Does she really mean it

I am a cap.I have been friends with a leo woman for almost 5 years now.We have been dating on and off for about 3 years.We broke up last November and she started dating one of her friends who I think is an aries, not sure though.We still are good friends and we talk alot on the phone.She told me she really likes this guy and that they get along very well together.Last week he proposed to her.She said she needed time to think.Yesterday she called me and said she still has feelings for me and wished that I had proposed to her instead of the other guy.I really do love her and every time I tried to tell her that she would say that she is not ready for that kind of commitment.I am completely confused.Does she really mean what she is saying or does she want to keep me as backup just in case things don't work out with the aries guy—I am really at my wits end.Help please.

...I really do love her and every time I tried to tell her that she would say that she is not ready for that kind of commitment....

There is your answer. When was the last time she told you this?


If it was recently then she may be just as confused. It doesn't sound like she knows what she wants.

If it's been awhile since she told you that then that could change everything. You said she needed time to think. And maybe while she was thinking she realized what she wanted. Which is understandable, you two have more history than she does with the aries. What was the reason you two broke up this last time?

Regardless of whether she means it or not, if she says yes to this other man, you should forget about her.

We broke up last time because I was moving to another city and neither of us believe in long distance relationships.I met one of her friends today and she said that she has not replied to the other man's proposal yet.I have been trying to call her ever since,but she just won't receive my calls.I don't get.First she says she has feelings for me and then she doesn't even want to talk to me.I don't understand.What exactly does she want me to do———?

It's true; she seems very, very confused right now. I am trying to imagine myself in a similar situation.

It seems to me like this is really getting to her, and she really has absolutely no clue what she wants.

.....or, there is a possibility that she just enjoys being the center of attention from the menz 😉 without being in a commitment - just seeking attention - that is all.

Deciding who to spend the rest of your life with is a huge decision. Cut the girl some slack. She may have thought she loved this other man but just realized she doesn't love him enough to comit for the rest of her life. It may have come to a complete suprise to her as she may not have realized that her feelings for him had changed.