Attract Leo Woman

I'm a virgo guy and she's a leo woman.
I've been nice to her by paying for her meals, showing her concern when she is hurt, etc. Just doing sweet things for her. She tells me that she is uncomfortable with me because I am doing all this and being touchy (just patting her on the back).

I do like her and want her to reciprocate my feelings. She tells me she has liked another guy since november, but not sure if the guy will make a move. What should I do?

A pat on the back would be a huge turn off for any woman 😄

Damn really? Why? Well I've stopped.

Posted by kevinjim207
Damn really? Why? Well I've stopped.

Because it's quite a patronising thing to do; a bit "there there dear" u get me?

Ok thanks I understand now. I never meant to make it patronising. I just pat her on the back when I see or say bye to her. Also when she got hurt. It's also what I do to all my female friends.

When you mean patronising you mean like looking down on?

Posted by kevinjim207
She tells me she has liked another guy since november, but not sure if the guy will make a move. What should I do?

Find someone else.

She's holding out for him.

Sorry :/

It's fine. She tells me she's fine being single.

I guess what the question should be is. How do I make her more comfortable with me? I haven't been touchy with her since

I felt as though she had feelings for me before she became uncomfortable

Posted by kevinjim207
Ok thanks I understand now. I never meant to make it patronising. I just pat her on the back when I see or say bye to her. Also when she got hurt. It's also what I do to all my female friends.

No I'm sure you didn't mean it. Maybe she likes you as a friend but she could read into the fact you were doing overly nice stuff to her, that you would maybe do for someone you wanted to be more than friends with. She sensed that I suspect and so she mentioned the other guy. I think she doesn't want to lead you on in any way and maybe give you the wrong idea.

Make it clear to her that you don't have an agenda behind your actions anymore. She's probably already guessed your feelings- your actions are obvious, but she's just not feeling you, so it's awkward. Idk man, I don't think she wants to turn down a nice guy in her own way but she doesn't want you right now either.

Another Virgo guy here had something similar to this, you remind me of him. I don't think there was a happy ending though.

Straight up, just say you want to be friends with her, but she's making it awkward because of so and so. And then set some ground rules. (Maybe she's really conservative and you tried too hard at the wrong moment.) And just let it develop organically over time.

Maybe later she'll realize your awesomeness and you'll get together, but right now it ain't happening. This looks like one of those things that has to smack her in her face from out of nowhere if it's gonna work.

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Posted by kevinjim207
Ok thanks I understand now. I never meant to make it patronising. I just pat her on the back when I see or say bye to her. Also when she got hurt. It's also what I do to all my female friends.

No I'm sure you didn't mean it. Maybe she likes you as a friend but she could read into the fact you were doing overly nice stuff to her, that you would maybe do for someone you wanted to be more than friends with. She sensed that I suspect and so she mentioned the other guy. I think she doesn't want to lead you on in any way and maybe give you the wrong idea.

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Just saw this. Basically everything I tried to say. +1

Actually she didn't tell me she liked another guy because of me being friendly. She told me because a friend of mine liked me and was jealous of how I treated her.

Posted by kevinjim207
Actually she didn't tell me she liked another guy because of me being friendly. She told me because a friend of mine liked me and was jealous of how I treated her.

Whoa. That changes everything then. For her, that's like breaking the girl code. She just doesn't want drama. But still, lay off from her. And may as well make it clear to the person who likes you that you two are just friends for the moment. When trouble dies down, maybe then you can approach her.

My two cents.

thanks for the help girls. I really appreciate it. I did tell her that my actions had no secret agenda and that I was being friendly. You are right. She is very conservative.

What's the girl code? I'm so oblivious.
I'm not letting it get my hopes up. I know where I stand.

Posted by kevinjim207
What's the girl code? I'm so oblivious.
I'm not letting it get my hopes up. I know where I stand.

LOL, even I'm not really sure of it. But apparently it's like the unwritten commandments girls are supposed to follow- if you don't, supposedly you become a social pariah (read: outcast). Guys have their own version too: Bro code.

What I'm referring to is a common rule (I was talking about it in another post before yours), where you don't date/flirt/go after a person if someone you know (esp. a friend) has claimed "dibs" on them, or is/was in a relationship with them already (in the latter case, you need to ask for permission if they're exes). Example: To her, the girl that likes you has "already claimed dibs" on you - to go against that invites a possible confrontation. If she's a friend of hers as well, then that could also mean betrayal. Could be true, could not. But fact is, she's conservative. Hey, maybe she just doesn't want to even date right now, and wants instead to focus on a career or something. You never know.

Wait I'm so confused. How did she break the girl code?

Maybe I wasn't clear but..The leo girl I like did not know about this other girl until I told her. This other girl is someone I approached at a store.
I told the leo girl that this other girl was jealous of how I treated the leo. When I told the leo in person, she told me to tell this other girl that I like another person.
The next day the leo and I were texting each other and she asked how things were with this other girl. I told her that things were great and that's when the leo told.me she liked someone else.

dear virgo thinking man,
sounds like a like a leo with a bit of virgo in her. she shy. now i have a question for you

Oh I got it. And yes. What is your question

Tell me if this virgo man is just being an asshole or real with me.

We've know eachother since 2011 and I could tell he was into me but was shy about it. always would lay a kiss on me when he was drunk...... but it wasent until a year ago that we had sex one night accidently. I didnt feel very comfortable so i stopped it. After that him and I always kept in touch through texting and a phone call here and there. Then it kind of jus stopped and we ran into eachother at a bar on friday. I told him that he has been breaking my heart for years and then he told me that he liked me. But a part of me thinks he is jus saying it because of the situation. what do you think? what should i do?

Well. I would trust his word if he said he likes you. Personally,for me if I liked someone I would try to keep in contact and make an effort to meet up.
I guess what I would do is take things slow. Ask to meet up and go for a date, and see what his intentions are.

Regarding my situation you are right she is a leo born in the later date like august 19.

Do you have any advice on what I should do?
Of course keep me updated on ur situation

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by kevinjim207
She tells me she has liked another guy since november, but not sure if the guy will make a move. What should I do?

Find someone else.

She's holding out for him.

Sorry :/

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+100

The only time a girl would tell a guy thaT he made her uncomfortable is if she didn't have feelings for him... at least most girls anyway and most girls are thirsty for love. She's obviously not interested because she's not reciprocating... theres nothing more you can do to make that happen, you can't force or manipulate someone into liking you. Just let it go 😢

Me and her have a long story. I felt she reciprocated my feelings at some point, but then i asked if she wanted to hang out. she didn't talk to me the next day then not long after she told me that she's uncomfortable with me as what I said in the original post. All of which surprised me since she never acted like it when we were together. It came out of nowhere.

I won't try to make a move, but how would I make her comfortable with me. I do not do anything special or touch her.

I just don't want it to affect us moving forward.

I think he lying to me. I have heard from his since. How old is the leo lady?

I'm sorry to hear that.
She is 22. The same age as me.

My Dad and my Mom are a Virgo-Leo pairing.

It only worked because she really really liked him in the beginning and she pulled all the stops.

It's hard for Virgo Men to be assertive with Leo Women.

Yea I feel the same way with this leo.
Any tips?

why is it hard to be assertive with leo women?

Posted by kevinjim207
Wait I'm so confused. How did she break the girl code?

Maybe I wasn't clear but..The leo girl I like did not know about this other girl until I told her. This other girl is someone I approached at a store.

I told the leo girl that this other girl was jealous of how I treated the leo.

When I told the leo in person, she told me to tell this other girl that I like another person.

The next day the leo and I were texting each other and she asked how things were with this other girl.

I told her that things were great and that's when the leo told.me she liked someone else.

😐

That's pretty important, how that happened, you know.

Saving. Face.

Lol I once knew a sagg who gave me a back pat lol found it on some google search engine link how to treat a girl lol!! still hilarious to this day. What are your plans with this sophisticated woman? Are you not too preachy for her, or too detail-oriented to downsize her ego? If you answered no to these I will need a glass of fruit punch.

Montgomery. I'm not sure if this changes anything. But. I made a slight typo

When I said the following
I told her that things were going great and that's when the leo told me....
I did not mean great. The girl who liked me was still jealous of the leo woman. And that things were actually going worse. That is when the leo woman tols.me she liked someone elsse.

Does that change anything

Livingonporpoise..
My plans for her are to take things slow. Just make her comfortable with me because at times she still is. She does not initiate talking with me and you can tell he in her body language.
Well I am detail oriented not preachy

Awww and here I was thinking all virgo's were a pain, well sounds like she read your body language and didn't want to reciprocate so she turned off all signs that point to go. I once called a leo a spoiled egotistical brat haha he didn't take to well to that I think he would've tried to strangle had people not been around. Or maybe she is secretly trying to figure out your motives, and knowing how you may feel about her she is easing off a bit because she's not sure. Maybe she does like someone else, i've always just ignored leo's and they think I am secretly smitten by them. Oh boy do I have this one story.... well nevermind haha

Posted by LivingOnPorpoise

leo's ...I am secretly smitten by them.

Don't worry -- your secret's safe. 😉

Posted by kevinjim207
Montgomery. I'm not sure if this changes anything. But. I made a slight typo

When I said the following
I told her that things were going great and that's when the leo told me....
I did not mean great. The girl who liked me was still jealous of the leo woman. And that things were actually going worse. That is when the leo woman tols.me she liked someone elsse.

Does that change anything

Soo when you said "great" .. you were being a little sarcastic.

And the Leo knew that, right?

why is it hard to be assertive with leo women?

Lol montgomery!

Oh saying great was really a typo and I forgot to proofread. I was tired that day o guess lol. Honest mistake. But does it change things?

Posted by Damnata
My Dad and my Mom are a Virgo-Leo pairing.

It only worked because she really really liked him in the beginning and she pulled all the stops.

It's hard for Virgo Men to be assertive with Leo Women.

depends. Charlie Sheen married a Leo woman. but he's assertive with all the women. Like a walking crazy man up to no good. but i like charlie.

Also I'm sure this is important. But..before all this...I asked if she wanted to hang out together to get to know each other. I told her that I had no other intentions but just to know her better as a friend. The next day she basically ignores me and is uncomfortable. I also told her a week later that I can not like her since I barely knew her (pretty dumb of me)...After a couple weeks, it seems like everything is back to normal. I then approach her about why she is still uncomfortable and she tells exactly as I explained earlier.