Flattery

This topic was created in the Leo forum by christinelovessnickers on Wednesday, October 14, 2015 and has 24 replies.

Why Leos Are Drawn to Flattery

Leos often enjoy receiving compliments because it boosts their confidence and affirms their self-image. Flattery appeals to their desire for recognition and admiration, making them feel valued and appreciated. Understanding this trait can improve interactions with Leos and help build stronger relationships.

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Mouth full of cavities lol

I don't take flattery well, especially from people I don't know. If you are someone I am interested in a am more prone to enjoy it .

Do you care where it comes from?

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@PillowFortBuilder
11 Years

For me it's sincere and subtle complements. For example two separate dates with two separate people. The first one was a bit vocal but it didn't come off sincere. She said I was a gentleman and appreciated the date. I felt "eh". It felt forced and II quickly lost interest.

The other one every joke I said she'd have this sweet laugh. It felt like she didn't have a care in the world when he was laughing. Every little "gentlemanly" thing I did she just looked at me, pause, and smile. I took the second person's reaction as complements and just ate it up. I swear for the short time we dated I spoiled her rotten.

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@metalaquamonkey
12 Years1,000+ Posts

I believe they appreciate flattery if it's sincere. Too much flattery may come across as insincere and they may still politely smile and accept them but will probably be on guard.

Many people seem to mistake a Leo's confidence and pride with ego and arrogance and so they think by buttering them up with tons of compliments will get them in their good graces. Sometimes it might but other times it may backfire.

I find that more times than not Leos are good judges of character. So depending on the relationship and how close you are and just as anyone would, they'd appreciate your genuine compliments.

Just my opinion. 😉

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by MiZLeo
Yeah if someone constantly just compliments me or comes on to strong it doesn't feel sincere and I can't take them serious. It took me a long time for me to accept when my man called me "gorgeous" and "sweetie" all the time cause it just didn't seem real(I'm a real bitch, and no one had told me I was gorgeous b4....beautiful, pretty, cute, but not gorgeous)....then other people started saying that to me all of a sudden (women and men) and so then I realized he ment it.

Yeah, sincerity is key

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by metalaquamonkey
I believe they appreciate flattery if it's sincere. Too much flattery may come across as insincere and they may still politely smile and accept them but will probably be on guard.

Many people seem to mistake a Leo's confidence and pride with ego and arrogance and so they think by buttering them up with tons of compliments will get them in their good graces. Sometimes it might but other times it may backfire.

I find that more times than not Leos are good judges of character. So depending on the relationship and how close you are and just as anyone would, they'd appreciate your genuine compliments.

Just my opinion. 😉

I think there are times I have given people more credit than they deserved, but that's because I tend to look for the positive things.

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@Skitty
11 Years500+ Posts

I try to flatter others- and be encouraging and positive- again...I *try*

However to receive it. No, i don't like it. Never have.

Even if i feel it's genuine. i'm all like /side eyes- what you up to? :p

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by Skitty
I try to flatter others- and be encouraging and positive- again...I *try*

However to receive it. No, i don't like it. Never have.

Even if i feel it's genuine. i'm all like /side eyes- what you up to? :p

Haha I know the feeling well.

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@Montgomery
13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by metalaquamonkey
I believe they appreciate flattery if it's sincere. Too much flattery may come across as insincere and they may still politely smile and accept them but will probably be on guard.

Many people seem to mistake a Leo's confidence and pride with ego and arrogance and so they think by buttering them up with tons of compliments will get them in their good graces. Sometimes it might but other times it may backfire.

I find that more times than not Leos are good judges of character. So depending on the relationship and how close you are and just as anyone would, they'd appreciate your genuine compliments.

Just my opinion. 😉

Honorary. ^^

😄

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@slinky222
10 Years

Posted by PillowFortBuilder
For me it's sincere and subtle complements. For example two separate dates with two separate people. The first one was a bit vocal but it didn't come off sincere. She said I was a gentleman and appreciated the date. I felt "eh". It felt forced and II quickly lost interest.

The other one every joke I said she'd have this sweet laugh. It felt like she didn't have a care in the world when he was laughing. Every little "gentlemanly" thing I did she just looked at me, pause, and smile. I took the second person's reaction as complements and just ate it up. I swear for the short time we dated I spoiled her rotten.

Hello fellow Leo, I COMPLETELY agree!

Although I am a female leo, I will say this. I love flattery, as long as it's genuine. If it's fake, or forced in any way- I tend to feel insulted. It just seems ridiculous to me for someone to even go to that length. Also, I feel like I have a pretty good B.S. detector when it comes to fake compliments......

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@slinky222
10 Years

Ya,

Have to say like many of my other fellow Leo's that have commented. If it's not sincere or genuine, it's an insult to me. Also, aside from that- I start thinking to myself, "Hmmmm, if this person's able to feed me a total B.S. compliment like that, what else are they telling me that's B.S? It just throws up a red flag to know not to trust what that person says.....

If I get a genuine compliment? Ya, your totally in my good graces for sure (unless you catch wind of my eating that up, and start with the B.S. compliments thinking that it will keep the ball rolling or something; then it's back to square one for you)

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

I tend to not take compliments too well. Just brush them off. Unless it's from certain people than I love them, but, as everyone else has said, they need to be genuine.

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My mom and I were talking about appreciation today lol. I have been doing some nice stuff for family and haven't even gotten a thank you for it once. I don't feel like a thank you was in order per-say, but that less demanding on their end and (at least pretend ) to appreciate what is done for them.

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Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom and I were talking about appreciation today lol. I have been doing some nice stuff for family and haven't even gotten a thank you for it once. I don't feel like a thank you was in order per-say, but that less demanding on their end and (at least pretend ) to appreciate what is done for them.

Sweetie, what would we DO without you??

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@Soul
11 Years10,000+ Posts

For me it's more about the things I love being noticed. It's probably from having an extreamly strong CiV mixed with scorp moon, but if you love the things I happen to love it's TL4E. I feel deeply connected with hobbies, thoughts, opinions, and possessions. More then I'm even connected to myself. That leaves the chances of finding love slim, and may make me see selfish which is fine. Not too many women want to follow a man and his thoughts around all day in today's time, but I never experenced a time when they did anyway so I'm not missing out on much.

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Posted by Montgomery

Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom and I were talking about appreciation today lol. I have been doing some nice stuff for family and haven't even gotten a thank you for it once. I don't feel like a thank you was in order per-say, but that less demanding on their end and (at least pretend ) to appreciate what is done for them.

Sweetie, what would we DO without you??

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Lmao...me ego loved that :p

Seriously though, they use their childRen as a pawn and we won't let a child go without something. They work the angle at every chance. Don't even get a thank you normally just more demands. Essentials given, anything else is a big NO

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@Montgomery
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Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom and I were talking about appreciation today lol. I have been doing some nice stuff for family and haven't even gotten a thank you for it once. I don't feel like a thank you was in order per-say, but that less demanding on their end and (at least pretend ) to appreciate what is done for them.

Sweetie, what would we DO without you??

Lmao...me ego loved that :p

Seriously though, they use their childRen as a pawn and we won't let a child go without something. They work the angle at every chance. Don't even get a thank you normally just more demands. Essentials given, anything else is a big NO

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Wow... I don't think I'd be inclined to anything for them, anymore.

:/

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Posted by Montgomery

Posted by christinelovessnickers

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by christinelovessnickers
My mom and I were talking about appreciation today lol. I have been doing some nice stuff for family and haven't even gotten a thank you for it once. I don't feel like a thank you was in order per-say, but that less demanding on their end and (at least pretend ) to appreciate what is done for them.

Sweetie, what would we DO without you??

Lmao...me ego loved that :p

Seriously though, they use their childRen as a pawn and we won't let a child go without something. They work the angle at every chance. Don't even get a thank you normally just more demands. Essentials given, anything else is a big NO

Wow... I don't think I'd be inclined to anything for them, anymore.

:/

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That's where it is at.

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@christinelovessnickers
13 Years1,000+ Posts

Love that song and the Temptations!

There is a difference between asking for help and trying to use/manipulate people.

Shit, I am prideful, but I have learned to let that go from time to time.

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@LeoGurlz
12 Years

Only if Im interested. If I'm not interested, then it does nothing for me.