I have been hanging out with this leo man for about 3 monthes now. (I'm a libra)He just recently ended a 2 1/2 year relationship. I know he's into me. The way he smiles at me and he always tells me how beautiful I am. At first I thought we were dating because we went to a club together and he was holding and kissing me infront of all my friends ... so what was I supposed to think? Everyone thought the same too. That wasn't are first date either. But he would never tell me he wanted to take it to another level. Anyway so I asked him straight up and we talked about it. He says he really likes me, but he want's to be single for now. I don't know if he is scared or if he just doesn't want to be tied down. Prolly both. I guess my question is what do I do. I know they say men wan't what they can't have ... RIGHT? But I still want to be friends so how do I do that without coming on too strong and still respecting his wishes. There is a strong connection between us so it makes it soooo hard. The way he looks at me it's like he want's to kiss me. And he is always looking at my mouth. It is so hard because you finally found someone who meets your expectations and sooo much more and you can't have them. You can't say anything when he flirts with other girls or talks to them. You just have to sit there. The last thing I want to do is run him off or presure him. That was another thing ... he said he feels pressured ... not from me (because I give him his space) but from all these other girls who want to date him. I just some guidence. PLEASE!
Do men really want what they cannot have?
Thanks ... I guess it is just hard to accecpt it. But honestly I know time will tell and destiny will take it's place. You can't change that. I just really like him. ALOT. My main worry is I don't want to scare him or run him off; and it is so hard being just friends. He will call me and say "hey ... what are you doing tonight ... we should go do this!" So I know he likes spending time with me. I don't hardly ever call him unless I'm calling him back. I try not to smother him. If he want's to talk then he'll call me. Thanks again.
Southernbeauty
Southernbeauty
Is sounds to me that he likes you and wants to keep you close but he can't have his cake and eat it too. You can be his friend but you don't have to go out with him or respond to him when he calls. remember he has to respect your feelings too, if he's not ready to give you want you want fine, but he can't play whit your feelings. don't let him hung up on you and kiss you that's reserved for your man and if he's not your man well he'll have to play that game with the other girls and not you. You're be ok, don't worry, if you distance yourself you really see where he's coming from and sometimes a man needs that.
Thanks again for all your advice. You guys are awsome and I will let you know as soon as something happens. He is starting a new job (he use to work out of town) in Jan. so he will be home every night. He is normally gone for weeks at a time. YEA!! Maybe we will get to spend more time together.

LOL!!! I'm picturing choco prowling the darkened streets with manlust in her eyes...and an oversized bag of mistletoe...

I thought this was funny, I'm guessing choco will be going commando in 2008... 😉
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