How do you heal after a break up?

How do you heal after a break up? Do you allow the past to effect your future?

I have not really gone through a break up. Unfortunately, I have not experienced a real relationship. However, I still have experienced some pain not ever being the chosen one and finding out that I put my all into something that wasn't what it was.

Although I have experienced those things I am still hopeful about the future of loving and becoming one with someone. I am convinced that because the hurt of actually being in a relationship and the downfall puts people in a zone that they never want to feel that again.

Let's get it started. 😉

It's difficult for me to objectively answer this.

In the boards, there are a few threads that I started in light of my ex fiance leaving me. I've found time, channeling internal energy into positive energy (creating and appreciating art, healthy emotional displays, physical activity, giving affection), and spending time with friends and family were (and still are) the greatest medicines for myself.

The past always effects the future, no matter how hard you try.. its all about realizing when its setting you up for failure and readjusting when need be 🙂

@ Seraph that was really good how you broke it down. That seems like a good way to go. I was just curius how people have healed themselves and if they have blocked love or are open again.

@ Huntress I did not know your story, but you seemed to be open to love still.

@Seraph

Posted by Huntress
I've found time, channeling internal energy into positive energy (creating and appreciating art, healthy emotional displays, physical activity, giving affection), and spending time with friends and family were (and still are) the greatest medicines for myself.

That was my point. I have mentioned the need to create something kinesthetic and tactile in previous threads but often feel longwinded repeating myself even if it's only my perception ;P

Posted by tiziani

Posted by Huntress
The past always effects the future, no matter how hard you try.. its all about realizing when its setting you up for failure and readjusting when need be 🙂

"Take a look at the stars, Clark. Some of them have been extinguished for thousands of years, and yet their light is only just reaching us now. The past is always influencing the present. I can't change that... All I can do is hope to understand it."

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Very good Post Huntress!!! Love that movie by the way. Many lessons in it to. I think I should watch it again! HA HA HA The message is so true though.

@ Tizi, sorry where is that from? "All I can do is hope to understand it."

Funny in the bible it says in all thy getting get understanding.

Proverbs 4:7 "Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding".

Ahhhhh AK!!! he he he

@ Seraph I hear ya!!! :-)