Leo Man Capricorn Woman couple needs help

I need advice. I am a capricorn woman with aries moon and libra rising. He is a leo man with pisces moon and scorpio rising. We are a couple for about a month now. But he is driving me nuts. Prob cos I am head over heels, & you know when capricorns fall in love we fall hard. Let me give you a rough idea. ??I am not sure if I am the typical capricorn though many of the basic traits describe me at the dot. I am normally serious, reserved, quiet, analytical & consider every single decision. I was with a gemini for 5 yrs, an aquarius for 4 mths, a virgo for a yr and another virgo for 7 yrs. I was cheated on by all the past 4 exes. ??This leo man is my fifth relationship. It was very hard for me to make the decision of starting another relationship, so yes I am extremely nervous. ?? I am very attracted to him because he was mature, gentlemanly, reserved, and he is the only person I have ever felt comfortable communicating with. We are so similar in so many aspects. And until today, his smile captivates me, even if its from afar. And the sex is out of this world, never in my 29 years have I had someone connected with me sexually that way. ?? I have a problem though. I doubt this is typical capricorn behaviour, even if they do fall hard. I often feel that it is this habit that i have that pushes my men away from me, but because I am so stubborn I have this belief that I should do what I want. Any other way would simply be fake and pretensious. And that if I loved any other way or play hard to get or play mind games just to keep him by my side, I would not be me and would simply regret it and be unhappy in the long run. ?? When I fall in love, I am a hopeless romantic and it always turns into a crazy adulation. But I do it to my boyfriend, so there should not be anything wrong, right? That's when I need your help. When I am in love, you would think he is the only man on earth, the handsomest, the smartest, the funniest, the sexiest, the strongest, the most hardworking, the bestest...you get the drift. Expect daily smses flattering his awesomeness, secret admiration from afar (yes, I can spend 8 hours on my off days just sitting opposite his workplace just observing his awesomeness without letting him know and going home after that, it just makes my day seeing his face & I don't want to disturb him.).

Expect funny loving sticky notes at his motorbike to make him smile or laugh after a tiring day, chocolates sweets milk with love notes, balloons tied to his bike, sunflowers sent to his workplace, or simply asking a little boy or girl to pass him love letters from his admiring girlfriend. I also got him a phone so I could personalise the phone to dedicate in it a music playlist, videos dedicated to him, & pre-sent smses between the phone and mine ??re-enacting our memories & of course to remind him how much I adore him, so it would seem like we had smsed each other even before he used the phone. I stored my number as "My Girl" on his home screen on direct dial, and personalised a photo of me overlooking his name on a tree branch I'm holding on to. When he direct dials me, it will read "The Girl Most Crazy About..." with my picture below it holding his name on the branch in my arms. His number is stored as "The Handsomest & Sexiest Man On Earth" ?? Yet, this is the thing about him. From day 1, he is always late for our dates, sometimes he forgets about our dates and I would wait 3 hours, he never calls me except twice to tell me that he can't meet me, and the only sms he has ever sent me is a reply to me saying "Happy Valentine's Day too...". Just to clarify on the communication part, he owns a phone yet is never contactable, his friends complain his bosses complain and says he should just throw his phone away. But it is easy to reach him cos he is at work 365 days a year from 11am till 12midnight except for 1 week during new year when he goes to see his family out of town. His mother especially cos she is very sick and her medicines are expensive. He is a serious workaholic and has been working since he was 8. Yet whenever I ask if he loves me, he says he loves me, he says he misses me, he says he is serious about me, he says he wants to live with me someday. He just said that same thing just two days back before he left for his hometown. Yet he does not answer my calls, my smses, & I think he left his phone here when he went out of town. He will be back in a week or more and I guess I will not be able to reach him at this rate. Now I am starting to wonder if he has someone at his hometown too. I do not know what I should do now.

My sister says I am totally wasting my time & effort like I always do in relationships. I mean, I am actually quite a catch. I have lots of men lining up to be my date with ages ranging from 18 to 39, & I think it is probably a capricorn thing but I look younger as I age. Right now I can pass off as 15yrs at age 29yrs. The oldest people think I am right now is 22yrs. But the capricorn in me is stubbornly faithful and loyal to my lovers despite anything. Seriously, I am so mad at him and I feel like just going out and opening up to other men and really a one night stand is really hot on my mind right now. I am envisioning myself on the podium, wearing my lingerie, dancing my ass off cos I am a dancer by profession before, drinking a whole jug, holding a huge banner saying "looking for leo man right now". ??I know, so not capricorn. Therefore, I seriously need some insights.

Thank you in advance!

Thank you Jynja. 🙂 Yup, I'd most likely feel very guilty afterwards, I just sometimes wonder if I am stupid or in a one-sided love affair. But yes, I love him so much and your reply has brought the positivity and calmed the crazy.

So thank you. 🙂

well to me it sounds like you're suffocating the guy!!! you are not in love with him....you are infatuated!! and after just one month of dating? i wouldn't be surprised if he backs off totally.

Hi WoundedLeo and R1g0rM0rT1s

Thank you so much for the replies, the outside opinions are really helpful to me.

Sorry abt the paragraph breaks, placed it in microsoft words but when I pasted it here it skipped the breaks I guess. It was wonderful of you to try to read through the chunk 🙂
It is true that I am sometimes afraid of being hurt the fifth time round, & tend to go hot/cold to protect my pride.

I hope it is not infatuation though. We were dating about half a year before he told me he wanted us to be a couple and not friends. I took a lot of time considering starting another relationship as I was planning to live my life single after the last relationship I had. In all my relationships, it always is the same way through the end, even for the last relationship its like being infatuated with my boyfriend for 7 yrs. I have decided to accept that it is simply the way I express my love, how suffocating it can be that they take it as a routine most times.

Right now, I just do not know. Love most often than not confuses me. I always wonder how I am so composed and steady in other parts of my life yet my love life is a crazy adventure.

Thank you once again.

that's the nature of love unfortunately. it always comes with a degree of pain. logic takes flight completely. it's human 🙂

Hi R1g0rM0rT1s

Agreed. Human. 🙂 haha..it's crazy.

Thank you. 🙂

Thank you so much everyone.

I really really really apreciate all the efforts placed in reading my lengthy difficult-to-read question

And by reading the posts and my replies as well, I have come to realize that he really is a star in my heart.
No sun, moon, venus, mars, lilith can touch that star.
At least right now, and possibly for a certain time.
Possibly a long time...


🙂
Love always, mini.

Hey WoundedLeo

Thank you. I thought about it last night. Yes, I do feel that he loves me though he's detached to protect himself or probably confused. It would sadden me if he were playing me, but I should prepare myself for that when he returns or not.

If I do meet him again, I think I know what I shall say to him. But then again, knowing me, I sometimes don't go according to plan.

I will keep you posted.

Thank you 🙂

Hey WoundedLeo

When I saw your message, it was wonderful because shortly after, I received a missed call from him.

My phone did not even ring, the call was simply missed.

I called him an hour later, excited to say that I've missed him and I'm happy to hear from him, but he did not answer the call.

I called him again shortly, but no answer again.

My last call was 2 hours later, also unanswered.

I told myself to let it be, if he wants to he will call. And I would sms him in the morning.

But my impulse got the best of me, and I sent him a good night message instead...

Where will I find peace, while you are away. Because till now you have not returned.
I wish this night only offers you a good rest.
All I want for you is peace at this moment.
All I ask for this minute is only your happiness.
Have a good sleep, love...:-)

I often do this, acting on impulse. Now he's going to think I'm really psycho. Sigh...why why why...
When will I stop and start acting earthy & practical & rational like a true cap in love?

I am a Capricorn, I have been around a Leo for 2 years,we became comfortable within the years of seeing each other. He stated he didn't want a relationship, but within the months passing by, we became stronger with each other. The bond was there, the loyalty was there and the trust. I trusted him, put my faith in him and loyalty. I have never been with an Leo before, but my father was a Leo, and I know him to be quiet, like to laugh and smile. Now, I don't know if those gestures were of happiness. But, he had a warm heart and always aloof at times, but come back. And, this guy reminded me so much of my father, He melted me to a stage in our relationship, that our emotions became attached. We were physically and sexually involve. But, there were some unhappiness within me that I can't believe I allow from him, and that was cater, all he did was take take take, and didn't do nothing in return. He was there for me at times, if I begged him. And I allow this to happen for 1 year and a half. Now, things started getting different between us, due to him not wanting to be in a committed relationship, I one day allowed a good friend of mines come over, well he wanted to come over, but I told him no don't come I am having family coming over, he didn't agree to that..he stated I was having another guy come over..Well the guy came and we talking and 10 minutes later I get a text, I am (omw), within minutes he was knocking on the door, he has never done that before. I was humiliated and embarrassed from this guy and more for the other guy. I asked the other guy to leave, so I can tend to my leo..Leo came back that night, and we had a discussion..he was hurt, I didn't hear from him for days after that..I cried so much, cause I don't like to hurt people, and I was mixed, becasue he didn't want a relationship, but he acts that way. Well, little did I know, he wanted to know, "what made this guy more than him, that I had to put him before him." In my statement, he was attached to my YES and I was not saying NO enough. Recently, I found a girl driving his car, and this really tore me apart. He texts me he loves me and he will always love me, he did nothing wrong, I had someone to my house and I am acting like this. What should I do about this guy? I deeply love him, but I am left with out answers "Why"

I have asked him to delete me, but he states he will never delete me because he will always love me. I asked him to delete because I can't speak to him. But, I need answers. How can I go about getting those answers or will I get any answers?

Hey WoundedLeo

Thank you for the kind words 🙂

He called me again the next day near midnight. The same way. My phone did not even ring, the call was simply missed.??

I called him a few minutes after, twice, thrice, no answer.

His friend called me an hour later, asked if I knew where my boyfriend was as he was not home yet. So that was a clear indication that my boyfriend is back here. His friend asked me where I was. I told him I was at a pub since it was obvious with the background music.

After that till today, he did not call me anymore. And I am sending him daily love poetry smses still 🙂

Right now, I am feeling ok. I will keep you guys updated. Thank you 🙂

My phone do ring. Just not when he calls, which means he calls for probably less than one second and then hang up. Probably for the sake of pressing the direct dial? I don't know, really.

I do not know how long I can hold on.

I am someone's girlfriend, someone who seems non-existent.
The last time we met, also our last contact, on 12february - he said, "I am your boyfriend. You will stay faithful to me, right?".
I said yes, and now I am left with silence. Is he seriously testing me? We will see. And yes, I am getting madder by the minute. 🙂

Thanks anyway.