo's and not the correct format to post this discussion...but to clarify bc of my typos: Yes him and I are really good friends just having great sex...I know without a shadow of doubt that he has strong feelings for me and of course yes he does know my feelings are mutual....What I read from these forums are usually short term affairs...not trying to discount what advise Im receiving however Im getting contradictions to Leo men...some say ignore him and he will stay....some say that he needs an audience and adoration...some say he need to feel LOVE...then I hear/read to cut him off/fallback....dont let him in...Listen, yes I will admit I have not put my foot down the way I say...I can totally see why Im not getting the commitment part (which I never stated I wanted at this time) We have been having this arrangement for over 1+ years...at the beginning- it was contact at booty call hours...but thats not the case now...we are together during his days off or heck even if we are both horny- we still hook up for the day (throughout the day) not at night not unless we was attending a movie or going to a night bar...Yes he has made changes for me...I have put my foot down regarding the FB issues...took me a couple arguments but he finally gotten the point that I will not tolerate flirtness on FB where I can see it blast in my face...he does respect me as a person, a woman...he has told me to pursue him more- i guess so he can see the real deal behind my words "I like him, I have feelings for him, I want to be with him, etc" it runs him the wrong way and upset him kinda when I dont do what he expect me to do- which is to show him how I feel. All im saying and maybe Im not accepting it...but Im not the typical booty call chic...Im not even the sideline chic (which he has told me over and over Im not)...but to hear that Im totally possible not a value to him so to speak- I find impossible..,,...IJS he allows me to know he private things like password, leaving his fb open and available, he trusts me- which I heard is hard for a leo man to do... he was HEAVILY guarded when we got together but now he's very open with me on the private personal matters
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Posted by seraph
Thanks for posting.

Everything you just wrote . . . empty your mind of *all* of that. It really is much simpler than you think.
You're allowing way, way too many details to get in the way.
Because 9 times out of 10 the answer is always the same, and the solution depends on how far you've let this go on,
and if you're lucky, how disciplined you can be to salvage it from here on in.

Look at where you are in your relationship, and start over with a new strategy (the one you have isn't working), based on what you learn here:

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/Can-Leo-be-put-to-place-Can-you-deal-with-it!-3130337.asp
and here:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/leo/what-is-friendship-to-a-leo-3150371/
What you've posted so far in this thread isn't worth any direct discussion, because it isn't working.

Once you read through those links - and please be thorough (because you obviously *are* thorough) - you'll
have questions that pertain to *workable* strategy. So *then* we can start a discussion based on
what you can do moving forward.



omg..it's seraph the DXP librarian again!!!

he doesn't like it if you write too much. it hurts his head. mind you, it is the same old leo blah so he's doing you a favour really, lol
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is it actually worth expending the amount of energy it obviously takes to ensure a leo man's ego is consantly stroked?? i mean, what is the actual ROI on that deal anyway?? the way you talk seraph, leo men are like every woman's holy fucking grail and guess what.....there is no evidence this is true. not for me anyway. i'm agnostic and that filters through every belief system i have...including my belief that leo men are all mouth and no trousers (i would say pants but i speak british english and pants are underpants and whether all leo men go commando or not is neither here nor there to me). i need evidence to the contrary before altering that belief.



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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
is it actually worth expending the amount of energy it obviously takes to ensure a leo man's ego is consantly stroked?? i mean, what is the actual ROI on that deal anyway??





but that applies to all men, Rig
in the end it's a stupid and futile effort to stroke anyone's ego
men are good when they are friends, they are really good then
otherwise they are nothing but a constant headache, be it an aqua or a Leo
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Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
now did you see how smoothly i did that seraph? without you even noticing i navigated you into a position where you were able to prove me wrong, thus providing you with an ego stroke without you even getting a whiff of my intention.

how clever am i, lol.



As long as it was as good for you as it was for me, R1g. 😉
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i'm still smoking my cigarette 😛
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Posted by ShahBano
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i'm beginning to think you know way too much about me. i may have to shoot you.



would you do it yourself Rig ?
i can send you an Afghan sniper, as a good will gesture
anything to aid/assist a friend !
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yeah, i would do it myself with using some kind of long distance heat seeking bullet mechanism but i LOVE the offer of the afghan sniper and would ask that i keep this favour in reserve shah? it's funny how the brits near me measure a person by how evil some of their 'friends' are, so if they sniff that i have a connection like that, they'll steer clear of me forever!
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of course you can keep the offer in reserve
any where any time,
i would send you the best one 🙂
the most good looking and suave too, who is also a Berkeley university (SP- IDK) graduate

as for the present scenario, actually i was rethinking my offer, because the said target is supposed to be the King of our pride, and we --all of us lionesses are actually a bit too fond of him, and very protective about him. so i was thinking that if you needed that sniper for this target, i would definitely send you one, as i have promised you, but then i would send five more to protect him as well.
are you really serious about the business of shooting our King? i should know, so i can buffer up the security.
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Posted by ShahBano
of course you can keep the offer in reserve
any where any time,
i would send you the best one 🙂
the most good looking and suave too, who is also a Berkeley university (SP- IDK) graduate

as for the present scenario, actually i was rethinking my offer, because the said target is supposed to be the King of our pride, and we --all of us lionesses are actually a bit too fond of him, and very protective about him. so i was thinking that if you needed that sniper for this target, i would definitely send you one, as i have promised you, but then i would send five more to protect him as well.
are you really serious about the business of shooting our King? i should know, so i can buffer up the security.



LOL, yes we do seem to prowl around him in a tight leonine circle....

See how easy it is to stroke a leo mans ego, you don't even need to put much effort in 🙂