Leo male, Aries Girl. This is impossible right?

I, Leo male (4 August) and my lovely Aries princess (30 March), we are at the bottom of the line. I can't see any chance that we will work together.

She is 34, I am 27. We are dating since September, but real dating only in October. Sex is amazing. It was the best relation that I remember and still is. I know that she loves me, but it is really difficult for her to maintain calm. She always need her space, sometimes she is deeply in love with me but in the next day she wake up and is sad, boring and seems distant. She had a 12 year relation which she ended last year, and they still have issues to finish (same house, separation etc). She didn't married, and I did show some jealously, with no reason, I must admit, because she told me that I am the man that this guy never was, and an Aries is very pure in words, at least my Aries. This guy was/is Piscies. Everything is fine, i understand her past but because of that, she doesn't want to surrender to me because she doesn't want to suffer again. I am fighting with my patience to maintain calm and we LEos are the best in crisis times but not for to long. I love her, and I will work hard to maintain this relation, but ?_ am feeling cold, and I know that when I quit, means for ever and I don't want to lose her, because I know that if I quit, she will suffer a lot, she will not admit it because of that EGO that we Leos know very well.

One more thing: Do you Aries girls love the guys that cause you pain? It's funny but the guy who was the Love of her life, besides me, was the only guy who made her suffer like hell. He was a gemini. We Leos also have a double face, and she told me once that she is afraid of my ON and Off mode, which is false. We only do that when we feel unloved. That s the true. I told her, but her fears are so big that she protect herself, hide herself, and the pain starts over again. She is now sad, unhappy and boring. She wants to be alone but she is always calling me and texting. I show her calmness and confidence on the phone, but in fact, I am sad because of her modes, and she seems boring because I show this calmness and she is on the contrary sad. Maybe if I flirt other girls like the gemini did her 15 years ago, maybe she will be here. Is that what you Aries girls want? lol because its easy for us Leos to do that, I love her but if flirt means love for you, I will do that. Anyway, We all know that a Leo in love will never cheat. Aries Girls or Leo/Aries couples, please help me

Important note:
She is in contact today with this gemini man. She told me that they are only friends but, guess what.. I think that this guy has this girl in his hands, that's my bet. This guy actually is married and he has a daughter. His wife doesn't know that he chat with my Aries. One more time, i feel very sad, but she ask me to trust her. I did that, but it doesn't help knowing that she text this guy who treat her like hell today when she is with me It kills me every day.

She's testing you. If you love her stick it out it, if she loves you it will calm down eventually.
As an Aries I can tell you I have done this in the past. If the guy can't stick it out I move on as I feel he doesn't love me enough.

Posted by MadMarchRam
She's testing you. If you love her stick it out it, if she loves you it will calm down eventually.
As an Aries I can tell you I have done this in the past. If the guy can't stick it out I move on as I feel he doesn't love me enough.

Do you mean ignore her? give her space? Why she is testing me? To know if I really love her?

Posted by Infinite8
I've known about 5 couples with this combo and the common denominator is constant fighting in public.

If you are starting off, try creating some respectful patterns between the two. Or else... Your ego will get slammed, smashed, whipped, twirled around and then dressed up like a sissy in a public venue.

Make it work!! Good luck 🙂

Yes, constant fight, but in the end of the day we love each other. It's insane, but not practic. I believe that love isn't enough, it must be like 20% love and 80% daily respect.

no this combo can actually work..it's a very good combo, as long as there is a mutual respect like stated above. Leos need to understand that Aries don't mind being dominated (by the right person), but we also have our own minds and are very independent. Sometimes Leo men also need that validation and constantly want/need to be complimented. We will be affectionate, but only genuinely. At the end of the day it's about compromise and integrity. Good luck.

She's testing you because she's been hurt and wants to know you love her and won't do the same. Don't ignore her as she will most likely cut you off!

Tell her you're not happy with this behaviour and how you really feel about her.

Good luck

Posted by MadMarchRam
She's testing you because she's been hurt and wants to know you love her and won't do the same. Don't ignore her as she will most likely cut you off!

Tell her you're not happy with this behaviour and how you really feel about her.

Good luck

I can do that. It's hard but i will do that. The fact that she is in contact with a guy who treated her badly and is married is not working for me. I am confident about myself but.. C??mon! I don't know what can i do to show her how much i love her, I do that like I am, she knows. Thank you for the advice

Posted by crabflows
Bro why you dating a woman who is older than you, is she providing something more than sex and head, because unless if she is paying for your car and bills you should not put up with crap

Thanks crabflows. That's what my sister told me (without the sex part, of course lol), but that's the reason that I am getting tired of this.

Posted by Infinite8
*live

Of course. I do have, fear of losing it. It is normal when you like someone right? I see no weakness in it, I am no less man to admit that I like it and I'm afraid of losing it. But do not get me wrong, from the moment I give up, is irreversible.

Posted by Infinite8
But I have to disagree with you saying that it's normal to fear losing a relationship.

I don't fear losing someone I love. I just love to the fullest and love when it is respected, cherished and reciprocated. If not, I lose interest and I'm out. It's extremely painful... But who am I to force something that's not meant to be?

Yes, I agree. Do you think that she doesn't respect me? Of course she doesn't lol. She is chatting with the gemini! anyway.. I am tired of this. I need to pick my options, think clearly. This isn't working. Thank you

I decided that I am going to "disconnect". I will do my OFF mode, naturally, because I am very unhappy with her behaviour. I know that when she senses that I am distant she will react, doing her things to come over again. But this time I don't want it, for sure. I did my best. I am in my second degree of Medicine, in Spain. I am in the last year of the degree, and this all changed my academic levels. This girl was the only who changed my professional life, badly. I can't handle this, since my responsibility in future is very important, I can't be in a relation that cause me problems, that will probably reflect in my work. Thank you all

Posted by leo2014
I decided that I am going to "disconnect". I will do my OFF mode, naturally, because I am very unhappy with her behaviour. I know that when she senses that I am distant she will react, doing her things to come over again. But this time I don't want it, for sure. I did my best. I am in my second degree of Medicine, in Spain. I am in the last year of the degree, and this all changed my academic levels. This girl was the only who changed my professional life, badly. I can't handle this, since my responsibility in future is very important, I can't be in a relation that cause me problems, that will probably reflect in my work. Thank you all

I think you're better off not to be in a relationship because it seems that you are not ready to give enough of yourself to make things work. You're flipping and flopping from one idea to another. There has to be a certain amount of stability in order for a relationship to work out. It's my sense that you're more into yourself than into this Aries girl at this point in your life.

Yes. I agree with the fact that i need to focus on myself but I disagree that I doesn't focus in this Aries lady, after all, I think i did my best and she didn't, and don't.

Mmmmmm Leo and Aries are sexy times. I was shocked and how open and direct the Aries woman I was with was. No holding back, straight to my face I will own you.

You don't dominate a Leo male. Even one extreamly watery like me. She still had control of almost everything in the relationship, just had absolutely no control of me. It's impossible, and not even an Aries female can control my ego.

What unfortunately ended it? Her random spontaneous outbursts in public. Somthing as small as an item being 50 cents to much was enough to make her throw it on the ground and walk away. Also one time and elderly woman parked extreamly close to her car, and she flipped on the poor old woman. The sex and home life was amazing, but she deeply embarrassed me in public every time we went out and I had to cut it off.

Posted by Soul
Mmmmmm Leo and Aries are sexy times. I was shocked and how open and direct the Aries woman I was with was. No holding back, straight to my face I will own you.

You don't dominate a Leo male. Even one extreamly watery like me. She still had control of almost everything in the relationship, just had absolutely no control of me. It's impossible, and not even an Aries female can control my ego.

What unfortunately ended it? Her random spontaneous outbursts in public. Somthing as small as an item being 50 cents to much was enough to make her throw it on the ground and walk away. Also one time and elderly woman parked extreamly close to her car, and she flipped on the poor old woman. The sex and home life was amazing, but she deeply embarrassed me in public every time we went out and I had to cut it off.

Hey Leo, finally I was waiting someone of my "blood" to tell me more about this. Let me ask you this. Did you love her? Or you found that was only fun, great time and home? Did she loved you? Thanks mate

didn't truly love her. Unfortunately the first time we had sex she was primed and ready, then somewhere close to her second organism she said she loved me. I said it back and she could tell I didn't truly mean it.

I didn't break he her heart or anything (that I know of) She didn't want to break up, but I know the extra horny type oh so well.

In one hand I had great sex and and interesting person to get to know, the other hand I had drama and couldn't take her places. She was the type to get drunk need to treetrunk everyone so even though she really liked me trust is more important then sex and fun.

Posted by leo2014
Yes. I agree with the fact that i need to focus on myself but I disagree that I doesn't focus in this Aries lady, after all, I think i did my best and she didn't, and don't.

I'm not convinced that you really did your best. Then again, you know yourself better than I would...

Posted by Soul
didn't truly love her. Unfortunately the first time we had sex she was primed and ready, then somewhere close to her second organism she said she loved me. I said it back and she could tell I didn't truly mean it.

I didn't break he her heart or anything (that I know of) She didn't want to break up, but I know the extra horny type oh so well.

In one hand I had great sex and and interesting person to get to know, the other hand I had drama and couldn't take her places. She was the type to get drunk need to treetrunk everyone so even though she really liked me trust is more important then sex and fun.

Yes. Because they say that we Leos create an illusion for the perfect girlfriend but in reality we are not in love. In my case, I am starting to think that it could be some adventure and not a real love. Could be my brains just not working, lol but i will keep that in mind.

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Posted by leo2014
Yes. I agree with the fact that i need to focus on myself but I disagree that I doesn't focus in this Aries lady, after all, I think i did my best and she didn't, and don't.

I'm not convinced that you really did your best. Then again, you know yourself better than I would...

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Important note i forgot to say. I hurt this Aries girl at the beginning, in revenge mode (feel sorry to did that) because I saw her chatting with that guy, then we fight. I broke up with her and i told her that she isn't what i want in a partner. Only my ex Cancer was the Girl. Of course that is not true, I don't have any feelings for her, I am clean, but I did this to her just for her see and feel what she does to me, because she maintains contact with her past. She says is only friendship, but why a normal person would talk with someone who is married and father, and his wife doesn't know about my aries, and worst.. This guy made her suffer like hell. It is the only question that I can't answer.

How old is she? How old are you? (Sorry if you already answered this somewhere in this thread.)

She is 34, OP is 27.

Yes. She is 34, almost 35 (30 March). I am 27 (4 August). In long term, as it stands now, it would be drastic because I need stability in work in order to think to be a father one day. This doesn't mean that I need like 5, 6 or 7 years, I know that her clock to birth is always ON fire, and even 34, it is not the perfect age for that, but it is possible, even later. I would definitely marry her, but for now, as it stands, I don't see calmness between us, and that scares me a lot when I think in the future.

Thanks for reminding me of that Soul.

See OP, when I see sentences like this:

"I hurt this Aries girl at the beginning, in revenge mode (feel sorry to did that) because I saw her chatting with that guy..."

It makes me think that you're not mature enough to be having a relationship of any kind because you seem more interested in controlling her rather than in being with her.

Maybe. I don't know. If you were me what would you do? In fact I think I am mentally prepared to go away as soon as possible. I am just waiting for the right moment, because she has personal issues, and I care about her. It's a fact that I can't handle the situation of the conection that she has with her past, but deep down, the main reason is not that. Is because I feel that there is nothing I can do to make her happy, or at least, a normal woman. Aries woman, love the adventure, the chase, and the impossible. Maybe that's why she is frustrated today with the gemini. He prefered the other woman while she was waiting for him (It was an unsolved challenge for her, she didn't won. He knows that and he wants to keep in touch with her because of that). I love new things also, challenges. I think I put my creativity in all aspects, not only in work, but she seems boring at times and maybe this means that I am not the right person for her. It's funny but if she feel boring with me as a Leo it will be difficult with any other star sign, i guess. But this is only words of losing her, don't take it seriously.

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Posted by Infinite8
*live

Of course. I do have, fear of losing it. It is normal when you like someone right? I see no weakness in it, I am no less man to admit that I like it and I'm afraid of losing it. But do not get me wrong, from the moment I give up, is irreversible.

I agree. It is not a weakness. I'm just saying she might get annoyed by it. She might interpret it as you fearing her... And that might not make her feel so special.

I'm just saying this because my Aries girlfriends confide this in me all the time. They want a man that doesn't fear them and that will put his door down. Just info that might be helpful.

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I can't stand a man that has no back bone, if I can walk over them it gets boring quickly. I actually push it to see how much they'll take and then hate myself for how horrible i feel I've been. I move on fast before it gets too painful for the man in question and myself.

I need to have respect for a man before I can truely love them. That won't happen if you don't put your foot down.

Posted by aurora
so you leo claim that you accepted the fact that she has some issues from the past, but when she goes off you feel unloved and then you go off too, and not only that but say some mean things like that stuff with an ex cancer, and now you wonder what's the issue?

i know sun trine sun, but it's better for friendship imo. aries usually needs someone who is more laid back. but i also think that anybody can be with anybody if they really want to.

By the way. She called me a minute ago. Now she seems very calm, affectionate and those things that she is when happy. She says tomorrow she is thinking in staying here with me in my house. Now, lets take some action. I am thinking in telling her that I would prefer to sleep alone tomorrow because in the next day I will have an important day, which is true, and I need to sleep very well. My point is, if she wanted to be alone these days and i respected that, now I want my rules also. What do you think?
So Aries girls, why she is now very affectionate and calm when yesterday and in the other day she was distant and cold? Some kind of light hited her head now and she loves me again? 🙂 What I did in these days? Stay calm, and keep refreshing her memory of how she is important for me.

Posted by Gisselle
Well i'm a leo woman and my man is an aries. This aries guy is my everything..He never gave up on me even if i'm a very difficult person. Sometimes i'm the most lovely person to him and the next day I can be very distant and cold. Actually i'm a positive woman all my fellow leos will know what i'm talking about. I don't love him yet but I appreciate my aries man. I just have a hard time approaching people...anyway he's just beautiful inside and out. If I were you I would wait maybe your Aries girl will change but don't run after her. Give her the space she needs this is so important for aries people. You should understand her I mean she had a very long relationship and maybe she is still suffering because of him. Good luck

Thank you. I just need to focus on myself and stop trying to fix our relation. If I was working, with a stable life I would dedicate my power to this beautifull woman, but the truth is that I can't do that for now. My academic life doesn't allow this personal issues. I really doesn't want to risk my ambitions in what I am doing, and if she doesn't understand that I need calmness and love, it is better for us to go away. Gisselle, please be carefull, when you decide to tell him you are in love for him, he might ask you for some space. We Leos, have troubles when we open our heart to loved ones and they disapeer, we just can't understand why they do that when we give ourselfs into them. Because of that I disagree with the famous compatibility between Leos and Aries. They prefer a partner who will never give them a rest. They need a challenge always. They love peace also, but they need more than that, and this is someone who will never be guaranteed for them. I think gemini, aqua, libra or sag are the best for them due to their spirited, free and open nature. Only a mature and confident Leo can be a great partner for them, i guess. Maybe those born under 3 decanate are the best, because their ego is unstopable. Mine is also big, but I belong to the second decanate, they will never control my ego but I am more balanced than other Leos. Best of luck 😉

Posted by aurora
i have no idea, but i'm not an aries. just having a child with a leo, and know how much love you want 😛. if you need sleep, then sleep. and maybe try to talk to her after, and tell her everything. if she is reasonable enough she will hear you and maybe try to work things out. if not, well it's not the end of the world.

Aurora, your LEo is a lucky man 😉 Keep loving your leo as you naturally do. My ex was a cancer also, and was the only who I felt relaxed. We loved each other, but once again, due to my personal ambitions, we had to go away. I left her because on that time I was finishing my first degree (6 years ago), and didn't want to work, and keep studying (I am very ambitious). Here I am finishing my second degree, happy because of that, but sad because of my personal problems. Thanks