What's wrong with arrogance!?

This topic was created in the Leo forum by Cortica on Wednesday, August 14, 2002 and has 22 replies.

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@Cortica
21 YearsGemini

Why is it that people are always ready to jump on a person who expresses confidence in their personality and a happy arrogance?

It's much more healthy than a whiny little insecure person who wants everyone else to be as miserable as they are!

There's always someone who wants to rain on the refreshing charm of a Leo!!

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

please sweetheart! don't hate because we got it together. we are the mose confident of the signs. anyone that has a problem with a gemini's confidence or arrogance is obviously insecure. otherwise, why would you care how we behave. enough said.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Because it's annoying.

And anyone who assumes that because someone has a problem with arrogance, they simply "must be jealous"...has larger issues than arrogance.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

well can you tell me leo where it is written that arrogance is a bad thing? I doubt you can find it. And if it annoys you, then find someone else to hang around. Enough said.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

I agree with you 68!

The rest of y'all are confused. True self-confidence doesn't need to be boastful or bragging. That's just called being tacky and low class.

True self-confidence and self-esteem doesn't beg everybody to "look at me! look at me!"

True self-confidence doesn't need approval from anyone else. Obviously, the person was looking for all of these things when they posted this ridiculous message!

Get a life both of you!

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@Cortica
21 YearsGemini

COVER ME IN SPANDEX AND CALL ME TACKY!

The intent of my original posting was to explore the reasoning behind an avid disapprobation of arrogance.

Obviously I expected a negative reaction to the posting, however I wanted to express a little benevolence to the minions in fettered socio-economic servitude to a mechanism which can only ever reinforce my spectacular magnanimity.

I wanted to make you feel as though your puerile opinions mattered.

I have enjoyed this very much - thankyou

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Coritca, no offense your 'phisod' is a definite and apparent overcompensation of your need to 'project' or illuminate an intellectual impression to others of your 'false sense of yourself'. Hence, in using your thesaurus to compensate your vocabulary. What ever floats your boat chic. Smirk.

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Boy Cortica,
You strike me as someone not too bright by asking this. Arrogance and confidence are entirely different traits! sure there's nothing wrong with showing confidence, whether verbally or otherwise but plain old fashion arrogance is always a NEGATIVE aspect of anyone's personality. It's the same as braggadocio, audacity, haughtiness, assumption and here's a simple one for your simple mind: pride. Arrogance is always for the assholes of the world. Think: Bin Laden. Is it getting through your head now?

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@Cortica
21 YearsGemini

ROFL! Ok, I couldn't help myself with the last post!

That was an example of good humoured arrogance - I enjoyed writing it - I'm sure you all had a good laugh reading it - so what's the problem?

Setting aside confidence as an entirely unrelated issue......what really is so bad about arrogance? Why should it always be considered negative? Why should my own personal arrogance have any impact on your lives?

It is possible for you to walk away from a thread without posting and let me slowly die in a stagnant mind set, but you all had to toss your two cents worth in and tell me what a horrible person I am.

It really is quite funny how flustered people get when someone expresses an opinion a little different to their own.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Sloane,

I think you went a little light on Bin Laden and a little rough on Cortica. Bin Laden is more than a mere asshole, he is the Devil's son! Cortica just wants a little attention! or she is sexually frustrated! Not exactly the same thing! I am frustrated too and can be an asshole, but I don't want to kill someone because I didn't get any! LOL

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@sloane
21 Years1,000+ Posts

Cortica was asking about what is wrong with arragonace--that was her question. This kind of issue shouldn't take much effort to explain its' negative aspect and I am sure you're right 64, that maybe perhaps she is looking for attention and nothing more. Arraogance is a trait that I personally ALWAYS disliked in anyone--regardless of thier sign, who they are, thier job, age or whatever. When I meet someone and I find that they are arrogant? I get away fast.

I hope to not get into this any further since this is quite trivial!! But then, maybe Cortica is. And if so, well, it's another thing she needs to work on.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

You are right! No argument from me! I just don't see the need to classify her in with Bin Laden!!!! She didn't kill anyone, to my knowledge!

Cortica,

What is wrong in your world girlfriend?? Why do you want to cause so much greif— What's up with that? We know you are smart, but why do you have to prove it? And especially to people you don't even know? Does life suck?? Talk to me? Maybe someone here can help you!!!
BG

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Speaking of gluttons for punishment, I'd say Cortica is a true masochist asking this one. Or may be the sun isn't shining so brightly in her corner of the world.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

.....or possibly she is just narcissistic. Regardless I find no weight in discussing arrogance. It needs very little argument. When I encounter a person who chooses to come off in an arrogant manner the only thought truly that comes to mind is ..DEFENSE MECHANISM. And it is quite easy to detect a very insecure individual.

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@Cortica
21 YearsGemini

OMG LOL! What has this turned into!?

Thanks for the varied and insightful perspective on the flaws in my personality, however the topic I am trying to debate IS NOT A PERSONAL ONE! We can stop talking about me whenever you want!

'Arrogant' is bandied about (especially in the Leo board) as an insult and I'm just trying to explore the reasons why?

If it makes you feel better, keep throwing the insults my way 🤢gt; maybe you'll eventually get around to discussing the subject.

In my opinion, interacting with an arrogant person can be really quite entertaining - like sparring with someone, you have to be mentally alert. Arrogance doesn't have to define or overshadow a person's personality as the one all-consuming factor.
I think you might be confusing 'arrogant' with 'rude'. There is a difference. I'm one - you're the other. (LOL that was a joke...don't take it personally...my sex life is fine...)

So...does anyone have any opinions(not about my personality failings)/experiences/funny anecdotes regarding arrogance (and try and keep the emotive responses below the vicious hatred level)?

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

My opinion is that arrogance=rudeness. It's an inherently negative trait IMO. I can't see anything good in it. Just displaying arrogance implies a superiority complex, and I don't think anyone should hold themselves in higher esteem than the person net to them. There should never be an attitude of "I'm better than you, peon".

So that is my opinion, as devoid of emotion as is possible for a scorpio.

-phoenix

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

Cortic is a unhappy person!

She is goading you into an argument so she can get some attention, and you are getting down in the gutter with her.

I will give people like Cortica a chance, but if they still continue to act like a jerk after I extend an olive branch, then they will never get another one!!

Ignore her and maybe she will dissapear!

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@Lawgoddess
21 Years500+ Posts

I believe Cortica's question was valid, and not an attempt at attention grabbing. So in response to your question, I really have no idea. Arrogance can be annoying, and rude, but I agree that it doesn't always define what or who a person is. Perhaps arrogance isn't a negative trait to a person who approaches it with the realisation that the 'trait' doesn't encompass all that they are. Then there are shallow, simple folk who only judge on appearances rather than taking time to get underneath all the crap.

Lawgoddess (how's THAT for an arrogant name) LOL.

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@Unregistered
21 Years10,000+ Posts

205, I hear ya.

Lawgoddess, I see your point, that arrogance does not necessarily define the ENTIRE person. But the stuck-up thing offends me to such a degree that when I see repeated arrogant behavior from someone, I have no desire to even physically be around them. Maybe that is considered shallow, or not looking beneath the surface of a person enough, but if so then oh well. If someone wants to put that out there, then I won't be around them to put up with it, or try to figure them out. They're just sort of an *sshole, IMO.

-phoenix