Libra man Leo woman - good match?

I went on a first date with a libra man recently. Never dated one although two of my closest friends are Librans and we get along famously. So the date was supposed to be a movie at 6pm. It ended up being a movie, dinner and drinks till 3am!

We finished each other's sentences and had great conversations about many things. We were supposed to see each other again two days later before he returned to his workplace in another state but his dad came into town unexpectedly so we had to cancel. But he called me and made sure I knew he was coming back into my city to see me again in a few weeks. And then while texting, we started making plans to go on a diving trip near a beautiful island in February.

Sounds like we're moving incredibly fast, I mean we haven't even been on a second date but somehow it seems so natural! I've never experienced anything like this before. Are Libra and Leo an incredibly compatible match?

Posted by TheLibraMudra
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Sorry? Not sure what you mean

So after getting to know each other so deeply via daily calls and texts, we met up again, this time spent the weekend together at a beautiful resort. It was magical. He kept saying "You are mine" and I am wondering what this is about. Insecurity? Jealousy?

I hear Libras are incredibly social and all my Libra friends are social animals but not this guy. He has very little friends and is mostly glued to his family. On the other hand, I have lunch and dinner with different people every single day. And every time he texts to check where I am, I tell him who I'm with, he will tell me to tell them all he says hallo. It's as if he's trying to make sure they all know of him.

I have no problems with any of these things but am trying to figure out what he's about. He doesn't seem to play games. He likes me. He's intelligent, witty, sweet and affectionate. Which makes me suspicious haha. Thoughts, anybody?

lol.

Moving in fast, and he'll take off just as fast as he ran in. Do not allow yourself to get swept up in that bullshit. Libra dudes are NOTORIOUS for this. Too many Leo women frequent the Libra forum and are shocked that he flips a bitch on them at some point, wondering what went "wrong." Leo, being a fire sign, gets all caught up in the whirlwind and will go just as fast because omgherd, chemistry!!

Enjoy it for what it is at the moment. Don't let his fantasy driven motives detach you from reality.

I mean really, spending the weekend together as a second date? Honey, that is too fucking fast for anyone of any sign. Slow your roll. You're going to get bitten in the ass. Enjoy it, but don't be foolish about it.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
lol.

Moving in fast, and he'll take off just as fast as he ran in. Do not allow yourself to get swept up in that bullshit. Libra dudes are NOTORIOUS for this. Too many Leo women frequent the Libra forum and are shocked that he flips a bitch on them at some point, wondering what went "wrong." Leo, being a fire sign, gets all caught up in the whirlwind and will go just as fast because omgherd, chemistry!!

Enjoy it for what it is at the moment. Don't let his fantasy driven motives detach you from reality.

I mean really, spending the weekend together as a second date? Honey, that is too fucking fast for anyone of any sign. Slow your roll. You're going to get bitten in the ass. Enjoy it, but don't be foolish about it.

Exactly why I'm suspicious. So what? Just break things off because he will definitely up an leave at a second's notice?

Posted by Mishmorecookie

Posted by rockyroadicecream
lol.

Moving in fast, and he'll take off just as fast as he ran in. Do not allow yourself to get swept up in that bullshit. Libra dudes are NOTORIOUS for this. Too many Leo women frequent the Libra forum and are shocked that he flips a bitch on them at some point, wondering what went "wrong." Leo, being a fire sign, gets all caught up in the whirlwind and will go just as fast because omgherd, chemistry!!

Enjoy it for what it is at the moment. Don't let his fantasy driven motives detach you from reality.

I mean really, spending the weekend together as a second date? Honey, that is too fucking fast for anyone of any sign. Slow your roll. You're going to get bitten in the ass. Enjoy it, but don't be foolish about it.

Exactly why I'm suspicious. So what? Just break things off because he will definitely up an leave at a second's notice?

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Apparently you missed the part where I said "enjoy it for now."

Just because you know the chances are high that he's going to retreat as fast as he's moving in doesn't mean breaking it off. How about slowing shit down? You're not innocent here, either. You're going head first into this all foolishly. What sane woman agrees to a weekend away together as a second date, hmmm? Food for thought, yo.

Posted by TrueFantasy
Maybe you were both caught up in the moment that's why it feels so natural. Can't really explain it but I've had that moment before and then I realised...woah need to slow it down a touch.

Eventually as time progresses their behaviour unfolds more and things should be clearer.

I personally would give it a bit more time but this is your relationship so do what you feel is best. And yes Leos match well with libras. In fact, the best match for a Leo is a libra.

I'm sorry, for all of you who keep touting this match as a good one, I disagree quite a bit. The Leo women with the Libra men isn't that great of a match. Go check out the Libra forum for example- SO many issues with this pairing. You get that clingy, fixed female shit going on and it weighs down airy Libra tendencies. The guys will be okay with it at first and then feel suffocated because they're flaky as fuck. It just wears the Libra out to absorb all that neurotic energy that some Leo women ooze in relationships. I could see it working better if the Leo was evolved and didn't let her fixed tendencies get the best of her.

On the flip side, Libra guys live in fantasy when they date. They sweep women off their feet and proclaim all this insane shit off the bat. Omg love of their life. So in love with the idea of love. This new thing is so exciting and amazing. This woman could be his life partner. OMG SO AWESOME. She's just taken aback and wooed by this amazing display of immature gestures. But then his head starts to come down out of the clouds and reality hits. Oh man, is she REALLY the one? I've been moving too fast, haven't I? I made all these grand proclamations about her and our barely budding relationship. I should back off a bit and figure shit out....

This baffles the Leo female because what the hell happened? He said all this amazing stuff and now he's back pedalling? What. The. Hell?? That is NOT cool. Well, I'll show him by clinging on more and making demands that he be the exact same cassanova he was on the first date!

Unless you have two evolved and grounded individuals, this pairing will drive eachother nuts with their own forms of insanity in dating and relating.

The opposite pairing seems to work a bit better from what I've seen though- Libra female with Leo male. The men aren't as neurotic as the women. The egos get a bit out of hand, but they don't come off as batshit crazy, tbh.

Posted by 2Moon
spending the weekend together as a second date? Honey, that is too fucking fast for anyone of any sign.

+1 very true. its a little bit fast..

maybe he is a serious dude and he really wants to be with you. but this is still a little bit too fast imo

They're both being stupidly reckless. This isn't going to be pretty unless someone acts like the sane adult here.

This is a pattern I've noticed with all the Leo women I've come across- they allow themselves to get soo swept up in this shit. It doesn't always end up pretty in the end because of this either because he flaked out or he didn't live up to the grand expectations she created in her head because she was equally living in fantasy.

Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with the concept of being "swept away" in dating. We've all come across someone like this. But how you handle it will dictate how well it'll fare long run. Even then, sometimes that doesn't help because the other individual didn't step up or behave like they should.

Basically, mature individuals don't date like this. Immature, inexperienced individuals do. Guys are told to run when women move as fast as guys like this do. But how often do we have to remind women that it's a pretty big red flag when guys do it? "OH BUT PRINCE CHARMING. DISNEY FAIRYTALE OUTLOOK ON LIFE!"

Slow your roll, yo. Do it right the first time or don't do it at all.

I wonder if I forgot to mention, we live in different states. Seven hours away from each other to be exact. The only way to see each other is to get up to the other's place over the weekend and hang out. Which is why we spent time together over the weekend. Next weekend, he will fly down here.

We met by chance when he was in my city over Christmas.

I don't think I'll enjoy it while it lasts if you're absolutely sure this won't last. I'm not a fan of being hurt and I'd rather run before it gets to that.

And I'm not a clingy Leo, not sure why. I will have questions but never ask or confront. I'm a fan of sweeping all problems under the carpet and act like everything is fine and dandy. Which is why I stayed in a 7 year relationship with a Sagi who was sleeping with every woman on the planet. Took a year to heal and now I'm trying to meet people again.

But I definitely will not indulge in mind games even if it has not happened yet. You seem completely confident he is no good so I guess you must be right, right?

Intriguing. Not a single Leo commented.

Libras are Not a truly good match. Especially not for a Leo woman.
They only seem so because they will let you take charge. They rationalize and can take that to rationalizing to include your feelings, and they are not usually boggled down by loyalty.

But, they do tend to sweep things under the carpet too until they can't ignore it anymore and then take off.

They are huge Leo fans though. Other signs try to keep their drooling in check, but Libra swims in their drool.

Stop weekending with a man just a month after meeting. Gosh! Seven hours away so what? Let him decide if he can love you or not.

Posted by Mishmorecookie
I wonder if I forgot to mention, we live in different states. Seven hours away from each other to be exact. The only way to see each other is to get up to the other's place over the weekend and hang out. Which is why we spent time together over the weekend. Next weekend, he will fly down here.

We met by chance when he was in my city over Christmas.

I don't think I'll enjoy it while it lasts if you're absolutely sure this won't last. I'm not a fan of being hurt and I'd rather run before it gets to that.

And I'm not a clingy Leo, not sure why. I will have questions but never ask or confront. I'm a fan of sweeping all problems under the carpet and act like everything is fine and dandy. Which is why I stayed in a 7 year relationship with a Sagi who was sleeping with every woman on the planet. Took a year to heal and now I'm trying to meet people again.

But I definitely will not indulge in mind games even if it has not happened yet. You seem completely confident he is no good so I guess you must be right, right?

Meh. I wouldn't write it off. Just know what's being shared here and look out for it is all. Keep doing whatever, but if he starts backing off, treating you crappy, and acting flaky suddenly, by all means, ditch the dude. You shouldn't be considering ditching him now out of fear of "what if." Only do so when he starts showing the typical flaky signs.

You asked about this pairing and it's been shared. It shouldn't be deciding be all of whether or not you continue. Are you moving too fast? Yes. But should you run because you're ascared of something that hasn't actually happened yet? No.
Enjoy it for the time being since nothing wrong is happening. He's just moving too fast. YOU need to keep things in check if you're so emotionally fragile from your douche ex. You are not helping yourself by being all "lol weekend together!" I don't care what the circumstances are. Slow shit down.

Sigh dating is so complicated. This is exactly what happens when you get out of a committed relationship and forget what its like to meet people.

Posted by Mishmorecookie
Sigh dating is so complicated. This is exactly what happens when you get out of a committed relationship and forget what its like to meet people.

I'm not understanding what's so complicated about your situation? You came here asking about a specific pairing. You're happy and totally smitten with this guy, yet you're looking for something wrong, much like Leo women do.

Like I said, enjoy it right now. Nothing is wrong per se, just SLOW DOWN. You Leos really need to learn how to slow your horses in dating. You either rush in foolishly or are constantly looking for something wrong because fixed signs thrive off of dramas.

Just keep doing what you're doing, slow it down a tad, and enjoy it. You're aware of what red flags to look out for so you aren't being thrown into a clusterfuck if shit goes down. All too often, in this pairing, the Leo women don't pay attention and once things get really bad, it's just a nightmare.

Libra dudes are fine, just stupidly fickle. Don't allow yourself to get fucked over IF that happens. It would be really stupid to end things just because astrology suggests that this pairing isn't ideal. It's sort of a guide to better understand behavior, not a "be all" deciding factor in life.

I finally found out what I'd suspected. Something is indeed going on. He broke up with somebody in November because he had to travel for work. And from the way he said it, sounds like he's still thinking about her.

He just said "if that makes you feel uncomfortable well..."
To which I said "I'm only uncomfortable if you were still seeing her. I don't get involved with men who are married/in a relationship"

He said he gets it and that was that, we returned to regular light hearted conversations.

I'm guessing what he's saying is he's emotionally unavailable at this point of time. Of which if that is the case, I'll need to make a decision on what to do.

Posted by Harukaa
Don't trust him .. e v e r

He trying to forget her by using you .

+1

Dudes that move too fast, man... Watch out. They're almost always emotional messes in some way, shape, or form. They're using dating to help them get over someone else, which is NOT cool.