Virgo in the way?

Hey all...

I am a cappy, casually dating a leo called M!

So there's a guy called P..who's a virgo and we went out twice a while back and i wasn't digging him really. Something was off... h. He's a musician and I met him at the Bay Street Rat Race. Anyways, he found me on facebook and added me and asked me to go out for drinks with him, because he has always been interested.. and I wasn't too sure about him (i feel that there's something off about him). Anyways, when he added me, I found out that we have a common friend.

Mark.

So knowing the intentions of me and paul going drinking, i had to tell paul no because I don't want to complicate things. So i told him that I am casually dating mark and I don't think it's a good idea to be casually dating him as well. So Paul was a lil upset and said, " i thought you didn't casual date! i thought you take things seriously!" and I told him that I do.. and I am serious about Mark but we're gonna see where it goes. So paul told me to keep him updated and i said ok. But really, I wasn't going to because he's not a friend.. and i have no reason to confide anything with him.

This all happened about 2 months ago.

So this weekend, Mark was working the whole weekend and really busy. We were conversing on MSN.. and he was telling me how tired he is and such and how he needs a massage but has no time to spare. i'm seeing him at vball this week so at least we can spend some time together then. So its all good. On Saturday, I left a comment on his page (It's like myspace.. there's a comment page where people can see. We sometimes leave messages for each other.. and I love leaving random comments on people's pages, so he's one of the many and this is something i do all the time). I said to Mark,

"Hey hun, Hope the weekend is treating you well. If work is too harsh, I know "people" who know "people" to take care of "people". 🙂 I'm just a massage away.. Take care!"

Then I get a message in my facebook inbox from Paul after I left that comment on marks page saying this (I haven't heard from paul in the two months)

"Can you get a little more desperate with your messages to Mark? Thanks for updating me on whats going on because thanks to facebook, I see through your damn messages how you're pimping your soul away to him. If you wanted to know about Barbados and Bahamas, you could have asked me. But I see you've forgotten. I suppose love is blind after all. lol So in your words... "Have a good weekend'.

Mark and I had a discussion about barbados and bahamas when I wanted to go about a MONTH AND A HALF AGO!!!!!

So i got mad.. and wrote a message back to paul saying that I thought his message was highly unnecessary and a "Hi, how was your weekend?" would have been suffice. i told him that I do whatever I want to do and he has no right to judge or comment about the things I do. If Mark doesn't like me saying such things, he can tell me himself. And really, anything that is written between me and Mark, is between US. not US and paul!

Then last night, Paul writes back and says

"If you weren't so busy worrying about me judging you, you'd realize that I am saying this out of concern. But it seems that you're too set in your ways to be steered from potentially making an ass out of yourself. But everyone has to find their own path somehow so don't get offended. In my opinion, this is a much needed wake up call for you"

I wrote back to Paul telling him that I am who I am. I will say what I want to say.. and will do what I want to do. I don't compromise or play any stupid games because if he doesn't like it, then I'll move on and i'd rather know now than later. I told him that if all these messages to me is a warning about Mark, then tell me. because there's no point going on and on without there being a point of us talking.

So Paul replies to me and says "Fair Enough, It's cool..."

Paul really caught me off guard with all this.. and I have no solid proof whatsoever that theres anything wrong with mark. I am inclined to think that Paul is sounding somewhat psychotic and at the end of it, he had nothing to tell me!!!!

Is this something I should bring up to Mark? something I should be concerned about?

By the way p=paul and M= mark.

lol

"This is a guy problem, not a virgo problem. Now, since Paul is a virgo, he's probably wondering why you lied about "not casual dating". You say you and Mark are casual, but you told Paul you don't casually date. Paul as a guy was probably sincere about dating you but now is convinced you're a player and you're gonna play his friend. from what I gather."

i agree with 25th decan. you are contradticting yourself here; you told paul,

" ...that I am casually dating mark and I don't think it's a good idea to be casually dating him as well. So Paul was a lil upset and said, " i thought you didn't casual date! i thought you take things seriously!" and I told him that I do.. and I am serious about Mark but we're gonna see where it goes."

so you say you don't do casual dating, but you ARE casually dating someone, then paul calls you out on it, and then you say it's serious? so to sum it up...you are serious about dating casually? careful with the speech, especially to a virgo. i can tell that you are trying to let him know that you are not interested in him lightly, but just be upfront instead of doing the run-around because you probably won't come out smelling like a rose.