Ex girlfriend (Leo) says she missed me.

It's been about 3 weeks since we broke off. We had a misunderstanding over some minor jealousy matter and she wanted to break off. Since the breakup, she still texted me almost everyday. Showing concern by reminding me to take my meals, sometimes telling me goodnight. There were a few occasions whereby I threw the questions to her as if she really want to let me go and let me find a new love (coz sometimes when we were arguing about our relationship matter, she just say forget about her and find someone worth my love). But she just don't wanna answer that question. Last week when we had a 3 days of non contact, she got emo on the 3rd day and posted some emo stuffs on her Facebook. And also posted a Korean song "Don't Leave" twice. I've more or less gave her an ultimatum that I won't say or do anything anymore to salvage this relationship if she still adopt that "heck care" attitude. I've asked her many times that if she do not want this love anymore, I will just move on. But she simply won't wanna give an answer, instead indirectly she is telling me not to go. Yesterday, she suddenly texted me and tell me she misses me. I'm confused. Please help.

Posted by KittyKnitter
she wants to be with you but she might also want things her way. if she values you, it's time for her to show it as well as say it. her pride or her insecurity is getting in her way. someone with low self esteem doesn't believe they deserve you, someone with too much thinks they can boss you around and maybe play mindgames. leos typically are possessive but jealousy can mean a red flag. people who are insecure often want to own the people they can control the most, those closest to them with mindgames and passive-aggressiveness.

decide what your bottom line is. you want to be respected and appreciated. what can she do and say that will show you that she really does care and it has to be consistent. can she give you that? put herself on the line so you can see her vulnerable? and hold her responsible for her actions. if it was a misunderstanding then you can work things out but if the big issue is that she isn't happy with herself, that is a big red flag for any relationship. she says she misses you. i would ask her to show it as well as say it. actions speak louder than words but you need the words too.if you have a list of things that bother you, then you should talk about all your issues honestly and openly. she should be agreeable to this but might run away from it. the thing is, if you cannot talk about what bothers you and get straight answers, she is attempting to keep control of things and you cannot be controlled that way. now is the time to start talking, to learn how things can be better between you. you might do that before you go back and get into the same situation again. at least that is what i would do.

Thanks Kitty. Yes I agree with what you said. But somehow I just find that maybe she's too prideful that she refused to show it thru her actions? Or perhaps she's just saying those things just to hold on to me? I don't know.