Male Leo best friend being temperamental.

My best friend and I have always, ALWAYS been able to discuss whatever we like, from the trivial to the more dramatic to the downright gross and sexual. We never had to worry about offending the other or crossing a line, because we just intrinsically understood each other's boundaries, or even failed to set them in the first place for certain topics.

Recently, I casually brought up something sexual that my boyfriend and I did, completely in context with what my best friend and I were talking about, and he coiled back in disgust--not at what I shared, but simply at the fact that I shared it! This completely caught me off guard as I had sat and listened, time and time again, as he regaled tales of his sexcapades to me. He even said "there are certain things you should keep to share with your female friends, and not say to your STRAIGHT male friend." I thought that was completely unfair considering he's well aware I hardly HAVE any female friends to begin with, and that I had heard him explain to me, in detail, much worse things that he's done with girls. I genuinely thought we had a "say what you want, how you want" policy, so I confronted him and asked what the problem was, and his response was "I don't want to picture things like that." That still isn't a good enough reason for me!

Unfortunately, since things took off with my boyfriend, I really feel the bond between my best friend and I has been strained. It sucks, because after him being so touchy with something I deemed so trite, it feels like I can't talk to him about what I initially THOUGHT I could. Any insight as to why he holds this double standard (where he can share what he does with women, but doesn't feel comfortable with me doing the same) or WHY he's being so temperamental?

I should maybe preface this by mentioning that this New Year's, after far too many shots of tequila and gulps of vodka, we practically spent the entire night, from the stroke of midnight and onward, making out. It was one of those "Oh God, what did we just do?!" moments the next morning when our heads weren't so clouded. On the one hand, I'm glad it happened because there was always this unspoken curiosity between the two of us regarding if we could ever be more than friends. New Year's happened to a be a perfect time to indulge in this curiosity since he was in town and we both happened to be single.

Following that disastrous night,though, he took me out to dinner to such a beautiful restaurant, dressed to the nines (this guy's a model so he looked even better than usual), and refused to let me pay for my portion of the meal (going dutch is something we typically do). This was so generous of him, but at dinner, we both discussed what happened the night before and LAUGHED over how awful our chemistry was and how terrible we thought the other was as a kisser (we HATED each other's kissing style ). After this, I really felt we became closer as friends, until I noticed him withdrawing whenever I would bring up anything about my new boyfriend.

This is a guy who I've seen though several heartaches, have been there from the start where he was thrilled, to the end where he was broken and jaded. With this in mind, I thought on the rare occasion that I bring up a guy I'm interested in, he'd at least be willing to listen...but he really wasn't supportive at least.

He's very protective so he's NEVER liked any guys I've been involved with, but I've also never been this involved with a boy before. I know all I do on these boards is talk about my bf (yuck..not at the bf, but at the prospect of gabbing about someone so much), but I honestly hardly ever bring him up in real life. Could my best friend be feeling neglected? We still talk several times a day, every single day, so I'm just confused why he'd be feeling that way if that's the case.

wasn't supportive in the least**

Thank you, Sam!

He's well-aware that he constantly needs somebody to stroke his ego, and he tells me about it all the time. But the way he's expressed it, it's a trait he's looking for from a girlfriend, not a friend...who happens to be a girl. I've also told him that I would never become one of those couples that drops everything for their boyfriend, and that he is still a priority in my life, I just don't know what else to do.

I can tell he's disappointed in me, but I think it's for all of the wrong reasons. One reason is that I've been civil towards the new boyfriend of a girl that royally fudged him over. I know he sees it as crossing into enemy waters, but this girl's boyfriend has made a point of being VERY nice towards me and hasn't given me any reason (other than dating the person who was a certified BITCH to my best friend) to be mean. I'm a Libra, by nature and virtue, I just CAN'T be mean or cold to somebody who is warm and congenial towards me. I know it really bothers my best friend, but I feel like I'm stuck in the middle of things. The other reason is that when I was unsure of whether or not I should break-up with my bf or take things to the next level, he told me to ditch this guy and I didn't listen.

Ugh, it's just frustrating. Things are not at all how they used to be.

Aaand I just got a message from him, after a discussion about being "in love" stating:
"Yeah I can't really like someone without being friends with them first. I have way too many trust issues. However this always creates a problem for me. If I just get stuck in the friend zone, I don't really care. However, when we start exploring beyond friendship, they can never commit to a side and teeter back and forth and it's fucking annoying."
I bolded that last half because I'm wondering if it's a slight jab at me. Or...not so slight...*awkward laugh*