Understanding a Leo man after break up.

I am a Capricorn. I met a Leo man a while ago and we had a short but an intense relationship for couple of months. Unfortunately, the circumstances were so that we can't be together and we knew this from the beginning but our attraction and chemistry was undeniable. We did fall in love during this time. Anyhow, during those months, he was generous with his love. Typical Leo man showering me with admiration and was over-the-moon-in-love-with-me. We both could open up to each other about our worst fears, past, worst things about us very easily. It came naturally and he told me our intimacy was something he never felt before. But he was more focused on himself (no surprises there).

Fast forward, I was going through some rough time and when I expected him to come through and care, he did not. When I pointed this out, he was quick to say that he was just making me unhappy. Blamed himself which lead us to go separate ways. It was mutual and we both wished each other the best but we both were very disappointed that things ended up this way. And being the Capricorn I am, I didn't want to "fix" it because we already had no future together, so why drag it?

After the break up, we chatted and shared mails few times. I could still confide in him without any issues. But to my surprise he shut himself. He would open up a little and then he would close himself. I told him once how difficult the break up has been and he didn't say anything except "sorry if I am not telling you about it or I am making you feel like this relationship wasn't important to me". hmm... what does that even mean?

He said no one would take my place in his life but he became very cold and detached. I could no longer feel the warmth from him. So, I decide us trying to be friends was not going to work. A week later, I saw that he made a flirty comment to someone other woman on social media. That day, I decided to totally cut of all my contacts with him.

He will always be special to me no matter where we are in life, but I felt that he doesn't feel that way about me anymore?
His reaction to me, after break up, was something I still don't understand.

I understand that he will try his best to erase any memory of me and that I never happened, but it makes me sad. I didn't want to be around him constantly wondering if I ever meant to him as much as he meant to me 😢

Thank you for your reply.

My post is all over the place because he was exactly that. He would be over the board affectionate when we are having a good time, but when I was having a rough time, he would be no where to be seen. He was in fact full of contradictions.

I am not sure how you arrived at the conclusion that I can be needy as can be, but sure... that is a possibility.

I understood that I might be feeling some jealousy because our break up is still very fresh. But I do want him to be happy and find someone. That is why I decided it was better that we both were not in touch.

guys .. why are you so attacking the OP? jumping into conclusiob without even knowing the whole thing.. u did not even ask any genuine questions... or even support ur "you're too needy" accusations.... pfffft thats a turnoff

its funny how seeking advice on here turned people into thinking they are life experts ... and snobbish judgmental freaks

this site was meant to "share" experienxes ... not attack and judge

for OP: I am wondering why did u both think it wont work from the beginning? ..

Posted by ness_ness
I understand that he will try his best to erase any memory of me and that I never happened, but it makes me sad. I didn't want to be around him constantly wondering if I ever meant to him as much as he meant to me 😢

I'm confused.

Are you just wondering if you ever meant anything to him?

Or are you hoping to rekindle this relationship?


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Hi Cap
My take is that he really was head over heals for you. However, when you went through that rough period, you more than likely did a typical Cap maneover and shut him out (Am I right?!) Things then spiraled downward and then ended on courteous, yet hurt terms on both sides.

Fast forward to you trying to "be friends". If he still had feelings for you (which is more than likely the case since Leos, unlike Caps, don't shut their emotions on and off like a water faucet), it was difficult for him to open up again because he felt hurt from the previous experience.

Flirting on social media is meaningless IMO so I wouldn't put much stock into that. Leos love to flirt but they truly love the one they're with...

A Leo will shut down and behave cold after being hurt and as a mechanism of protection.