@Diora_Capri
17 Years
Hi again leoK, well from wad he has told me abt his past, this little lion likes to pine for lost love, rekindle the flame and never give up until..well, until he genuinely feels rejected.
so he may b the kind to not take kindly to rejection or failure?
Heya Chocolate. thank u for ur input..i suppose nobody really realise that a breakup can hurt both ways
"put your own feelings and well-being 1st"
- he made me feel bad by calling me selfish, not to mention having his mom disliking me for this who btw i still like and have respect for.
Once when i attempted to break up, he just basically told me to be mature,simply bcos breaking up on a relationship as stable and as serious as this which could last a lifetime[his views] is immature. to be honest, i just fell out of love. ive no feelings anymore.
btw, we have an account into which we put money in each month..up till last month. after i called it off, he still hasnt returned my money. knowing him, he's a good guy generally, so i doubt he'd take the money for himself; however this just makes me think that he is still pining, hoping that things will get back to the way it was..
any thoughts?
get your money back (like asap) so there is nothing at stake if things take an unexpected turn. don't get caught up in his pace; do what you have to do. like chocolate said you're only 20 years old and dealing with his clinginess will only drag out your time.
Best way is to make him feel ok about it. Flatter him and tell him that his perfect he just isn't perfect for you and that whilst you'll always love him it'll never be more than the love someone has for a distant first love.
Tell him that he did so much for you and that you learnt a lot from him but that you absolutely cannot continue....that way he walks away feeling ok about himself (if you do still care about him you really don't want to hurt his ego or ruin his outlook on relationships being so young and all).
Be gentle because yes it can hurt very much but when it's done with feeling and respect it just makes it that little bit easier. I don't think he'll take your money, he seems pretty honourable if not clingy.
All useful infos, thank yous.
Ive done it.
he sent me a text messge, telling me that he still thinks of me,
he is still waiting for me..
the money is still in the account,
but i feel lighter=)
well done! nothing to do but to keep going forward!
HAHHA naughty capricorn, eh?
Hmm.. no, i stopped dating leo whilst on pursuit of the cancer...
ok, bank account:
it was his idea. we were on an LDR - him in Indonesia and now i am in UK for my studies.it happened when I spent 2 months in Jakarta (capital city of indonesia) on an offroad adventure. he suggested we open up an account (not joint)and the money can be used later on when we reunite (was planned for summer next year) .
I think he decides to keep the account open in hopes that we will be back together again. otherwise, he would've sent me the money, i'm sure of it....
or am i being naive—
dont hate me LK hehe
oh, the account he set it up with his local bank. so no access for me.sigh...I'd hate ot be impolite....
i did think it was sorta a good idea at the time...so that i'd "be serious and stick with him"...
then again, as most of u have repeatedly remind me, i AM 20...still young for that=)
lol CHOCOLATE
what should i do??
Aww fall star..dont bother reading this then😛
i've emailed him abt it, and made it as polite and as gentle as i could. i do want to stay on good terms with him after all.
lets wait and see what the response will be
Because.
I am not the type to just forget those who are nice to me. my leaving him is not a reason for me to hate or dislike him..
Besides, he's a nice guy, just that i'm no longer emotionally connected with him.
we were friends b4 we were lovers, no sense in not keeping the friendship, since it is what he wants too.
i like being in good terms with everybody, including my exes..its up to them really but i wont turn a blind eye to those offering friendship.
fallstar..
who's kris? lol spiilll the beaans choco!!
thank u fall star=)
HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA
I'm sorry if i, err, caused you to remember your past~~~
oops.. present. whatever. bloopers
=D
what proper rules, you highness?=P
She is more concern of the money than the hurt that this may cause the Leo.
You should tell your Leo about the Cancer so it will be fast for your Leo to forget you.
Assuming that I am your Leo bf I will even give my share of money to you then get the hell out of my life. Friendship? No way. Friendship their face.
wow..now ive leos ganging up on me.
money is not really a concern to me, dear Proverbs, I can assure you. this matter was brought abt by other ppl who thoughtfully had found the time thinking abt my wellbeing, is all.
anyhoo..think whatever you like~ it doesnt bother me=)
[[men stick with their own kind, too arrogant, porud, egotistical]]
s'alright. yes, Ive a feeling he's the last leo for me. too exhausting=)
meh~~=D
HA!
No doubt he thought I was the best thing that happened to him, but he also knew not to expect long-term relationship w me atm.
i didnt break up with YOU proverbs - why so defensive? LOL
go away~~
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just a general question - how to break up with a leo and what to expect from this outcome? wll there be hate involved? are leos the type who leave and forget?