Leo woman afraid of vulnerability?

I'm currently very close friends with the most amazing Leo woman I've ever had the pleasure of being around. There's so much to her that draws me in. We've been friends for years, and recently our friendship has taken a small step towards a possible relationship. However, I've found that she has an extreme fear of vulnerability. She's been let down, hurt, and betrayed by so many in her time. And even though I'm one of the people she trusts most, I've noticed this same fear arising at the thought of us beyond friends. In a moment of truth, she admitted that she's thought about this plenty of times before. Saying that it's not the idea of things not working out and our friendship being tarnished that scares her. She said that it was because she knew it would work out that terrified her. Then she asked me how thought about her and what happened last year (we had a brief falling out because she sensed I may want more than friendship). Knowing her fear and hesitation with this subject, I went pretty easy on my part. Explaining that I cherished our friendship, but I also couldn't deny this indescribable connection we shared. That this was the first time I've ever met someone where it didn't matter to me how they were in my life. All that mattered was that they were in it. As a Scorpio male, my natural instincts are to pursue her with all the passion that my heart and soul contains (it can be a bit overwhelming for some signs). But since I know we are both hopeless romantics, the temptation to risk rejection is becoming a bit unbearable.

My question to any Leo women out there, is this typical in nature? Any recommendations on how to approach this? Time is something I am more than willing to give her if that is the best approach. I just want to be sure I do this right.

Posted by scorpiospassion
My question to any Leo women out there, is this typical in nature? Any recommendations on how to approach this? Time is something I am more than willing to give her if that is the best approach. I just want to be sure I do this right.

Fear of vulnerability? Of course-- and with good reason.

But unless there's something you aren't telling us, I don't think you should do anything differently.

Approach it however you want-- she likes you because of who you are.

You'll both end up cheated out of some part of the experience, if you don't let it happen organically.

Just my opinion, though-- would love to see the chart/placements.

Posted by scorpiospassion
... it's not the idea of things not working out and our friendship being tarnished that scares her. She said that it was because she knew it would work out that terrified her.

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You already understand that ^-- so you're well ahead of the game.

And welcome to the boards, scorpiospassion. 🙂

Posted by Jynja
Well, maybe the argument. Though, don't be shocked if she puts in as much as you do. We're built to handle all sorts of ...

lol

I was gonna say.

Ok... some Leo's may be completely different but coming from a Leo that has been hurt before very badly multiple times I can tell you she is afraid to get hurt again, she is probably afraid it will work out and that some how she will fuck it up, or that it will work but sooner or later it will end, whatever the case we just want to be loved unconditionally, to know is real not a fantasy for the time being, we need to feel appreciated, affection, you know that thing Scorpios like to call mushy, and even though you show us your love we need to hear it sometimes. We don't like feeling uncertain when we feel that we get fearful. Be direct, honest and clear at all Times while being loving and compassionate..and above all be sure of what you want and that she is it because the hot and cold shit you Scorpios do drives us insane and if you play that game for too long we my bolt and run away. I had a similar situation except I was the one who fell in love and the Scorpio played the hot and cold than rejected me and broke my heart...I went through the whole fearful and vulnerability thing telling him I just wanted to be friends for fear of getting hurt yet again but when I finally decided to take the leap he let me fall so that just confirmed my fears and that I was right in guarding myself...idk this is just my experience don't mean it will happen the same for you but I do think is nice for once to see a Scorpio show true caring feelings and not the hard shell..good luck :-) she is a lucky Leo in my eyes

Oh yeah in other words go for it and be patient there's a possibility she might reject you at first please please don't take it personal and be vengeful with her...remember she has been hurt before, she is afraid and sometimes we built walls and denial of what we feel and want is a defense mechanism be patient show her she can trust that you will never let her fall and she will love, adore and take care of you with the same intensity if not more than you do her...loyalty she will give you that and more

When a leo becomes attracted to a scorpio its like it becomes bambi... and shes scared because she has no defenses anymore probably... if she feels for you like i felt for that one scorpio in my life it sure as hell is fucking scary... I think about how i felt at the time and I feel like puking cause its so fucking intense... give her time the fear will lessen eventually...