Public vs Private Leo guy behaviour?

Known Leo for 10+ years, dated on and off but now we are both in the space to make it work. Both are single.

Issue: he is all possessive when around people especially around his closest friends; very hands-y and says things like 'she won't marry anyone else but me'. But then this changes when it is just us 2. We would be intimate but he would be distant... It is less about love and more about sex. I have no problem with sex, in fact I love sex 😉 but I'm at a point where I would like something more and it would great to know what this is all about.

He's compensating publicly for something that isn't there privately?

Posted by enfant_terrible
He's compensating publicly for something that isn't there privately?

Agreed, he is showing off and showing you off to boost his ego. When it's the two of you, he has less reason to do that because he doesn't feel the need to mark his territory (there's no potential threat). Be direct with him about that. Let him know that the sex is great (compliments are always an easy way to get Leos to do what you want), but let him know you want more romance when you two are alone. Tell him you want to SEE all that stuff he brags about in public (say this gently and get close. Seduce him and even grab him certain areas to drive the point home). You'll have his undivided attention. Let him know in public that he doesn't need to show off in front of his friends (though that may just be him) because he's already won. In fact the next time you're out with his friends, start boasting about him to other people (even if it's a little). He'll feel more secure and won't need to put on the theatrics as much.

All that being said, don't suck up to him. Keep your spine and be a woman he can respect. Letting him know your thoughts and feelings about him and what he can improve is a good start. Just be nice about it.

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by enfant_terrible
He's compensating publicly for something that isn't there privately?

Agreed, he is showing off and showing you off to boost his ego. When it's the two of you, he has less reason to do that because he doesn't feel the need to mark his territory (there's no potential threat). Be direct with him about that. Let him know that the sex is great (compliments are always an easy way to get Leos to do what you want), but let him know you want more romance when you two are alone. Tell him you want to SEE all that stuff he brags about in public (say this gently and get close. Seduce him and even grab him certain areas to drive the point home). You'll have his undivided attention. Let him know in public that he doesn't need to show off in front of his friends (though that may just be him) because he's already won. In fact the next time you're out with his friends, start boasting about him to other people (even if it's a little). He'll feel more secure and won't need to put on the theatrics as much.

All that being said, don't suck up to him. Keep your spine and be a woman he can respect. Letting him know your thoughts and feelings about him and what he can improve is a good start. Just be nice about it.

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This (and everything said bybother posters) is really helpful. I had to pause for a moment because you have an IDENTICAL planetary placement with him Chuckcem-from the planets you have on your profile.

I have not been the best of what he needed through the years, he has largely seen my Sag side and I keep getting the feeling that he questions whether I feel he would be enough ...

Posted by Chuckcem

Posted by enfant_terrible
He's compensating publicly for something that isn't there privately?

Agreed, he is showing off and showing you off to boost his ego. When it's the two of you, he has less reason to do that because he doesn't feel the need to mark his territory (there's no potential threat). Be direct with him about that. Let him know that the sex is great (compliments are always an easy way to get Leos to do what you want), but let him know you want more romance when you two are alone. Tell him you want to SEE all that stuff he brags about in public (say this gently and get close. Seduce him and even grab him certain areas to drive the point home). You'll have his undivided attention. Let him know in public that he doesn't need to show off in front of his friends (though that may just be him) because he's already won. In fact the next time you're out with his friends, start boasting about him to other people (even if it's a little). He'll feel more secure and won't need to put on the theatrics as much.

All that being said, don't suck up to him. Keep your spine and be a woman he can respect. Letting him know your thoughts and feelings about him and what he can improve is a good start. Just be nice about it.

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Excellent advise. I follow this with mines. Except the part about he won.. I'm kinda cautious about that because he might get to comfortable. I always get real close/look deep into his eyes and ask "who's the winner?" With that he puffs up his chest, stares back, and answers, "me" Leo men are so sexy.
Smh lord.