I'm a virgo of 35 years old and leo guy I like 29.. We met many years ago on a social network.. but even if we talked about meeting in person, as I was in a relationship but not happy, we never did.. anyway all those years I had my doubts about him as he would write to me email or chat with no name or forename and on facebook again he had a profile with no tagged pics with friends.. And never let me saw him in webcam.. so for me this was strange and I never gave him too much attention.. he would be the one to write me first and I only responded.. he every time would tell me how he was attracted to me.. and I loved how he looked on the pics he used to send me.. I was in love with his splendid face.. and some character traits which he transmitted to me during the time we chatted??_ he was very dominating, which I like in a man.. he seemed protective.. When I asked him from time to time how come in all those years he was still single ? he explained that he was very picky, all girls he meets let him down for one thing or another.. I understood he doesn't like noisy, loud, vulgar girls.. So I said to myself — I could be the one for him??.. too bad I had my doubts about him being real.. So about one month ago he started again to write me messages.. but this time I ignored him and cancelled him from my facebook friends list.. It got me on my nerves all this mystery of him.. So one day on my profile facebook at friends you could meet, which means those people watched your profile, I found his real profile, with name and forename, pics with friends, family etc.. I was glad because finally I knew he was real.. but on the other hand that bothered me because I understood all this time he didn't trust me.. maybe he didn't want to let me know the real side of him.. So I sent him my friendship request and told him.. he said —awesome??.. On his real profile I got to know new things about him, like he loved to party hard on weekends, he was always laughing and playing pranks to his friends.. while I thought of him like a lonely guy, not funny at all and very antisocial.. so this was a nice surprise for me to discover this side of him.. The new thing I discovered and didn't like was him having lots of women friends from all over the world, while he travels a lot for his job, even if there are any pics with any of these girls.. One thing I noticed that since I took part myself from his friends list, he stopped giving me —likes?? at any of my pics while
while continuing to give —likes?? to others.. of course that bothered me.. and I didn't understand why.. So we talked again about meeting each other.. He lives at 1 hour and a half distance by train.. and as he lives by himself we agreed that I should pay him a visit when he had a free weekend.. in the meantime he continued to write me how he was still attracted to me, and me of course I gave him lots compliments myself.. but I insisted that we would not do anything sexual, just try to know each other.. he said —that's fine by me.. there's no planning when one should make love??.. I loved his answers.. But the day before we agreed to meet, he disappeared.. I kept sending him messages, I saw he was reading them, but I didn't get an answer the whole day.. I was so disappointed and was sure he was making a fool out of me.. The next morning he was asking me to forgive him and tried to explain that he was to a concert the whole evening and could not answer.. for me this was bullshit.. So I cancelled him from facebook.. and stopped any communication with him for about 3 weeks.. but I told myself, I should meet anyway this guy.. I was curious and intrigued by this guy for so many years.. this could not end like this.. so I sent him a message asking him —why you??re not saying anything anymore—.. he responded — what more could I say? You were offended and you were right to be.. I don't deserve any of your attention??.. So I insisted That I want to see him anyway just to demonstrate that he was a real man, serious and kind as he let me know all those years.. and was agree and told me we should meet next weekend.. Finally I got to see him.. after all those years.. omg he was more beautiful in person that in the pics.. only he was not very tall as I wished, but didn't matter anyway.. He was very kind, acted like a true gentlemen , opened the car door for me ( wow).. We had dinner at a restaurant.. I was very emotional but he acted so self-assured, he was very funny, we laughed, talked a lot.. when I asked him about him being always single, he explained that apart the fact that he never finds the right one, a girl that doesn't nag him when he is away even for a week in different countries, especially Eastern.. and that he is very negative about love.. he knows for sure that he or her will cheat someday.. I told to myself —well I could never cheat you??..
After dinner when we got to his apartment we talked a lot, he seemed very open to any kind of conversation, watched tv.. but still no touching.. When it got late he asked me where I prefer to sleep, with him or on the couch.. I said with him.. so in bed we talked again.. I was not dressed sexy at all, as I knew we wouldn't do anything but maybe just kissing.. I know leo guys love the woman they have in and out of bed to look sexy.. So suddenly he started to kiss me and in a very passionate way.. after a while I stopped him, he asked me — can you control yourself —.. and I said —self -control is my middle name??.. he said —good for you??.. I asked him —I hope you??re not disappointed ? ??.. he said —absolutely not??.. and we remained just looking at me with his amazing eyes, smiling at me.. Of course I could not get any sleep the entire night, I was too agitated.. in the morning while he was still sleeping I just watched him for hours.. how beautiful he was.. I wanted so much to kiss him, to touch him, to hug him, but I didn't do anything.. I didn't have the courage.. I didn't know how he would react.. When he got up, I started to have a big headache, so he gave me a medicine.. But I was so tired and got really upset when I saw that time was passing by and I had with him only 2 hours left.. he was still nice to me but cold, he didn't give me any kiss nor he got near me.. he cooked lunch, smth fast.. I become very serious, could not even eat, almost started to cry.. I told him that while he was sleeping I wanted to hug him but I didn't know if he will like it or not.. he responded to me — who doesn't like being hugged —.. Well I had to control myself not to start crying.. So I got back home.. the same day I sent him some messages saying him how much I liked him and explained why I was so upset the day I left.. and he answered me —well don't worry, next time it would be better??.. I was so glad.. I think this was the best time to stop texting him.. but I was so excited so I kept writing him, flattering him, complimenting him.. I guess I did wrong.. cause he changed his mind..
He told me that he completely forget that I was still in a relationship and he doesn't wish to do harm not to me nor to my partner.. I explained to him that I don't have anything to do with my boyfriend of mine for more than 1 year and a half, and that in maximum 1 month I will leave him and go to London for work.. and that we could see each other just to cuddle, kiss, without making love until I would close for good my actual relationship.. As an answer I got —well you are a beautiful person and you don't deserve to get attached by me, considering the slight possibilities for me to commit and have a serious relationship.. so you should get in good health ( as he know I suffer from a chronic neuralgia) and go to London, without having to suffer for leaving me here??.. These were the last texts I got from him.. and after that he went in vacation for 2 weeks.. I don't know if these were just excuses, that maybe he doesn't liked me enough.. maybe I demonstrated myself to emotional, too needy, gave him too many compliments, so he lost his interest.. I know he likes strong women who are able to control their emotions.. me, I'm very impulsive when I like someone so much, I'm not into games, I let him know how much I like him, I'm a volcano of emotions witch I can't control.. I know Virgo women are a lot critical but with this guy I didn't feel the need to contradict him in any of his conversations, and even if I wasn't agree with everything he was telling me, his being so secure of himself, made smile with admiration even at things I not normally agree with.. so I loved this way of dominating the conversations we had.. Maybe he was in search just for a night of sex with me ? at first I thought he would have sex with all those girls on his work trips, but maybe it's not like that??_ maybe he's just flirting.. cause he likes women attention.. anyway, not even when he was on vacation after seeing each other he continued to put —likes?? on other girls pics and nothing on mines.. He ignored all of my texts I sent him while he was on vacation.. I wasn't not being aggressive while texting, asked him anything.. just told him again and again how much I wanted to see him.. but I guess this was wrong too.. I know leo men want attention, and I tried to give him attention.. but it wasn't a strategy, I just felt like doing this.. I'm very sweet as a person and affectionate, so when I really like someone I don't play hard to get..
Maybe I let him the impression that I am too available for him, too needy and desperate, insecure.. and hates women like that.. I even wrote this to him, in my last text, that I'm sorry I was too pressing with him not being able to control may emotions and not giving him enough space while he was on vacation, I told him that if he changed his mind, I??d be here.. so terrible and lame.. who wants a woman like this ? At first I thought he maybe is testing me by ignoring me, just to see how much I care.. Do I lost his interest for good ? is there anything left I can do ? I know they love the chasing but also love to be chased.. What should I do ? Help me please.. I'm crazy about this leo guy..
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So about one month ago he started again to write me messages.. but this time I ignored him and cancelled him from my facebook friends list.. It got me on my nerves all this mystery of him.. So one day on my profile facebook at friends you could meet, which means those people watched your profile, I found his real profile, with name and forename, pics with friends, family etc.. I was glad because finally I knew he was real.. but on the other hand that bothered me because I understood all this time he didn't trust me.. maybe he didn't want to let me know the real side of him.. So I sent him my friendship request and told him.. he said —awesome??..
On his real profile I got to know new things about him, like he loved to party hard on weekends, he was always laughing and playing pranks to his friends.. while I thought of him like a lonely guy, not funny at all and very antisocial.. so this was a nice surprise for me to discover this side of him.. The new thing I discovered and didn't like was him having lots of women friends from all over the world, while he travels a lot for his job, even if there are any pics with any of these girls.. One thing I noticed that since I took part myself from his friends list, he stopped giving me —likes?? at any of my pics while